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"I’d say twice if you really liked them. If they’re lazy like me and often bulk delete they may see it the second time and respond. Maybe not straight away though. Leave it a while x" THIS! | |||
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"As many profiles get inundated with possibly hundreds of messages, how many times would it be acceptable to message the same profile. As it’s hard to tell if you’ve just been ignored or it’s got lost in the ether that is their inbox?" That’s why I stopped messaging and just wink. Make it clear in my profile I don’t message for this very reason, and let winks do the work | |||
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"I’d say twice if you really liked them. If they’re lazy like me and often bulk delete they may see it the second time and respond. Maybe not straight away though. Leave it a while x" I’ll send my amazing work of art message to you again then shall I? | |||
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"As many profiles get inundated with possibly hundreds of messages, how many times would it be acceptable to message the same profile. As it’s hard to tell if you’ve just been ignored or it’s got lost in the ether that is their inbox? That’s why I stopped messaging and just wink. Make it clear in my profile I don’t message for this very reason, and let winks do the work" See I never look at those. I keep thinking maybe I will though. But then I forget | |||
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"I’d say twice if you really liked them. If they’re lazy like me and often bulk delete they may see it the second time and respond. Maybe not straight away though. Leave it a while x I’ll send my amazing work of art message to you again then shall I? " Haha I do skim for messages from folk I know. Although I may miss them sometimes | |||
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"The classic dilemma for the single man this, isn’t it? The standard advice is no reply means not interested. But then some ladies / couples get inundated and can’t read every message they get. If it’s deleted - then the message is clear, not interested. But unread? Have they seen it and ignored it? Or simply missed it? Repeatedly messaging is frowned upon obviously, but what if they just haven’t seen your message? Ooh what to do!? Bookmarking " I think it's a bit of a fallacy that most ladies and couples get so many messages they can't deal with. Some profiles yes absolutely but for me personally I delete a message or leave it unread because I can't be bothered to deal with it or reply or I don't want to. It's not because I get too many I can't and don't see them. | |||
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"The classic dilemma for the single man this, isn’t it? The standard advice is no reply means not interested. But then some ladies / couples get inundated and can’t read every message they get. If it’s deleted - then the message is clear, not interested. But unread? Have they seen it and ignored it? Or simply missed it? Repeatedly messaging is frowned upon obviously, but what if they just haven’t seen your message? Ooh what to do!? Bookmarking I think it's a bit of a fallacy that most ladies and couples get so many messages they can't deal with. Some profiles yes absolutely but for me personally I delete a message or leave it unread because I can't be bothered to deal with it or reply or I don't want to. It's not because I get too many I can't and don't see them. " Do you feel that by purposely leaving it unread yoir making it hard for guts to decipher what’s happened? A deleted message is a clear “no Thankyou” Unopened leaves room for other possibilities If you delete it and that message again, they are completely in the wrong If it’s unopened, I can see why they might assume it’s been missed and message again Do we all want to be as clear as possible with our intentions on here? Or no? | |||
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"The classic dilemma for the single man this, isn’t it? The standard advice is no reply means not interested. But then some ladies / couples get inundated and can’t read every message they get. If it’s deleted - then the message is clear, not interested. But unread? Have they seen it and ignored it? Or simply missed it? Repeatedly messaging is frowned upon obviously, but what if they just haven’t seen your message? Ooh what to do!? Bookmarking I think it's a bit of a fallacy that most ladies and couples get so many messages they can't deal with. Some profiles yes absolutely but for me personally I delete a message or leave it unread because I can't be bothered to deal with it or reply or I don't want to. It's not because I get too many I can't and don't see them. Do you feel that by purposely leaving it unread yoir making it hard for guts to decipher what’s happened? A deleted message is a clear “no Thankyou” Unopened leaves room for other possibilities If you delete it and that message again, they are completely in the wrong If it’s unopened, I can see why they might assume it’s been missed and message again Do we all want to be as clear as possible with our intentions on here? Or no? " Not at all as I have no obligation to read any messages and how I manage my account and my inbox is on me. | |||
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"I would suggest to give it a week or so and send one further message, but would also include something along the lines of ‘just in case my last message got missed…’ No more messages after that though If your message has been read and deleted, definitely don’t bother messaging again " ^ this. Close the thread! | |||
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"I don’t message as I don’t want my PM’s shared on 3rd party messaging platforms " The off site Kik and Telegram groups? Wise. Very wise! | |||
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"I don’t message as I don’t want my PM’s shared on 3rd party messaging platforms The off site Kik and Telegram groups? Wise. Very wise! " ^^ this | |||
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"The classic dilemma for the single man this, isn’t it? The standard advice is no reply means not interested. But then some ladies / couples get inundated and can’t read every message they get. If it’s deleted - then the message is clear, not interested. But unread? Have they seen it and ignored it? Or simply missed it? Repeatedly messaging is frowned upon obviously, but what if they just haven’t seen your message? Ooh what to do!? Bookmarking I think it's a bit of a fallacy that most ladies and couples get so many messages they can't deal with. Some profiles yes absolutely but for me personally I delete a message or leave it unread because I can't be bothered to deal with it or reply or I don't want to. It's not because I get too many I can't and don't see them. Do you feel that by purposely leaving it unread yoir making it hard for guts to decipher what’s happened? A deleted message is a clear “no Thankyou” Unopened leaves room for other possibilities If you delete it and that message again, they are completely in the wrong If it’s unopened, I can see why they might assume it’s been missed and message again Do we all want to be as clear as possible with our intentions on here? Or no? Not at all as I have no obligation to read any messages and how I manage my account and my inbox is on me. " We have no obligation to anything really. No one is obligated to be polite on here, but we would hope so I’d hope people are clear with their intentions on here. And purposely not deleting a message you’ve seen but aren’t interested in is making those intentions less clear Much like being polite, I think being clear on intentions makes the site better, so I try to do that. | |||
