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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone not go to clubs and just have private meets?

Or have you been to a club and decided it's not for you?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I haven't been but I would give it a go its just not feasible to me at the moment. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like the idea of being leered at by guys I have no interest in.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Not been since I was 16. I found it pretty boring to be honest

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I dont use clubs, I am just after private meets at my place or theirs - if they travel or accommodate of course

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Went to a club a few yrs back ...think temptress quite liked it but wasnt my cup of tea .....reminded me of the film The Birds lol all the single guys sitting on their perch staring constantly then getting followed about everywhere we went lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally meet in clubs, but exceptional people then get invited round for more private fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been to Chams 7 times and played once. If nobody takes my fancy then I am happy to go without. But I am starting to think that clubs aren't really for me, I like the social aspect but prefer 1:1 or 1:2 private meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do both. Never been followed around at a club. We usually go to pleasures. Great relaxed n friendly place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We do both. Never been followed around at a club. We usually go to pleasures. Great relaxed n friendly place."

Pleasures was the first club I ever went to and I think it's still my favourite. Nice people and nice place.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Tried clubs but found they are just not for us at all.

Only meet privately now either 1-2-1 or at small house parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't attend any clubs, i get invited and assured that would have a great time.....maybe one day....

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I certainly prefer intimate one to ones by far, but I do use a local club and have had some great meets there as well.... on one occasion me and a regular lady met there mid-week unaware it was TV/CD night we had a great laugh and met some lovely people but we did lock oureselves in the private room when it came to our appointed assignation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

part of me really wants to try it but my own insecurities regarding my looks holds me back.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

prefer club meets but on couples & single female nights only, not into being followed around by a large group of men. Experienced it once and never again, although the guy I was with, made it bearable and a laugh.

My home is for my furbabies and so many people dont like cats and I'm not throwing them out for anyone

Had hotel meets and will go back to someones place if I have got to know them and I trust them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (lo ve) clubs :D

Admitted Im not a greedy girl so I will usually select my 'victim' & take it into a private room.

Once or twice Ive used open rooms but then when in numbers and with someone keeping an eye out so as no-one uninvited does something I dont want.

I dont actually have sex in open rooms but have played in couples rooms before

Ive been to clubs much more than Ive played with others, I take it each visit at a time.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think my preference now would be to meet in clubs

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"part of me really wants to try it but my own insecurities regarding my looks holds me back."

From what I've seen at clubs ladies of all sizes prove popular. One as beautiful as you would be very popular I'm certain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tried clubs but found they are just not for us at all.

Only meet privately now either 1-2-1 or at small house parties."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to try clubs got the social side ...

I like to meet and mingle.

Not sure how comfortable I would be in an open play room, but private rooms would definitely have the thumbs up

Have _iewed the flock of single guys ghosting around a club, which would put many off, but many clubs do now have a restriction on the number of single guys they permit of an evening, which would make many feel more relaxed

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It feels safer to meet at clubs when I don't really know people. It's not always a success but when it is I love it. One to one meets are also very good but as I don't accommodate and so many men seem to think that is my responsibility I tend to go to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Going to go with my male pal at some point. On a couples night though. The thought of loads of blokes following us around puts me off.

Thanks for all the replies. I'm glad I'm not the only one that hasn't been/ doesn't go. Had a chat with some club regulars recently and I felt like a bit of a virginal pleb as they'd been everywhere and seen and done everything. I just sat there quietly, looking at the floor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont use clubs, I am just after private meets at my place or theirs - if they travel or accommodate of course"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer clubs as we can, have fun or just enjoy ourselves or watch, so many options. Men do follow you (well Tor) around, but, I don't think Tor minds as she's a bit of a show off. If you ever want respite we just sit down or go to jacuzzi and if you say no thanks 99% of people are fine.

Jx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i love clubs for the social side... but do fully understand why some people don't as i have seen following happening and to be honest I can see why people do find it intimidating...

we do tell people that if you get people doing the following thing.. tell staff..

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I enjoy going to clubs very much. I never get followed or bothered by single men (I must scare them) and am much more likely to get some sexy fun than on a one on one meet, where I am relying on the person actually turning up.

