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"Women don’t reply to me cos I’ve got a face like a dogs arse "Dogs aren't that bad! | |||
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"Sorry about this OP. You did the right thing by blocking. " It’s ok. My block list has grown substantially today a mix of all colours. Always does when new pics go up. But no thanks should have ended the whole thing. | |||
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"I can count on the fingers of a boxing glove the women I know don’t consider myself a type they would search for in here, but away from that I can tell you, anyone I have messaged for a chat was because I met every preface in their cards. Ignored deleted. So don’t preach that the only reason I get ignored is because someone else ranted at them. x" Not preaching just stating that the reason we don’t reply when not interested (even if you do hit what you think is the mark) Is because we get a lot of challenges as to why we said no. And no is always supposed to mean no is it not! | |||
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"I can count on the fingers of a boxing glove the women I know don’t consider myself a type they would search for in here, but away from that I can tell you, anyone I have messaged for a chat was because I met every preface in their cards. Ignored deleted. So don’t preach that the only reason I get ignored is because someone else ranted at them. x Not preaching just stating that the reason we don’t reply when not interested (even if you do hit what you think is the mark) Is because we get a lot of challenges as to why we said no. And no is always supposed to mean no is it not! " I don’t do this. Others in here don’t react the way some people do. But we have to listen to it as of it’s directed at us. …… ……. Along with the sticky advice at the top of this site where it advises a delete ignore is s polite no, maybe they should advise, some abuse may happen, it’s not right but it’s the internet. Block and move on. Because being ignored doesn’t feel right either, but we ask those that get rejected to deal with that too. | |||
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"Sorry about this OP. You did the right thing by blocking. It’s ok. My block list has grown substantially today a mix of all colours. Always does when new pics go up. But no thanks should have ended the whole thing. " At least your blocklist doesn’t discriminate I guess  | |||
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"Sorry about this OP. You did the right thing by blocking. It’s ok. My block list has grown substantially today a mix of all colours. Always does when new pics go up. But no thanks should have ended the whole thing. At least your blocklist doesn’t discriminate I guess "It sure doesn’t. I only posted this because I see so many that say why am I not getting replies. | |||
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"Normally I delete without response due to comebacks when you say no. Today I decided to see if there was any change in the no thanks reply I’d send if not interested. Bear in mind I’m in south west England, message from Glasgow based person (I know people travel for work), message is hello sexy I want to meet up with you. I reply no thanks. Next message, why? Is it because I am black? Normally questioning a no thanks wouldn’t garner any further reply but this time I did, just said no means no and should be accepted (colour wasn’t the reason either). Today because I have posted some new pics I have had a lot of messages that clearly demonstrated the whole reason why we don’t reply to a lot of messages with a no thanks. Plenty of messages offering to fill all my holes, well you haven’t read my profile then. Plenty telling me I have big tits, I live with them I know!! So guys when wondering why all messages don’t get replies have a look at the profile of the person you’ve messaged, maybe you’ve offered something they really don’t like or want. Maybe sending 15-20 messages over a day when they haven’t yet read your first one is a turn off. Maybe they are inundated and haven’t had time to look at those that interested then. But when you get a no thanks please just accept it. On this occasion the recipient sent yet a further response (polite but still no need) and has now been blocked due to this." Hi Sweet, if the lady says no thanks I always accept it. But, I also always send a thank you for having the courtesy to reply and I wish you well message I dont care if I get blocked because the lady has already said no thanks. What I do care about is my being polite and for me personally not saying thank you for answering me would be extremely rude. | |||
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"I find it easier to block single guys from messaging me. If they wink, fab a pic, I know they're interested, that gives me the freedom to decide if I wish to contact them. There's nothing worse than your polite no thanks generating a chain of correspondence where they try to convert the no into a yes. " #simples   | |||
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"I find it easier to block single guys from messaging me. If they wink, fab a pic, I know they're interested, that gives me the freedom to decide if I wish to contact them. There's nothing worse than your polite no thanks generating a chain of correspondence where they try to convert the no into a yes. " They won’t be able to wink as that’s blocked too if filter on  | |||
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"Fab messages needs a 'friends messages' field so you don't miss those you regularly chat to. Not that it would do me any good, but hey............." Agreed on the friend message field.  | |||
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"Normally I delete without response due to comebacks when you say no. Today I decided to see if there was any change in the no thanks reply I’d send if not interested. Bear in mind I’m in south west England, message from Glasgow based person (I know people travel for work), message is hello sexy I want to meet up with you. I reply no thanks. Next message, why? Is it because I am black? Normally questioning a no thanks wouldn’t garner any further reply but this time I did, just said no means no and should be accepted (colour wasn’t the reason either). Today because I have posted some new pics I have had a lot of messages that clearly demonstrated the whole reason why we don’t reply to a lot of messages with a no thanks. Plenty of messages offering to fill all my holes, well you haven’t read my profile then. Plenty telling me I have big tits, I live with them I know!! So guys when wondering why all messages don’t get replies have a look at the profile of the person you’ve messaged, maybe you’ve offered something they really don’t like or want. Maybe sending 15-20 messages over a day when they haven’t yet read your first one is a turn off. Maybe they are inundated and haven’t had time to look at those that interested then. But when you get a no thanks please just accept it. On this occasion the recipient sent yet a further response (polite but still no need) and has now been blocked due to this. Hi Sweet, if the lady says no thanks I always accept it. But, I also always send a thank you for having the courtesy to reply and I wish you well message I dont care if I get blocked because the lady has already said no thanks. What I do care about is my being polite and for me personally not saying thank you for answering me would be extremely rude. " Same here fella | |||
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"When you say no they always try to talk you round. These are probably the same who say 'they could at least respond with a no.'" This is why we just don't reply unless we are interested or are engaging in social chat. Too many bad responses when we've politely said no thank you. Including disparaging comments about Mr KC being married to a disabled "bird"  | |||
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"I actually understand what the ladies mean. I get ignored sometimes, I take deleted messages as polite no. But I feel For the women chocka block inboxes, with more incoming. I think if it was vice versa the result would be the same. One person I spoke to a women who had 1500 messages, cmon who going through 1500 messages and replying. Got to take into consideration the odds. " She needs to use filters. Pure and simple | |||
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"I actually understand what the ladies mean. I get ignored sometimes, I take deleted messages as polite no. But I feel For the women chocka block inboxes, with more incoming. I think if it was vice versa the result would be the same. One person I spoke to a women who had 1500 messages, cmon who going through 1500 messages and replying. Got to take into consideration the odds. She needs to use filters. Pure and simple " Probably ahs. But another I know receives 700+ with filters. I know another over four hundred. My thing regardless even 100 that's a lot, its not a job and if you received four plus for filtered messages you replying too all of them? | |||
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"I actually understand what the ladies mean. I get ignored sometimes, I take deleted messages as polite no. But I feel For the women chocka block inboxes, with more incoming. I think if it was vice versa the result would be the same. One person I spoke to a women who had 1500 messages, cmon who going through 1500 messages and replying. Got to take into consideration the odds. She needs to use filters. Pure and simple " I’ve got filters doesn’t stop dickheads unfortunately We aren’t stupid you know. Dickheads still exist within my target group FFS | |||
