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"A club as in a sex club or just when you go out with mates? There are therapies which can certainly help with social anxiety! " Swinging clubs | |||
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"A club as in a sex club or just when you go out with mates? There are therapies which can certainly help with social anxiety! Swinging clubs" Do you find you have social anxiety outside of fab/swinging clubs? | |||
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"Sorry to hear that OP, if it makes you anxious or stresses you, and it’s worse each time you go, is it worth evaluating why you do keep returning? I know how debilitating these things can be and not everyone will understand the emotions you go through. I hope that things resolve themselves and that you can overcome this, have you researched any self-help or local resources than can help with this?" I go because I feel like I would miss out if I didn't. As for researching self help, sadly no. | |||
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"Sorry to hear that OP, if it makes you anxious or stresses you, and it’s worse each time you go, is it worth evaluating why you do keep returning? I know how debilitating these things can be and not everyone will understand the emotions you go through. I hope that things resolve themselves and that you can overcome this, have you researched any self-help or local resources than can help with this? I go because I feel like I would miss out if I didn't. As for researching self help, sadly no." Do you feel able to do some research? | |||
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"Clubs sex or other are probably the single worst place to meet new people. Your veris and your own profile seem to portay you as a friendly chatty guy. Perhaps forget about Clubs and concentrate on social environments that suit you better" I don't think I know any other social environments. | |||
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"Sorry to hear that OP, if it makes you anxious or stresses you, and it’s worse each time you go, is it worth evaluating why you do keep returning? I know how debilitating these things can be and not everyone will understand the emotions you go through. I hope that things resolve themselves and that you can overcome this, have you researched any self-help or local resources than can help with this? I go because I feel like I would miss out if I didn't. As for researching self help, sadly no. Do you feel able to do some research?" Might do when I'm in a better mood | |||
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"Clubs sex or other are probably the single worst place to meet new people. Your veris and your own profile seem to portay you as a friendly chatty guy. Perhaps forget about Clubs and concentrate on social environments that suit you better I don't think I know any other social environments." What are your hobbies other than fab related ones. Google that, there are social clubs for pretty much everything now. Men's sheds etc... | |||
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"Clubs sex or other are probably the single worst place to meet new people. Your veris and your own profile seem to portay you as a friendly chatty guy. Perhaps forget about Clubs and concentrate on social environments that suit you better I don't think I know any other social environments. What are your hobbies other than fab related ones. Google that, there are social clubs for pretty much everything now. Men's sheds etc... " Apart from watching movies or playing video games, not much I can think of at the moment. | |||
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"It’s supposed to be fun mate. Maybe it just ain’t for you? " Helpful....not! | |||
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"Is it possible for you to get to group socials ? And get to know people and build up a small friendship group who you can go to clubs with. I get nervous walking into a club with my husband so I can’t imagine what it would be like on my own." I don't think I know any social groups to be honest. | |||
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"Is it possible for you to get to group socials ? And get to know people and build up a small friendship group who you can go to clubs with. I get nervous walking into a club with my husband so I can’t imagine what it would be like on my own. I don't think I know any social groups to be honest." Look in the meet requests and parties forum. There will be something local to you. | |||
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"It’s supposed to be fun mate. Maybe it just ain’t for you? " What an empathetic response! | |||
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"If you’d feel happier attending with someone as a friend feel free to drop me a message! I’m not the most outgoing but people usually make an effort to chat to me in clubs! " lovely suggestion duchess x | |||
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"If you’d feel happier attending with someone as a friend feel free to drop me a message! I’m not the most outgoing but people usually make an effort to chat to me in clubs! " | |||
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"Clubs sex or other are probably the single worst place to meet new people. Your veris and your own profile seem to portay you as a friendly chatty guy. Perhaps forget about Clubs and concentrate on social environments that suit you better I don't think I know any other social environments. What are your hobbies other than fab related ones. Google that, there are social clubs for pretty much everything now. Men's sheds etc... Apart from watching movies or playing video games, not much I can think of at the moment." Google meetups and see if there is anything you fancy. | |||
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"If you’d feel happier attending with someone as a friend feel free to drop me a message! I’m not the most outgoing but people usually make an effort to chat to me in clubs! lovely suggestion duchess x" Sometimes it’s just easier attending with a single female I think! People make the effort to chat to women in a way that they don’t with men sadly! | |||
