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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are (socially) allowed to be. Not that they are inherently

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Men are (socially) allowed to be. Not that they are inherently "

^^^This

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

If I admitted in public what I'm like in my head, I'd get a whole heap of blowback from people who feel the need to police my sexuality, and a lot of attention from creeps.

I'm quite happy to maintain the illusion that I'm a prude. Makes for a quiet life.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I thought it was just an insult thrown a woman's way when she won't do what a man wants her to

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Think about the language used about women and men.

OP, your thread title is 'Prude'. How many read that and thought about men as prudes? You then reinforce that it is about women, really.

My debate point is that I am judged differently if I disclose how many people I have fucked. I am treated differently if I offer myself up in a club. Even men on here have told me that they don't like it if they see too many verifications.

I think men are quite prudish in many ways.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

"

No.

No

And no again.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I thought it was just an insult thrown a woman's way when she won't do what a man wants her to "

This too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not applicable to some of the women I’ve met off Fab! Make me look a proper prude in comparison!

I think the exterior can sometimes hide the inner animal .. looks can be deceiving!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

There just isn't enough fucking bandwidth in the interverse to lay down everything I hold incorrect about the O.P.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No. I think it’s just men are perhaps more vocal about their sexual activities and explorations

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Not applicable to some of the women I’ve met off Fab! Make me look a proper prude in comparison!

I think the exterior can sometimes hide the inner animal .. looks can be deceiving! "

Men are decieved by their own expectations.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why are.you all so worried. You only live once. Men seem to be more sexually active quicker without the chase, wanted ness bit..no criticism of females just very blatant observation and experience.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"There just isn't enough fucking bandwidth in the interverse to lay down everything I hold incorrect about the O.P. "

*Hands Granny a dongle*

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Why are.you all so worried. You only live once. Men seem to be more sexually active quicker without the chase, wanted ness bit..no criticism of females just very blatant observation and experience. "

A very limited perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not experienced that to be fair. I've usually been the more naughty adventurous one.

So naturally I can't agree with that statement though I'm only one person.

I think men can hold back in fear of being marked a freak or sexually unhealthy and worry about how they are perceived. Just like women can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disagree.

Men talk the talk but in reality it's all just a big let down.

Women don't feel the need to brag.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Why are.you all so worried. You only live once. Men seem to be more sexually active quicker without the chase, wanted ness bit..no criticism of females just very blatant observation and experience. "

1. Social blowback is very real. Reputation matters.

2. Creeps are irritating to deal with. I'd rather them assume that I'm a prude

3. Assumptions about safety. I don't know how much this is upbringing, differences in size, culture, but it's a factor. I've often said, I want to go home after a meet, not the hospital or morgue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are.you all so worried. You only live once. Men seem to be more sexually active quicker without the chase, wanted ness bit..no criticism of females just very blatant observation and experience. "

Men fuck anyone?

Yeah you're right there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you would’ve loved my gender, sex and society modules back at uni.

Not worth the 9grand maybe but you’d have enjoyed.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

No.

No

And no again.

"

This, by a very long margin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting perspectives from people

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By *espacito56Man
over a year ago

Orkney


"If I admitted in public what I'm like in my head, I'd get a whole heap of blowback from people who feel the need to police my sexuality, and a lot of attention from creeps.

I'm quite happy to maintain the illusion that I'm a prude. Makes for a quiet life."

Good for you. Enjoy who you are.

But you are not alone. Last few months I've been seeing a woman, my own age, who is direct, hungry and confident in her sexuality. Has been a revelation, and very refreshing.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

*some* women

Society has conditioned us all to perceive the same behaviour differently depending on gender...men are studs, sowing their wild oats / women are slags, easy, not the type to take home to meet your parents

Some of us don't give a shit about societal norms!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Not applicable to some of the women I’ve met off Fab! Make me look a proper prude in comparison!

I think the exterior can sometimes hide the inner animal .. looks can be deceiving!

Men are decieved by their own expectations....... "

Is there an applause emoji?

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By *ot so innocent nowCouple
over a year ago

Chorley


"Men are (socially) allowed to be. Not that they are inherently "

^^^this.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Why are.you all so worried. You only live once. Men seem to be more sexually active quicker without the chase, wanted ness bit..no criticism of females just very blatant observation and experience. "

You get that it's mostly male judgment a d labelling non prudish women as sluts that is part of the problem, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think about the language used about women and men.

OP, your thread title is 'Prude'. How many read that and thought about men as prudes? You then reinforce that it is about women, really.

My debate point is that I am judged differently if I disclose how many people I have fucked. I am treated differently if I offer myself up in a club. Even men on here have told me that they don't like it if they see too many verifications.

I think men are quite prudish in many ways.

"

This

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Some women are ‘prudes’ Some are not

Some men like to sleep with anything. Some do not.

Some people are openly sexual beings and some are more private.

Variety really is the spice of life

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Why are.you all so worried. You only live once. Men seem to be more sexually active quicker without the chase, wanted ness bit..no criticism of females just very blatant observation and experience.

You get that it's mostly male judgment a d labelling non prudish women as sluts that is part of the problem, right?"

No he doesn't. He thinks he is liberating women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Me personally? This isn't about me,it was a general statement to see what everyone view is...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Why are.you all so worried. You only live once. Men seem to be more sexually active quicker without the chase, wanted ness bit..no criticism of females just very blatant observation and experience.

You get that it's mostly male judgment a d labelling non prudish women as sluts that is part of the problem, right?

No he doesn't. He thinks he is liberating women."

One or two of us might have given it some thought. Maybe.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

QUESTION/INSTRUCTION

Define PRUDE.

There is no point in discussing something for which everybody holds their own definition.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Me personally? This isn't about me,it was a general statement to see what everyone view is..."

Well I'm calling bullshit on your O.P.

Nice skiddies chicken x

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

This seems to be another one of those threads where a man makes assumptions about women and gets it horribly wrong.

Why is it that it so rarely happens the other way round......

A

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"This seems to be another one of those threads where a man makes assumptions about women and gets it horribly wrong.

Why is it that it so rarely happens the other way round......

