FabSwingers.com forum: Oral, Question

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's a thread on here about oral,a good one I might say, my question is,either sex, how would you feel if someone said you weren't doing it right and "told/asked" you how to do it,seriously would you be offended, be truthful with your answers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I wouldn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn’t be offended because I’m not arrogant enough to assume I can please every woman in the world.

Having said that, I’ve only ever had very positive reviews like literally every other man on here so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No actually. First I’ve never been told and ami just always assumed the moans ‘yes, right there!!!’ Etc we’re a good guide that whatever I was doing was good enough for her.

But doing it right? I’d there an actual set or standard way I’m supposed to work it?

But sure, give me detailed instructions and I’ll get down with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefer to know versus someone not enjoying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn’t be offended. I’d rather know how to better pleasure the person I’m with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course not, I'm not a mind reader and while I may think I know what feels good, ultimately only he can know for sure, I'd absolutely welcome directions.... Provided they wasn't straight out of the room lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the flip side I’ve never had the strength to tell a woman that uses too much teeth that I don’t enjoy her BJs for that reason. And my reluctance to be that honest with someone that bites my cock should be understandable tbf. But yeah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t be offended, I’m always up for improving!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t be offended, I’m always up for improving! "

I’m up for anyone who wants to practice….,,

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Hell yeah i’d bite a chunk off!

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

Been told that...and I learned.. guess what.. different with the next lady...I learned from a gay lady... Now been with a lady for years and she's satisfied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly I wouldn’t. "

Fuck ! Now I am receiving messages from all the women I have met to tell me I was shit !

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

"I wouldn’t be offended, I’m always up for improving! "
agreed

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Oral... That's all about licking the woman's ears isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Jane typing)

Personally I much prefer to be aware if there's something in the way I'm doing it that the recipient is not liking and they point it out politely then that's fine.

Also I'd rather know if there's a particular technique that turns them on, then I'll try it.

Generally in life, things are more mutually beneficial if both are enjoying whatever the activity is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, see Granny’s ‘you can’t handle the truth’ thread for how well people actually take feedback.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

When I receive oral I am vocal in what I like and direct them and offer suggestions.

When I have given oral I was happy to receive feedback, either through their words or how they responded!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of us have differences in what we like/dislike, so in a way it not really about improving, it's more about adapting to who you're with.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Everyone likes something different and if they liked it differently to how I was doing it, I'd change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn’t bother me at all in fact I would prefer to be told as I understand communication is the key

And I understand that by what the person is telling me I am doing wrong and how and ware gets them off

Will make the sex better for them and me

Also if they see I can take gudns and criticism on bord without spitting the dummy and a wellness to learn the maybe incline to meet again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh no tell me how you like it and I will do that should be the response of every single person on here surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be offended at all, the reason I do it is because I get pleasure from seeing hers so if they need to tell me, feel free

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

Always be honest if you are not enjoying it let them know and I would expect the same mrs m

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How am I supposed to hear anything when she’s squeezing my ears with her thighs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the first times i tried...i was 17..my then boyfriend put on porn and said that is what I should be doing

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'd really like to say I'd gracefully acknowledge feedback but... it's really situational. If I'm pmting and someone said something I'd either cry silently, full bosom heaving or silently plot their death.

But other times, if it's well meant and I'm normal me, it kind of flips a switch for me. Deep down I'm quite competitive, even with myself. And a bit of a high achiever. So I'd think right, need to get this sorted. Buy a dildo to start working on my poor technique. You know, all that stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd really like to say I'd gracefully acknowledge feedback but... it's really situational. If I'm pmting and someone said something I'd either cry silently, full bosom heaving or silently plot their death.

Just grab the honey and you'll be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean, men aren't exactly hard to please are they?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

How my partner said it would have a lot of bearing on how I took the advice.

I mean, obviously I’d pay attention and change or stop what I was doing. I’m not an idiot.

But if it was phrased “You’re doing it wrong” I think I’d be a bit put off. That doesn’t sound like a person I’d be wanting to jump into bed with in the first place really.

There is no ‘wrong’, there’s just what works for each person/pairing. And if I’m not picking up what a girl wants from her reactions and body language, then a bit of “slower” or “over there, not there” or “use your fingers, pleeeeease” would be very welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mean, men aren't exactly hard to please are they? "

But please them, and they definitely go hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How my partner said it would have a lot of bearing on how I took the advice.

I mean, obviously I’d pay attention and change or stop what I was doing. I’m not an idiot.

