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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So often the profiles say ‘more than hi’ which I always assumed would be a given but clearly not…

So how do you interact? Do you give away all your best assets in the first message? Do you tell all your experiences? Do you give it the ‘big sell’?

Or do you keep it simple…more than hi… but not too in depth…?

Always curious

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We have many hi messages, they get ignored or the how's you? Those I'll play the 2 word reply game back and forth and see how long it lasts.

I don't expect or send essays just something that shows I've read the profile or what's intriguing about something they've written. With couples always speak to both, we had a lovely gent recently wank over the Mr's replies thinking it was me (Mrs) that was amusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve got to be smart. Women say no dick pics so I send a ball pic. It hasn’t worked so far but I’m sure it will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends if my first messenger to someone id a reaction to a forum post. If it is, it’s probably just a quick quip or a short paragraph that’s relevant to what they had said in someday that wasn’t appropriate for the thread.

If it’s a first message because I’d like to talk to them in private. Photo of who I am and some text where I’d like to strike up a conversation about. It’s a 50/50 shot if that works for me. And I’m okay with that.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I send a four page, copy and pasted piece of erotica along with five identical dick pics, an up close arsehole one, and then a seven year old face picture where I'm way in the distance and wearing sunglasses.

Works every time

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m horny, meet now?

Hasn’t worked yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have many hi messages, they get ignored or the how's you? Those I'll play the 2 word reply game back and forth and see how long it lasts.

I don't expect or send essays just something that shows I've read the profile or what's intriguing about something they've written. With couples always speak to both, we had a lovely gent recently wank over the Mr's replies thinking it was me (Mrs) that was amusing."

Well mr must be good with the words ha

Or maybe the guy liked it

I get what you mean about the ‘showing you’ve read the profile’ best way to get the chat started…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You’ve got to be smart. Women say no dick pics so I send a ball pic. It hasn’t worked so far but I’m sure it will."

Law of averages … send enough it will

Pay off eventually

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I send a four page, copy and pasted piece of erotica along with five identical dick pics, an up close arsehole one, and then a seven year old face picture where I'm way in the distance and wearing sunglasses.

Works every time

LvM"

Ooo similar … just minus the close arsehole one.. maybe that’s where I am going wrong … I best get snapping

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m horny, meet now?

Hasn’t worked yet "

That is shocking … I mean it’s so to the point leaves no area for confusion

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't send first messages at all so don't concern myself with the content of one.

For anyone contacting me I much prefer if they just jump in almost mid conversation in regard to something in the forums etc rather than lengthy introductions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have many hi messages, they get ignored or the how's you? Those I'll play the 2 word reply game back and forth and see how long it lasts……

"

Oh, this.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I just chat normally, non sexual chat soon puts off any instant gratification hunters

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just chat normally, non sexual chat soon puts off any instant gratification hunters "

Who doesn’t love a bit of moaning about work and how the bins need emptying chat to get going….

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

I simply ask one question....

'Do you wanna be pumped vigorously for 36seconds till my face turns red and I squeal custard cream as I cum?'

Not sure why it isn't working if I'm honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is. "

Damn I’ve been missing the xxx I must adjust my cut paste message

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is. "

You told me you liked my messages

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I just chat normally, non sexual chat soon puts off any instant gratification hunters"

That'll never catch on...

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation "

For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I just chat normally, non sexual chat soon puts off any instant gratification hunters "

I can still wank to people talking about their weekly shop.

Its not easy, but its doable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation

For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing? "

Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation

For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?

Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go "

Well I could then ask about the feel of it? If it’s comfortable ? Star rating? Review? That way maybe I could get another message? More messages is winning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation

For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?

Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go

Well I could then ask about the feel of it? If it’s comfortable ? Star rating? Review? That way maybe I could get another message? More messages is winning "

Lol.. It wouldn't even get opened in my box

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By *ambertMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I dunno, I sent a message to someone who "wanted their mind to be excited with more than just a simple hi" who then responded saying the message was too long.

Either way, you can't please everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation

For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?

Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go

Well I could then ask about the feel of it? If it’s comfortable ? Star rating? Review? That way maybe I could get another message? More messages is winning

Lol.. It wouldn't even get opened in my box "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

If their 1st message is just 'Hi' I probably reply with just 'Hi' back, the effort you come to me with is the effort you get back.

When I send 1st message however I put in more though and leave it open to allow dialogue

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

I'm just here for pointers!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts "

Good morning to you how was your weekend? ……

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I say hi followed by four or five lines of bullshit and await my replies to come flying in my inbox

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts

Good morning to you how was your weekend? …… "

Good morning . Our weekend was a little dull but we plan to make up for it this week.