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"I actually understand what the ladies mean. I get ignored sometimes, I take deleted messages as polite no. But I feel For the women chocka block inboxes, with more incoming. I think if it was vice versa the result would be the same. One person I spoke to a women who had 1500 messages, cmon who going through 1500 messages and replying. Got to take into consideration the odds. She needs to use filters. Pure and simple Probably ahs. But another I know receives 700+ with filters. I know another over four hundred. My thing regardless even 100 that's a lot, its not a job and if you received four plus for filtered messages you replying too all of them? " No of course not. That would be ridiculous. There are women in here who say they dont receive a fraction of those numbers, because of filters. So tighten the filters | |||
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"Filters are not the answer to men being dickheads. Men not being dickheads is the answer to that." I know that. I was just replying to the guy who was on about the volume of messages | |||
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" She needs to use filters. Pure and simple " If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. | |||
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And that I should give him a chance because he's not very photogenic
Sometimes replying is just not worth it
Ive also had similar responses from couples where I've replied and then been told by one of them they can ditch their partner is they're the one I have a problem with  | |||
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" She needs to use filters. Pure and simple If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. " Once again, i was only replying to the guy who was on about his friend getting 1500 messages. Not the content of those 1500 | |||
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"I actually understand what the ladies mean. I get ignored sometimes, I take deleted messages as polite no. But I feel For the women chocka block inboxes, with more incoming. I think if it was vice versa the result would be the same. One person I spoke to a women who had 1500 messages, cmon who going through 1500 messages and replying. Got to take into consideration the odds. She needs to use filters. Pure and simple Probably ahs. But another I know receives 700+ with filters. I know another over four hundred. My thing regardless even 100 that's a lot, its not a job and if you received four plus for filtered messages you replying too all of them? No of course not. That would be ridiculous. There are women in here who say they dont receive a fraction of those numbers, because of filters. So tighten the filters" Women don’t receive equal numbers though filters or not! Some women are just more popular on here than others and the number of messages will reflect that! | |||
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"Sorry about this OP. You did the right thing by blocking. It’s ok. My block list has grown substantially today a mix of all colours. Always does when new pics go up. But no thanks should have ended the whole thing. " Currently, No one can message me unless I message first. So it's me who has to be proactive and carry out my own vetting process. | |||
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"I actually understand what the ladies mean. I get ignored sometimes, I take deleted messages as polite no. But I feel For the women chocka block inboxes, with more incoming. I think if it was vice versa the result would be the same. One person I spoke to a women who had 1500 messages, cmon who going through 1500 messages and replying. Got to take into consideration the odds. She needs to use filters. Pure and simple " Honestly filters on here are amazing I get a fraction of the messages I used to without them which makes my inbox so much easier to manage | |||
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" She needs to use filters. Pure and simple If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. Once again, i was only replying to the guy who was on about his friend getting 1500 messages. Not the content of those 1500" But why is it the responsibility of the person receiving the messages? Why do people feel the need to barge dick first into someone's inbox with an inappropriate message in the first place? | |||
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" She needs to use filters. Pure and simple If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. Once again, i was only replying to the guy who was on about his friend getting 1500 messages. Not the content of those 1500 But why is it the responsibility of the person receiving the messages? Why do people feel the need to barge dick first into someone's inbox with an inappropriate message in the first place?" That's not what he was refering to? | |||
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" If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. " It’s just whataboutery and always happens on these threads. Any behaviour that is males being dicks in messages gets “use filters” or “close your inbox” as answers. Basically to many guys on here if you leave a message box open then it’s fair game for guys to be dickheads. It’s all part of the wider mindset as the “I know women should be able to walk late at night, but…” or the “I know women should be able to wear what they like, but…” bollocks that people come out with. There’s always a but. And always something the woman should do different. Not the guys | |||
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" She needs to use filters. Pure and simple If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. Once again, i was only replying to the guy who was on about his friend getting 1500 messages. Not the content of those 1500 But why is it the responsibility of the person receiving the messages? Why do people feel the need to barge dick first into someone's inbox with an inappropriate message in the first place?" Well this is a site where people contact other people, thats the whole point of it. The inevitable consequence of this is the innappropriate ones which will be part of this. Yes in an ideal world that wouldnt happen, but thats never going to be the case. Ever. So be proactive and take control back yourself | |||
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" If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. It’s just whataboutery and always happens on these threads. Any behaviour that is males being dicks in messages gets “use filters” or “close your inbox” as answers. Basically to many guys on here if you leave a message box open then it’s fair game for guys to be dickheads. It’s all part of the wider mindset as the “I know women should be able to walk late at night, but…” or the “I know women should be able to wear what they like, but…” bollocks that people come out with. There’s always a but. And always something the woman should do different. Not the guys" We all know the guys in question should behave differently. But they wont. Thats never going to change. Never | |||
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" If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. It’s just whataboutery and always happens on these threads. Any behaviour that is males being dicks in messages gets “use filters” or “close your inbox” as answers. Basically to many guys on here if you leave a message box open then it’s fair game for guys to be dickheads. It’s all part of the wider mindset as the “I know women should be able to walk late at night, but…” or the “I know women should be able to wear what they like, but…” bollocks that people come out with. There’s always a but. And always something the woman should do different. Not the guys We all know the guys in question should behave differently. But they wont. Thats never going to change. Never" And they never need to when threads about their behaviour always go with blokes putting the emphasis on women to make things different… It’s part of a much wider thing. Men could have much more influence on other men with regard to their behaviour toward women. Much easier to just make it the women’s job though. | |||
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" So be proactive and take control back yourself " That's why I call out inappropriate behaviour every single time. In my inbox, on social media, and in person. How much of an earful someone gets depends very much on my mood. | |||
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" If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. It’s just whataboutery and always happens on these threads. Any behaviour that is males being dicks in messages gets “use filters” or “close your inbox” as answers. Basically to many guys on here if you leave a message box open then it’s fair game for guys to be dickheads. It’s all part of the wider mindset as the “I know women should be able to walk late at night, but…” or the “I know women should be able to wear what they like, but…” bollocks that people come out with. There’s always a but. And always something the woman should do different. Not the guys We all know the guys in question should behave differently. But they wont. Thats never going to change. Never And they never need to when threads about their behaviour always go with blokes putting the emphasis on women to make things different… It’s part of a much wider thing. Men could have much more influence on other men with regard to their behaviour toward women. Much easier to just make it the women’s job though." Youre only being asked to use your filters, thats all. Its hardly a job. It will at least cut down on the shit you receive. And the reason youre being asked to do this is because its much easier for one person to affect it herself than try to appeal to hundreds of others to do it. But hey, that's just my 2 cents. | |||
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" Youre only being asked to use your filters, thats all. Its hardly a job. It will at least cut down on the shit you receive. And the reason youre being asked to do this is because its much easier for one person to affect it herself than try to appeal to hundreds of others to do it. But hey, that's just my 2 cents. " You’ve made your 2 cents very clear on this thread Nicely patronising tone to that one as well
Not being a dickhead is “hardly a job” but haven’t spotted you asking any guys to do that, which makes my point perfectly.