But if it was phrased “You’re doing it wrong” I think I’d be a bit put off. That doesn’t sound like a person I’d be wanting to jump into bed with in the first place really.

Yes totally.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"There's a thread on here about oral,a good one I might say, my question is,either sex, how would you feel if someone said you weren't doing it right and "told/asked" you how to do it,seriously would you be offended, be truthful with your answers "

Wouldn't be offended at all , every days a school day as they say

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I wouldn’t be offended as such but it’s not really how I communicate sexually , kind of makes it very transactional and less intimate and organic so I’d figure we were just not sexually compatible.

It’s happened once or twice with dominant and over analyser types.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"But other times, if it's well meant and I'm normal me, it kind of flips a switch for me. Deep down I'm quite competitive, even with myself. And a bit of a high achiever. So I'd think right, need to get this sorted. Buy a dildo to start working on my poor technique. You know, all that stuff.

Just grab the honey and you'll be fine

Foolhardy!

I'm going to find a volunteer for that fantasy. They'd have to be comfortable with being filmed. And honey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But surely the reason you’re doing it is for their pleasure? So would it not make sense for them to be enjoying it? Nothing wrong with a little guidance …. Everyone loves to improve their skills and be better no?

And it doesn’t mean you’re all bad… just maybe not the way they like it?

Learn & progress?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *heHornyWandererMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Everyone is unique and can like things done differently, so wouldn’t be offended at all, if anything I’d request to be instructed on how exactly they like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Challenge accepted !

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By *heHornyWandererMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Challenge accepted ! "

I second that sentiment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But surely the reason you’re doing it is for their pleasure? ……..

….

And it doesn’t mean you’re all bad… just maybe not the way they like it?

Learn & progress? "

Not just for their pleasure. Even the thought of doing that for a woman I’m into gets my heart racing. Yes it is for them, so I do agree, letting someone know what you like should be easy to say to someone who’s into it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x"

I’ll have a go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x

I’ll have a go!

How can I refuse you Nora

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x

I’ll have a go!

How can I refuse you Nora

On my way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Challenge accepted ! "

You could be down there a while …

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

Only way you get better is to listen to others needs isn’t it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just grab the honey and you'll be fine

Foolhardy!

I'm going to find a volunteer for that fantasy. They'd have to be comfortable with being filmed. And honey.

I'm sure you'll find a plethora of willing men. And if not, just tie 'em down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x"

Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

I guess it depends how they went about it.... guidance, telling you what they really enjoy etc is great, helps you learn what they like and makes every experience between you better.... rude or mean criticism probably wouldn't be taken quite as well if im totally honest

V x

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I could take guidance quite happily if they did it in the right way

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x

Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue

Wouldn’t it be great if men did have a vibrating tongue though!

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By *rijj73Man
over a year ago

croydon

Tips and pointers always welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I enjoy giving and receiving oral, and always listen to what the guy I'm with says, usually they don't say alot, just lot's of moaning which is a turn on, but I'm always embarrassed to tell them what I want as year's ago I asked someone to do it a bit different, he didn't like to be "told", he thought he was doing it right, sadly that was the end of that meet

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Learning people's stuff in bed is... kinda the fun bit, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd happily take the advice, if I'm expecting please from a meet then why shouldn't they tell me how they like it ??

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Extremely offended.

I’d most probably get up, wipe my mouth on her curtains and be off on my heels and toes.

How dare she question my cunni prowess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x

Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue

I cum easily with toys, it’s quite intense, but I love the tongue

The teasing beforehand, the tongue flicks, switching things up, cheeky finger etc

Plus having someone down there who loves what they’re doing, hair for me to grab onto. Doesn’t compare to toys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Only way you get better is to listen to others needs isn’t it

See my last comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different, be accommodating, no need to be silly about things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Learning people's stuff in bed is... kinda the fun bit, isn't it?

He gets it

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Extremely offended.

I’d most probably get up, wipe my mouth on her curtains and be off on my heels and toes.

How dare she question my cunni prowess

The video.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Learning people's stuff in bed is... kinda the fun bit, isn't it?

He gets it

He certainly would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x"

Hugs and also ooo god mail box going to explode with people saying they can help out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I love sex,I enjoy oral but for me to cum it has to be my wand

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Extremely offended.

I’d most probably get up, wipe my mouth on her curtains and be off on my heels and toes.

How dare she question my cunni prowess

The video.

