FabSwingers.com forum: Have the women forgotten how to turn a guy on?

By *heSilverFox1701 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford

Hey hive mind, I hope you are all keeping well and having lots of fab fun.

I guess I just needed to get a little something delecate off my chest.

I'm wondering if the women on fab have forgotten the art of seducing a man?

Now before you all go up in arms...

I totally appreciate that women on here get all kinds of rubbish from guys, I know you do but...

I've been extremely fortunate to have made some amazing friends and meet some great people, however all of them share one little irritating habit and I thought it maybe a good topic of conversation...

Do any of you find that when you get the Fab women into the bedroom it seems to become all about them a little?

Don't get me wrong, we feel extremely privileged to be in your bed and to get to share some fun but... after your 5-10 orgasms and the (literal) hours we've spent making your body come alive... Could you perhaps... Maybe... seduce us?

I believe (although I could be wrong and do tell me if I am..) it should be a two way thing.

Ladies, men have many exciting and wonderful EZs for you to explore and doesn't it make you feel good when the guy is right there with you? When the connection is 100% for both?

Again, whilst I appreciate it's a privilege we share with you remember to explore the man you're with, find out what he likes as well...

Is it just me? Surely it's not just me???

Is it just me and if it's just me then fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s been many years ago when a woman truly seduced me. And I’m talking really ‘seduced’ when you can’t think of anyone one else but her.

Not infatuation or anything so selfish. But when she has given you just as much attention as you give her, and you find yourself falling into a hole you can’t and don’t want to get out of.

On fab? It could happen, but can you believe they are not talking to anyone else that way?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

It's allways a 2 way thing with me! Both have lots of fun! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey women! Have you tried turning them off and on again?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Don't get me wrong, we feel extremely privileged to be in your bed and to get to share some fun but... after your 5-10 orgasms and the (literal) hours we've spent making your body come alive... Could you perhaps... Maybe... seduce us?"

Speak for yourself. In my eyes they are just as privileged to have me in their bedroom doing the things I do best.

I don’t need them to seduce me, as just letting me use their mind and body as a canvas is enough to satisfy me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For myself it is a two way thing. But I get most of my pleasure from giving and pleasing… I’m already seduced by doing so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tldr please

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nobody can say that about me. I’m more a giver than a taker

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

The women ive met from here have always been very ‘involved’ and I have no complaints - well one… raise your age limits!! I’m getting too old for all of you and as the quotation goes - you can definitely have a good fiddle with an older guy!!’ It’s something to do with fiddling anyway!!

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

The word seduce means to make yourself attractive and make them want to have sex with you. If you are in bed with a woman you are already 'seduced' ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What!? We have to move and everything

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

We haven't all lost the art of seduction nor are we all one sided in the bedroom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The word seduce means to make yourself attractive and make them want to have sex with you. If you are in bed with a woman you are already 'seduced' ?"

You see. I see the word to describe as getting me to do something I didn’t want to do. So yes, a little of what you say ‘making yourself attractive’. But more of, turning my head when I wasn’t ready, making me dive all the way into something I was unsure about. That type of thing.

A woman can look hot and I know I want her, she didn’t seduce me, I just wanted her and I try to go after her. It’s when she comes back at me with the same energy is when it’s a surprise lately. I agree with the op in a way. Some women are very ‘shy’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's just you OP, there are selfish lovers out there... both men & women.

Lets not forget there are also lovers who get extreme pleasure from satisfying their sexual partner. Just like there will be lovers that enjoy receiving all of the attention.

It's finding the right person for you. Unfortunately if the connections are wrong then it could result in less enjoyable overall experience.

I have recently reconnected with my old fb and I believe he has experienced the lovers who take from him but not give. He is always complimentary by the level of attention I give him during sex and he enjoys seeing me genuinely aroused by it. Therefore I feel that our connection is right, we can both lead and both receive to have a great overall sexual experience together.

Not sure if this makes sense but I hope so.

NBVN x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

By the sounds of it you seem to feel that a woman just meeting you is a privilege in itself.

When you place such a low value if your own time and company, can you blame her for valuing it the same too?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"What!? We have to move and everything

Just letting me know you are alive is enough!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Op if you're finding that women are as you describe you might consider your approach...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What!? We have to move and everything

Just letting me know you are alive is enough!

Now that I can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll get pillow princesses, those that give nothing and wait till the end. And the things in the middle. Possibly the other end of the spectrum too.

Funny that

Is it a result of this place, distorting their mind and perspective of sex? Yes. Of course it is.

We must stop this at once.

I demand an enquiry.

I mean, compatibility perchance? I don't expect every car I drive to be exactly what I want or need, that's why we do test drives, read reviews, trade them in or scrap them entirely.

This metaphor took a turn, sounds a bit murdery. I stand by it.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have never not seduced any sexual partner. I am not satisfied until they are 100% themselves satisfied. Definitely not a selfish lover x

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

I can't say I relate to this in any way, or maybe I've misunderstood? Can you specify exactly what you want women to do that you're not getting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can say fairly confidently that I love to seduce both pre meet and during. My pleasure comes from the pleasure I give to my partner!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't know I've no interest in being with woman on here.