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" If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. It’s just whataboutery and always happens on these threads. Any behaviour that is males being dicks in messages gets “use filters” or “close your inbox” as answers. Basically to many guys on here if you leave a message box open then it’s fair game for guys to be dickheads. It’s all part of the wider mindset as the “I know women should be able to walk late at night, but…” or the “I know women should be able to wear what they like, but…” bollocks that people come out with. There’s always a but. And always something the woman should do different. Not the guys We all know the guys in question should behave differently. But they wont. Thats never going to change. Never And they never need to when threads about their behaviour always go with blokes putting the emphasis on women to make things different… It’s part of a much wider thing. Men could have much more influence on other men with regard to their behaviour toward women. Much easier to just make it the women’s job though. Youre only being asked to use your filters, thats all. Its hardly a job. It will at least cut down on the shit you receive. And the reason youre being asked to do this is because its much easier for one person to affect it herself than try to appeal to hundreds of others to do it. But hey, that's just my 2 cents. " I totally understand about the filters but they aren't comprehensive enough to be useful. Unfortunately the 'boys will be boys' attitude, and the 'this is your problem' sentiment isn't a solution. A solution would be guys helping us ladies by calling out this behaviour and telling other guys WHY they're being inappropriate. It's hardly a job and will cut down on the shit we recieve. It's easier for many single people to affect this by appealing to others to do it. | |||
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" Youre only being asked to use your filters, thats all. Its hardly a job. It will at least cut down on the shit you receive. And the reason youre being asked to do this is because its much easier for one person to affect it herself than try to appeal to hundreds of others to do it. But hey, that's just my 2 cents. You’ve made your 2 cents very clear on this thread Nicely patronising tone to that one as well
Not being a dickhead is “hardly a job” but haven’t spotted you asking any guys to do that, which makes my point perfectly.
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" Well i dont know any guys who did it so how can i call them out? What would be the point in me calling it out in general? The guys doing it, in their anonymity, would just sit back and laugh " So if you can’t help then why bother commenting at all? Because none of us are stupid - women know how filters work, they’re not the magic cure you think they are. Though your first post on the thread says it all really - “If theres anything more boring than men moaning about getting no replies, its women moaning about getting repeated messages after a no” | |||
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" Well i dont know any guys who did it so how can i call them out? What would be the point in me calling it out in general? The guys doing it, in their anonymity, would just sit back and laugh So if you can’t help then why bother commenting at all? Because none of us are stupid - women know how filters work, they’re not the magic cure you think they are. Though your first post on the thread says it all really - “If theres anything more boring than men moaning about getting no replies, its women moaning about getting repeated messages after a no”" Well what do you want me to say? It is boring. Of course it is. Just like when we bemoan men for complaining about getting no replies. Both are boring. Anyway, ive given my thoughts so goodnight all | |||
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" Because none of us are stupid - women know how filters work, they’re not the magic cure you think they are. " THIS!!! | |||
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" Well what do you want me to say? It is boring. Of course it is. Just like when we bemoan men for complaining about getting no replies. Both are boring. Anyway, ive given my thoughts so goodnight all" How about saying nothing? You don’t have to have a say. You could always scroll on by. Just a thought. | |||
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" Er, because many people have explained why it's helpful, and why it would make us feel safer to know we are supported. They may sit back and laugh, but someone else might take notice and feel comfortable calling out that behaviour in future or modifying their own, but they may not laugh when others start call them out too. They may learn something, especially if it's a guy doing it. Because clearly, you seem to want to disregard everything the ladies have said.... THIS IS THE PROBLEM. " | |||
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" Well what do you want me to say? It is boring. Of course it is. Just like when we bemoan men for complaining about getting no replies. Both are boring. Anyway, ive given my thoughts so goodnight all How about saying nothing? You don’t have to have a say. You could always scroll on by. Just a thought." | |||
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"Normally I delete without response due to comebacks when you say no. Today I decided to see if there was any change in the no thanks reply I’d send if not interested. Bear in mind I’m in south west England, message from Glasgow based person (I know people travel for work), message is hello sexy I want to meet up with you. I reply no thanks. Next message, why? Is it because I am black? Normally questioning a no thanks wouldn’t garner any further reply but this time I did, just said no means no and should be accepted (colour wasn’t the reason either). Today because I have posted some new pics I have had a lot of messages that clearly demonstrated the whole reason why we don’t reply to a lot of messages with a no thanks. Plenty of messages offering to fill all my holes, well you haven’t read my profile then. Plenty telling me I have big tits, I live with them I know!! So guys when wondering why all messages don’t get replies have a look at the profile of the person you’ve messaged, maybe you’ve offered something they really don’t like or want. Maybe sending 15-20 messages over a day when they haven’t yet read your first one is a turn off. Maybe they are inundated and haven’t had time to look at those that interested then. But when you get a no thanks please just accept it. On this occasion the recipient sent yet a further response (polite but still no need) and has now been blocked due to this." I'd love to reply to every message with a thank you but 200-300 messages a day and me logging in perhaps every other day ..... do the math, it can't be done. | |||
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"I’ve just been called a fat cunt for a polite “Sorry, your profile isn’t for me. Happy fabbing” reply. I only replied because it looked like a bit of effort had been made in the message. Going back to just deleting if I’m not interested." Hi J, no agenda here. Just wanted to say no one deserves being spoken to like that. | |||
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" If you know how to set a dickhead filter, please enlighten the rest of us. There is simply no way I can recieve messages only from polite and interesting people who are only local, only in my age range and exactly what I'm looking for. It’s just whataboutery and always happens on these threads. Any behaviour that is males being dicks in messages gets “use filters” or “close your inbox” as answers. Basically to many guys on here if you leave a message box open then it’s fair game for guys to be dickheads. It’s all part of the wider mindset as the “I know women should be able to walk late at night, but…” or the “I know women should be able to wear what they like, but…” bollocks that people come out with. There’s always a but. And always something the woman should do different. Not the guys We all know the guys in question should behave differently. But they wont. Thats never going to change. Never And they never need to when threads about their behaviour always go with blokes putting the emphasis on women to make things different… It’s part of a much wider thing. Men could have much more influence on other men with regard to their behaviour toward women. Much easier to just make it the women’s job though. Youre only being asked to use your filters, thats all. Its hardly a job. It will at least cut down on the shit you receive. And the reason youre being asked to do this is because its much easier for one person to affect it herself than try to appeal to hundreds of others to do it. But hey, that's just my 2 cents. I totally understand about the filters but they aren't comprehensive enough to be useful. Unfortunately the 'boys will be boys' attitude, and the 'this is your problem' sentiment isn't a solution. A solution would be guys helping us ladies by calling out this behaviour and telling other guys WHY they're being inappropriate. It's hardly a job and will cut down on the shit we recieve. It's easier for many single people to affect this by appealing to others to do it." I wish the answer was so simple. I for one would have no problem telling a dickhead that he's a dickhead and why he's a dickhead. Unfortunately how can we know? You can't post his username without the risk of his being banned and we cant message him calling him out over it without the same risk. And, if you make it an admin problem they would probably have to employ at least a couple of full time staff to deal with complaints. Both of whom have to be paid for. All of a sudden fabs site supporters fee has to increase or fab has to charge for messages etc and is no longer a 'free' swingers site. I dont know the answer. I suppose it comes down to society itself going back to having some decent manners and to stop raising ignorant, self absorbed, entitled twats. Unfortunately thats not likely to happen either. As I said I wish there was a simple answer. Telling an arse to not be an arse is a bit like the story of king canute telling the tides to stop. They don't. | |||
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PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE ladies and couples, if you are not interested DELETE the message!!! This shows a positive response that you are not bloody interested and also clears your inbox.
If you receive unwanted advertising in the post you don't leave it to clutter up your house; you bin it. If you receive spam email you don't leave it in your in box; you delete it!! So if you get a message from someone you are not interested in, please delete it!!
And MEN; If it is deleted have some respect, DO NOT MESSAGE THEM EVER AGAIN.