How was your weekend? Are you back to the grindstone this morning?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I say hi followed by four or five lines of bullshit and await my replies to come flying in my inbox "

Seems like you’re set…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts

Good morning to you how was your weekend? ……

Good morning . Our weekend was a little dull but we plan to make up for it this week.

How was your weekend? Are you back to the grindstone this morning?

"

And there we have it folks… simple and easy interaction which could lead somewhere

Applause inserted here

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts

Good morning to you how was your weekend? ……

Good morning . Our weekend was a little dull but we plan to make up for it this week.

How was your weekend? Are you back to the grindstone this morning?

And there we have it folks… simple and easy interaction which could lead somewhere

Applause inserted here "

I have a Rocket Science certificate too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts

Good morning to you how was your weekend? ……

Good morning . Our weekend was a little dull but we plan to make up for it this week.

How was your weekend? Are you back to the grindstone this morning?

And there we have it folks… simple and easy interaction which could lead somewhere

Applause inserted here

I have a Rocket Science certificate too "

Now you’re just showing off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts

Good morning to you how was your weekend? …… "

I would then send an essay telling you everything about my weekend and you’d think fuck this I wasn’t really that interested tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We avoid anyone who asks for interesting messages etc. What does it mean, how do we know vwhat interests them? If someone messages us with a simple greeting we will often reply. If their subsequent messages are dull one liners we disengage. Conversation is a two way street, face to face nobody approaches people with an interesting speech they usually say hello and introduce themselves or make an off the cuff comment. It's what follows that counts

Good morning to you how was your weekend? ……

I would then send an essay telling you everything about my weekend and you’d think fuck this I wasn’t really that interested tbh. "

I dare you….. I’m a bloody nosey bastard and love hearing about peoples weekends / plans / experiences etc interaction is great

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I get the dilemma here as so many messages get ignored/instadelete writing good messages is mostly futile. Yet for those of us who might have responded to a good message, hi doesn't cut it.

For me, I have added to my profile several possible talking points so I have tried to make it easy to write at least a somewhat interesting first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.

Damn I’ve been missing the xxx I must adjust my cut paste message "

It's essential so that the lady knows that despite your graphic message you're really a nice guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.

You told me you liked my messages "

Not enough XXXXXX tho, man!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.

Damn I’ve been missing the xxx I must adjust my cut paste message

It's essential so that the lady knows that despite your graphic message you're really a nice guy "

Your point is taken on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just chat normally, non sexual chat soon puts off any instant gratification hunters "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I simply ask one question....

'Do you wanna be pumped vigorously for 36seconds till my face turns red and I squeal custard cream as I cum?'

Not sure why it isn't working if I'm honest "

Swap the custard cream for a bourbon and you might be onto a winner

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I simply ask one question....

'Do you wanna be pumped vigorously for 36seconds till my face turns red and I squeal custard cream as I cum?'

Not sure why it isn't working if I'm honest

Swap the custard cream for a bourbon and you might be onto a winner "

Love a bourbon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Refer to their profile, use some common sense that there's a mild connection available to build on. Make sure you fit their criterion, have a good profile and pics etc.

Then roll the dice and make peace with being ignored etc.

I think the trouble is, there's a lot of throwing mud at the wall and seeing what sticks. This clogs up the system and when you take a more considered shot, it's easy to blend in with the noise.

But, that's the game, no changing it so just keep plugging away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes the topics on the forum, if they are a topic of a mutual interest, can initiate a conversation through private messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes the topics on the forum, if they are a topic of a mutual interest, can initiate a conversation through private messages. "

Agreed

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation

For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?

Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go "

Did he register you as a pet for the VIP club?

Did he get the matching lead?

Where did he get the name tag?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.

You told me you liked my messages

Not enough XXXXXX tho, man! "

My mistake.

I shall endeavour to do better next time m’lady!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.

You told me you liked my messages

Not enough XXXXXX tho, man!

My mistake.

I shall endeavour to do better next time m’lady!

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

This guy listens…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works so well when a guy sends 6 or 7 lurid photos, a description of what he wants to do to me that isn't in my profile or interests and of course signs it off with xxxxxxxxxx. To indicate how genuine he is.

You told me you liked my messages

Not enough XXXXXX tho, man!

My mistake.

I shall endeavour to do better next time m’lady!

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

Thank ye, kind sir

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I refer to something in their profile as a way to open conversation

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I just send out a brief but informative message about myself. Not done so in a while though. I don't reply to messages with "hi" or "hello" in them. Either on fab or elsewhere as it shows lack of effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men get it so wrong always sending me well thought out message. I'm a simple gal.. call me a slut, show me your dick and I'm yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something along the lines of:

" So I saw you in the forums, you don't seem too much of a dick.

I mean your obviously a bit of a dick, you are male. You are male aren't you?? I think it's always best to clarify these things.

If you fancy talking shit and never meeting, then I'm the girl for you.