A"

Because women are too busy being prudish to make assumptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t say so

More they just choose to keep they exploits private as

Soicty is so closed minded and that’s both men and woman

You know the old ooo she’s been with to meny to date

Not take home to mom she’s only good for a bang

Get labeled 3 4 and 5 letter bad words

So most tend to keep it to them selfs so they not ridiculed by society as a hole

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol. It just appears men seem to be more open with their sexual feelings and wants. Women like to play a kind of chase then not let on what they are after. This is my opinion which I'm entitled to, some will disagree..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 12/09/22 23:02:32]"

Good one

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Lol. It just appears men seem to be more open with their sexual feelings and wants. Women like to play a kind of chase then not let on what they are after. This is my opinion which I'm entitled to, some will disagree.. "

Anyone can have an opinion. Whether that opinion stands up to scrutiny is another matter.....

Unsubstantiated opinions are very often harmful to sections of society.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I don't know why, but this whole conversation reminds me of being called frigid when I wouldn't let a lad finger me when I was [age redacted].

I have no idea why

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"[Removed by poster at 12/09/22 23:02:32]

Good one"

In the words of Ronan Keating......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol. It just appears men seem to be more open with their sexual feelings and wants. Women like to play a kind of chase then not let on what they are after. This is my opinion which I'm entitled to, some will disagree..

Anyone can have an opinion. Whether that opinion stands up to scrutiny is another matter.....

Unsubstantiated opinions are very often harmful to sections of society."

It’s true!

Yours,

A Black guy.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"[Removed by poser at 12/09/22 23:02:39]"

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Lol. It just appears men seem to be more open with their sexual feelings and wants. Women like to play a kind of chase then not let on what they are after. This is my opinion which I'm entitled to, some will disagree.. "

Good opinion.

Mine is, guys are open about their fantasies. To an extent.

All the women I know are too, and they actively pursue their fantasies, talk about them and make them happen instead of wanking off into an unsolicited message.

Hashtag not all ect.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I don't know why, but this whole conversation reminds me of being called frigid when I wouldn't let a lad finger me when I was [age redacted].

I have no idea why "

Don't forget the bitch bit ...... or my absolute fave...... lezzer

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Lol. It just appears men seem to be more open with their sexual feelings and wants. Women like to play a kind of chase then not let on what they are after. This is my opinion which I'm entitled to, some will disagree.. "

Yes, I agree that it seems so to you, for reasons which some of us have outlined above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why, but this whole conversation reminds me of being called frigid when I wouldn't let a lad finger me when I was [age redacted].

I have no idea why "

Understandable. Because this thread is giving that secondary school boy vibe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poser at 12/09/22 23:02:39]"

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"If I admitted in public what I'm like in my head, I'd get a whole heap of blowback from people who feel the need to police my sexuality, and a lot of attention from creeps.

I'm quite happy to maintain the illusion that I'm a prude. Makes for a quiet life."

You could have been economical with your words and just said you're a Tasmanian. We would have got the gist then.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

"

Which ever answer gets most texts...

Yes, no, maybe,

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"If I admitted in public what I'm like in my head, I'd get a whole heap of blowback from people who feel the need to police my sexuality, and a lot of attention from creeps.

I'm quite happy to maintain the illusion that I'm a prude. Makes for a quiet life.

You could have been economical with your words and just said you're a Tasmanian. We would have got the gist then. "

I'm not into that, behave

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"[Removed by poser at 12/09/22 23:02:39]

You want shum?"

You want shum ? I'll give ya shum !

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Are we defining a prude as a woman who doesn't really derive joy from talking about sex?

Cos if so, I think that's silly

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"If I admitted in public what I'm like in my head, I'd get a whole heap of blowback from people who feel the need to police my sexuality, and a lot of attention from creeps.

I'm quite happy to maintain the illusion that I'm a prude. Makes for a quiet life.

You could have been economical with your words and just said you're a Tasmanian. We would have got the gist then.

I'm not into that, behave "

Prude

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Are we defining a prude as a woman who doesn't really derive joy from talking about sex?

Cos if so, I think that's silly "

No one has said what it is.

I'm thinking it's a wrinkled old fruit ( not Quentin Crisp ) in a can of juice.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"If I admitted in public what I'm like in my head, I'd get a whole heap of blowback from people who feel the need to police my sexuality, and a lot of attention from creeps.

I'm quite happy to maintain the illusion that I'm a prude. Makes for a quiet life.

You could have been economical with your words and just said you're a Tasmanian. We would have got the gist then.

I'm not into that, behave

Prude "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me personally? This isn't about me,it was a general statement to see what everyone view is..."

These threads always give away something about the OP. Also the premise of this sort of thread is almost always equivalent to a newspaper headline that’s asks a questions: Betteridges Law of Headlines states that the answer is always no. Anyone that frames a statement as a question because that way they don’t have to justify their position has a weak argument.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol. It just appears men seem to be more open with their sexual feelings and wants. Women like to play a kind of chase then not let on what they are after. This is my opinion which I'm entitled to, some will disagree.. "

As some have said and even todayit’s for the most part true, Men are encouraged to be sexually active women are not. We live in a patriarchy (not man bashing just a fact) so men have made the societal rules for hundreds of years. Women were not allowed to be sexual because men want to make sure there “line” is assured. It’s pretty basic behaviour veiled by religion and society etc. Most men want to fuck a slut but marry a virgin. Holds true to some extent even today and even here there’s a strong undercurrent of it even here

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Me personally? This isn't about me,it was a general statement to see what everyone view is...

These threads always give away something about the OP. Also the premise of this sort of thread is almost always equivalent to a newspaper headline that’s asks a questions: Betteridges Law of Headlines states that the answer is always no. Anyone that frames a statement as a question because that way they don’t have to justify their position has a weak argument. "

I think you are right , don't I ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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You want shum?

You want shum ? I'll give ya shum !"

Finally. You get me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This thread has shown me that people take things personally, and then decide to be rude .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread has shown me that people take things personally, and then decide to be prude . "

Fixed that for ya

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

"

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"This thread has shown me that people take things personally, and then decide to be prude .

Fixed that for ya "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"If I admitted in public what I'm like in my head, I'd get a whole heap of blowback from people who feel the need to police my sexuality, and a lot of attention from creeps.

I'm quite happy to maintain the illusion that I'm a prude. Makes for a quiet life.

You could have been economical with your words and just said you're a Tasmanian. We would have got the gist then.

I'm not into that, behave

Prude "

Err... In this instance, think Norfolk. I repeat the statement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close"

Correct though

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"This thread has shown me that people take things personally, and then decide to be prude .

Fixed that for ya

"

This

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Merriam Webster Dictionary definition:

Definition of prude

: a person who is excessively or priggishly attentive to propriety or decorum

especially : a woman who shows or affects extreme modesty

Note the last bit. It's used to refer mainly to women who "show extreme modesty". Like it's bad to be modest (if that's what you choose).

