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Weekly Mental Health Check-in 05.09

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Good morning all, how does the new week find you?

I’m mostly doing ok. I accessed a free webinar on anxiety last week. I went with the attitude that there probably wouldn’t be much it could teach me and whilst that proved to be the case, the info was put across in a way that really made sense to me and has been helpful - right down to the fact that the shakes I get in the morning come from the fact that our bodies naturally release adrenaline in the morning to set us up for the day, but if our levels are already high due to anxiety we’ll notice it a lot more. This has meant I’ve been able to be rational about the sensation rather than letting it get to me and reaching for the propanalol (I haven’t had one in days where I was taking them daily last week). I even felt well enough to work out for the first time in months on Saturday, but woke up yesterday and I’ve done something to my leg . Think I’ll forge ahead with some upper body stuff though later. I’m also fed up with my weight and have printed off a pic from last year to try and motivate me into making better food choices.

The kids are back at school and college today so I’ve got some routine back which always helps. I’m still not 100% but the anxiety is much lower level and drops again quickly after something upsets me.

How are you feeling today?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello Lou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lou, that webinar sounds fantastic. Great that it’s been helpful to you. I did follow your status updates on the workout . I hope you’re feeling ok? Good to push on with some upper body stuff. Finding that motivation to push you through is so important. Hope your kids have a good first half term back also!

I am feeling good today mentally. Although I haven’t felt really good for the last week! I am massively missing my gf and daughter who are on holiday without me. I find it so much easier when I’m the one away for work.

I have had lots of self esteem issues recently. Lots of rejection which has made that worse. But it’s one of those things, charge it to the game! Hopefully my luck picks up. I think my feelings about myself would appreciate that.

I’m sorry I missed the last check in- hope everyone has had good week and has another good week ahead! Until next week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope with the kids away you can have some hours to focus on yourself and in between other things focus on lowering your anxiety.. hope it goes well.

Do you meditate?

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Lou, that webinar sounds fantastic. Great that it’s been helpful to you. I did follow your status updates on the workout . I hope you’re feeling ok? Good to push on with some upper body stuff. Finding that motivation to push you through is so important. Hope your kids have a good first half term back also!

I am feeling good today mentally. Although I haven’t felt really good for the last week! I am massively missing my gf and daughter who are on holiday without me. I find it so much easier when I’m the one away for work.

I have had lots of self esteem issues recently. Lots of rejection which has made that worse. But it’s one of those things, charge it to the game! Hopefully my luck picks up. I think my feelings about myself would appreciate that.

I’m sorry I missed the last check in- hope everyone has had good week and has another good week ahead! Until next week "

Hello you! and thank you x

I’m sorry you’ve been struggling but glad that today is a good day. I feel you on the self-esteem front, it’s so tough to change those old scripts in our heads I think. Wishing you a good week ahead too x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I hope with the kids away you can have some hours to focus on yourself and in between other things focus on lowering your anxiety.. hope it goes well.

Do you meditate?"

Thank you! I’ve dabbled since I did a six week course a couple of years ago. I recently bought Jon Kabat-Zinn’s Full Catastrophe Living that I’ve dipped into a little, going to sit and have an hour reading it now I think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have anxiety today... I'm figuring out how to rid myself of it

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I have anxiety today... I'm figuring out how to rid myself of it "

I’m sorry to hear that. The most frustrating thing about anxiety is that the only way to get over it is to accept it, and yet the way it makes us feel triggers a bigger fear response! I try to be kind to myself and acknowledge the fear and reason why and I imagine holding my own hand for comfort (sounds crazy but has helped me).

I hope it fades for you soon xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mental health gas took an absolute battering of late. But onwards and upwards. Don't have the time or able to afford feeling sorry for myself

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"My mental health gas took an absolute battering of late. But onwards and upwards. Don't have the time or able to afford feeling sorry for myself "

I’m sorry to hear you’ve been struggling. Everybody copes in different ways, mental health issues can be just as debilitating as physical ones. I’m glad you were able to carry on x

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Hey all. I'm not doing too badly today, found a book at the charity shop that I'll find useful, cleared out a bag of old school uniform and painted most of a bathroom

Hoping everyone is doing alright, even though it's Monday

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

My middle son used to suffer from anxiety and self doubt terribly. We got a worry doll (as daft as it sounds) and he'd talk to it and tell it what was bothering him at any particular time. I think he found it cathartic to get the words out knowing there wouldn't be any judgement.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I'm okay, I guess

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Afternoon lou

I'm heading the webinar helped, do they put together anything else you can use?

It's a month of small errands and jobs, so playtime is on hold till October as adulting takes precedence, I have planned balance then so it will equal out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit shite the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm kinda just done at this point

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Hey all. I'm not doing too badly today, found a book at the charity shop that I'll find useful, cleared out a bag of old school uniform and painted most of a bathroom

Hoping everyone is doing alright, even though it's Monday "

Glad you’re doing ok! x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"My middle son used to suffer from anxiety and self doubt terribly. We got a worry doll (as daft as it sounds) and he'd talk to it and tell it what was bothering him at any particular time. I think he found it cathartic to get the words out knowing there wouldn't be any judgement."

