FabSwingers.com forum: When making profiles...

By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Best thing to do is make them short and sweet and to the point of what you are actually looking for on fab...

I've came across several this last while of essays which to me is ridiculous...

People don't wanna hear the 101 things your gonna do to them in your bio make it a topic of conversation when yous get chatting....talk to them as you would a complete stranger and with respect it goes along way...

Anyone any inputs that may help others when setting up a profile whether it as a single person or couple profile ...??

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Be hot

Don’t be not hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree.. Short +sweet.. A little intrigue, lots of conversations openers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like my essay.

People can choose whether to read it or not.

It works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I like a profile with a bit of body. Make an effort to show your willing to put in an effort to be here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there's anything wrong with having a little detail, room to define your traits and demonstrate desires.

It's always a case of horses for different tracks that suit them best... or something along those lines. Brevity is the soul of making a good joke that really hits home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely a profile is as succinct or verbose as needs to be, reflecting the interests and personality (personalities, inclusiveness for schizophrenics) of that person .

Sure some are TLDR, but that’s the choice of the individual

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I like gapping fanny photos. Sucks me right in!

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

I re-wrote mine a few days ago. Its a difficult balance.

Obviously you need to include some details but trying to... not sound like a bell-end can be quite difficult!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Oh, come come. I'm rather pleased with my 'magnum opus'.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Anyone any inputs that may help others when setting up a profile whether it as a single person or couple profile ...??

Yep. Do what you want and let others do the same.

You want short? Go for it. If others want yo write essays? All good.

If people get bored when reading longer profiles then that tells a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best thing to do is make them short and sweet and to the point of what you are actually looking for on fab...

I've came across several this last while of essays which to me is ridiculous...

Anyone any inputs that may help others when setting up a profile whether it as a single person or couple profile ...??

Can I get the TLDR version of your profile op please and thanks

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Mine is quite long (and so is my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should be a 20 word limit on profile text. More sex less chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is short. Do I win fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually prefer a detailed profile!

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

"Should be a 20 word limit on profile text. More sex less chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine is short. Do I win fab?

Not short enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't think anyone should dictate what other people put on their profile.

If somebody specifically asks for advice I will give it other than that I just don't think it's my place. If someone's profile is not for me I just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine is short. Do I win fab?

Not short enough. "

Yours is WAY too long!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine is short. Do I win fab?

Not short enough.

Yours is WAY too long!

But I like the way hers tastes in my mouth

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By *ossageMonkeyCouple
over a year ago

rochdale

Yes . Try not to make them inconsistent . So many times you see things like looking for (MM ) and then below it says str8. Or looking for F and FF yet they approach an MF couple . If you cant manage to handle a profile , how on earth do you expect to manage handling a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine is short. Do I win fab?

Not short enough.

Yours is WAY too long!

But I like the way hers tastes in my mouth"

Hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes . Try not to make them inconsistent . So many times you see things like looking for (MM ) and then below it says str8. Or looking for F and FF yet they approach an MF couple . If you cant manage to handle a profile , how on earth do you expect to manage handling a partner "

Definitely a good point.

And if your sexuality evolves over time just make sure you check you've updated the changes throughout. There's a few tabs to remember but it's easy to miss something.

Simple enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile started out a short paragraph.

I've gone back and added or deleted here and there as I got comfortable sharing and as I maybe was asked something often enough.

It's an honest reflection of me and why I'm here, if they don't like it and have no interest in reading it, then they aren't interested in me beyond the pics of my ass and ultimately won't like me myself the human being. Helpful all the way around if they can decide that themselves before they waste their time texting me.

Anyone that starts an intro text by slagging off my profile gets binned for all of the above

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think profiles should be like newspaper articles, and I write mine accordingly. Most important at the top, least important at the bottom.

So if people want to keep reading my "essay" (if I return to having an essay), they can, but those who don't still get the most important points.