And you wonder why people (mainly women) object?

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

"

Am pretty prude I don't see that as a word excusive to or with connotations to just women...

Depends on the lense you view ut through... abundantly obvious in here as per usual.

But I'd suggest I was prude... until i am more connected and settled, then quite the opposite. I think in general that would cover most people.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Look up modest ......... we need that

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close"

Maybe but he said women are more prudish.

Casual sex didn't come into it. You can have all the casual sex in the world and still be a prude.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"This thread has shown me that people take things personally, and then decide to be rude . "

You do seem to have got a bit of a slating here . Hope that’s not why you hid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look up modest ......... we need that "

Modest = Ms Peacock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Merriam Webster Dictionary definition:

Definition of prude

: a person who is excessively or priggishly attentive to propriety or decorum

especially : a woman who shows or affects extreme modesty

Note the last bit. It's used to refer mainly to women who "show extreme modesty". Like it's bad to be modest (if that's what you choose).

And you wonder why people (mainly women) object?"

If your remove the single guys for arguments sake to even the numbers out and look at couples profiles, then you’d quite easily make the assumption that men are modest as fuck when you do a quick genitals pic count

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

Maybe but he said women are more prudish.

Casual sex didn't come into it. You can have all the casual sex in the world and still be a prude. "

Can you? Im not sure. My understanding of the word is that someone prudish would not partake in casual sex

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Look up modest ......... we need that

Modest = Ms Peacock "

I can see your bra strap Mrs. Modest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread has shown me that people take things personally, and then decide to be rude .

You do seem to have got a bit of a slating here . Hope that’s not why you hid. "

I don’t think so, the OP asked for debate. I too looked up the definition of prude. It does tend to refer to women but not exclusively. I think most would agree it’s a term used negatively mostly. I think it’s been quite an enlightening post. Well done OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look up modest ......... we need that

Modest = Ms Peacock

I can see your bra strap Mrs. Modest"

I’ve nae knickers on … but sitting in the dark … prudishy

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

Maybe but he said women are more prudish.

Casual sex didn't come into it. You can have all the casual sex in the world and still be a prude.

Can you? Im not sure. My understanding of the word is that someone prudish would not partake in casual sex"

My definition of prude would be the kinds of acts that are taken or not taken part in ..... not the number of times or partners. e.g. sex 20 times per week in the missionary = prudish or not

Sex once a month dancing round a bonfire in a dogging car park and shagging a random man whilst blindfold.... = not prudish .... or maybe they are

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Merriam Webster Dictionary definition:

Definition of prude

: a person who is excessively or priggishly attentive to propriety or decorum

especially : a woman who shows or affects extreme modesty

Note the last bit. It's used to refer mainly to women who "show extreme modesty". Like it's bad to be modest (if that's what you choose).

And you wonder why people (mainly women) object?"

Other British dictionarys are available.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Merriam Webster Dictionary definition:

Definition of prude

: a person who is excessively or priggishly attentive to propriety or decorum

especially : a woman who shows or affects extreme modesty

Note the last bit. It's used to refer mainly to women who "show extreme modesty". Like it's bad to be modest (if that's what you choose).

And you wonder why people (mainly women) object?

Other British dictionarys are available."

Correct. I'll look it up in the Concise Oxford

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Prude- will be very embarrassed/not engage in as much sexual.activity/ trying different things out. I.e: lots of females won't give BJ, however to men that's a standard part of sex.. just one example

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

Maybe but he said women are more prudish.

Casual sex didn't come into it. You can have all the casual sex in the world and still be a prude.

Can you? Im not sure. My understanding of the word is that someone prudish would not partake in casual sex"

My understanding is its the subject not the act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

Maybe but he said women are more prudish.

Casual sex didn't come into it. You can have all the casual sex in the world and still be a prude.

Can you? Im not sure. My understanding of the word is that someone prudish would not partake in casual sex

My definition of prude would be the kinds of acts that are taken or not taken part in ..... not the number of times or partners. e.g. sex 20 times per week in the missionary = prudish or not

Sex once a month dancing round a bonfire in a dogging car park and shagging a random man whilst blindfold.... = not prudish .... or maybe they are

"

Good point, one man’s (or woman’s) kinky is another man (or woman’s) kinky… also prudish is in the eye of the beholder???

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

Maybe but he said women are more prudish.

Casual sex didn't come into it. You can have all the casual sex in the world and still be a prude.

Can you? Im not sure. My understanding of the word is that someone prudish would not partake in casual sex

My definition of prude would be the kinds of acts that are taken or not taken part in ..... not the number of times or partners. e.g. sex 20 times per week in the missionary = prudish or not

Sex once a month dancing round a bonfire in a dogging car park and shagging a random man whilst blindfold.... = not prudish .... or maybe they are

"

Guess we'll have to disagree on what counts as prudish so, which unfortunately is central to the thread.

OP, can you give us your understanding on what a prude is? That would help

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Pops in and shakes her head and vanishes into another thread

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

a person that you think is too easily shocked by things connected with sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are (socially) allowed to be. Not that they are inherently "

Spot on.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close"

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"a person that you think is too easily shocked by things connected with sex"

Thats from the OED

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Nope ..I'd say its equal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not precious, don't worry

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

"

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"a person that you think is too easily shocked by things connected with sex"

Oh look... the subject not the act.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that"

At the risk of being labelled a pedant - He never asked a question.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

At the risk of being labelled a pedant - He never asked a question."

Pedant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that"

What question?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that"

The framing has generated the responses. It starts with the statement that women are more prudish than men. As a result we have not discussed the prudishness around that can be seen about men who have sex with men.

Adjust the frame and you get a different picture.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

What question? "

Ask the person above who first mentioned question, who i in turn replied to

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

At the risk of being labelled a pedant - He never asked a question."

I coined questment to get around having that debate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A statement then. Can still debate a statement

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

At the risk of being labelled a pedant - He never asked a question.

Pedant "

What can I say ........ Minor details matter in a debate as important as 'women are more prude' ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that"

It’s poorly framed as it intimates that it’s here for a debate, but strongly biased to getting the answer the OP really wants, which is agreement with his premise.

An honest question doesn’t seek to direct the answer, or precede the question with loaded argument.

Nothing wrong with asking “are men or women more likely to be prudish, where prudish means x and y”, it’s much better than “women are prudes, who’s with me! Debate…”

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

At the risk of being labelled a pedant - He never asked a question.