I’ve heard they can be good! Glad you found something that worked for him x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I'm okay, I guess"

Could be better though? Sending hugs x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Afternoon lou

I'm heading the webinar helped, do they put together anything else you can use?

It's a month of small errands and jobs, so playtime is on hold till October as adulting takes precedence, I have planned balance then so it will equal out "

They do a special group that I think would be useful but it’s £40/mth and I can’t justify that atm with everything about to shoot up in price so I’ll manage for now!

Glad everything is planned out for the best! x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Bit shite the day"

Hope today has been a bit better xx

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I'm kinda just done at this point "

I’m sorry things are that rubbish right now. Sending lots of love xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantastic, hit the weights this morning, finally sorted bits out and training later. All good today

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Fantastic, hit the weights this morning, finally sorted bits out and training later. All good today "

That’s great, good for you! x

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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago

South Shields

Hi Lou, hope you are well.

Iam on a waiting list to see a CPN but the list is nearly 2 years to wait.

In the meantime my ex has put a plan together for us to have sessions together..she is a trained councillor and we are going to keep it very much professional.

She does know about my background so we can get straight into things without me needing to explain what happened...which would probaly take 2 appointments haha.

Anyway hope you are continuing to improve.

And thanks for doing this

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Hi Lou, hope you are well.

Iam on a waiting list to see a CPN but the list is nearly 2 years to wait.

In the meantime my ex has put a plan together for us to have sessions together..she is a trained councillor and we are going to keep it very much professional.

She does know about my background so we can get straight into things without me needing to explain what happened...which would probaly take 2 appointments haha.

Anyway hope you are continuing to improve.

And thanks for doing this

"

Goodness - although I can understand her wanting to help, if she’s trained she will know this is highly unethical and potentially harmful

Waiting times are awful and I’m sorry you’re struggling x

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I think my anxiety from earlier this year contributed to my Alopecia Totalis. I just need to remain focused and p+sitive.

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I think my anxiety from earlier this year contributed to my Alopecia Totalis. I just need to remain focused and p+sitive. "

The physical effects can be astounding. Fingers crossed for you x

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"My middle son used to suffer from anxiety and self doubt terribly. We got a worry doll (as daft as it sounds) and he'd talk to it and tell it what was bothering him at any particular time. I think he found it cathartic to get the words out knowing there wouldn't be any judgement.

I’ve heard they can be good! Glad you found something that worked for him x"

Thankyou, it really did. My 'outlet' was writing - I found if I wrote my frustrations down they seemed smaller somehow. Brains, eh? Bloody things!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been struggling big time and got out of the house today got the first time since Friday. I’m currently sat outside in the car trying to find the courage to go back in. It’s all so messy… wish I hadn’t bothered

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

Feeling bloody irritable... Roll on holiday threesome!!

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I’ve just been pescripted anti depressants I have been suffering with mental health for the last 4 months god help me

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"My middle son used to suffer from anxiety and self doubt terribly. We got a worry doll (as daft as it sounds) and he'd talk to it and tell it what was bothering him at any particular time. I think he found it cathartic to get the words out knowing there wouldn't be any judgement.

I’ve heard they can be good! Glad you found something that worked for him x

Thankyou, it really did. My 'outlet' was writing - I found if I wrote my frustrations down they seemed smaller somehow. Brains, eh? Bloody things!"

Simultaneously amazing and frustrating!

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Been struggling big time and got out of the house today got the first time since Friday. I’m currently sat outside in the car trying to find the courage to go back in. It’s all so messy… wish I hadn’t bothered "

That sounds really difficult, but well done for getting out. How did you get on after? x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Feeling bloody irritable... Roll on holiday threesome!!"

Sounds fun! Always good to have something to look forward to xx

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I’ve just been pescripted anti depressants I have been suffering with mental health for the last 4 months god help me "

Hope they do the trick and help you feel better x

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"My middle son used to suffer from anxiety and self doubt terribly. We got a worry doll (as daft as it sounds) and he'd talk to it and tell it what was bothering him at any particular time. I think he found it cathartic to get the words out knowing there wouldn't be any judgement.

I’ve heard they can be good! Glad you found something that worked for him x

Thankyou, it really did. My 'outlet' was writing - I found if I wrote my frustrations down they seemed smaller somehow. Brains, eh? Bloody things!

Simultaneously amazing and frustrating!"

Incredible machines and yet so fragile. And annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a footy injury scare. Five a side so I scored a few and let some in. 2 4 1 at dominoes yesterday so overall I'm happy with my progress

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Had a footy injury scare. Five a side so I scored a few and let some in. 2 4 1 at dominoes yesterday so overall I'm happy with my progress "

I miss my 5 a side...although a Fab neighbour said we could have a kick about in a local park.

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