FabSwingers.com forum: Ageing and Fabs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever feel that Fabs didn’t ever intend to impose an arbitrary shelf life, or “best before” date on potential interactions, but the filters, kind of, actually do, in practice?

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By *orthmanMan
over a year ago

Kendal

Wait until you hit 60!

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By *exy Ruby 100 300Couple
over a year ago

unknown

Age is only a number lol no use worrying over labels you are what you are .Some want older some younger.some age dosnt matter most lie about there age anyway so who cares R x

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i agree age is just a number,,

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By *espacito56Man
over a year ago

Orkney

"i agree age is just a number,,"

Not to most ladies on fab it isn't

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

You don't need to tell me that buddy

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By *milingeyesWoman
over a year ago

mickeymousetown

Mine is set so I don't want any involvement with ppl the same ages as my kids ... Not my cuppa tea

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

as we grow older our options in certain areas become more limited.

It's possible to filter searches by people who are looking for people of your age, if you do that your experience might be improved.

It's interesting that a lot of younger men complain that their age is against them too

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People want what they want. And ages in earth years arw universally accepted

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"as we grow older our options in certain areas become more limited.

It's possible to filter searches by people who are looking for people of your age, if you do that your experience might be improved.

It's interesting that a lot of younger men complain that their age is against them too"

Women are just picky, innit

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By *orthmanMan
over a year ago

Kendal

"as we grow older our options in certain areas become more limited.

It's possible to filter searches by people who are looking for people of your age, if you do that your experience might be improved.

It's interesting that a lot of younger men complain that their age is against them too"

There's a Goldilocks Zone.My porridge is definitely too cold to be consumed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"as we grow older our options in certain areas become more limited.

It's possible to filter searches by people who are looking for people of your age, if you do that your experience might be improved.

It's interesting that a lot of younger men complain that their age is against them too

Women are just picky, innit

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Do you ever feel that Fabs didn’t ever intend to impose an arbitrary shelf life, or “best before” date on potential interactions, but the filters, kind of, actually do, in practice?"

I fully understand your frustration but I don't know why you feel that a design feature of the site is working in a way that wasn't intended?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"as we grow older our options in certain areas become more limited.

It's possible to filter searches by people who are looking for people of your age, if you do that your experience might be improved.

It's interesting that a lot of younger men complain that their age is against them too

There's a Goldilocks Zone.My porridge is definitely too cold to be consumed."

do you meet many women in 'real' life?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The age old myth of old age being a hindrance on here.

It's only an issue if you make it one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel that Fabs didn’t ever intend to impose an arbitrary shelf life, or “best before” date on potential interactions, but the filters, kind of, actually do, in practice?

I fully understand your frustration but I don't know why you feel that a design feature of the site is working in a way that wasn't intended?"

I’m not frustrated, or applying a judgment, just making an observation, really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel that Fabs didn’t ever intend to impose an arbitrary shelf life, or “best before” date on potential interactions, but the filters, kind of, actually do, in practice?"

Fab doesn't impose a shelf life or a best before date

Women using their filters is nothing to do fab or how the site is run

If women have age preferences then that's there prerogative and they're more than within they're right to

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It's not the site that's done it. It's the users.

What's the alternative? Not letting people see who they may or may not want to have sex with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not the site that's done it. It's the users.

What's the alternative? Not letting people see who they may or may not want to have sex with? "

Women on here are not allowed to have preferences remember

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Wait until you hit 60!"
wait till you hit 66!!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"It's not the site that's done it. It's the users.

What's the alternative? Not letting people see who they may or may not want to have sex with?

Women on here are not allowed to have preferences remember "

Sorry. My mistake.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"i agree age is just a number,,"
I must just be fugly then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find as I age I get more confident and less worried about what people think

So with age I get better

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

When I was a teenager I thought people of my age now were sitting in God's waiting (No, not Hastings

) where sex was almost non-existent.

When I was in my 30s people of my age now were coasting down to retirement when their only physical activity would be working in the potting shed and "sex" was a big bag the Irish put potatoes in.

When I was 50 there seemed to be some benefits to aging as retired folks seemed chilled and happy. I started to wonder if my earlier perceptions had been off course as there was a hint that sex had not stopped 40 years before.

Now I am 65 I realise interest in sex is only marginally reduced, ability to get it up and get going is still great, experience has brought knowledge and confidence whilst the frantic pounding of my youth has reduced and, best of all, I have time in which to indulge my interests without work, kids, money worries and time constraints getting in the way.

Carpe Diem mature guys Tempus fugits!