I coined questment to get around having that debate.

"

ooooooooooo etymology ...... I LOVE questment ....... have five points Lickety

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

The framing has generated the responses. It starts with the statement that women are more prudish than men. As a result we have not discussed the prudishness around that can be seen about men who have sex with men.

Adjust the frame and you get a different picture.

"

Well youre more than welcome to make your own statement and frame it whatever way you like. We're dealing with the OPs one for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

It’s poorly framed as it intimates that it’s here for a debate, but strongly biased to getting the answer the OP really wants, which is agreement with his premise.

An honest question doesn’t seek to direct the answer, or precede the question with loaded argument.

Nothing wrong with asking “are men or women more likely to be prudish, where prudish means x and y”, it’s much better than “women are prudes, who’s with me! Debate…”"

Agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

What question?

Ask the person above who first mentioned question, who i in turn replied to"

They didn't mention the word question actually that's why I was asking what question. All I can see is a statement and that is why the thread has gone the way it has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

It’s poorly framed as it intimates that it’s here for a debate, but strongly biased to getting the answer the OP really wants, which is agreement with his premise.

An honest question doesn’t seek to direct the answer, or precede the question with loaded argument.

Nothing wrong with asking “are men or women more likely to be prudish, where prudish means x and y”, it’s much better than “women are prudes, who’s with me! Debate…”

Agree! "

However debate can clarify the issue, that should always be enlighteniand civil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

It’s poorly framed as it intimates that it’s here for a debate, but strongly biased to getting the answer the OP really wants, which is agreement with his premise.

An honest question doesn’t seek to direct the answer, or precede the question with loaded argument.

Nothing wrong with asking “are men or women more likely to be prudish, where prudish means x and y”, it’s much better than “women are prudes, who’s with me! Debate…”

Agree!

However debate can clarify the issue, that should always be enlighteniand civil "

Oops *enlightening and civil

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How funny!! Loving the controversy this has caused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How funny!! Loving the controversy this has caused "

I think people saw through the op and that's why you have had the responses you have had. The fact you love that it's caused controversy kinda shows people were right with their assumptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

It’s poorly framed as it intimates that it’s here for a debate, but strongly biased to getting the answer the OP really wants, which is agreement with his premise.

An honest question doesn’t seek to direct the answer, or precede the question with loaded argument.

Nothing wrong with asking “are men or women more likely to be prudish, where prudish means x and y”, it’s much better than “women are prudes, who’s with me! Debate…”

Agree!

However debate can clarify the issue, that should always be enlighteniand civil "

Agreed, far better to debate the replies to a good starting point, than to need to debate the question in order to get fair replies…

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

What question?

Ask the person above who first mentioned question, who i in turn replied to

They didn't mention the word question actually that's why I was asking what question. All I can see is a statement and that is why the thread has gone the way it has. "

The person said 'poorly framed questment'

I took that to be a typo and that she meant question. I dont believe 'questment' is a word?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all kicking off.

Keep going though

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's judgemental criticism that's devoid of our the contexr of our society and its influences, especially of those of men.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

What question?

Ask the person above who first mentioned question, who i in turn replied to

They didn't mention the word question actually that's why I was asking what question. All I can see is a statement and that is why the thread has gone the way it has.

The person said 'poorly framed questment'

I took that to be a typo and that she meant question. I dont believe 'questment' is a word? "

It's in the Urban Dictionary.

It'll break lickety's heart but it's in there

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over a year ago

I raised a viewpoint. You can debate is. I didn't know we all had to have Phd in English language and linguistics to debate a topic

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

It’s poorly framed as it intimates that it’s here for a debate, but strongly biased to getting the answer the OP really wants, which is agreement with his premise.

An honest question doesn’t seek to direct the answer, or precede the question with loaded argument.

Nothing wrong with asking “are men or women more likely to be prudish, where prudish means x and y”, it’s much better than “women are prudes, who’s with me! Debate…”

Agree!

However debate can clarify the issue, that should always be enlighteniand civil

Oops *enlightening and civil "

He posed an opinion. He requested it be debated.

By definition a debate calls for you to question the opposing views validity over yours for example...

Hard not to bring question into it. You are by default in your response questioning his, or the statements position surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or simply they’re just picky...!

I guess nowt wrong with that...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

It’s poorly framed as it intimates that it’s here for a debate, but strongly biased to getting the answer the OP really wants, which is agreement with his premise.

An honest question doesn’t seek to direct the answer, or precede the question with loaded argument.

Nothing wrong with asking “are men or women more likely to be prudish, where prudish means x and y”, it’s much better than “women are prudes, who’s with me! Debate…”

Agree!

However debate can clarify the issue, that should always be enlighteniand civil

Agreed, far better to debate the replies to a good starting point, than to need to debate the question in order to get fair replies…"

Yes, exactly. Clarifying the issue as the debate goes on should enlighten. For example the meaning of the word prude. It’s interesting that it leads to much bigger social attitudes.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I raised a viewpoint. You can debate is. I didn't know we all had to have Phd in English language and linguistics to debate a topic

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Well we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I raised a viewpoint. You can debate is. I didn't know we all had to have Phd in English language and linguistics to debate a topic

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Well we do."

Granny, hmu if you’re tryna fuck

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"I raised a viewpoint. You can debate is. I didn't know we all had to have Phd in English language and linguistics to debate a topic

."

Fab(ac)ademics tend to do that to shut down points of view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I raised a viewpoint. You can debate is. I didn't know we all had to have Phd in English language and linguistics to debate a topic

.

Fab(ac)ademics tend to do that to shut down points of view

"

new word!

Is it to describe people with no qualifications?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

What question?

Ask the person above who first mentioned question, who i in turn replied to

They didn't mention the word question actually that's why I was asking what question. All I can see is a statement and that is why the thread has gone the way it has.

The person said 'poorly framed questment'

I took that to be a typo and that she meant question. I dont believe 'questment' is a word? "

It's a portmanteau of question and statement, coined in the moment. I used it to get around the issue that some are arguing we should debate the question (there wasn't one) and others questioning the statement.

Also, I generally apologise and correct if I make a typo and spot it.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

What question?

Ask the person above who first mentioned question, who i in turn replied to

They didn't mention the word question actually that's why I was asking what question. All I can see is a statement and that is why the thread has gone the way it has.

The person said 'poorly framed questment'

I took that to be a typo and that she meant question. I dont believe 'questment' is a word?

It's in the Urban Dictionary.