If not, well, good choice. I shall congratulate you on your lucky escape."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men get it so wrong always sending me well thought out message. I'm a simple gal.. call me a slut, show me your dick and I'm yours."

Takes notes… not my usual style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I offer them the corners of a jigsaw if they want more bits they will ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something along the lines of:

" So I saw you in the forums, you don't seem too much of a dick.

I mean your obviously a bit of a dick, you are male. You are male aren't you?? I think it's always best to clarify these things.

If you fancy talking shit and never meeting, then I'm the girl for you.

If not, well, good choice. I shall congratulate you on your lucky escape."

"
ffs so it was a cut n paste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something along the lines of:

" So I saw you in the forums, you don't seem too much of a dick.

I mean your obviously a bit of a dick, you are male. You are male aren't you?? I think it's always best to clarify these things.

If you fancy talking shit and never meeting, then I'm the girl for you.

If not, well, good choice. I shall congratulate you on your lucky escape."

ffs so it was a cut n paste "

Oops

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By *ylonloverxxMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I message women with a polite how you doing type message asking if they would like to chat and possibly arrange a meet.

So far this hasn't worked,

I don't do rude,one liner messages so tbh I dunno what to write anymore ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I message women with a polite how you doing type message asking if they would like to chat and possibly arrange a meet.

So far this hasn't worked,

I don't do rude,one liner messages so tbh I dunno what to write anymore ?? "

Oh no, any mention of meeting in the first message and im out.

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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago

London

I don't bother now, because no one fucking replies anyway.

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria


"I simply ask one question....

'Do you wanna be pumped vigorously for 36seconds till my face turns red and I squeal custard cream as I cum?'

Not sure why it isn't working if I'm honest

Swap the custard cream for a bourbon and you might be onto a winner "

This could be where I'm going wrong....it will be trialed, I will update you on the progress of the experiment

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By *ylonloverxxMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"I message women with a polite how you doing type message asking if they would like to chat and possibly arrange a meet.

So far this hasn't worked,

I don't do rude,one liner messages so tbh I dunno what to write anymore ??

Oh no, any mention of meeting in the first message and im out. "

Each to their own of course.. I don't mean straight away, be it days or a couple of weeks.

I'm not here for a penpal

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Dear ..insert name

Wow you have super boobs/arse/legs/ body.

I would love to meet for coffee/High tea/supper/quicky

I like going to the cinema/ladies houses/sex clubs/coffee shops/sex shops/IKEA

I live only 5/10/50/100/200 miles away from you so it's easy for me to come to you

Please reply soon..I await/guess its a long shot/have next to zero hope of

Your reply

Regards ..olov...hope you like the 93 pic's of my cock all taken in the Bog but at slightly different angles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I message women with a polite how you doing type message asking if they would like to chat and possibly arrange a meet.

So far this hasn't worked,

I don't do rude,one liner messages so tbh I dunno what to write anymore ??

Oh no, any mention of meeting in the first message and im out.

Each to their own of course.. I don't mean straight away, be it days or a couple of weeks.

I'm not here for a penpal "

Oooh and there's another phrase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best sit yourselves down for this one guys.... but I think the bottom line might just be attraction, specifically a lack of

Even the most well crafted, thought-out message will get a person precisely nowhere if attraction isn't returned. Or if they can't see to decide either way due to lack of info and/or pics.

If your profile says you're in to a certain thing and the person you message finds that a massive turn-off, too bad.

Etc etc etc

But by all means hyper-focus on the 'mystery' of it all and the 'meanies' exercising their preferences who don't read or who delete or who block or even who are good enough to say thanks but no thanks...

Now I'm going to have a wee lie down. My brain hurts figuring that one out for you all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Men get it so wrong always sending me well thought out message. I'm a simple gal.. call me a slut, show me your dick and I'm yours."

The rejection is normally to hard to handle

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't send messages

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I’ll have a bit of a chat if someone messages me but I’m not giving away all my secrets in a message

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" "

It usually works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell them what I'm looking for and why I think they are a good match. No point saying any more than that.

It works. Sex bucket list all ticked off.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


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It usually works "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ll have a bit of a chat if someone messages me but I’m not giving away all my secrets in a message "

It’s good to talk right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I tell them what I'm looking for and why I think they are a good match. No point saying any more than that.

It works. Sex bucket list all ticked off. "

The whole bucket ,?

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian


"I find the ones i reply to have some sort of engaging pull to elicit a reply.. A question dressed as a conversation

For example… ‘I do love control, talking of which where did you get your collar?’ That kind of thing?

Naw, its too direct and closed.. You'll get the name of the shop 'pets at home', then where you gonna go

Well I could then ask about the feel of it? If it’s comfortable ? Star rating? Review? That way maybe I could get another message? More messages is winning

Lol.. It wouldn't even get opened in my box "

Would the words hi

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