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"People do seem to be having children later these days. One of the things I find sad is children perhaps don’t get to enjoy their grandparents for as long and vice versa. My parents were both 20 when they had me so I had my grandparents for quite a long time. My 2 are also so very lucky to still have all 4 grandparents at their age. " I agree with this having that generational connection and support too if you are lucky is so precious. Also the energy levels of youth help when you have young ones to run around with. I wouldnt be able for it now | |||
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"For women the chance of conceiving naturally decreases to zero" This. Unlike men. Scotty from Star Trek (James Doohan) fathered a child just after his 80th birthday. He died 5 years later. Not really fair on the child but at least the mother was only 44. A | |||
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"People do seem to be having children later these days. One of the things I find sad is children perhaps don’t get to enjoy their grandparents for as long and vice versa. My parents were both 20 when they had me so I had my grandparents for quite a long time. My 2 are also so very lucky to still have all 4 grandparents at their age. I agree with this having that generational connection and support too if you are lucky is so precious. Also the energy levels of youth help when you have young ones to run around with. I wouldnt be able for it now" Definitely. I was 26 and 37 when I had mine. Much easier the first time! And the second has been more challenging autism/ADHD/fucked up maybe! . | |||
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"It's only too late from a biological stand point. In that from a certain age you physically can not. If these women want children at an older age that's up to them. I don't think I would because I don't think it's fair that children lose parents young. But that could happen via accident or illness anyway. Life can be cruel. It is no one's business bar the women doing the pushing at which age she wants children " Well.. Other than those who have to help and support and fund them when they have problems. But sure. | |||
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" Is it? I always thought it was worse when the mother was older. But it’s the same for both? " There was research reported in NYTimes June 2006 which found this | |||
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" Is it? I always thought it was worse when the mother was older. But it’s the same for both? There was research reported in NYTimes June 2006 which found this" Damn I had no idea. Then yeah I guess younger is probably best In terms of raising them too, I guess younger would be better. Although you could say that being older, your more established hopefully, can provide better. Could go either way | |||
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"People do seem to be having children later these days. One of the things I find sad is children perhaps don’t get to enjoy their grandparents for as long and vice versa. My parents were both 20 when they had me so I had my grandparents for quite a long time. My 2 are also so very lucky to still have all 4 grandparents at their age. I agree with this having that generational connection and support too if you are lucky is so precious. Also the energy levels of youth help when you have young ones to run around with. I wouldnt be able for it now Definitely. I was 26 and 37 when I had mine. Much easier the first time! And the second has been more challenging autism/ADHD/fucked up maybe! . " I had my "fucked up" baby at 26, it's challenging at any age. Although being a "fucked up" mother probably played a part. | |||
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"It's only too late from a biological stand point. In that from a certain age you physically can not. If these women want children at an older age that's up to them. I don't think I would because I don't think it's fair that children lose parents young. But that could happen via accident or illness anyway. Life can be cruel. It is no one's business bar the women doing the pushing at which age she wants children " So you think it's fair to lose parents at older ages? | |||
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" So you think it's fair to lose parents at older ages?" Everyone loses their parents at some point in life unless they die before their parents | |||
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" So you think it's fair to lose parents at older ages? Everyone loses their parents at some point in life unless they die before their parents" Ya but the older you are obviously the higher the chance. If I decoded I wanted to have a kid at 80 that would be selfish and inconsiderate imo | |||
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" So you think it's fair to lose parents at older ages? Everyone loses their parents at some point in life unless they die before their parents" My Dad was 47 when I was born. He's 83 now and it's hard work trying to care for him while I also have a young child (5). However, I don't know if it'd be any easier 20yrs down the line. | |||