I do know when I do meet someone it is about mutual pleasure and both of us enjoying ourselves. When it is all one sided I find it boring and pretty meh. The only exception is if it is with someone I meet regularly,but if it happens on a first sex meet then there won't be a second one with that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Likely reasons would be either you aren’t communicating your needs effectively or they are a poor match for your needs.

Either way, improving your outcomes is 100% in your own control.

Bad sex or unsatisfying sex is down to all involved.... don't lay it all at their door OP

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

In fairness women don’t have to work as hard as guys so I wouldn’t be surprised if when it came to flirting they might not be as good as males, even some males with the worst chat up lines. (Also chat up lines are stupid, don’t do it) The majority of women could flutter their eyes and get exactly what they’re after

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I can say fairly confidently that I love to seduce both pre meet and during. My pleasure comes from the pleasure I give to my partner! "

Absolutely this for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it a privilege for a man to be in a woman's bed? You should both be feeling appreciative of the moment. If not, then something is missing, big style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, shitting on the people you have had meets with in such a public forum will basically guarantee that that well dries up pdq

Good luck explaining your post to the lovely ladies who gave you such generous veris OP

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

I wouldn't say turning on is an issue, feeling as though you've been completely drained and sent to the moon and back is less often - I agree it's largely down to communication but often it's impossible to communicate something that you didn't know about yourself - you don't know what you don't know. I like to experiment but that's not always reciprocated and so you fall into routine

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By *heSilverFox1701 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford

I love this response - so true.

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By *heSilverFox1701 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford

I'd never thought of it like that... True...

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

5 orgasms & I still don't get a cup of tea.

Women huh

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By *heSilverFox1701 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford

I think I read the term "pillow princesses" earlier in this post, you know you're having an amazing time with a guy but just don't forget about the guy is what I'm driving at and I guess I'm experiencing a frighteningly high percentage of women who literally do nothing but get everything...

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

There's a button behind the ear.

When you hear the crescendo you know you've found it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By the sounds of it you seem to feel that a woman just meeting you is a privilege in itself.

When you place such a low value if your own time and company, can you blame her for valuing it the same too? "

This. So I get to meet a couple on my own and be a puppet.

I've met these couple's. You can do this, can't do that. Hop skip and dance to our tune. Nah. Half of em lie and just want to watch you fuck the husband anyhoo.

Ha. Seduce the couple. Two against one. Lovely.

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By *heSilverFox1701 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford

That's the best response I've seen! LOL! Not so much the cup of tea but more the cat and the cream scenario. But not really, just a sense of appreciation. It's polite to say thanks ! LOL

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By *heSilverFox1701 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford

Please run a class for women on your techniques. I do wonder though if genuinely is the reason, that some women simply don't know what to do.. I'm getting more and more convinced this is the case.

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By *heSilverFox1701 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford

Honestly I don't think I am laying it at anyone's door in particular, when needs are communicated I'm getting the sense that there are women who simply don't know what to do, so you tell them, they get embarrassed and self conscious and then it's all over no matter how kind and considerate we are. I do wonder if it's an education thing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Please run a class for women on your techniques. I do wonder though if genuinely is the reason, that some women simply don't know what to do.. I'm getting more and more convinced this is the case."

Use the reply+quote button under the post you're responding to, we will know who you're answering them

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

When she turns up to a Gin bar (for our first pre-coital social) with an iconic handbag under her arms, I can safely say that I am well and truly on the road to being seduced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A women seduces if she wants too..... its all about chemistry....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found the opposite tbh OP.

Fab vs pulling from pubs clubs.

The Fab meets have in the majority been superior and there hasn't been any lack of effort or enthusiasm from the other person.

Could it be down to how your vetting potential meets?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Op if you're finding that women are as you describe you might consider your approach..."

Yeah... You're just not picking the right women lol

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"That's the best response I've seen! LOL! Not so much the cup of tea but more the cat and the cream scenario. But not really, just a sense of appreciation. It's polite to say thanks ! LOL

Hit reply and quote so people know who you're responding to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well OP after reading your profile & you saying your more a giver than a taker when it comes to pleasure maybe the women you do meet is only expecting this when you meet them & then is not giving you anything back so if you change your bio up a bit & say what you also like women will know then for when you have another meet just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly I don't think I am laying it at anyone's door in particular, when needs are communicated I'm getting the sense that there are women who simply don't know what to do, so you tell them, they get embarrassed and self conscious and then it's all over no matter how kind and considerate we are. I do wonder if it's an education thing.