In my case: my filters are high. I'm not meeting. Some preferences. Some joking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think longer profiles are good especially if they explain their dynamic and what they are looking for

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Mine is normally significantly longer than it currently is, and works for me - the best filter I've found so far!

At the end of the day, Fabs is unique to every one of us on here, and profiles reflect how it works for each of us. You don't want to read an essay, move on to the next profile... simples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think profiles should be like newspaper articles, and I write mine accordingly. Most important at the top, least important at the bottom.

So if people want to keep reading my "essay" (if I return to having an essay), they can, but those who don't still get the most important points.

In my case: my filters are high. I'm not meeting. Some preferences. Some joking."

That's a smart way to go about it. I'm new and found this quite difficult to judge. So I decided to just be me. People can take it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My profile started out a short paragraph.

I've gone back and added or deleted here and there as I got comfortable sharing and as I maybe was asked something often enough.

Anyone that starts an intro text by slagging off my profile gets binned for all of the above

First off, your profile, so long, so wordy, much unnecessary.

Keep it simple, post code, availability and favourite monster munch. This is a sex site dontchaknow

jeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine is normally significantly longer than it currently is, and works for me - the best filter I've found so far!

At the end of the day, Fabs is unique to every one of us on here, and profiles reflect how it works for each of us. You don't want to read an essay, move on to the next profile... simples! "

But reading is le difficults.

Be more accommodating. So selfish. Honestly.

Have a good September though, we'll all be here when you get back, just more jumpery. Maybe scarfs too.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Do whatever makes you happy. Going to write a wankfest of pretension to rival Joyce? Great.

Want to put an enigmatic "?". Perfect. Maybe the sort of people who are compatible with you will ponder how interesting and vague you are and want to find out more.

Don't do a dreary fora identikit profile. You'll never please everyone so might as well make yourself happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do whatever makes you happy. Going to write a wankfest of pretension to rival Joyce? Great.

Want to put an enigmatic "?". Perfect. Maybe the sort of people who are compatible with you will ponder how interesting and vague you are and want to find out more.

Don't do a dreary fora identikit profile. You'll never please everyone so might as well make yourself happy."

I think we should all get you to write our profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine is short. Do I win fab?

Not short enough.

Yours is WAY too long!

But I like the way hers tastes in my mouth

Hot

It is. I can assure you

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I was thinking copy the genesis book and paste in my profile

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think profiles should be like newspaper articles, and I write mine accordingly. Most important at the top, least important at the bottom.

So if people want to keep reading my "essay" (if I return to having an essay), they can, but those who don't still get the most important points.

In my case: my filters are high. I'm not meeting. Some preferences. Some joking.

That's a smart way to go about it. I'm new and found this quite difficult to judge. So I decided to just be me. People can take it or leave it."

Absolutely.

The thing I've learned is that profiles help me get a sense of other people. So I try to make my profile (when meeting) informative, because it'll help those who read it.

The other thing I've learned is most people don't read full profiles, so put most pertinent information up front, and be prepared to repeat yourself.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Mine is normally significantly longer than it currently is, and works for me - the best filter I've found so far!

At the end of the day, Fabs is unique to every one of us on here, and profiles reflect how it works for each of us. You don't want to read an essay, move on to the next profile... simples!

But reading is le difficults.

Be more accommodating. So selfish. Honestly.

Have a good September though, we'll all be here when you get back, just more jumpery. Maybe scarfs too."

Ooooh scarfs! (Or is that scarves?) I do like a good scarf.

Now I have images of the delicious David Tennant in my head; wrapping me in his scarf... dammit man!!!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

What's the point in giving profile advice?

All you end up with is a site full of generic box-ticking profiles that should have a list of credits acknowledging everyone who contributed.

For every person who wants to read short profiles there are two who want more details.

For every profile that says no dick pics are three that insist on them.

No point creating a profile you can't stand over and maintain yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the point in giving profile advice?

All you end up with is a site full of generic box-ticking profiles that should have a list of credits acknowledging everyone who contributed.