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"It's only too late from a biological stand point. In that from a certain age you physically can not. If these women want children at an older age that's up to them. I don't think I would because I don't think it's fair that children lose parents young. But that could happen via accident or illness anyway. Life can be cruel. It is no one's business bar the women doing the pushing at which age she wants children " I don’t agree with that last bit at all. There was much discussion about whether to have a second child with such a big age gap. I still think I wanted another one more than he did. And he’s older than me. The decision was a joint one but I still feel slight guilt at how both our lives have taken such a big turn because of her issues and I do believe it played a big part in affecting our marriage. So it there is a man involved in it all it is very much his business too! | |||
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"I'm 46, I have 3 of my own children and 2 step children. I love them all dearly but I have no desire or energy to have any more. I'd dealt like grandkids though, you can give those ones back! MrWho." **Dearly** Well done autocarrot! | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything." I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. " My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. | |||
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"Not getting into the biology but I’m very happy I’ve had my daughter relatively young so when my pals are doing school runs still I’ll be living my best life. " It’s great, my sons are adults now and I’m still relatively young | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything." My mother also got me when she was at the same age there at 20 and I am happy for that as I can enjoy spending time with her for longer and also having my grandparents for a longer time too | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. " Is that an age thing or just being a good parent though? I’d like to think my kids could tell me anything whether I’m 20 or 60 when I have them I’m more worried I can’t take them hiking in my 60s | |||
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".....I can’t help how I was raised. If you wanna focus on words used instead of intent then I can only accept that" • But it never hurts to at least try, and perhaps be mindful of your rhetoric. I'll accept that you can't change, but I'd wager it takes a miniscule of effort to be 'ever so' gentlemanly without breaking into sweat. And this isn't me 'white knighting'....I've also been down the IVF/IUI route. | |||
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"Not getting into the biology but I’m very happy I’ve had my daughter relatively young so when my pals are doing school runs still I’ll be living my best life. It’s great, my sons are adults now and I’m still relatively young " That’s what I can’t wait for! Not having to find a sitter so I can go out when I’m in my late 30s/ 40s | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything.My mother also got me when she was at the same age there at 20 and I am happy for that as I can enjoy spending time with her for longer and also having my grandparents for a longer time too " This also. My mum had me in her early 20s and her mum had her relatively young too and I’ve been fortunate to enjoy good relationships with my great grandmother and my daughter will too. My daughter has even met her great great grandmother which I love | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. Is that an age thing or just being a good parent though? I’d like to think my kids could tell me anything whether I’m 20 or 60 when I have them I’m more worried I can’t take them hiking in my 60s " I’d say it’s a bit of both! Their friends have great parents too but they hide so much stuff from them. You can of course still have closeness as an older parent but I don’t doubt my age has helped them feel comfortable telling me stuff that most kids probably wouldn’t share with their parents. | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. " My mam and dad were 18 and 20 when they had me and I not close to either of them. In fact their young age was a compounding factor. So it doesn't always work that way in my experience. I actually used to ask my friends mum and dad for advice. And her dad was the same age as my granddad and her eldest brother was in school with my dad. I think it's an open personality, that means kids are able to talk to adults. | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. Is that an age thing or just being a good parent though? I’d like to think my kids could tell me anything whether I’m 20 or 60 when I have them I’m more worried I can’t take them hiking in my 60s " Me and my boys go hiking with my 68 year old uncle | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything.My mother also got me when she was at the same age there at 20 and I am happy for that as I can enjoy spending time with her for longer and also having my grandparents for a longer time too This also. My mum had me in her early 20s and her mum had her relatively young too and I’ve been fortunate to enjoy good relationships with my great grandmother and my daughter will too. My daughter has even met her great great grandmother which I love " That is good and yes, as you can spend alot more time with them and also meet great grandmother as well | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. " My mum and her mum are practically joint at the bloody hip and there’s a small age gap between them. My Nan has a son the same age as me and they’re not nearly as close. I definitely think for some, being closer in age helps. My gf and her mum are close I think for that reason too. But for some people of course, they hate it. | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. My mum and her mum are practically joint at the bloody hip and there’s a small age gap between