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Are you an inviter or an invitee?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I find I get invited to the bigger stuff - weddings/birthdays/parties etc, but when it comes to more everyday things like brunch, dinner, get togethers and the like, I am usually the one initiating and trying to organise everything. Even when talking to guys I am more often than not the one to ask them out on dates or meets.

It's a bit shit, and while I love my friends and understand they all have their own busy lives and partners etc, it would be nice to be reached out to a bit more.

So tell me, are you an inviter or invitee? Are you happy with your position?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually invitee, occasional inviter.

I can deal with rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invitee never the inviter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think it can be that folk take on a role in relationships without intending to. So people just don't think about it, they just expect it to happen a certain way because it always has.

In my friend group we all pop up suggesting different things so not an issue.

But in my family I am typically the host of parties for the likes of halloween etc

Because I was the one who started out wanting them for my kids and noone has ever said, "hey I'll do it this year" even after they had kids themselves

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I'm more of an invitee. More inclined to ask friends etc.

That's not to say I smile when getting invited to something.

Sooooo TS, i need to invite you to a tea shop sometime

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm the inviter, but that comes from me choosing what I want to do rather than attending what others want me to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get invites anymore as my answer is usually no i dont want to come to your wedding bday kids party christening funeral presentation or whatever id rather work or stay home

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I find I get invited to the bigger stuff - weddings/birthdays/parties etc, but when it comes to more everyday things like brunch, dinner, get togethers and the like, I am usually the one initiating and trying to organise everything. Even when talking to guys I am more often than not the one to ask them out on dates or meets.

It's a bit shit, and while I love my friends and understand they all have their own busy lives and partners etc, it would be nice to be reached out to a bit more.

So tell me, are you an inviter or invitee? Are you happy with your position? "

I’ll have to try just inviting myself to other peoples weddings

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find I get invited to the bigger stuff - weddings/birthdays/parties etc, but when it comes to more everyday things like brunch, dinner, get togethers and the like, I am usually the one initiating and trying to organise everything. Even when talking to guys I am more often than not the one to ask them out on dates or meets.

It's a bit shit, and while I love my friends and understand they all have their own busy lives and partners etc, it would be nice to be reached out to a bit more.

So tell me, are you an inviter or invitee? Are you happy with your position?

I’ll have to try just inviting myself to other peoples weddings "

Try message-bombing women asking if they've got any weddings they need a plus one to. This is my current problem...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm the person who gets invited to things, but am usually content to make my own arrangements

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH

Neither. I tend to socialise with whoever I bump into or no one.

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