FabSwingers.com forum: On the rebound?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it wise to jump under someone to get over someone? Or should you take your time?

Also what is a rebound relationship?

Aaaaand? How long is the standard time between breaking up and getting in bed with the next person to actually call it a rebound? A week? A month? Is 6minths down the line after a 3yr rocky relationship classed as a rebound?

Just interested in opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your heart

After 25 weeks.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes if you can do so with no emotional entanglement at all. Otherwise it will just feel like another breakup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationship are different to swinging ?? I'd say get in the saddle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relate suggest that it takes a year to get over a long term relationship and, whilst not suggesting don't have fun, say it's best to give yourself time between relationships. If you jump in too quickly then the baggage from the old relationship comes into your new one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no

Yes if you can separate emshoins and stuff and just have a good time

Get under 3-4-5-6-7 different people

No if you can’t as you probably will not make the best choices and your flag system could be a bit off and maybe not regester something till it’s to late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends how it went down.

If it was volatile, perhaps some introspection is due, rather than completely blaming the other person.

I find if that's the case, then having your own time and solitude is a positive thing & perhaps helpful in breaking a pattern.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes if you can do so with no emotional entanglement at all. Otherwise it will just feel like another breakup"

No emotion is impossible for me. I cry when I have a coffee. Either with tears of joy or because of shear sadness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Relate suggest that it takes a year to get over a long term relationship and, whilst not suggesting don't have fun, say it's best to give yourself time between relationships. If you jump in too quickly then the baggage from the old relationship comes into your new one!

So I should have hooked up with a new birds a few year ago. Brilliant, so even my best rebound days have been and gone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Relationship are different to swinging ?? I'd say get in the saddle! "

I just need someone to mount…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think so yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not dennis rodman

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By *chooloffilthWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

One should abstain from mounting another for precisely 27 minutes for each year of the relationship ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think so yes."

Do you like going on top?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im not dennis rodman "

There’s only one Dennis Rodman

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One should abstain from mounting another for precisely 27 minutes for each year of the relationship ??"

I couple of days…got it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think so yes.

Do you like going on top?

That seems like effort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think so yes.

Do you like going on top?

That seems like effort. "

We can swap when you get bored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think so yes.

Do you like going on top?

That seems like effort.

We can swap when you get bored. "

So, after about 5seconds?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think so yes.

Do you like going on top?

That seems like effort.

We can swap when you get bored.

So, after about 5seconds? "

Sure. If that’s how long it takes you to read a paragraph from your book. (I didn’t expect you to be looking at me you see…)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not dennis rodman

There’s only one Dennis Rodman

"
this is true

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

My last relationship ended about 2 years ago.

Still haven't got over her and still struggle to fully move on.

In terms of finding something new and fun, getting back in the saddle. We'll its not through lack of trying, it just hasn't happened yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't even think about other guys for a full year after my LTR ended. My ex started dating after 3 weeks.

We're all different. I'm glad I spent the time exploring why it ended and being alone.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I broke up with a fella and within a week I was back on fab. He left me and I have needs like everyone else. In 10 days I was under another (faber) did me the world of good , but everyone’s different x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I couldn't even think about other guys for a full year after my LTR ended. My ex started dating after 3 weeks.

We're all different. I'm glad I spent the time exploring why it ended and being alone. "

Sounds familiar. ….

And I still can’t think about other guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationship are different to swinging ?? I'd say get in the saddle!

I just need someone to mount…

How hard are you looking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Relationship are different to swinging ?? I'd say get in the saddle!

I just need someone to mount…

How hard are you looking

Very hard. It’s always hard when I look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldn't even think about other guys for a full year after my LTR ended. My ex started dating after 3 weeks.

We're all different. I'm glad I spent the time exploring why it ended and being alone. "

This was me too! Didn’t start going on dates until almost a year after and I’d say it was a good 15 months before I felt fully over him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldn't even think about other guys for a full year after my LTR ended. My ex started dating after 3 weeks.

We're all different. I'm glad I spent the time exploring why it ended and being alone.

Sounds familiar. ….

And I still can’t think about other guys. "

I still can't think about being mounted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I couldn't even think about other guys for a full year after my LTR ended. My ex started dating after 3 weeks.

We're all different. I'm glad I spent the time exploring why it ended and being alone.

Sounds familiar. ….

And I still can’t think about other guys.

I still can't think about being mounted

It’s not my most proud line if I’m being honest, it was early

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationship are different to swinging ?? I'd say get in the saddle!

I just need someone to mount…

How hard are you looking

Very hard. It’s always hard when I look.

I'm rebounding

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By *hroatitboyMan
over a year ago

GLA

Sometimes just a deflection from the reality. And doesn’t always make you feel better.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Make clear boundaries, between relationships as well as for others to respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldn't even think about other guys for a full year after my LTR ended. My ex started dating after 3 weeks.

We're all different. I'm glad I spent the time exploring why it ended and being alone.

Sounds familiar. ….

And I still can’t think about other guys.

I still can't think about being mounted

It’s not my most proud line if I’m being honest, it was early

Forgiven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t they say one month for every year together to get over someone completely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost been 18 months since my last LTR and I'm still not fully over her if I was being completely honest. Sleeping with others hasn't helped..much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A rebound relationship is getting into a new relationship when you really still want to be in the ex relationship but can't for whatever reason.

That's different from just banging someone.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No. I’m usually too sad for all that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A rebound relationship is getting into a new relationship when you really still want to be in the ex relationship but can't for whatever reason.

That's different from just banging someone. "

That’s it. I think I just want to bang and bounce

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

So for at least...until tomorrow....I'm never gonna fall in love again

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Beware ..I've gone all out flirt

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