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"You had me at "Normally I delete without response due to comebacks when you say no."
PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE ladies and couples, if you are not interested DELETE the message!!! This shows a positive response that you are not bloody interested and also clears your inbox.
If you receive unwanted advertising in the post you don't leave it to clutter up your house; you bin it. If you receive spam email you don't leave it in your in box; you delete it!! So if you get a message from someone you are not interested in, please delete it!!
And MEN; If it is deleted have some respect, DO NOT MESSAGE THEM EVER AGAIN.
(Ok now you can trot out the Fab cliché - no reply means no interest even if the message is left open and read for weeks in their inbox as if they are coming back to you.)"How dare you even suggest women take action. Misogynistic pig | |||
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"You had me at "Normally I delete without response due to comebacks when you say no."
PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE ladies and couples, if you are not interested DELETE the message!!! This shows a positive response that you are not bloody interested and also clears your inbox.
If you receive unwanted advertising in the post you don't leave it to clutter up your house; you bin it. If you receive spam email you don't leave it in your in box; you delete it!! So if you get a message from someone you are not interested in, please delete it!!
And MEN; If it is deleted have some respect, DO NOT MESSAGE THEM EVER AGAIN.
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"Women don’t reply to me cos I’ve got a face like a dogs arse "mate I get the same bullshit but the truth is you're probably average if not better than average looking. Women on here think you have to be absolutely perfect in every aspect | |||
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"Women don’t need to reply. A deleted message is a clear enough “no thank” for me Leaving it unopened though? Or worse, reading it then marking it unread, that’s confusing " I always tell people to block me if I am not what they are looking for makes it easier | |||
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"On the vary rare occasions that someone replies to me with a no thank you I always respond by replying back with, Thank you for taking the time to read and reply it's most appreciated, happy fabbing. Or words to that effect. " I just had a random message of abuse for a pist I made in here. I just replied with "thanks x" probably pissed them off more | |||
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"Fab messages needs a 'friends messages' field so you don't miss those you regularly chat to. Not that it would do me any good, but hey............." lol mate don't act like your inbox is that full you're missing messages from friends | |||
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"You had me at "Normally I delete without response due to comebacks when you say no."
PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE ladies and couples, if you are not interested DELETE the message!!! This shows a positive response that you are not bloody interested and also clears your inbox.
If you receive unwanted advertising in the post you don't leave it to clutter up your house; you bin it. If you receive spam email you don't leave it in your in box; you delete it!! So if you get a message from someone you are not interested in, please delete it!!
And MEN; If it is deleted have some respect, DO NOT MESSAGE THEM EVER AGAIN.
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You clearly haven't seen my email inbox.
"OK my lady! Just give me your profile password and I will empty it for you.
All part if the service mam.
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"You had me at "Normally I delete without response due to comebacks when you say no."
PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE ladies and couples, if you are not interested DELETE the message!!! This shows a positive response that you are not bloody interested and also clears your inbox.
If you receive unwanted advertising in the post you don't leave it to clutter up your house; you bin it. If you receive spam email you don't leave it in your in box; you delete it!! So if you get a message from someone you are not interested in, please delete it!!
And MEN; If it is deleted have some respect, DO NOT MESSAGE THEM EVER AGAIN.
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You clearly haven't seen my email inbox.
OK my lady! Just give me your profile password and I will empty it for you.
All part if the service mam.
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"I am so curious about this as to why my experience is so different. I get either a polite response saying thanks for letting me know or no response.i don't get abuse. I don't know if it's due to my age bracket or what. I think it is your age bracket. Older guys tend to be less aggressive when turned down. I found this when I had a couple profile with a FWB. " I’ve found no difference in she brackets. Except younger ones use more abbreviations I don’t understand. Hmu. Wbu. Wwjd. But yeah, old of young, I’ve had some nasty messages from a no thanks | |||
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"Normally I delete without response due to comebacks when you say no. Today I decided to see if there was any change in the no thanks reply I’d send if not interested. Bear in mind I’m in south west England, message from Glasgow based person (I know people travel for work), message is hello sexy I want to meet up with you. I reply no thanks. Next message, why? Is it because I am black? Normally questioning a no thanks wouldn’t garner any further reply but this time I did, just said no means no and should be accepted (colour wasn’t the reason either). Today because I have posted some new pics I have had a lot of messages that clearly demonstrated the whole reason why we don’t reply to a lot of messages with a no thanks. Plenty of messages offering to fill all my holes, well you haven’t read my profile then. Plenty telling me I have big tits, I live with them I know!! So guys when wondering why all messages don’t get replies have a look at the profile of the person you’ve messaged, maybe you’ve offered something they really don’t like or want. Maybe sending 15-20 messages over a day when they haven’t yet read your first one is a turn off. Maybe they are inundated and haven’t had time to look at those that interested then. But when you get a no thanks please just accept it. On this occasion the recipient sent yet a further response (polite but still no need) and has now been blocked due to this." Morning OP, I think this should be sent to every new user on fab so they understand what it's like to be a message recipient. And that you honestly can't win whether you respond or not. Have a great day.  | |||
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"You had me at "Normally I delete without response due to comebacks when you say no."
PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE ladies and couples, if you are not interested DELETE the message!!! This shows a positive response that you are not bloody interested and also clears your inbox.
If you receive unwanted advertising in the post you don't leave it to clutter up your house; you bin it. If you receive spam email you don't leave it in your in box; you delete it!! So if you get a message from someone you are not interested in, please delete it!!
And MEN; If it is deleted have some respect, DO NOT MESSAGE THEM EVER AGAIN.
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You clearly haven't seen my email inbox.
OK my lady! Just give me your profile password and I will empty it for you.
All part if the service mam.
It is just that little bin icon beside the message. You don't even have to read it.
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"I am so curious about this as to why my experience is so different. I get either a polite response saying thanks for letting me know or no response.i don't get abuse. I don't know if it's due to my age bracket or what. Really? I've found - in MY experience - that older men act far more entitled and condescending towards me, and kick up more of a fuss when I say no thanks. That's why I keep my age brackets so low. " See, I’ve found the opposite! | |||
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"I am so curious about this as to why my experience is so different. I get either a polite response saying thanks for letting me know or no response.i don't get abuse. I don't know if it's due to my age bracket or what. Really? I've found - in MY experience - that older men act far more entitled and condescending towards me, and kick up more of a fuss when I say no thanks. That's why I keep my age brackets so low. See, I’ve found the opposite! " It’s almost like men are one collective blob of dick and are actually individuals | |||
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"I am so curious about this as to why my experience is so different. I get either a polite response saying thanks for letting me know or no response.i don't get abuse. I don't know if it's due to my age bracket or what. Really? I've found - in MY experience - that older men act far more entitled and condescending towards me, and kick up more of a fuss when I say no thanks. That's why I keep my age brackets so low. See, I’ve found the opposite! It’s almost like men are one collective blob of dick and are actually individuals " We are a hive mind. | |||
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"I am so curious about this as to why my experience is so different. I get either a polite response saying thanks for letting me know or no response.i don't get abuse. I don't know if it's due to my age bracket or what. Really? I've found - in MY experience - that older men act far more entitled and condescending towards me, and kick up more of a fuss when I say no thanks. That's why I keep my age brackets so low. See, I’ve found the opposite! It’s almost like men are one collective blob of dick and are actually individuals We are a hive mind. " This is true. When you yawn unexpectedly, it’s because one of our own has just shot his load and finished. | |||
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"I am so curious about this as to why my experience is so different. I get either a polite response saying thanks for letting me know or no response.i don't get abuse. I don't know if it's due to my age bracket or what. Really? I've found - in MY experience - that older men act far more entitled and condescending towards me, and kick up more of a fuss when I say no thanks. That's why I keep my age brackets so low. See, I’ve found the opposite! It’s almost like men are one collective blob of dick and are actually individuals We are a hive mind. This is true. When you yawn unexpectedly, it’s because one of our own has just shot his load and finished.