them. My Nan has a son the same age as me and they’re not nearly as close. I definitely think for some, being closer in age helps. My gf and her mum are close I think for that reason too. But for some people of course, they hate it. " | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. Is that an age thing or just being a good parent though? I’d like to think my kids could tell me anything whether I’m 20 or 60 when I have them I’m more worried I can’t take them hiking in my 60s Me and my boys go hiking with my 68 year old uncle " Your uncles a beast then. Good on him, that’s goals | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. Is that an age thing or just being a good parent though? I’d like to think my kids could tell me anything whether I’m 20 or 60 when I have them I’m more worried I can’t take them hiking in my 60s I’d say it’s a bit of both! Their friends have great parents too but they hide so much stuff from them. You can of course still have closeness as an older parent but I don’t doubt my age has helped them feel comfortable telling me stuff that most kids probably wouldn’t share with their parents." I think it has nothing to do with your age as a parent, as to how open or close your children are with you. I had mine in my 30's and we have the closest relationship and they literally tell me everything. | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. Is that an age thing or just being a good parent though? I’d like to think my kids could tell me anything whether I’m 20 or 60 when I have them I’m more worried I can’t take them hiking in my 60s Me and my boys go hiking with my 68 year old uncle Your uncles a beast then. Good on him, that’s goals " Farmer genes, we don't stop until you burry us. He hikes, plays 6 a side and has an allotment. He is definitely what I aspire to be like at his age | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. Is that an age thing or just being a good parent though? I’d like to think my kids could tell me anything whether I’m 20 or 60 when I have them I’m more worried I can’t take them hiking in my 60s Me and my boys go hiking with my 68 year old uncle Your uncles a beast then. Good on him, that’s goals Farmer genes, we don't stop until you burry us. He hikes, plays 6 a side and has an allotment. He is definitely what I aspire to be like at his age " Beast. Here’s to hoping Santa brings me farmers genes this Christmas. Sounds like a great uncle | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. My mam and dad were 18 and 20 when they had me and I not close to either of them. In fact their young age was a compounding factor. So it doesn't always work that way in my experience. I actually used to ask my friends mum and dad for advice. And her dad was the same age as my granddad and her eldest brother was in school with my dad. I think it's an open personality, that means kids are able to talk to adults. " Agreed and the kids personality plays a part too. | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. Is that an age thing or just being a good parent though? I’d like to think my kids could tell me anything whether I’m 20 or 60 when I have them I’m more worried I can’t take them hiking in my 60s I’d say it’s a bit of both! Their friends have great parents too but they hide so much stuff from them. You can of course still have closeness as an older parent but I don’t doubt my age has helped them feel comfortable telling me stuff that most kids probably wouldn’t share with their parents. I think it has nothing to do with your age as a parent, as to how open or close your children are with you. I had mine in my 30's and we have the closest relationship and they literally tell me everything." Like I’ve said, my kids have explicitly told me it’s because of my age. So I’m not going to second guess what they’ve actually told me! | |||
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"I’m not gonna change the way I speak if I feel my intentions are good, I can’t help how I was raised. If you wanna focus on words used instead of intent then I can only accept that " No you're right. You can't change how you were raised. But any human has the capability to learn, grow and adapt. Blaming your upbringing is a poor excuse to hold onto offensive language and attitudes. In a text based format the words used show your intent. And that intent doesn't show anything positive or 'good' surrounding your attitude towards disability | |||
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"Yes, age is a factor. But as to whether someone is too is not for other people to judge. The older the woman the more at risk of complications or birth defects. But it's a personal choice, and no doubt women will get the medical care, tests they need whatever their age. " It is not just about complications or birth defects; the main problem is energy. Having a child does not end with the birth but instead starts there. Bringing up a child is an exhausting business, if the parents are too young they can have problems and if the parents are too old they can have problems. | |||