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By *j123499Man
over a year ago

exeter

"Age is only a number lol no use worrying over labels you are what you are .Some want older some younger.some age dosnt matter most lie about there age anyway so who cares R x"

maybe that’s where I’m going wrong on my profile using my correct details really should update it will consider more along the lines of filling out at CV

haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m glad that people have contributed. It’s been very interesting. I’m not complaining that I’m not getting sex because I’m ageing. Rather, I was interested in how people feel about their sexuality, as we are all living longer, and being sexually active for longer. How will this affect our preferences for who we interact with, and how might this be reflected on Fabs?

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

"Wait until you hit 60!wait till you hit 66!!

Or in my case 82

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i agree age is just a number,,

Not to most ladies on fab it isn't"

Age is just a filter ?

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I'm in my 40s and to be honest, think I'm enjoying life now more than I did when I was in my 20s. I'm not sure if it's because I'm getting old so I'm on borrowed time or that I just don't care about the little things that I enjoy life more perhaps

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's useful to realise that opportunities as far as meeting someone goes are going to compare to the 'real' world. The number of people interested in me sexually diminishes as the decades roll past, I understand and accept that. Added to that there's a sizable proportion of men in my age group who if faced with the happy choice of me and a woman twenty years my junior (all else being equal) would choose the younger woman, I don't blame them.

I opt to work with what's available to me (most people who want to meet us are fifties upwards) and not be too concerned by what isn't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm in my 40s and to be honest, think I'm enjoying life now more than I did when I was in my 20s. I'm not sure if it's because I'm getting old so I'm on borrowed time or that I just don't care about the little things that I enjoy life more perhaps "

Borrowed time! At 40!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number to me. If someone is sexy I will want to have sex with them whether they are 18 or 99

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

There's a goth barmaid at my favourite watering hole...I made a guess at her age being in the twenties....she's actually 46 ...wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's a sweet spot before you fall out of a lot of age ranges and there will be some looking for that age but not loads, and then out of that small pool, they still have to find you attractive enough to meet. It can be tough, but keep your chin up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's useful to realise that opportunities as far as meeting someone goes are going to compare to the 'real' world. The number of people interested in me sexually diminishes as the decades roll past, I understand and accept that. Added to that there's a sizable proportion of men in my age group who if faced with the happy choice of me and a woman twenty years my junior (all else being equal) would choose the younger woman, I don't blame them.

I opt to work with what's available to me (most people who want to meet us are fifties upwards) and not be too concerned by what isn't. "

This is it!

Men always complain about 'age only being a number' but then are only interested in meeting younger women when there are PLENTY of women/couples around the same age as them whose age range they fit into

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Age is only a number lol no use worrying over labels you are what you are .Some want older some younger.some age dosnt matter most lie about there age anyway so who cares R x"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters are set by the profile holder, not the site. Preferences and all that....

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

There's only one lady my age within sensible driving distance...who's not chasing round after younger guys ...like the rest of the nearby 55 to 58 year olds..who seem to have stayed 55 to 58 for quite a long time lol

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Filters are set by the profile holder, not the site. Preferences and all that...."
absolutely ..that's their choice

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I prefer ladies around my own age. You're going to want to chat after any meet, and you'll need something in common

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By *estless nativeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

"Do you ever feel that Fabs didn’t ever intend to impose an arbitrary shelf life, or “best before” date on potential interactions, but the filters, kind of, actually do, in practice?"

Was laughing to myself about this last week when I turned 51 and dropped out of many profiles age ranges

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Do you ever feel that Fabs didn’t ever intend to impose an arbitrary shelf life, or “best before” date on potential interactions, but the filters, kind of, actually do, in practice?

Was laughing to myself about this last week when I turned 51 and dropped out of many profiles age ranges

Looking forward to my next birthday then

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Out of interest did you gents get many meets prior to falling out of age ranges?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I definitely saw the drop off post 55..doubt if I was here before I was 50

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I definitely saw the drop off post 55..doubt if I was here before I was 50

I know it's different for couples but we have less interest since I hit 65.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

It puzzles me why people bother to look at me when I'm obviously outside their age limit..my age comes up on the profile...then they look ...then nothing else happens..I must be dead ugly ..or dead ..lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It puzzles me why people bother to look at me when I'm obviously outside their age limit..my age comes up on the profile...then they look ...then nothing else happens..I must be dead ugly ..or dead ..lol

No it's because from a distance your avatar looks like a man with a white beard sticking his tongue out

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

No it's because from a distance your avatar looks like a man with a white beard sticking his tongue out

"
Do you think that will attract the ladies

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No it's because from a distance your avatar looks like a man with a white beard sticking his tongue out

Do you think that will attract the ladies

I'm positive it will.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

No it's because from a distance your avatar looks like a man with a white beard sticking his tongue out

Do you think that will attract the ladies

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Perhaps I should go fully gandalf

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