I open my mouth wide when other men cum?
Am I gay? " if you’re kneeling down in front of him? There’s a 50/50 chance you could be.
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"I am so curious about this as to why my experience is so different. I get either a polite response saying thanks for letting me know or no response.i don't get abuse. I don't know if it's due to my age bracket or what. Really? I've found - in MY experience - that older men act far more entitled and condescending towards me, and kick up more of a fuss when I say no thanks. That's why I keep my age brackets so low. See, I’ve found the opposite! " It was a bigger issue on the OTHER site where you can't set filters. I'd put in my bio that I was looking for someone my age and my goodness the messages I was getting from 50+ year olds. "you don't know what you're missing", "you're just a close-minded little girl" , "good luck finding someone your age who knows what he's doing" etc | |||
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"3 things may help but as this is a "free" site, they will probably never be implemented: 1) A TON more filters. Why can someone in north Scotland message someone on the south coast for example? just create filters for messages, and also make people fill out their profile more (even if it doesn't show on the public profile): there are only 3 filters that i can see: Age, sex, and site status. some filters that may help women who have preferences: - bald/shaved head/short hair/long hair, - Beard/stubble/clean shaven, - Natural/trimmer/shaved (genital's) - Height, - Ethnicity, - Location (m/km from me), - Penis length (would say girth too but don't know how you measure that!!!) - Tattoos/piercings, - Can accommodate or not - Smoker or not. - Certain activities, like block anyone who wants anal. that would be going a bit far i guess but could be an option based on interests. And thats just off the top of my head. It's woeful that there is only 3 filters. no wonder women are inundated with rubbish. 2) Color coded messages in inbox to identify: A) Friends, B) People who have winked/fabbed you, C) People who you have winked/fabbed, D) People you've responded to in the past, E) "Strangers." 3) an auto message button beside reply/delete which sends a message back to the person saying something like "This user thinks that you are not a match with what they are looking for. Good luck with your next match". While dickheads will be dickheads, the 3 ideas above "could" seriously reduce both the amount of messages women/couples need to sift through, and reduce the amount of abuse people get. This situation effects everyone negatively: - Women/couples have to wade through messages and abuse, - Dickheads can keep on being dickheads, - Polite guys/couples can get more chance of a response. " Half of the new filters you suggest are already in place, in the advanced search. Besides, if people can get around those they'll get around any new ones too. | |||
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"3 things may help but as this is a "free" site, they will probably never be implemented: 1) A TON more filters. Why can someone in north Scotland message someone on the south coast for example? just create filters for messages, and also make people fill out their profile more (even if it doesn't show on the public profile): there are only 3 filters that i can see: Age, sex, and site status. some filters that may help women who have preferences: - bald/shaved head/short hair/long hair, - Beard/stubble/clean shaven, - Natural/trimmer/shaved (genital's) - Height, - Ethnicity, - Location (m/km from me), - Penis length (would say girth too but don't know how you measure that!!!) - Tattoos/piercings, - Can accommodate or not - Smoker or not. - Certain activities, like block anyone who wants anal. that would be going a bit far i guess but could be an option based on interests. And thats just off the top of my head. It's woeful that there is only 3 filters. no wonder women are inundated with rubbish. 2) Color coded messages in inbox to identify: A) Friends, B) People who have winked/fabbed you, C) People who you have winked/fabbed, D) People you've responded to in the past, E) "Strangers." 3) an auto message button beside reply/delete which sends a message back to the person saying something like "This user thinks that you are not a match with what they are looking for. Good luck with your next match". While dickheads will be dickheads, the 3 ideas above "could" seriously reduce both the amount of messages women/couples need to sift through, and reduce the amount of abuse people get. This situation effects everyone negatively: - Women/couples have to wade through messages and abuse, - Dickheads can keep on being dickheads, - Polite guys/couples can get more chance of a response. Half of the new filters you suggest are already in place, in the advanced search. Besides, if people can get around those they'll get around any new ones too." I’m guessing they mean those should be message filters not search filters. | |||
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"3 things may help but as this is a "free" site, they will probably never be implemented: 1) A TON more filters. Why can someone in north Scotland message someone on the south coast for example? just create filters for messages, and also make people fill out their profile more (even if it doesn't show on the public profile): there are only 3 filters that i can see: Age, sex, and site status. some filters that may help women who have preferences: - bald/shaved head/short hair/long hair, - Beard/stubble/clean shaven, - Natural/trimmer/shaved (genital's) - Height, - Ethnicity, - Location (m/km from me), - Penis length (would say girth too but don't know how you measure that!!!) - Tattoos/piercings, - Can accommodate or not - Smoker or not. - Certain activities, like block anyone who wants anal. that would be going a bit far i guess but could be an option based on interests. And thats just off the top of my head. It's woeful that there is only 3 filters. no wonder women are inundated with rubbish. 2) Color coded messages in inbox to identify: A) Friends, B) People who have winked/fabbed you, C) People who you have winked/fabbed, D) People you've responded to in the past, E) "Strangers." 3) an auto message button beside reply/delete which sends a message back to the person saying something like "This user thinks that you are not a match with what they are looking for. Good luck with your next match". While dickheads will be dickheads, the 3 ideas above "could" seriously reduce both the amount of messages women/couples need to sift through, and reduce the amount of abuse people get. This situation effects everyone negatively: - Women/couples have to wade through messages and abuse, - Dickheads can keep on being dickheads, - Polite guys/couples can get more chance of a response. Half of the new filters you suggest are already in place, in the advanced search. Besides, if people can get around those they'll get around any new ones too. I’m guessing they mean those should be message filters not search filters." More filters would be good, of course. But they'd only be useful if people were accurate and honest in their profiles and tick box choices. And let's face it. Nobody has ever lied about height, weight, age, cock size, location, interests, sexuality, experience, smoking habits, accommodation ability........ 
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"3 things may help but as this is a "free" site, they will probably never be implemented: 1) A TON more filters. Why can someone in north Scotland message someone on the south coast for example? just create filters for messages, and also make people fill out their profile more (even if it doesn't show on the public profile): there are only 3 filters that i can see: Age, sex, and site status. some filters that may help women who have preferences: - bald/shaved head/short hair/long hair, - Beard/stubble/clean shaven, - Natural/trimmer/shaved (genital's) - Height, - Ethnicity, - Location (m/km from me), - Penis length (would say girth too but don't know how you measure that!!!) - Tattoos/piercings, - Can accommodate or not - Smoker or not. - Certain activities, like block anyone who wants anal. that would be going a bit far i guess but could be an option based on interests. And thats just off the top of my head. It's woeful that there is only 3 filters. no wonder women are inundated with rubbish. 2) Color coded messages in inbox to identify: A) Friends, B) People who have winked/fabbed you, C) People who you have winked/fabbed, D) People you've responded to in the past, E) "Strangers." 3) an auto message button beside reply/delete which sends a message back to the person saying something like "This user thinks that you are not a match with what they are looking for. Good luck with your next match". While dickheads will be dickheads, the 3 ideas above "could" seriously reduce both the amount of messages women/couples need to sift through, and reduce the amount of abuse people get. This situation effects everyone negatively: - Women/couples have to wade through messages and abuse, - Dickheads can keep on being dickheads, - Polite guys/couples can get more chance of a response. Half of the new filters you suggest are already in place, in the advanced search. Besides, if people can get around those they'll get around any new ones too. I’m guessing they mean those should be message filters not search filters." My point still stands... The amount of times I've gotten messaged by an account who doesn't think I'll remember them, and the fact they were 5 years younger the last time they messaged me I have an eidetic memory for these things.