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"I had both of mine young at 20 and 22. Zero regrets. My relationship with my sons is super close in part thanks to my youth. My sons friends are actually envious of our closeness and the fact they can tell me anything. I don't think closeness of parent and child is dependent on age though. I've got friends whose parents had them very young and they are now estranged and have Friends whose parents were older and they are very close. My sons have told me that they feel free to tell me anything because of my age so I’m basing my opinion on that. There’s not such a large gap generationally so they come to me for advice on everything from girls to problem in their friendships. Is that an age thing or just being a good parent though? I’d like to think my kids could tell me anything whether I’m 20 or 60 when I have them I’m more worried I can’t take them hiking in my 60s Me and my boys go hiking with my 68 year old uncle Your uncles a beast then. Good on him, that’s goals Farmer genes, we don't stop until you burry us. He hikes, plays 6 a side and has an allotment. He is definitely what I aspire to be like at his age Beast. Here’s to hoping Santa brings me farmers genes this Christmas. Sounds like a great uncle " He's epic as is my other uncle whose a bit younger. You've made me think, they've never hit a gym, never ever had a six pack. They've always been stocky and fit and they're hitting it out the park in their 60's. Maybe I should inspire to be more like them than the typical female body beautiful. | |||
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"Yes, age is a factor. But as to whether someone is too is not for other people to judge. The older the woman the more at risk of complications or birth defects. But it's a personal choice, and no doubt women will get the medical care, tests they need whatever their age. It is not just about complications or birth defects; the main problem is energy. Having a child does not end with the birth but instead starts there. Bringing up a child is an exhausting business, if the parents are too young they can have problems and if the parents are too old they can have problems. " I don't believe it's just an age thing. It's yout attitude and zest for life. I have 3 children and 4 grandchildren so know it's an exhausting business and a life time commitment but well worth it. | |||
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"Most people we know of our age still have kids at primary school while ours are already at university. When I'm reminded of how much work young kids are I'm happy we had ours relatively young. I'm also glad I've been able to keep up with them in terms of playing sport etc... well at least up until this stage " I thought that when I had my children at a young age. Now I'm babysitting great-grandchildren and it's crippling me. I love it though | |||
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"Most people we know of our age still have kids at primary school while ours are already at university. When I'm reminded of how much work young kids are I'm happy we had ours relatively young. I'm also glad I've been able to keep up with them in terms of playing sport etc... well at least up until this stage I thought that when I had my children at a young age. Now I'm babysitting great-grandchildren and it's crippling me. I love it though " I know it's only likely to be a short reprieve Although at the mo they're both adamant they won't be having kids... Pretty sure I said the same thing | |||
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"Anyone who judges fitness to be a parent on the ability to run after them or do sports or whatever would presumably judge me to be unfit, but we manage." Surprised you'd say that given I'm sure I've seen regular comments about how active you are and the sports you do. Perhaps I'm thinking of somebody else though? | |||
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"When our son was in primary school and I was around 43/44 one of his teachers asked if I was 'nan' " I had the opposite. For months my grandson's teacher thought I was his mum until one day I said I'll tell his mum. She said oh I thought you were his mum, and was shocked when I said no, I'm his nan. Even funnier was a woman on the Uberboat asking me how old my twins were. They're 1, and my great-grandchildren. | |||
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"When our son was in primary school and I was around 43/44 one of his teachers asked if I was 'nan' I had the opposite. For months my grandson's teacher thought I was his mum until one day I said I'll tell his mum. She said oh I thought you were his mum, and was shocked when I said no, I'm his nan. Even funnier was a woman on the Uberboat asking me how old my twins were. They're 1, and my great-grandchildren. " Picture in the attic? | |||
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"Anyone who judges fitness to be a parent on the ability to run after them or do sports or whatever would presumably judge me to be unfit, but we manage. Surprised you'd say that given I'm sure I've seen regular comments about how active you are and the sports you do. Perhaps I'm thinking of somebody else though?" I'm active in wheelchair sports, but I can't get around my own house because it's completely inaccessible. At home, I cannot move around with my child. I struggle to get up and down stairs. I am extremely restricted in what I can do and always have been. It's not easy to keep up with a toddler in a wheelchair. You can't hold hands with them or hold child reins. I strapped her on my knee in the chair but she's now too tall for this and it makes the chair very difficult to manoeuvre. With the pavements etc, it makes it really difficult to get around with a child in tow or on my knee. It's much easier to get around and be active on my own, which is generally what I'm referring to on the forum. My child doesn't accompany me to Parkrun or wheelchair basketball training or the gym, all of which I do. | |||
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"When our son was in primary school and I was around 43/44 one of his teachers asked if I was 'nan' " Did she do the old... "congratulations.. When are you due?" faux pas too? | |||