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"I would suggest to give it a week or so and send one further message, but would also include something along the lines of ‘just in case my last message got missed…’ No more messages after that though If your message has been read and deleted, definitely don’t bother messaging again ^ this. Close the thread! " I give good advice! | |||
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"I would suggest to give it a week or so and send one further message, but would also include something along the lines of ‘just in case my last message got missed…’ No more messages after that though If your message has been read and deleted, definitely don’t bother messaging again " This seems really sensible to be. Ive had some guys send strings of messages. 6+ sometimes. Sometimes in quite short spans of time too, getting more and more frustrated despite the fact i wasn't even online at the time. It just comes across as pushy. | |||
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"The classic dilemma for the single man this, isn’t it? The standard advice is no reply means not interested. But then some ladies / couples get inundated and can’t read every message they get. If it’s deleted - then the message is clear, not interested. But unread? Have they seen it and ignored it? Or simply missed it? Repeatedly messaging is frowned upon obviously, but what if they just haven’t seen your message? Ooh what to do!? Bookmarking I think it's a bit of a fallacy that most ladies and couples get so many messages they can't deal with. Some profiles yes absolutely but for me personally I delete a message or leave it unread because I can't be bothered to deal with it or reply or I don't want to. It's not because I get too many I can't and don't see them. " Me too! I could easily read them all, and probably reply. I just can't be arsed. | |||
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"I would suggest to give it a week or so and send one further message, but would also include something along the lines of ‘just in case my last message got missed…’ No more messages after that though If your message has been read and deleted, definitely don’t bother messaging again This seems really sensible to be. Ive had some guys send strings of messages. 6+ sometimes. Sometimes in quite short spans of time too, getting more and more frustrated despite the fact i wasn't even online at the time. It just comes across as pushy. " Yeah, same. I never mind one message and a follow up a while later, but it’s when they send multiple strings of messages or seem to be watching and waiting for you to read their messages and send another one straight away when you don’t reply - then they get a nice block instead | |||
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"As many profiles get inundated with possibly hundreds of messages, how many times would it be acceptable to message the same profile. As it’s hard to tell if you’ve just been ignored or it’s got lost in the ether that is their inbox?" If I do t want the message or person messaging I block them.. I get a lot max limits amounts so I miss some and it's not personal sometimes it's one line messages from a lot of one line people so I bulk delete rather than individual delete. So I'd say message again | |||
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"Couple of times , make it a decent message that stands out as well. Once you've got a ridiculous amount of message sat unread it's easier to delete and start again so most of the time it's not intentional to ignore people " Exactly this | |||
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"I messaged someone last night and according to their profile they had messaged me 7 months ago I would say situations are changing all the time" Damn… only 3 months ago | |||
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"I would suggest to give it a week or so and send one further message, but would also include something along the lines of ‘just in case my last message got missed…’ No more messages after that though If your message has been read and deleted, definitely don’t bother messaging again " Defined this. | |||
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"I’d say twice if you really liked them. If they’re lazy like me and often bulk delete they may see it the second time and respond. Maybe not straight away though. Leave it a while x" This as one of ladies I message who lives miles away she often bulk deletes and puts the bulk delete in her status, I am thankful for her replying when my message gets read, even if she is busy with hundreds more | |||
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" Me too! I could easily read them all, and probably reply. I just can't be arsed. " Not funny.... maybe a bit. | |||
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"As many profiles get inundated with possibly hundreds of messages, how many times would it be acceptable to message the same profile. As it’s hard to tell if you’ve just been ignored or it’s got lost in the ether that is their inbox?" What? I'm supposed to message them????? | |||
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"As many profiles get inundated with possibly hundreds of messages, how many times would it be acceptable to message the same profile. As it’s hard to tell if you’ve just been ignored or it’s got lost in the ether that is their inbox?" Someone sent us a message the other week asking to meet, despite the contents of the first paragraph in our profile. A few other similar messages from others followed. I put a status up asking if we'd accidentally used invisible ink in our profile text. The first guy then messaged again to apologise for not reading our profile. He's message twice since. We've never replied. So I'd say message once. No reply doesn't change that. Message again and run the risk of pissing someone off. A | |||
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"As many profiles get inundated with possibly hundreds of messages, how many times would it be acceptable to message the same profile. As it’s hard to tell if you’ve just been ignored or it’s got lost in the ether that is their inbox? That’s why I stopped messaging and just wink. Make it clear in my profile I don’t message for this very reason, and let winks do the work See I never look at those. I keep thinking maybe I will though. But then I forget " Nope never look at winks or friends requests | |||
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