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"Also. Only those I think are fit can message me. I need that filter. …
Endless filters won’t solve everything either. Just my opinion. "Y'know this is not impossible technology... Some dating apps use data from people you've swiped right to show you similar profiles at the top of the pile. Not something fab would ever implement obvs but possible nonetheless | |||
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Endless filters won’t solve everything either. Just my opinion.
Y'know this is not impossible technology... Some dating apps use data from people you've swiped right to show you similar profiles at the top of the pile.
Not something fab would ever implement obvs but possible nonetheless "Fabs still running that 1999 aol chat room data | |||
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"I’m guessing they mean those should be message filters not search filters." Exactly. 
While true, filters wont solve everything, they will make things easier.
Imagine it as a empty road. Dickheads will just walk up the road. But put fences on the road, and the dickheads will have to navigate the fences. Sure they may start going around them, but with every fence, you lose some dickheads that can't be bothered. It wont stop all, but it will whittle away.
Ladies, how many profiles message you a day? lets say 100. Of that 100, how many are dickheads? 70? 80?
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"I’m guessing they mean those should be message filters not search filters. Exactly.
While true, filters wont solve everything, they will make things easier.
Imagine it as a empty road. Dickheads will just walk up the road. But put fences on the road, and the dickheads will have to navigate the fences. Sure they may start going around them, but with every fence, you lose some dickheads that can't be bothered. It wont stop all, but it will whittle away.
Ladies, how many profiles message you a day? lets say 100. Of that 100, how many are dickheads? 70? 80?
Wouldn't you rather get 50 message and only have 20 dickheads to navigate?"Do the "genuine" and "respectful" guys think they'll get more sex this way??? | |||
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"More filters would be good, of course. But they'd only be useful if people were accurate and honest in their profiles and tick box choices. And let's face it. Nobody has ever lied about height, weight, age, cock size, location, interests, sexuality, experience, smoking habits, accommodation ability........
A"true, but we're talking about stopping dickheads annoying all women, not just one specific woman. While he may lie and say he's 7', yes he will be able to annoy all the women who want a taller man, but he won't be able to annoy the women who want a shorter man. | |||
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"I’m guessing they mean those should be message filters not search filters. Exactly.
While true, filters wont solve everything, they will make things easier.
Imagine it as a empty road. Dickheads will just walk up the road. But put fences on the road, and the dickheads will have to navigate the fences. Sure they may start going around them, but with every fence, you lose some dickheads that can't be bothered. It wont stop all, but it will whittle away.
Ladies, how many profiles message you a day? lets say 100. Of that 100, how many are dickheads? 70? 80?
Wouldn't you rather get 50 message and only have 20 dickheads to navigate?
Do the "genuine" and "respectful" guys think they'll get more sex this way???
"And dickheads will rapidly learn what data they need tomput in on profiles to navigate those fences. And the stupid ones who can't work it out for themselves will ask for advice in the forums. And people will tell them because they think they're being kind and helpful. And life will go on as it always has...... A | |||
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"And dickheads will rapidly learn what data they need tomput in on profiles to navigate those fences. And the stupid ones who can't work it out for themselves will ask for advice in the forums. And people will tell them because they think they're being kind and helpful. And life will go on as it always has...... A" Again, its about limiting, not stopping. At the moment its a shit show. surely this would help massivly? After all, if you block shaved heads I wont be able to message you. Then, lets say I'm a dickhead (!  ) I will change my profile and say I have long hair, and message you. Then I try to message the next lady, but she's blocked long hair cause she likes shaved heads.
The amount of effort dickheads will need to exhaust will just increase, and most will not bother with it.
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"And dickheads will rapidly learn what data they need tomput in on profiles to navigate those fences. And the stupid ones who can't work it out for themselves will ask for advice in the forums. And people will tell them because they think they're being kind and helpful. And life will go on as it always has...... A Again, its about limiting, not stopping. At the moment its a shit show. surely this would help massivly? After all, if you block shaved heads I wont be able to message you. Then, lets say I'm a dickhead (! ) I will change my profile and say I have long hair, and message you. Then I try to message the next lady, but she's blocked long hair cause she likes shaved heads.
The amount of effort dickheads will need to exhaust will just increase, and most will not bother with it.
Like I said, its about limiting the problem, because like you said, it can't be fully fixed."Maybe it's just me, but it's really not that hard to manage your messages on here. Too many filters is just annoying. | |||
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"Yep. Been on here as a couple and As a single. Sadly single guys are a chore most of the time. " Sorry about that. It’s an interesting read this thread. | |||
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"You had me at "Normally I delete without response due to comebacks when you say no."
PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE ladies and couples, if you are not interested DELETE the message!!! This shows a positive response that you are not bloody interested and also clears your inbox.
If you receive unwanted advertising in the post you don't leave it to clutter up your house; you bin it. If you receive spam email you don't leave it in your in box; you delete it!! So if you get a message from someone you are not interested in, please delete it!!
And MEN; If it is deleted have some respect, DO NOT MESSAGE THEM EVER AGAIN.
(Ok now you can trot out the Fab cliché - no reply means no interest even if the message is left open and read for weeks in their inbox as if they are coming back to you.)"Well, to make it easier on yourself PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE just delete your outbox The site tells you when you go onto a profile if you’ve had contact before so no risk of accidentally harassing someone who has chosen to ignore you This way you’re not left agonising over what no reply for weeks means. (Now you can reply with the next bit of why it’s women’s responsibility to actively respond in some way to every message) | |||
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"There are 677 unread messages in my inbox... Every reply generates another reply .. It is impossible to answer them all! " applying for role as your PA | |||
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"There are 677 unread messages in my inbox... Every reply generates another reply .. It is impossible to answer them all! applying for role as your PA "
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Let’s be real. Women won’t message every single guy they like first. Not unless they have to like on a specific dating app. "Ok, I don't like many guys. But if I see someone I like, then yeah I do message first. Why not? If you're gonna complain about the number of messages or the type of messages you get then block everyone and look for who you like. It isn't hard. | |||
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Let’s be real. Women won’t message every single guy they like first. Not unless they have to like on a specific dating app.
Ok, I don't like many guys. But if I see someone I like, then yeah I do message first. Why not?
If you're gonna complain about the number of messages or the type of messages you get then block everyone and look for who you like. It isn't hard.
"Oh shush with that common sense now..... People will start thinking you're a dude.
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"you must be very lucky that the only 3 filters you have are blocking all unwanted messages. though, to be fair, i spose if you turn on "no single guys" that can stop a lot. but then again if you're looking for a single guy.....? "Block all males. Then oh my god actually look for men you like! | |||
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Let’s be real. Women won’t message every single guy they like first. Not unless they have to like on a specific dating app.