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"No. I am not planning to have children. I was watching an interesting program about it, where they were interviewing few women in their mid 40s and asked them are you going to to have children, yes they answered, but not just now, then the expert replied with, are you not worried that it might be too late if you wait for longer? They said no. I would say that I agree with the expert that it is best to have children when you are younger, what do you think about it, does the chance increase or decrease with age? " Well biologically he’s right. After 37 I think it is that your fertility reduces drastically if you’re a woman. And to be honest I feel like my body is falling apart already at my age of 40, I couldn’t imagine having the energy to run around after a child now. Although I know many women still do. I had mine in my twenties. | |||
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"When our son was in primary school and I was around 43/44 one of his teachers asked if I was 'nan' Did she do the old... "congratulations.. When are you due?" faux pas too? " No I was saved that indignity by not looking pregnant | |||
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"I had my first child at 17 and last at 42 and 4 inbetween! I had more patience when older and more stamina 2! As u get older I've found u need less sleep so yes would recommend having a family later! Only downside for me all 3 of my grandchildren are same age more or less as my youngest 3! So didn't enjoy them as much as if there were just grandchildren! That said I looked after and saw them almost everyday whilst they were growing up! I'm looking forward to having 2 great grandsons in oct/Nov! Will b amazing! I'm going with one of granddaughters tomoz to b at her 4d scan! So excited x" That sounds good to me and that is many children as well x | |||
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" I would say that I agree with the expert that it is best to have children when you are younger....." I'd disagree as its actually best not to have children- then you get nicer holidays, a nice tidy house, peace and quiet, spare cash and a lie in at a weekend | |||
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" I would say that I agree with the expert that it is best to have children when you are younger..... I'd disagree as its actually best not to have children- then you get nicer holidays, a nice tidy house, peace and quiet, spare cash and a lie in at a weekend " Here is the recipe for the best of the best: Get married, make few kids, grow them a bit, divorce and get 50/50 parental responsibilities. You’ll be able to enjoy both of the world and won’t be bored with any. | |||
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"So is the general idea to have kids and get them off hand asap so you can get on with the important stuff? damn I get it wrong every time " No, no, not get them off. Enjoy yourself with kids halftime and rest of the time enjoy yourself on your own (sleep, eat, fuck, repeat). (That was sarcastic post. In my case the situation was a side effect of the divorce that turned to be a pleasant surprise) | |||
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"So is the general idea to have kids and get them off hand asap so you can get on with the important stuff? damn I get it wrong every time No, no, not get them off. Enjoy yourself with kids halftime and rest of the time enjoy yourself on your own (sleep, eat, fuck, repeat). (That was sarcastic post. In my case the situation was a side effect of the divorce that turned to be a pleasant surprise) " Mine was a sarcastic post too . Although I must say I wouldn't want to go back to the 24/7/365 responsibility for small humans | |||
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"Bernie Ecclestone had a son aged 89 so never too late" In fairness his part in the transaction is fairly limited. | |||
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"When my dad was in his late eighties he needed prostate surgery. The surgeon asked him if he wanted to have any more children because once he'd had the surgery it would no longer be possible. There was a man of a similar age in the clinic with him who was delaying the operation until his wife conceived. " Yet when women in late 30s say they definitely do NOT want more children, they are denied gynaecological surgery, "just in case" | |||
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"Lasy I work with his 57, her husband is older and just retired, they have an 11 year old. She is permanently knackered and said she wished she had a child 15 years earlier. " Yeah I conceived at 46. I was devastated to be in that situation, aside from any other consideration I just didn't want to go through what I knew the next 18 years held and be 56 with a ten year old and 64 with an 18 year old. | |||
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"There was a woman in India 70 and her husband 75. Personally I think that is too old " I think that's ridiculous and incredibly selfish. | |||
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"There was a woman in India 70 and her husband 75. Personally I think that is too old I think that's ridiculous and incredibly selfish. " Tend to agree... And whilst everyone's circumstances are different I take some convincing that the life of the child and others affected are considered... Beyond... I want I want. | |||
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