That’s more of a case of not having much say on how your doing it

Chin grind

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It would probably depend on how they'd prefer I do it instead

I might be really uncomfortable with their preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x

Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue

Wouldn’t it be great if men did have a vibrating tongue though!"

Depends on the circumstances. For oral, sure. For kissing, maybe not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x

Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue

I cum easily with toys, it’s quite intense, but I love the tongue

The teasing beforehand, the tongue flicks, switching things up, cheeky finger etc

Plus having someone down there who loves what they’re doing, hair for me to grab onto. Doesn’t compare to toys "

Well... *ahem* thank you for that rather descriptive explanation

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x

Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue

Wouldn’t it be great if men did have a vibrating tongue though!

Depends on the circumstances. For oral, sure. For kissing, maybe not

Ah yeah true. That would be annoying. I didn’t think that through did i.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I like feedback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x

Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue

Wouldn’t it be great if men did have a vibrating tongue though!

Depends on the circumstances. For oral, sure. For kissing, maybe not

Ah yeah true. That would be annoying. I didn’t think that through did i. "

It's alright, you can just turn it off and stick it back in the drawer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014

Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit

I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x

Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue

I cum easily with toys, it’s quite intense, but I love the tongue

The teasing beforehand, the tongue flicks, switching things up, cheeky finger etc

Plus having someone down there who loves what they’re doing, hair for me to grab onto. Doesn’t compare to toys

Well... *ahem* thank you for that rather descriptive explanation

You’re welcome

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By *pin21Man
over a year ago

Killarney

Not at all. Everyone is different. What works for some, might not work for others.

The thing I need stroked is not my ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like feedback."

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By *inkyrikMan
over a year ago

chorleywood

your way of giving oral doesnt allways work for everyone.

so it wouldnt bother me in the slightest if you told me to do it another way.

iud be more upset that i hadnt made you cum.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I think it’s all about how it’s put across than the telling.

I was put off blow jobs for many years because of the harsh way someone told me where I was going wrong for him years ago.

There’s a way and a manner to do things.

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By *rgasmicChemistryCouple
over a year ago

east coast

On our first ever meet I was getting sucked off I didn't want to just ram him in her mouth I didn't want to disrespect her but then she grab my ass and ramed him all the why in lol I don't mind if I get told lol I do love giving oral tho x J

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I'd take note and do it how they prefer it to be done right is only right if it's mutually enjoyable. If their way of how they want oral isn't how you like to do it then they are not the dick in your mouth or pussy for you...

Not that difficult not that personal.

I love oral but if he needs me to vomit to get himself off he can find another chic that likes that . I'm not her and have zero desire to become her for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always open to suggestion, guidance and a direction when getting to know someone (we’re all different after all)

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

It's how you put it across, guidence rather than tell off and shouting orders.

For me I just start at one ankle on one leg and down the other stopping for a few laps round the clit.

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By *arriedkev1Man
over a year ago

knowsley

When i was a young man late teens many moons ago i was insturcted how to give oral by a lovely lady in her 30s and so glad i took notice of the do's and dont's and have had no complains since, but if i was asked to do something a certain way that would not be a problem but a pleasure to help and fulfill if you get my meaning

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

I would hope it wouldn't be expressed negatively ie: "you weren't doing it right". But positive feedback is very welcome ie: 'do this' or even better physical feedback moving your body or my head to get to the right place.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Every person is different, what has worked before may not work then. In fact even the same person can change what works on a daily basis sometimes. If you don't communicate sex is crap.

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By *risky FoxesCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle Emlyn

I just keep switching up what I’m doing until I get a positive reaction. I can’t get any pleasure if they aren’t getting any. I’m all for slow and sensual in that department but I know some want hard and fast. I’m just learning as I go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the worse I do it... the quicker it's my turn

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I find the worse I do it... the quicker it's my turn "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When i was a young man late teens many moons ago i was insturcted how to give oral by a lovely lady in her 30s and so glad i took notice of the do's and dont's and have had no complains since, but if i was asked to do something a certain way that would not be a problem but a pleasure to help and fulfill if you get my meaning"

I truly don’t believe you can be ‘taught’ as each woman likes it differently!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I truly don’t believe you can be ‘taught’ as each woman likes it differently! "

Communication can be taught. She might just have clued him into being open to suggestion and reacting to what is working

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By *sernametaken1Man
over a year ago

All over

If anyone wants me to go down on them then they can give me feedback im happy to do it

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"I wouldn’t be offended, I’m always up for improving! "
same here...everyone is different and likes different things

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