It'll break lickety's heart but it's in there "

I'm bereft and rending my clothes in shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I raised a viewpoint. You can debate is. I didn't know we all had to have Phd in English language and linguistics to debate a topic

."

Also a good point though. Some things can be said in innocence yet taken offensively by others. Certainly don’t think your post was in any way offensive but the origin of the word (used to describe females mostly) opens up discussion on how society views men and women sexually. Well that’s just for one thing…

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

What question?

Ask the person above who first mentioned question, who i in turn replied to

They didn't mention the word question actually that's why I was asking what question. All I can see is a statement and that is why the thread has gone the way it has.

The person said 'poorly framed questment'

I took that to be a typo and that she meant question. I dont believe 'questment' is a word?

It's a portmanteau of question and statement, coined in the moment. I used it to get around the issue that some are arguing we should debate the question (there wasn't one) and others questioning the statement.

Also, I generally apologise and correct if I make a typo and spot it.

"

So its a made up word then?

Fair enough, ill play along

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just want everyone to share the love, be happy in themselves, and enjoy their bodies and others if wanted whilst on this planet consensually and safely. I need a drink after this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

I can see the grief youre getting in here OP, and it was inevitable. Having said that, discussion is always good once kept civil.

My thoughts; lets use fab as a borometer. Look at the imbalance in numbers on here between men and women.

Men, on average, are far far more interested in casual sex than women. I know thats not exactly the answer to the question, but its pretty close

What grief? The OP said 'debate'. As the whole debate is based on a poorly framed questment it is a mixture of experience and opinion. The OP also said that he's entitled to his opinion, so does that not hold true for others?

Yes, as i said discussion is good oncr civil.

And why is the question poorly framed? Its an honest question. If he framed it differently then it would be another question. And he didnt want to ask another question or presumably he would have done that

What question?

Ask the person above who first mentioned question, who i in turn replied to

They didn't mention the word question actually that's why I was asking what question. All I can see is a statement and that is why the thread has gone the way it has.

The person said 'poorly framed questment'

I took that to be a typo and that she meant question. I dont believe 'questment' is a word?

It's a portmanteau of question and statement, coined in the moment. I used it to get around the issue that some are arguing we should debate the question (there wasn't one) and others questioning the statement.

Also, I generally apologise and correct if I make a typo and spot it.

So its a made up word then?

Fair enough, ill play along"

It not a made up word and a quick Google shows me it is in plenty of dictionaries.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I raised a viewpoint. You can debate is. I didn't know we all had to have Phd in English language and linguistics to debate a topic

.

Fab(ac)ademics tend to do that to shut down points of view

"

Gasp! Love it........ We should have a Fabademic League

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I just want everyone to share the love, be happy in themselves, and enjoy their bodies and others if wanted whilst on this planet consensually and safely. I need a drink after this "

Oh hush ....... you made the evening.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Let him have his gin, granny.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Lol. It just appears men seem to be more open with their sexual feelings and wants. Women like to play a kind of chase then not let on what they are after. This is my opinion which I'm entitled to, some will disagree.. "

I'm here for sex. I'm not here for sex with anyone willing.

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"I raised a viewpoint. You can debate is. I didn't know we all had to have Phd in English language and linguistics to debate a topic

.

Fab(ac)ademics tend to do that to shut down points of view

new word!

Is it to describe people with no qualifications? "

Not necessarily... I felt it needed to describe people with lenses and agendas and inability to see past their low resolution view of the world and exhibit obtuse behaviour.

I'll trademark it so hands off!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Let him have his gin, granny. "

Gin = Mothers Ruin ........

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"Let him have his gin, granny.

Gin = Mothers Ruin ........"

I think Steve wants to ruin you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I raised a viewpoint. You can debate is. I didn't know we all had to have Phd in English language and linguistics to debate a topic

.

Fab(ac)ademics tend to do that to shut down points of view

new word!

Is it to describe people with no qualifications?

Not necessarily... I felt it needed to describe people with lenses and agendas and inability to see past their low resolution view of the world and exhibit obtuse behaviour.

I'll trademark it so hands off! "

Fabademics ®

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disagree completely,

Women are no less/more prudes than men.

However in my experience, they feel less need to willy wave and shout it from the rooftops like a rite of honour and achievements. But prudes... nah, not in the slightest. They definitely have a little more decorum that gents though.

(All on average rather than individuals and just my experiences of)

E x

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Disagree completely,

Women are no less/more prudes than men.

However in my experience, they feel less need to willy wave and shout it from the rooftops like a rite of honour and achievements. But prudes... nah, not in the slightest. They definitely have a little more decorum that gents though.

(All on average rather than individuals and just my experiences of)

E x"

But do you not think the sheer difference in numbers on a site like this means that they are, on average, more prudish? I still find it hard to see past that in any discussion around this.

Surely if they were no more prudish than men, then the number of women in here would be similar?

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Perhaps women aren’t ‘prudish’ at all… perhaps *some* women feel the need to stay quiet about some of their sexual desires for fear of being ‘slut-shamed’ after hearing years of insults when men discuss ‘promiscuous’ women. Years of being called called slut/ slag/ whore/ easy/ “She‘a the type of girl you’d shag, not the type of girl you’d date or take home to your parents’” / “she’s not wife material” etc

Men are frequently complaining that men outnumber women here 100/1,. I often wonder how many more women would be on Fab if there was no fear of being mocked or shamed if anyone was to find out about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Disagree completely,

Women are no less/more prudes than men.

However in my experience, they feel less need to willy wave and shout it from the rooftops like a rite of honour and achievements. But prudes... nah, not in the slightest. They definitely have a little more decorum that gents though.

(All on average rather than individuals and just my experiences of)

E x

But do you not think the sheer difference in numbers on a site like this means that they are, on average, more prudish? I still find it hard to see past that in any discussion around this.

Surely if they were no more prudish than men, then the number of women in here would be similar? "

Purely biologically men are more prone to (at a subconscious level at least) to want to sew their seed wide and far. As much as the different sexes do strive to not be controlled by this the laws of biology still dictate trends and generalities. Not sure that not being promiscuous/on fab defines someone as being a prude though?

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Disagree completely,

Women are no less/more prudes than men.

However in my experience, they feel less need to willy wave and shout it from the rooftops like a rite of honour and achievements. But prudes... nah, not in the slightest. They definitely have a little more decorum that gents though.

(All on average rather than individuals and just my experiences of)

E x

But do you not think the sheer difference in numbers on a site like this means that they are, on average, more prudish? I still find it hard to see past that in any discussion around this.