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"If you’d feel happier attending with someone as a friend feel free to drop me a message! I’m not the most outgoing but people usually make an effort to chat to me in clubs! " I'll make sure to keep that in mind. | |||
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"If you’d feel happier attending with someone as a friend feel free to drop me a message! I’m not the most outgoing but people usually make an effort to chat to me in clubs! lovely suggestion duchess x Sometimes it’s just easier attending with a single female I think! People make the effort to chat to women in a way that they don’t with men sadly! " | |||
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"It’s supposed to be fun mate. Maybe it just ain’t for you? What an empathetic response! " Or an example of circular thinking. Those that know: really know. | |||
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"there is no easy answer, both of us deal with this as neither of us are outgoing. Try going to a social event about hobbies or interests and take things one step at a time, no matter how small. I know it's easier said than done though. Mr" | |||
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"I'm thinking of taking a break from going to the clubs for a while until I feel more confident in myself. It's just got to the point where it's almost becoming pointless going if there is no one there that I know." Is this just social anxiety in general? Speak to a professional if so, medication, cbt, etc etc etc. I doubt we've got the silver bullet, as we're not actually qualified or getting the whole picture. If it's that bad for you, address it. | |||
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"It’s supposed to be fun mate. Maybe it just ain’t for you? What an empathetic response! Or an example of circular thinking. Those that know: really know." Tact isn’t a bad thing! Especially when the OP is revealing so much emotionally! To me, that response lacked humanity! | |||
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"I'm thinking of taking a break from going to the clubs for a while until I feel more confident in myself. It's just got to the point where it's almost becoming pointless going if there is no one there that I know." get yourself a club buddy ..of either sex ..just to talk to and give yourself confidence...or tell the staff | |||
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"I'm thinking of taking a break from going to the clubs for a while until I feel more confident in myself. It's just got to the point where it's almost becoming pointless going if there is no one there that I know. Is this just social anxiety in general? Speak to a professional if so, medication, cbt, etc etc etc. I doubt we've got the silver bullet, as we're not actually qualified or getting the whole picture. If it's that bad for you, address it." I was more confident when there was someone at the club I knew that I could meet up with and this was before the pandemic. Now, it's just been one struggle after another as I hardly know anyone there which made my anxiety come back. | |||
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"I'm thinking of taking a break from going to the clubs for a while until I feel more confident in myself. It's just got to the point where it's almost becoming pointless going if there is no one there that I know. Is this just social anxiety in general? Speak to a professional if so, medication, cbt, etc etc etc. I doubt we've got the silver bullet, as we're not actually qualified or getting the whole picture. If it's that bad for you, address it. I was more confident when there was someone at the club I knew that I could meet up with and this was before the pandemic. Now, it's just been one struggle after another as I hardly know anyone there which made my anxiety come back." So it's an issue, that you used to mask with others? Now you can't, it's gotten worse? Sounds like there's more going on, that might easily be addressed with some proper help. Nerves are one thing, this doesn't sound like that. Not trying to be a dick, trying to give the gentle nudge from experience. | |||
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"It’s supposed to be fun mate. Maybe it just ain’t for you? What an empathetic response! Or an example of circular thinking. Those that know: really know." How is your comment an example of circular thinking??? And yes I know what it is. | |||
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"It’s supposed to be fun mate. Maybe it just ain’t for you? What an empathetic response! Or an example of circular thinking. Those that know: really know. How is your comment an example of circular thinking??? And yes I know what it is." He thins that past performance will predict future performance and things will never change. | |||
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"I'm thinking of taking a break from going to the clubs for a while until I feel more confident in myself. It's just got to the point where it's almost becoming pointless going if there is no one there that I know. Is this just social anxiety in general? Speak to a professional if so, medication, cbt, etc etc etc. I doubt we've got the silver bullet, as we're not actually qualified or getting the whole picture. If it's that bad for you, address it. I was more confident when there was someone at the club I knew that I could meet up with and this was before the pandemic. Now, it's just been one struggle after another as I hardly know anyone there which made my anxiety come back. So it's an issue, that you used to mask with others? Now you can't, it's gotten worse? Sounds like there's more going on, that might easily be addressed with some proper help. Nerves are one thing, this doesn't sound like that. Not trying to be a dick, trying to give the gentle nudge from experience. " Maybe perhaps deep down, I still feel self-conscious and doubtful about myself despite pushing myself to want to meet people in the club. I think a part of me still feels like I'm just fooling myself and will never be good enough. | |||
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