Ok, I don't like many guys. But if I see someone I like, then yeah I do message first. Why not?
If you're gonna complain about the number of messages or the type of messages you get then block everyone and look for who you like. It isn't hard.
Oh shush with that common sense now.....
People will start thinking you're a dude.
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Let’s be real. Women won’t message every single guy they like first. Not unless they have to like on a specific dating app.
Ok, I don't like many guys. But if I see someone I like, then yeah I do message first. Why not?
If you're gonna complain about the number of messages or the type of messages you get then block everyone and look for who you like. It isn't hard.
"I agree with you for sure. I stopped actively messaging women except in exceptional circumstances and have to say women do send lazy first messages that often include the disclaimer: I don’t usually send first messages. I genuinely don’t think women want to or enjoy sending first messages (which is fine). But I guess you’re right, it shouldn’t have to be the case, but if women wanted to avoid it they could do what you do. | |||
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Let’s be real. Women won’t message every single guy they like first. Not unless they have to like on a specific dating app.
Ok, I don't like many guys. But if I see someone I like, then yeah I do message first. Why not?
If you're gonna complain about the number of messages or the type of messages you get then block everyone and look for who you like. It isn't hard.
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Let’s be real. Women won’t message every single guy they like first. Not unless they have to like on a specific dating app.
Ok, I don't like many guys. But if I see someone I like, then yeah I do message first. Why not?
If you're gonna complain about the number of messages or the type of messages you get then block everyone and look for who you like. It isn't hard.
I do reach out to guys I like, but if I were to block them all I might miss out on someone good. With the ratio of men to women on here, sifting through all the single men in my area would become a full time job "You’re not missing out on anyone good, Trust me. | |||
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Let’s be real. Women won’t message every single guy they like first. Not unless they have to like on a specific dating app.
Ok, I don't like many guys. But if I see someone I like, then yeah I do message first. Why not?
If you're gonna complain about the number of messages or the type of messages you get then block everyone and look for who you like. It isn't hard.
I do reach out to guys I like, but if I were to block them all I might miss out on someone good. With the ratio of men to women on here, sifting through all the single men in my area would become a full time job "Ok I can get that. For me, I either take filters off and just delete/ignore most of the messages or i put them on and message guys I like. | |||
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Let’s be real. Women won’t message every single guy they like first. Not unless they have to like on a specific dating app.
Ok, I don't like many guys. But if I see someone I like, then yeah I do message first. Why not?
If you're gonna complain about the number of messages or the type of messages you get then block everyone and look for who you like. It isn't hard.
I do reach out to guys I like, but if I were to block them all I might miss out on someone good. With the ratio of men to women on here, sifting through all the single men in my area would become a full time job
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"No reply is a reply - no one is obligated to send a reply to say ‘no thanks’ to an unsolicited message. It is so annoying (especially if the message has been deleted - which is a clear NO) and it is then followed up with ‘????’ Or even worse if the sender appears to be watching and waiting for their message to be read before they pounce again. It’s so aggressive and predatory… just chill TF out. If someone may be attracted to you they will respond. If they don’t respond, move on. If you get no responses, improve your profile, your pics, your initial message and accept that not everyone (or the majority or lots of people) is into you. Do you think this is a behaviour that builds up over time? Like, you join fab as a reasonably well-adjusted, secure individual but then the repeated experiences of being ignored, ghosted etc just makes you more frustrated and neurotic? " Yeah, I think a lot of them start out polite and respectful but then because it is a largely faceless/ anonymous site, they think ‘what have I got to lose?’ - I can be as vulgar, rude or crass as I like and other than being blocked what’s the worst that can happen?! Of course, not tarring ‘all’ with the same brush - I’ve had some lovely, respectful and sweet messages from many men, but for a lot of them, I actually think they have very concerning attitudes about sex and consent and think all the women on here should be grateful for the attention, when for the most part we’d rather they left us alone | |||
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"No reply is a reply - no one is obligated to send a reply to say ‘no thanks’ to an unsolicited message. It is so annoying (especially if the message has been deleted - which is a clear NO) and it is then followed up with ‘????’ Or even worse if the sender appears to be watching and waiting for their message to be read before they pounce again. It’s so aggressive and predatory… just chill TF out. If someone may be attracted to you they will respond. If they don’t respond, move on. If you get no responses, improve your profile, your pics, your initial message and accept that not everyone (or the majority or lots of people) is into you. Do you think this is a behaviour that builds up over time? Like, you join fab as a reasonably well-adjusted, secure individual but then the repeated experiences of being ignored, ghosted etc just makes you more frustrated and neurotic? " Do repeated bad experience makes people unhappy/angry and maybe lash out? I’d say yes I don’t agree with it, but I can understand why guts get annoyed after the follow the advice given here in the forum for the 1000th time and their is still unopened/ignored | |||
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Remember, you're now allowed suggest that. Youre then putting it back on women to have to take action, and thats bad
Or at least thats what i was told last night.
If you dont agree with them then you also just say nothing. Thats also what i was told"No to be fair you were wrong. It’s very misogynistic to suggest woman do stuff like that. Putting up filters if your unhappy with the messages you receive, looking left and right when crossing the road, making sure chicken is fully cooked before eating it’s. All misogynistic. The world should bend around their needs. Or else. | |||
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Remember, you're now allowed suggest that. Youre then putting it back on women to have to take action, and thats bad
Or at least thats what i was told last night.
If you dont agree with them then you also just say nothing. Thats also what i was told
No to be fair you were wrong. It’s very misogynistic to suggest woman do stuff like that.
Putting up filters if your unhappy with the messages you receive, looking left and right when crossing the road, making sure chicken is fully cooked before eating it’s. All misogynistic.
The world should bend around their needs. Or else. "Indeed. Note also how the couple of women in here who have suggested the same thing i did havent been jumped on by the usual suspects, like i was. Its almost like their ire is directed at the gender in question, regardless of the content of the comment. How strange | |||
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Remember, you're now allowed suggest that. Youre then putting it back on women to have to take action, and thats bad
Or at least thats what i was told last night.
If you dont agree with them then you also just say nothing. Thats also what i was told
No to be fair you were wrong. It’s very misogynistic to suggest woman do stuff like that.
Putting up filters if your unhappy with the messages you receive, looking left and right when crossing the road, making sure chicken is fully cooked before eating it’s. All misogynistic.
The world should bend around their needs. Or else.
Indeed.
Note also how the couple of women in here who have suggested the same thing i did havent been jumped on by the usual suspects, like i was.
Its almost like their ire is directed at the gender in question, regardless of the content of the comment.
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"I have alllllll the filters on and message the guys I like. Works for me.
Remember, you're now allowed suggest that. Youre then putting it back on women to have to take action, and thats bad
Or at least thats what i was told last night.
If you dont agree with them then you also just say nothing. Thats also what i was told
No to be fair you were wrong. It’s very misogynistic to suggest woman do stuff like that.
Putting up filters if your unhappy with the messages you receive, looking left and right when crossing the road, making sure chicken is fully cooked before eating it’s. All misogynistic.
The world should bend around their needs. Or else.
Indeed.
Note also how the couple of women in here who have suggested the same thing i did havent been jumped on by the usual suspects, like i was.
Its almost like their ire is directed at the gender in question, regardless of the content of the comment.
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"I have alllllll the filters on and message the guys I like. Works for me.