Surely if they were no more prudish than men, then the number of women in here would be similar?

Purely biologically men are more prone to (at a subconscious level at least) to want to sew their seed wide and far. As much as the different sexes do strive to not be controlled by this the laws of biology still dictate trends and generalities. Not sure that not being promiscuous/on fab defines someone as being a prude though?"

Not technically to a tee, granted. But i still see a close connection between 'prudishness' and the predilection to casual sex.

Then again, giving it further thought, they probably arent entirely mutually exclusive.

Im conflicted

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Disagree completely,

Women are no less/more prudes than men.

However in my experience, they feel less need to willy wave and shout it from the rooftops like a rite of honour and achievements. But prudes... nah, not in the slightest. They definitely have a little more decorum that gents though.

(All on average rather than individuals and just my experiences of)

E x

But do you not think the sheer difference in numbers on a site like this means that they are, on average, more prudish? I still find it hard to see past that in any discussion around this.

Surely if they were no more prudish than men, then the number of women in here would be similar? "

My experience of the numbers is that a lot of men join for the visuals, some for a place to chat, and quite a few for the fantasy of 'winning' a woman they have no intention of meeting. The fantasists are legion.

On that basis, it may well be that the women here are proportionally less prudish than the men.

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Disagree completely,

Women are no less/more prudes than men.

However in my experience, they feel less need to willy wave and shout it from the rooftops like a rite of honour and achievements. But prudes... nah, not in the slightest. They definitely have a little more decorum that gents though.

(All on average rather than individuals and just my experiences of)

E x

But do you not think the sheer difference in numbers on a site like this means that they are, on average, more prudish? I still find it hard to see past that in any discussion around this.

Surely if they were no more prudish than men, then the number of women in here would be similar?

My experience of the numbers is that a lot of men join for the visuals, some for a place to chat, and quite a few for the fantasy of 'winning' a woman they have no intention of meeting. The fantasists are legion.

On that basis, it may well be that the women here are proportionally less prudish than the men."

By that rational you must account for a percentage of women that join 'for the visuals, some for a place to chat, and quite a few for the fantasy of 'ego boosting' with men that they have no intention of meeting?

Unless... I dont know false equivalency and anecdote?

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I've only ever really heard the term 'prude' used towards women. Is it just a word that works that way, i've never heard of a word in the same way towards men? Because there are m & f at both ends of the spectrum so to speak.

To me though, whoever uses it to describe someone; it seems a derogatory term to belittle someone because they may have different preferences that they deem to be less adventurous than theirs... well that's my short answer anyway!

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

"

Men dont bear the full sexual consequences being the biggest fuck a chic get her pregnant disappear repeat and continue that 30 times that night..

See what would be the story if 30 women turned up pregnant in a town and didn't know how to trace the guy... He'd be in the crowd calling them the slut when he had 30 and they had 1 guy.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

"

Society makes it seem that way, but nothing could be farther from the truth

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"I thought it was just an insult thrown a woman's way when she won't do what a man wants her to "

It's exactly that... Let a man meet a woman more sexually experienced and more sexually unapologetically free and they loose their shit.

Then she's every word in the dictionary other than adventurous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Disagree completely,

Women are no less/more prudes than men.

However in my experience, they feel less need to willy wave and shout it from the rooftops like a rite of honour and achievements. But prudes... nah, not in the slightest. They definitely have a little more decorum that gents though.

(All on average rather than individuals and just my experiences of)

E x

But do you not think the sheer difference in numbers on a site like this means that they are, on average, more prudish? I still find it hard to see past that in any discussion around this.

Surely if they were no more prudish than men, then the number of women in here would be similar?

My experience of the numbers is that a lot of men join for the visuals, some for a place to chat, and quite a few for the fantasy of 'winning' a woman they have no intention of meeting. The fantasists are legion.

On that basis, it may well be that the women here are proportionally less prudish than the men."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check hull’s gloryhole

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

"

I’d say biologically that’s the case. That’s how men are wired. Women are different

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Both men and women can be prudes. Think a lot of men cover it up better because it's more manly to be seen as sexually active whereas women would be seen as something negative

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender"

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

C has her ‘nun’ days where she’s very vanilla - then will turn in to a filthy slut.

The slut days definitely outweigh the nun days so I’m not complaining…

We are as bad as each other…so I don’t think women or men are more sexually active. I guess that shows we are sexually compatible though and maybe that’s where problems occur in some relationships when one side feels the other is prudish…

K

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics "

In what way?

Because that sounds like a huge stereotype and generalisation.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics "

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them."

Yep.

And the extent that it exerts any influence is entirely down to the individual.

Hence you can have extremely masculine female bodybuilders and equally extremely feminine male models. Just two examples of course, but you know.....free will and all that.

Just because you are a certain gender doesn't mean you're obliged to assume specific characteristics. Unless you're deliberately intent on living life as a stereotype and fitting into someone else's pre-concieved notions.

A 'massive' influence? Not any more.

It's 2022 of course and that's not been compulsory or expected for decades.......

A

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them.

Yep.

And the extent that it exerts any influence is entirely down to the individual.

Hence you can have extremely masculine female bodybuilders and equally extremely feminine male models. Just two examples of course, but you know.....free will and all that.

Just because you are a certain gender doesn't mean you're obliged to assume specific characteristics. Unless you're deliberately intent on living life as a stereotype and fitting into someone else's pre-concieved notions.

A 'massive' influence? Not any more.

It's 2022 of course and that's not been compulsory or expected for decades.......

A"

Nobody ever said it was compulsory or expected.

However, it is biological, and biology doesn't care that its 2022. I know its in vogue these days to deem everything a 'social construct', but the reality it, biology trumps all of that.

Ive already acknowledged that there are exceptions so there was no need for you to highlight those.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them.

Yep.

And the extent that it exerts any influence is entirely down to the individual.

Hence you can have extremely masculine female bodybuilders and equally extremely feminine male models. Just two examples of course, but you know.....free will and all that.

Just because you are a certain gender doesn't mean you're obliged to assume specific characteristics. Unless you're deliberately intent on living life as a stereotype and fitting into someone else's pre-concieved notions.

A 'massive' influence? Not any more.

It's 2022 of course and that's not been compulsory or expected for decades.......

A

Nobody ever said it was compulsory or expected.

However, it is biological, and biology doesn't care that its 2022. I know its in vogue these days to deem everything a 'social construct', but the reality it, biology trumps all of that.