If I go to a club and someone doesn't turn up, there are plenty of others to play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't think I would like a club but we went to infusions in blackpool a few weeks ago and i loved it. Was couples night tho so no single guys in.

Tbh I think its prob the way forward for us as I am getting sick of organsing meets and then being let down.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"part of me really wants to try it but my own insecurities regarding my looks holds me back.

From what I've seen at clubs ladies of all sizes prove popular. One as beautiful as you would be very popular I'm certain "

i would attend a BBW night only if i went.. least i know there are men who like the larger framed woman

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I am not a fan of Chams even though it seems to be one of the most popular in the West Midlands.

I really like private parties, from say 6 to 25 or so people. Plenty of socialising and other opportunities... and lots of people to choose from.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"part of me really wants to try it but my own insecurities regarding my looks holds me back.

From what I've seen at clubs ladies of all sizes prove popular. One as beautiful as you would be very popular I'm certain

i would attend a BBW night only if i went.. least i know there are men who like the larger framed woman "

I have seen every shape and size at a club. The people who have fun are the ones who are confident and happy to be there. Don't forget, you may not fancy any of them.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I am not a fan of Chams even though it seems to be one of the most popular in the West Midlands.

I really like private parties, from say 6 to 25 or so people. Plenty of socialising and other opportunities... and lots of people to choose from. "

Parties seem harder to get into though.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I am not a fan of Chams even though it seems to be one of the most popular in the West Midlands.

I really like private parties, from say 6 to 25 or so people. Plenty of socialising and other opportunities... and lots of people to choose from.

Parties seem harder to get into though."

And there are not many around either, unless I don't know of the newsletter going around everyone else.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I am not a fan of Chams even though it seems to be one of the most popular in the West Midlands.

I really like private parties, from say 6 to 25 or so people. Plenty of socialising and other opportunities... and lots of people to choose from.

Parties seem harder to get into though."
Agreed - and it does seem once you are "on the list" you then get invites from other people who attended the same party. Fancy a move over to the Midlands?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I am not a fan of Chams even though it seems to be one of the most popular in the West Midlands.

I really like private parties, from say 6 to 25 or so people. Plenty of socialising and other opportunities... and lots of people to choose from.

Parties seem harder to get into though.

And there are not many around either, unless I don't know of the newsletter going around everyone else."
You too, consider moving south-west

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I am not a fan of Chams even though it seems to be one of the most popular in the West Midlands.

I really like private parties, from say 6 to 25 or so people. Plenty of socialising and other opportunities... and lots of people to choose from.

Parties seem harder to get into though.

And there are not many around either, unless I don't know of the newsletter going around everyone else.You too, consider moving south-west "

Probably cheaper just to stick to my local club.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"part of me really wants to try it but my own insecurities regarding my looks holds me back.

From what I've seen at clubs ladies of all sizes prove popular. One as beautiful as you would be very popular I'm certain

i would attend a BBW night only if i went.. least i know there are men who like the larger framed woman "

That's how I felt at first (and BBW nights ARE fun) but even on a regular night, there are bigger women and plenty of men who admire them. What you have to remember is that many men love women of ALL shapes and sizes and don't necessarily go to BBW nights because it limits them to just one type of woman.

I think if you go to a club with the mindset that it's going to be a fun, social event at an 'alternative' venue then you'll feel less pressure. You really don't have to meet any kind of standard regarding your body and you aren't expected to play. If you go with no expectations, then any fun you DO have is a bonus

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"part of me really wants to try it but my own insecurities regarding my looks holds me back.

From what I've seen at clubs ladies of all sizes prove popular. One as beautiful as you would be very popular I'm certain

i would attend a BBW night only if i went.. least i know there are men who like the larger framed woman

That's how I felt at first (and BBW nights ARE fun) but even on a regular night, there are bigger women and plenty of men who admire them. What you have to remember is that many men love women of ALL shapes and sizes and don't necessarily go to BBW nights because it limits them to just one type of woman.