Perhaps include yourself in that and you'll gain some valuable insights

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also, shitting on the people you have had meets with in such a public forum will basically guarantee that that well dries up pdq

Good luck explaining your post to the lovely ladies who gave you such generous veris OP"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tldr please"

Echoing this

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Oh ok then, I'll stick a finger up your bum next time

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Well OP after reading your profile & you saying your more a giver than a taker when it comes to pleasure maybe the women you do meet is only expecting this when you meet them & then is not giving you anything back so if you change your bio up a bit & say what you also like women will know then for when you have another meet just a thought

That's also the impression I get too.

All about the sensual, massage, giving pleasure. Why would a woman not want to just lie back and enjoy that?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"When she turns up to a Gin bar (for our first pre-coital social) with an iconic handbag under her arms, I can safely say that I am well and truly on the road to being seduced.

I'll have my lunch in a Lidl bag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh ok then, I'll stick a finger up your bum next time

Oh oh me next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's also the impression I get too.

All about the sensual, massage, giving pleasure. Why would a woman not want to just lie back and enjoy that?

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

They’re a fickle bunch these women, when they want something, they are more than capable of putting the effort in but most of the time they are content with a level of complacency.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men like to 'take control' and have their ego boosted by focusing on your pussy non-stop until it cries. It's a battle sometimes getting them to lie the fuck down.

Men think more about your penis and less about your veri.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

"When she turns up to a Gin bar (for our first pre-coital social) with an iconic handbag under her arms, I can safely say that I am well and truly on the road to being seduced.

I'll have my lunch in a Lidl bag."

Ive cum!!

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

"Most men like to 'take control' and have their ego boosted by focusing on your pussy non-stop until it cries. It's a battle sometimes getting them to lie the fuck down.

Men think more about your penis and less about your veri."

are you saying that 6 hrs of licking and fingering is too much??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your first mistake is thinking it is a privilege to be in any woman’s bed. She’s just as lucky as you king

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I can confirm that certain fab women are experts at seducing and pleasuring, and if you're feeling hard done by I'm sure someone can find a tiny violin for you somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your first mistake is thinking it is a privilege to be in any woman’s bed. She’s just as lucky as you king

THIS!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It's always a 2 way thing, there's nights I'll just pleasure the Mr and not want anything in return, my worst meet would be it all about me.

Mrs

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I think I read the term "pillow princesses" earlier in this post, you know you're having an amazing time with a guy but just don't forget about the guy is what I'm driving at and I guess I'm experiencing a frighteningly high percentage of women who literally do nothing but get everything..."

I prefer to lie as still as still can be. I'll even stop blinking for the right guy

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"When she turns up to a Gin bar (for our first pre-coital social) with an iconic handbag under her arms, I can safely say that I am well and truly on the road to being seduced.

Have handbag will travel

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m not adverse to seduction for the right time, right place, right guy

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

"Hey hive mind, I hope you are all keeping well and having lots of fab fun.

I guess I just needed to get a little something delecate off my chest.

I'm wondering if the women on fab have forgotten the art of seducing a man?

Now before you all go up in arms...

I totally appreciate that women on here get all kinds of rubbish from guys, I know you do but...

Do any of you find that when you get the Fab women into the bedroom it seems to become all about them a little?

I believe (although I could be wrong and do tell me if I am..) it should be a two way thing.

Ladies, men have many exciting and wonderful EZs for you to explore and doesn't it make you feel good when the guy is right there with you? When the connection is 100% for both?

Again, whilst I appreciate it's a privilege we share with you remember to explore the man you're with, find out what he likes as well...

Is it just me? Surely it's not just me???

Is it just me and if it's just me then fair enough.

Mr floppy in an hard drive world.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"When she turns up to a Gin bar (for our first pre-coital social) with an iconic handbag under her arms, I can safely say that I am well and truly on the road to being seduced.

Have handbag will travel

Noted. (bag-emoji)

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"I’m not adverse to seduction for the right time, right place, right guy

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Ahem! You're not supposed to be commenting on the fora. You're supposed to be observing 1Ø days of mourning (glory).

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Committed pillow princess for life. Please do not ask me to enthusiastically participate. Please show yourself out afterwards.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

You are meeting the wrong women.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't like viewing sex as a reward I need to work for

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’m not adverse to seduction for the right time, right place, right guy

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Ahem! You're not supposed to be commenting on the fora. You're supposed to be observing 1Ø days of mourning (glory)."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's always a 2 way thing, there's nights I'll just pleasure the Mr and not want anything in return, my worst meet would be it all about me.

Mrs "

Love this

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

It goes both ways surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It goes both ways surely

We sit here and wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vive le cul sec x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Vive le cul de sec x"

^Brookside

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By *risky FoxesCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle Emlyn/Stourport

I like to think there’s an art to undressing a man…….. he needs to k is that he’s going to get the very best of care…… but only at the point I’m ready to give it.

And equally…. I turn to jelly if the roles are reversed……… if he knows what he’s about I’ll beg him to touch me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll only try and seduce someone I’m really interested in which happens before the bedroom and in the bedroom I’ll make maximum effort. I’m as much about giving as receiving. I just rarely fancy anyone.

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