Ive already acknowledged that there are exceptions so there was no need for you to highlight those. "

OK.

Explain why you think it is a 'massive influence' on characteristics with examples then.

I assume you have some given how strongly you seem to feel?

A

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over a year ago

A sweeping generalisation about men and women. Most of my kinks/things I enjoy evolved from ladies introducing them to me so who was the prude originally?

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them.

Yep.

And the extent that it exerts any influence is entirely down to the individual.

Hence you can have extremely masculine female bodybuilders and equally extremely feminine male models. Just two examples of course, but you know.....free will and all that.

Just because you are a certain gender doesn't mean you're obliged to assume specific characteristics. Unless you're deliberately intent on living life as a stereotype and fitting into someone else's pre-concieved notions.

A 'massive' influence? Not any more.

It's 2022 of course and that's not been compulsory or expected for decades.......

A

Nobody ever said it was compulsory or expected.

However, it is biological, and biology doesn't care that its 2022. I know its in vogue these days to deem everything a 'social construct', but the reality it, biology trumps all of that.

Ive already acknowledged that there are exceptions so there was no need for you to highlight those.

OK.

Explain why you think it is a 'massive influence' on characteristics with examples then.

I assume you have some given how strongly you seem to feel?

A"

There are numerous works of research done over decades which have undoubtedly established differences between the genders, whilst also accounting for nurture/cultural background. If not going to reference any for you as a simple Google search will do that.

Do you honestly think men and women share the exact same characterictics with no gentic or biological differences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

"

Absolute bollocks

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them.

Yep.

And the extent that it exerts any influence is entirely down to the individual.

Hence you can have extremely masculine female bodybuilders and equally extremely feminine male models. Just two examples of course, but you know.....free will and all that.

Just because you are a certain gender doesn't mean you're obliged to assume specific characteristics. Unless you're deliberately intent on living life as a stereotype and fitting into someone else's pre-concieved notions.

A 'massive' influence? Not any more.

It's 2022 of course and that's not been compulsory or expected for decades.......

A

Nobody ever said it was compulsory or expected.

However, it is biological, and biology doesn't care that its 2022. I know its in vogue these days to deem everything a 'social construct', but the reality it, biology trumps all of that.

Ive already acknowledged that there are exceptions so there was no need for you to highlight those.

OK.

Explain why you think it is a 'massive influence' on characteristics with examples then.

I assume you have some given how strongly you seem to feel?

A

There are numerous works of research done over decades which have undoubtedly established differences between the genders, whilst also accounting for nurture/cultural background. If not going to reference any for you as a simple Google search will do that.

Do you honestly think men and women share the exact same characterictics with no gentic or biological differences? "

Would you care to suggest where we might read such conclusive research? Many thanks.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Women are more prude then men...

It seems men are more sexually active/ willing to explore more than females.

Debate..

"

Not in my experience.

Women tend to be the ones who have things done to them, while men are just the ones who do the doing.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them.

Yep.

And the extent that it exerts any influence is entirely down to the individual.

Hence you can have extremely masculine female bodybuilders and equally extremely feminine male models. Just two examples of course, but you know.....free will and all that.

Just because you are a certain gender doesn't mean you're obliged to assume specific characteristics. Unless you're deliberately intent on living life as a stereotype and fitting into someone else's pre-concieved notions.

A 'massive' influence? Not any more.

It's 2022 of course and that's not been compulsory or expected for decades.......

A

Nobody ever said it was compulsory or expected.

However, it is biological, and biology doesn't care that its 2022. I know its in vogue these days to deem everything a 'social construct', but the reality it, biology trumps all of that.

Ive already acknowledged that there are exceptions so there was no need for you to highlight those.

OK.

Explain why you think it is a 'massive influence' on characteristics with examples then.

I assume you have some given how strongly you seem to feel?

A

There are numerous works of research done over decades which have undoubtedly established differences between the genders, whilst also accounting for nurture/cultural background. If not going to reference any for you as a simple Google search will do that.

Do you honestly think men and women share the exact same characterictics with no gentic or biological differences?

Would you care to suggest where we might read such conclusive research? Many thanks. "

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20161011-do-men-and-women-really-have-different-personalities

Here. Theres loads referenced in this

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them.

Yep.

And the extent that it exerts any influence is entirely down to the individual.

Hence you can have extremely masculine female bodybuilders and equally extremely feminine male models. Just two examples of course, but you know.....free will and all that.

Just because you are a certain gender doesn't mean you're obliged to assume specific characteristics. Unless you're deliberately intent on living life as a stereotype and fitting into someone else's pre-concieved notions.

A 'massive' influence? Not any more.

It's 2022 of course and that's not been compulsory or expected for decades.......

A

Nobody ever said it was compulsory or expected.

However, it is biological, and biology doesn't care that its 2022. I know its in vogue these days to deem everything a 'social construct', but the reality it, biology trumps all of that.

Ive already acknowledged that there are exceptions so there was no need for you to highlight those.

OK.

Explain why you think it is a 'massive influence' on characteristics with examples then.

I assume you have some given how strongly you seem to feel?

A

There are numerous works of research done over decades which have undoubtedly established differences between the genders, whilst also accounting for nurture/cultural background. If not going to reference any for you as a simple Google search will do that.

Do you honestly think men and women share the exact same characterictics with no gentic or biological differences? "

Nope.

I don't think that nor did I ever say that.

But I also didn't claim that 'gender plays a massive role in characteristics'.

It plays a role, yes. But I'm still waiting for you to give an example of one of those characteristics. Just one will do.

Because you seem to throw out these claims quite frequently without actual empirical evidence to back them up. Which makes them nothing more than an opinion, rather than a fact.

Much like your assertion that "do you not think the sheer difference in numbers on a site like this means that they are, on average, more prudish?" rationalises the notion that women are more prudish than men. Which is most definitely complete bollocks. Just because women are here in lesser numbers bears zero correlation.

I'm pretty sure most women don't need a swingers site to get laid and can quite easily find a willing partner far more easily than any man in a variety of situations from pubs and clubs to workplaces and out shopping at Tescos.

The fact they don't choose to join a sex site to attempt to find a partner doesn't signify prudish behaviour. It does indicate a serious case of last resort desperation and expectancy in many men though.

A

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them.

Yep.

And the extent that it exerts any influence is entirely down to the individual.

Hence you can have extremely masculine female bodybuilders and equally extremely feminine male models. Just two examples of course, but you know.....free will and all that.

