FabSwingers.com forum: When you flirt with someone on the forums

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you usually mean it? Or are you just playing along?

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over a year ago

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm always hopeful..but obviously the usual restrictions come into play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirting? What is this you speak of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly playing along!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

80% playing 20% actual but i make it obvious if i mean it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums are always serious.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i dont think theres anything wrong in flirting, it comes natural to some people no harm done its a bit of fun,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mostly playing along!"

And there I was getting my hopes up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% just playing along. I’m not looking for sex so it’s just harmless flirting.

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

50/50

But the 50% that I’m playing along is still truthful to a degree. But in that case it is just a genuine compliment but I don’t want to meet them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only flirt with those I would, if you know what I mean. But obviously you take it in the context of the forums. It’s not like you’re down the pub or owt, although you wouldn’t necessarily shag everyone you flirted with in real life would you?

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I, more often than not, mean it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only people I’m joking with are men and couples because I don’t meet any of those.

If I flirt I am fairly serious even though I know nothing will happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To those that are just playing - do you ever worry about the implications of someone taking you more seriously than you intended?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I would never expect a forum flirt to mean much unless I got a private message on the back of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To those that are just playing - do you ever worry about the implications of someone taking you more seriously than you intended? "

They don’t care about our feelings lmao. It’s fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To those that are just playing - do you ever worry about the implications of someone taking you more seriously than you intended? "
no because i try use location as a buffer i also express the tiny tiny odds of anything happening from it as life is too busy awkward and expensive to have fun anymore i would only book time for the very very very very very few and they know who they would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all a bit of harmless fun, people shouldn't take things as gospel on here.

The passive aggressive shit though, oh people mean that.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"To those that are just playing - do you ever worry about the implications of someone taking you more seriously than you intended? "

I would only do that with guys who know I have no sexual interest in them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't flirt because that's waaaay beyond my skill set. I will, however, hold up a sign occasionally saying "I REALLY FANCY YOU!".

I'd be a bit put out if someone I fancied was only flirting with me to pass the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually mean it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To those that are just playing - do you ever worry about the implications of someone taking you more seriously than you intended? "

I only flirt with women and our profile says we’re both straight and I (Mr) don’t touch anyone other than Mrs NE, so assuming women read profiles it shouldn’t be a problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I will admit I don't usually mean it... I only flirt back if someone flirts with me first, to be polite...

If I do like someone from the forums though I'll usually DM them about it

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"The only people I’m joking with are men and couples because I don’t meet any of those.

If I flirt I am fairly serious even though I know nothing will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will admit I don't usually mean it... I only flirt back if someone flirts with me first, to be polite...

If I do like someone from the forums though I'll usually DM them about it

I'm guilty of this. I just jump straight on in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's all a bit of harmless fun, people shouldn't take things as gospel on here.

The passive aggressive shit though, oh people mean that."

*eyes*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only people I’m joking with are men and couples because I don’t meet any of those.

If I flirt I am fairly serious even though I know nothing will happen.

The thing is, I always forget you’re a couples account

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

No idea, I've never flirted in my life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I will admit I don't usually mean it... I only flirt back if someone flirts with me first, to be polite...

If I do like someone from the forums though I'll usually DM them about it

I'm guilty of this. I just jump straight on in there

And they said women don't message first...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway, Fancy a fuck, OP?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Why do people flirt without intention?

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I don’t really flirt on the forums. I tend to slide into their DMs if they’re tickling my pickle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever flirted with anyone in the forum.

I just use it as a distraction from the local drama and egos that never meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No idea, I've never flirted in my life. "

You liar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will admit I don't usually mean it... I only flirt back if someone flirts with me first, to be polite...

If I do like someone from the forums though I'll usually DM them about it

I'm guilty of this. I just jump straight on in there

And they said women don't message first...

I'm a modern day woman

If I want something I'm gonna get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t really flirt on the forums. I tend to slide into their DMs if they’re tickling my pickle "

Wish you’d do me again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t really flirt on the forums. I tend to slide into their DMs if they’re tickling my pickle "

Oh gosh if only I could purchase that “off putting personality “ from you x

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Depends who it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will admit I don't usually mean it... I only flirt back if someone flirts with me first, to be polite...

If I do like someone from the forums though I'll usually DM them about it

I'm guilty of this. I just jump straight on in there

And they said women don't message first...

I'm a modern day woman

If I want something I'm gonna get it

That is very hot to read

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

In the forums its banter,private messages for anything more.