For every person who wants to read short profiles there are two who want more details.

For every profile that says no dick pics are three that insist on them.

No point creating a profile you can't stand over and maintain yourself. "

Dude pull your trousers up, your profile pic makes you look like you don't know how to dress yourself.

Hope that helps.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What's the point in giving profile advice?

All you end up with is a site full of generic box-ticking profiles that should have a list of credits acknowledging everyone who contributed.

For every person who wants to read short profiles there are two who want more details.

For every profile that says no dick pics are three that insist on them.

No point creating a profile you can't stand over and maintain yourself. "

My advice is format specific, not telling people what to write

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Some profiles sound very aggressive and demanding. I prefer the more friendly and light hearted ones that don't rabbit on.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

"See I like a profile with a bit of body. Make an effort to show your willing to put in an effort to be here.

I’m the same.

Plus, not everyone is the same. Plenty of people do read longer profiles - I’ve had plenty of meets with guys who had clearly read mine (or couples who’d read my couples profile). So it works for me and others.

Those it doesn’t work for should just hit the back button, instead of expecting others to tailor their profiles to someone else’s likes.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"What's the point in giving profile advice?

All you end up with is a site full of generic box-ticking profiles that should have a list of credits acknowledging everyone who contributed.

For every person who wants to read short profiles there are two who want more details.

For every profile that says no dick pics are three that insist on them.

No point creating a profile you can't stand over and maintain yourself. "

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Indeed.

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By *oundbum69Man
over a year ago

orpington

Hasn't worked for me in the two years I've been here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hasn't worked for me in the two years I've been here"

Your single line is quite 'niche'

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By *lipandSlide777Couple
over a year ago

Bideford

We always read profile's, especially like ones we're people have put thought and effort with some humour.

It tells you alot about the person/couple.

Long or short it's upto the individual what they write and how much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid being negative and a big profile of don’ts.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Be hot

Don’t be not hot "

Eh, I pass over 'hot' profile all the time over people who are more interesting or I prefer their vibe.

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool

See... I dont think short and sweet -v- the essay makes an ounce of difference because a. Preferences vary. b. The volume of emails 'not men' recieve means it litterally doesn't matter anyway.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Fully tale onboard the advice of someone here and then message them demanding sex. If they refuse report them

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Whatever is put in the profile, people will claim to be able to do it anyway, so knock your socks off and put whatever you want. I quite like a list of quizzical riddles when I'm in a playful mindset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just try and write for the kind of man I'd like to meet. I might go rejig it.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

If a profile goes on and on and on, I'll move on. I don't need to know that much about someone who's just gonna delete my message without replying anyway. Save something to talk about later...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't reference Sydney University. Even if they did exist, they aren't interested in using your picture of a bellend hovering over a toilet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say write whatever comes in your head.

Especially if you're funny.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

As everyone is different and looking for different things, there is no hard and fast rule of how long or short a profile should be.

You can have the best written profile in the world, but if your face doesn't fit with what someone is looking for it won't matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine is short. Do I win fab?

Not short enough.

Yours is WAY too long!

That's what she said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think profiles should be like newspaper articles, and I write mine accordingly. Most important at the top, least important at the bottom.

So if people want to keep reading my "essay" (if I return to having an essay), they can, but those who don't still get the most important points.

In my case: my filters are high. I'm not meeting. Some preferences. Some joking.

That's a smart way to go about it. I'm new and found this quite difficult to judge. So I decided to just be me. People can take it or leave it."

Definitely be you.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Short and sweet like 'fill in later', 'looking for fun', 'horny up for anything ' nah I'll pass on any like that .

I prefer a profile that gives me an idea of the person and that they have made an effort so I can get a rough idea of what they want from fab. Short profiles don't appeal to me and I will usually just move on past them .

But this just shows that all the advice people can give others on here about their profiles is pointless because everyone is different in what appeals to them. So just write what you want on yours and post whatever pics you want as well.

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