Remember, you're now allowed suggest that. Youre then putting it back on women to have to take action, and thats bad
Or at least thats what i was told last night.
If you dont agree with them then you also just say nothing. Thats also what i was told
No to be fair you were wrong. It’s very misogynistic to suggest woman do stuff like that.
Putting up filters if your unhappy with the messages you receive, looking left and right when crossing the road, making sure chicken is fully cooked before eating it’s. All misogynistic.
The world should bend around their needs. Or else.
Indeed.
Note also how the couple of women in here who have suggested the same thing i did havent been jumped on by the usual suspects, like i was.
Its almost like their ire is directed at the gender in question, regardless of the content of the comment.
How strange
Or maybe it's how you say things?
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"I have alllllll the filters on and message the guys I like. Works for me.
Remember, you're now allowed suggest that. Youre then putting it back on women to have to take action, and thats bad
Or at least thats what i was told last night.
If you dont agree with them then you also just say nothing. Thats also what i was told
No to be fair you were wrong. It’s very misogynistic to suggest woman do stuff like that.
Putting up filters if your unhappy with the messages you receive, looking left and right when crossing the road, making sure chicken is fully cooked before eating it’s. All misogynistic.
The world should bend around their needs. Or else.
Indeed.
Note also how the couple of women in here who have suggested the same thing i did havent been jumped on by the usual suspects, like i was.
Its almost like their ire is directed at the gender in question, regardless of the content of the comment.
How strange
Or maybe it's how you say things?
They werent commenting on that though were they? They were commenting on the content of my comment, which was identical to yours.
Maybe youll catch their ire as well before the thread ends. I wont hold my breath though"I don't know I didn't see the thread you mean to be honest. But hey, joys of being female | |||
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"I have alllllll the filters on and message the guys I like. Works for me.
Remember, you're now allowed suggest that. Youre then putting it back on women to have to take action, and thats bad
Or at least thats what i was told last night.
If you dont agree with them then you also just say nothing. Thats also what i was told
No to be fair you were wrong. It’s very misogynistic to suggest woman do stuff like that.
Putting up filters if your unhappy with the messages you receive, looking left and right when crossing the road, making sure chicken is fully cooked before eating it’s. All misogynistic.
The world should bend around their needs. Or else.
Indeed.
Note also how the couple of women in here who have suggested the same thing i did havent been jumped on by the usual suspects, like i was.
Its almost like their ire is directed at the gender in question, regardless of the content of the comment.
How strange
Or maybe it's how you say things?
They werent commenting on that though were they? They were commenting on the content of my comment, which was identical to yours.
Maybe youll catch their ire as well before the thread ends. I wont hold my breath though"It's probably a combination of how you say things combined with having a penis | |||
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"I have alllllll the filters on and message the guys I like. Works for me.
Remember, you're now allowed suggest that. Youre then putting it back on women to have to take action, and thats bad
Or at least thats what i was told last night.
If you dont agree with them then you also just say nothing. Thats also what i was told
No to be fair you were wrong. It’s very misogynistic to suggest woman do stuff like that.
Putting up filters if your unhappy with the messages you receive, looking left and right when crossing the road, making sure chicken is fully cooked before eating it’s. All misogynistic.
The world should bend around their needs. Or else.
Indeed.
Note also how the couple of women in here who have suggested the same thing i did havent been jumped on by the usual suspects, like i was.
Its almost like their ire is directed at the gender in question, regardless of the content of the comment.
How strange
Or maybe it's how you say things?
They werent commenting on that though were they? They were commenting on the content of my comment, which was identical to yours.
Maybe youll catch their ire as well before the thread ends. I wont hold my breath though
I don't know I didn't see the thread you mean to be honest.
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"I have alllllll the filters on and message the guys I like. Works for me.
Remember, you're now allowed suggest that. Youre then putting it back on women to have to take action, and thats bad
Or at least thats what i was told last night.
If you dont agree with them then you also just say nothing. Thats also what i was told
No to be fair you were wrong. It’s very misogynistic to suggest woman do stuff like that.
Putting up filters if your unhappy with the messages you receive, looking left and right when crossing the road, making sure chicken is fully cooked before eating it’s. All misogynistic.
The world should bend around their needs. Or else.
Indeed.
Note also how the couple of women in here who have suggested the same thing i did havent been jumped on by the usual suspects, like i was.
Its almost like their ire is directed at the gender in question, regardless of the content of the comment.
How strange
Or maybe it's how you say things?
They werent commenting on that though were they? They were commenting on the content of my comment, which was identical to yours.
Maybe youll catch their ire as well before the thread ends. I wont hold my breath though
I don't know I didn't see the thread you mean to be honest.
But hey, joys of being female
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"I have alllllll the filters on and message the guys I like. Works for me.
Remember, you're now allowed suggest that. Youre then putting it back on women to have to take action, and thats bad
Or at least thats what i was told last night.
If you dont agree with them then you also just say nothing. Thats also what i was told
No to be fair you were wrong. It’s very misogynistic to suggest woman do stuff like that.
Putting up filters if your unhappy with the messages you receive, looking left and right when crossing the road, making sure chicken is fully cooked before eating it’s. All misogynistic.
The world should bend around their needs. Or else.
Indeed.
Note also how the couple of women in here who have suggested the same thing i did havent been jumped on by the usual suspects, like i was.
Its almost like their ire is directed at the gender in question, regardless of the content of the comment.
How strange
Now now.
This isn’t playing very nice. "He's not lying though He replied to a comment about the amount of messages nothing to do with content and loads replied saying that why is upto the woman to do that I pretty much said the same thing and agreed with him and no one had nothing to say | |||
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"Fuck, I'd consider myself lucky to get a reply, even if it said "no thanks" Had a great no thanks last night from a lovely Scottish lady gutted !! This is peak “single guy on fabs” vibe “Pulled last night…. Got a no Thankyou reply…, but you know what they say. Any reply is a good time” As a single guy I genuinely think that if you cannot handle the constant rejection you should just look somewhere else. The game is the game. " The same thing should be applied to women getting dickheads in their inbox. It doesn't excuse it but if you don't keep air tight filters and asshats on the Internet are going to affect your mood outside of the site it's probably best to avoid it | |||
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" Note also how the couple of women in here who have suggested the same thing i did havent been jumped on by the usual suspects, like i was. Its almost like their ire is directed at the gender in question, regardless of the content of the comment. How strange Now now. This isn’t playing very nice. He's not lying though He replied to a comment about the amount of messages nothing to do with content and loads replied saying that why is upto the woman to do that I pretty much said the same thing and agreed with him and no one had nothing to say " Fair but digging them out isn’t going to end well I fear. | |||
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"Fuck, I'd consider myself lucky to get a reply, even if it said "no thanks" Had a great no thanks last night from a lovely Scottish lady gutted !! This is peak “single guy on fabs” vibe “Pulled last night…. Got a no Thankyou reply…, but you know what they say. Any reply is a good time” As a single guy I genuinely think that if you cannot handle the constant rejection you should just look somewhere else. The game is the game. The same thing should be applied to women getting dickheads in their inbox. It doesn't excuse it but if you don't keep air tight filters and asshats on the Internet are going to affect your mood outside of the site it's probably best to avoid it" You’re probably right. Some things shouldn’t be the case but we have to charge them to the game (for now at least). The unfortunate realities of using sites like this and dating sites are shit for people. And unfortunately it means that using them requires thick skin. I don’t like that. But it is what it is. | |||
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