I never pick up on signs of people flirting with me.

I'm crap at messaging also.

I do try when I want things to go further but only if I'm get something back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t really flirt on the forums. I tend to slide into their DMs if they’re tickling my pickle "

Ready for sliding ….

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I think sometimes it’s easy to flirt without intentionally meaning to flirt.

I mean, I flirt intentionally and sometimes unintentionally.

None of that makes sense so I’m opening a bottle of red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will admit I don't usually mean it... I only flirt back if someone flirts with me first, to be polite...

If I do like someone from the forums though I'll usually DM them about it

I'm guilty of this. I just jump straight on in there

And they said women don't message first...

I'm a modern day woman

If I want something I'm gonna get it

That is very hot to read

I'm even worse in real life

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No. Generally if I'm really interested in someone, not just messing around with friends on the fora, I won't flirt with them openly. I've always thought I wasn't that flirty but yeah. Flirt with friends only. I don't worry they'd get the wrong impression, bar my stalker falafel.

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

On forums mainly just for fun, if I like the look of someone to possibly take further I'll dm them......or hope they will Dm me first so I don't look a thirsty weirdo haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. Generally if I'm really interested in someone, not just messing around with friends on the fora, I won't flirt with them openly. I've always thought I wasn't that flirty but yeah. Flirt with friends only. I don't worry they'd get the wrong impression, bar my stalker falafel. "

Ffs now I'm imagining a falafel slyly following you down the street

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

Bit of both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ffs now I'm imagining a falafel slyly following you down the street

She sees me rolling…

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Ffs now I'm imagining a falafel slyly following you down the street

That's exactly what it's like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I've ever flirted on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit of both

Have a lovely holiday!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit of both

Have a lovely holiday!

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will admit I don't usually mean it... I only flirt back if someone flirts with me first, to be polite...

If I do like someone from the forums though I'll usually DM them about it

I'm guilty of this. I just jump straight on in there

And they said women don't message first...

I'm a modern day woman

If I want something I'm gonna get it

That is very hot to read

I'm even worse in real life

You sound like fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on who it is

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"The only people I’m joking with are men and couples because I don’t meet any of those.

If I flirt I am fairly serious even though I know nothing will happen.

The thing is, I always forget you’re a couples account

Mr KC does exist. People on here have met him and everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the club events for that day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I flirt as banter but only to those I think won’t read too much into it

Occasionally I flirt with someone I’d like to meet lol

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Omg its been an age since someone genuinely flirted with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume a lifelong commitment from anyone that does those eyelash emojis at me

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I see forum flirting as a bit of fun not to be taken seriously, not that I flirt. If they flirt with me away from the forums then that’s different

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Omg its been an age since someone genuinely flirted with me

But in answer to the op ..yes i genuinely mean it if im flirting with someone

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

A little bit of both tbh

Tg x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If I flirt I mean it.

Though I never expect anything from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I assume a lifelong commitment from anyone that does those eyelash emojis at me"

Whoops

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I mostly use the forums to have fun and make myself laugh. Flirting might happen if it amuses me.

If I genuinely want to rip a mans clothes off and bang him into a happy oblivion I will eventually let him know via a private message

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

On the forums its just playing along.

If it moves to messages thats where its meaningful.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I mostly use the forums to have fun and make myself laugh. Flirting might happen if it amuses me.

If I genuinely want to rip a mans clothes off and bang him into a happy oblivion I will eventually let him know via a private message

Still waiting for my message…….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I assume a lifelong commitment from anyone that does those eyelash emojis at me

Whoops

I need your dob for the mortgage application btw

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Take it as you will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I assume a lifelong commitment from anyone that does those eyelash emojis at me

Whoops

I need your dob for the mortgage application btw"

I’m nomadic I don’t do permanent residency lol

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Mostly playing along!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never expect a forum flirt to mean much unless I got a private message on the back of it

I love a good flirt, its great fun.

It depends what sets it off really - sometimes I mean it, sometimes we both know its banter, anything that needs explanation can usually be sorted out in PM's.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Forum flirting never goes anywhere (hasn't for me after 10 years in Fab anyway), so I just go with the flow, it's just a bit of fun

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Just being playful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I flirt I mean it.

Though I never expect anything from it

You’re not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The only people I’m joking with are men and couples because I don’t meet any of those.

If I flirt I am fairly serious even though I know nothing will happen.