I think if you go to a club with the mindset that it's going to be a fun, social event at an 'alternative' venue then you'll feel less pressure. You really don't have to meet any kind of standard regarding your body and you aren't expected to play. If you go with no expectations, then any fun you DO have is a bonus "

That is exactly how I _iew it - go for an evening out with no expectations of sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (lo ve) clubs :D

Admitted Im not a greedy girl so I will usually select my 'victim' & take it into a private room.

Once or twice Ive used open rooms but then when in numbers and with someone keeping an eye out so as no-one uninvited does something I dont want.

I dont actually have sex in open rooms but have played in couples rooms before

Ive been to clubs much more than Ive played with others, I take it each visit at a time. "

Take it to a room that made me laugh

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"part of me really wants to try it but my own insecurities regarding my looks holds me back.

From what I've seen at clubs ladies of all sizes prove popular. One as beautiful as you would be very popular I'm certain

i would attend a BBW night only if i went.. least i know there are men who like the larger framed woman

That's how I felt at first (and BBW nights ARE fun) but even on a regular night, there are bigger women and plenty of men who admire them. What you have to remember is that many men love women of ALL shapes and sizes and don't necessarily go to BBW nights because it limits them to just one type of woman.

I think if you go to a club with the mindset that it's going to be a fun, social event at an 'alternative' venue then you'll feel less pressure. You really don't have to meet any kind of standard regarding your body and you aren't expected to play. If you go with no expectations, then any fun you DO have is a bonus

That is exactly how I _iew it - go for an evening out with no expectations of sex."

Tbh I never expect anything as in the past great expectations were more likely to result in disappointment. I just expect to meet some people, that s all really. Anything else is a bonus and that concept really works for me.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

We probably hit the wrong club on the wrong nite for our first visit to a club would maybe have been a better experience goin on a cpls nite ....

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I only go to fetish clubs these days, I am bored with swingers clubs....

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I only go to fetish clubs these days, I am bored with swingers clubs...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't possibly go to a club now

After chatting so much to you fine people, it'd feel like gettin me knob out at a family get-together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we cant seem to get private meets so clubs is our choice

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"I am not a fan of Chams even though it seems to be one of the most popular in the West Midlands.

I really like private parties, from say 6 to 25 or so people. Plenty of socialising and other opportunities... and lots of people to choose from. "

I love parties too - what's this "choose from" mean Aphro? I just tend to line 'em up and welcome 'em in

Seriously though, I attended my first party in May and have become real good friends with the hosts and have had invites to other parties from other attendees as well as some 1:1 meets. Will be attending a 2 night shag fest next weekend as my last blowout before my operation, so watch out guys and gals I'll need to store up some good memories to see me thru my enforced celibacy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've twice visited a club but decided it is not my scene, the second time I couldn't wait to get out and get back home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never been to a club and highly doubt we ever will. I'm not into stranger sex or being on show. I just get impression it's a meat market and really have no desire to be part of the enviorment. Maybe I'm wrong but just not interested.

I love being centre of attention so much prefer a private meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the thought of no women taken an interest in me? that's y I won't go 2 a " club " & b-sides, I woodn't no any-1 @ these clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been to a club, been asked to go a few times, but I think I'd feel intimidated walking around with my wobbly bits on show, I have body confidence issues anyway, without having people gawping at me, I prefer 1 on 1 or maybe 2 on 1, I like the intimacy and passion that brings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been to a club, been asked to go a few times, but I think I'd feel intimidated walking around with my wobbly bits on show, I have body confidence issues anyway, without having people gawping at me, I prefer 1 on 1 or maybe 2 on 1, I like the intimacy and passion that brings."

Their's nuffing rong with u, darling, x.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Does anyone not go to clubs and just have private meets?

Or have you been to a club and decided it's not for you?"

I've been a few times and it's been fab.

I don't go, however, alone... just to be seen by some as a pussy-chasing perv... I've seen them. They do exist.

I'll not be lumped in with them.

If a sexy couple choose to invite me to go with them or a sexy lady would like to buddy-upto go with me then I'd say yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've not yet met outside of a club environment. The joy of that being that you can pick and choose who you play with, if at all.

As for comments about all shapes and sizes, and ages, they are perfectly true and we embrace the concept whole heartedly

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