Just because you are a certain gender doesn't mean you're obliged to assume specific characteristics. Unless you're deliberately intent on living life as a stereotype and fitting into someone else's pre-concieved notions.

A 'massive' influence? Not any more.

It's 2022 of course and that's not been compulsory or expected for decades.......

A

Nobody ever said it was compulsory or expected.

However, it is biological, and biology doesn't care that its 2022. I know its in vogue these days to deem everything a 'social construct', but the reality it, biology trumps all of that.

Ive already acknowledged that there are exceptions so there was no need for you to highlight those.

OK.

Explain why you think it is a 'massive influence' on characteristics with examples then.

I assume you have some given how strongly you seem to feel?

A

There are numerous works of research done over decades which have undoubtedly established differences between the genders, whilst also accounting for nurture/cultural background. If not going to reference any for you as a simple Google search will do that.

Do you honestly think men and women share the exact same characterictics with no gentic or biological differences?

Nope.

I don't think that nor did I ever say that.

But I also didn't claim that 'gender plays a massive role in characteristics'.

It plays a role, yes. But I'm still waiting for you to give an example of one of those characteristics. Just one will do.

Because you seem to throw out these claims quite frequently without actual empirical evidence to back them up. Which makes them nothing more than an opinion, rather than a fact.

Much like your assertion that "do you not think the sheer difference in numbers on a site like this means that they are, on average, more prudish?" rationalises the notion that women are more prudish than men. Which is most definitely complete bollocks. Just because women are here in lesser numbers bears zero correlation.

I'm pretty sure most women don't need a swingers site to get laid and can quite easily find a willing partner far more easily than any man in a variety of situations from pubs and clubs to workplaces and out shopping at Tescos.

The fact they don't choose to join a sex site to attempt to find a partner doesn't signify prudish behaviour. It does indicate a serious case of last resort desperation and expectancy in many men though.

A"

Ive given loads of evidence in my last comment. You must have scrolled past it.

And as for the comment of mine youve quoted, it was a question, a suggestion. Feel free to disagree with it all you like, however i can already tell from your aggressive tone that youre not prepared to debate but instead just shout me down. So ill leave it at that

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them.

Yep.

And the extent that it exerts any influence is entirely down to the individual.

Hence you can have extremely masculine female bodybuilders and equally extremely feminine male models. Just two examples of course, but you know.....free will and all that.

Just because you are a certain gender doesn't mean you're obliged to assume specific characteristics. Unless you're deliberately intent on living life as a stereotype and fitting into someone else's pre-concieved notions.

A 'massive' influence? Not any more.

It's 2022 of course and that's not been compulsory or expected for decades.......

A

Nobody ever said it was compulsory or expected.

However, it is biological, and biology doesn't care that its 2022. I know its in vogue these days to deem everything a 'social construct', but the reality it, biology trumps all of that.

Ive already acknowledged that there are exceptions so there was no need for you to highlight those.

OK.

Explain why you think it is a 'massive influence' on characteristics with examples then.

I assume you have some given how strongly you seem to feel?

A

There are numerous works of research done over decades which have undoubtedly established differences between the genders, whilst also accounting for nurture/cultural background. If not going to reference any for you as a simple Google search will do that.

Do you honestly think men and women share the exact same characterictics with no gentic or biological differences?

Would you care to suggest where we might read such conclusive research? Many thanks.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20161011-do-men-and-women-really-have-different-personalities

Here. Theres loads referenced in this"

Not sure you picked the best example there......

"While the debates about the size and causes of gender differences in personality are likely to rumble on for many more years, it seems reasonable to conclude that for whatever reason, there are at least some differences, however large or modest, in the personality of the average man and woman. But that word “average” is important – whichever study we choose to trust, there is plenty of overlap in personality between the genders. And remember that this is about personality, not all aspects of cognition and behaviour. Indeed, based on her review of gender differences across “across multiple psychological domains” Hyde has argued “that men and women are more similar than different; the distance between them is more like the distance between North Dakota and South Dakota [than the distance between planets]”

I didn't see the word 'massive' used anywhere in that link.

A

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Woman won't fuck me - prude

Woman won't fuck me but will fuck him - slut.

OP read some veris they aren't all man on man.

It's almost like people's characteristics aren't defined by their gender

Well i think some characteristics are defined by gender. Theres no getting away from that.

There are of course exceptions, but gender plays a massive role in characteristics

Gender of course influences people's characteristics be that genetically or socially.

But it certainly doesn't define them.

Yep.

And the extent that it exerts any influence is entirely down to the individual.

Hence you can have extremely masculine female bodybuilders and equally extremely feminine male models. Just two examples of course, but you know.....free will and all that.

Just because you are a certain gender doesn't mean you're obliged to assume specific characteristics. Unless you're deliberately intent on living life as a stereotype and fitting into someone else's pre-concieved notions.

A 'massive' influence? Not any more.

It's 2022 of course and that's not been compulsory or expected for decades.......

A

Nobody ever said it was compulsory or expected.

However, it is biological, and biology doesn't care that its 2022. I know its in vogue these days to deem everything a 'social construct', but the reality it, biology trumps all of that.

Ive already acknowledged that there are exceptions so there was no need for you to highlight those.

OK.

Explain why you think it is a 'massive influence' on characteristics with examples then.

I assume you have some given how strongly you seem to feel?

A

There are numerous works of research done over decades which have undoubtedly established differences between the genders, whilst also accounting for nurture/cultural background. If not going to reference any for you as a simple Google search will do that.

Do you honestly think men and women share the exact same characterictics with no gentic or biological differences?

Would you care to suggest where we might read such conclusive research? Many thanks.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20161011-do-men-and-women-really-have-different-personalities

Here. Theres loads referenced in this

Not sure you picked the best example there......

"While the debates about the size and causes of gender differences in personality are likely to rumble on for many more years, it seems reasonable to conclude that for whatever reason, there are at least some differences, however large or modest, in the personality of the average man and woman. But that word “average” is important – whichever study we choose to trust, there is plenty of overlap in personality between the genders. And remember that this is about personality, not all aspects of cognition and behaviour. Indeed, based on her review of gender differences across “across multiple psychological domains” Hyde has argued “that men and women are more similar than different; the distance between them is more like the distance between North Dakota and South Dakota [than the distance between planets]”

I didn't see the word 'massive' used anywhere in that link.

A"

Youll also read another line in there which acknowledges that whilst the various differences are small, they add up to much larger overall difference combined.

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