The thing is, I always forget you’re a couples account

Mr KC does exist. People on here have met him and everything

Is he from out of town?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"The only people I’m joking with are men and couples because I don’t meet any of those.

If I flirt I am fairly serious even though I know nothing will happen.

The thing is, I always forget you’re a couples account

Mr KC does exist. People on here have met him and everything

Is he from out of town?

No, he's upstairs in bed right now, here in this house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends who I’m flirting with.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

100% like we’ve signed a contract.

In blood.

Legally binding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I say is what I mean

I am not in to blowing smoke up anyone

If I say someone’s beautiful I mean it

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"To those that are just playing - do you ever worry about the implications of someone taking you more seriously than you intended? "

This is why I don't... I don't want a msg in my inbox then have to say I'm not interested. I mean, I don't even know what half of the people in the forums actually look like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends who I’m flirting with.

^^ this

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"If I flirt I mean it.

Though I never expect anything from it

You’re not?

I should never say never should I

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Everything I’ve ever said in this forum is the absolute truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I flirt I mean it.

Though I never expect anything from it

You’re not?

I should never say never should I

You shouldn’t! You don’t want to miss out on the magic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say there’s a bit of both happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everything I’ve ever said in this forum is the absolute truth "

^ even this

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

I can't flirt to save myself but wouldn't do it just to play along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just playing along. Otherwise I’ll do it in private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely flirt as I feel clunky, obvious and awkward doing so. On the rare occasion I do it isn't with the expectation of anything happening. I'm part of a couple and who we/I meet depends more on "our" wants than just mine. That said, if I've flirted with you and the stars align such that we're in the same county plus her ladyship is interested in joining, or even just hearing about it, then yes, I would like to do more. You lucky, lucky woman you

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Anyone who knows me knows I am dead serious at all times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Came back to update my Blocklist

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Came back to update my Blocklist

Huh?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't. Been on the receiving end of some nasty messages when I used too (even if it was just playing) Just not worth the hassle x

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Do you usually mean it? Or are you just playing along? "

I never flirt with someone unless I mean it. I find it prevents confusion that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't. Been on the receiving end of some nasty messages when I used too (even if it was just playing) Just not worth the hassle x"

Seriously? Some people really are GGGRRRRRRR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as a few have said here already. I only tend to flirt if I mean it. Although its hard to "feel" the intent in text a lot of the time I suppose

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By *ames5169Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Playing along but with the hope it may turn serious!! Happened on a couple of occasions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't flirt in the forums...I do flirt in my messages with people I want to meet

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't. Been on the receiving end of some nasty messages when I used too (even if it was just playing) Just not worth the hassle x

Seriously? Some people really are GGGRRRRRRR "

One of the reasons I don't use the site or forums so much these days x

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By *nexpectedExplorerMan
over a year ago

SA3

Wait, what? People flirt here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't. Been on the receiving end of some nasty messages when I used too (even if it was just playing) Just not worth the hassle x

Seriously? Some people really are GGGRRRRRRR

One of the reasons I don't use the site or forums so much these days x"

That's a real shame. It's unfortunate that there are so many idiots on here. Ruins it for the genuine ones

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't. Been on the receiving end of some nasty messages when I used too (even if it was just playing) Just not worth the hassle x

Seriously? Some people really are GGGRRRRRRR

One of the reasons I don't use the site or forums so much these days x

That's a real shame. It's unfortunate that there are so many idiots on here. Ruins it for the genuine ones"

Very true x

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

If/When I flirt it's mostly for playing along with an ever so subtle undertone of seriousness.

If someone takes me seriously, I don't consider it an implication, instead I'll interpret it as a natural progression to 'something...or nothing'.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Both, but those who know I am interested in something more will already be aware due to private messages being exchanged.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

When I flirt it means I’m already booking the church and you’d better be there…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirting usually goes right over my head anyway!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Playing along. Real flirting is done in private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't flirt

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

When people flirt with me in the forum, I always take it as a good humoured jest.

I'd never take a public come on as a come on.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

And if I repay the compliment it is never in earnest.

If I really fancied someone I don't say so playground style.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I tend to flit in and out if the forums so staying long enough to get flirty with someone in them doesn’t really occur to me to be honest. Am I kind of missing the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just playing along, who doesn't love a good flirt

But if we want to meet them they'll know we're not just playing along

Miss S x

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think I'm too old to be flirted with now.

I was very fancyable 20 years ago, fighting them off!

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