FabSwingers.com forum: Private notes

By *enhaligoner OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Just curious. Does anyone use the private notes option here?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

People do.

Personally, if it's important to remember, I'll remember.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yup, mostly to remember people's names. It'd be awkward calling someone "CervixDestroyer420BlazeIt" in the middle of Cafe Nero

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make detailed notes of everything everyone said to see how many times they contradict themselves.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Just curious. Does anyone use the private notes option here? "

Wait, what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very very good memory.

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

I use to notes to keep a record of our interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, if I think someone is a bit of a knobhead I won't need to bother chatting with them twice

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By *enhaligoner OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Some great comments here

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Sometimes if I remember about it. I often forget it’s there

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

Yep

Either for peoples names or if someone who was on our hotlist puts up a status or forum comment that really turns us off we make a note of it and remove them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but typically just to keep track of names or kik usernames etc. I don't put any detail of meets or similar.

If I have no future interest I will block. Same with people who I see on the updates or forum, I'll block to avoid seeing future posts on the updates feed. Can't stop the forum but it's a good enough way to filter likes/dislikes.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Yes.

It lets me record what they said that made me think they were a knob!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Yes.

It lets me record what they said that made me think they were a knob!

Yeah you should see what I wrote about you

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I do. It’s handy when someone messages my couples profile and I recognise the name so can come look on here and remember why I blocked them or whatever.

I’ve also found it handy to keep a note when someone chats good chat, then goes quiet when actual meets are suggested. Then they reappear months later with the same chat. Saves me wasting my time with folks that do it repeatedly (because sometimes it’s just life got in the way, but some folks just do that on repeat).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I forget stuff easily so if I'm a little dubious about someone or I've blocked them, I leave a note. I forget first names even.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I did not even know this was a feature

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I do yes. It’s an aid de memoir

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I only just learned if it and personally think it’s a little weird to write a diary entry about every person you don’t like and will never meet on a swinging website. Seems a weird use of time

A block is enough for me. The reason is irrelevant

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Just curious. Does anyone use the private notes option here? "

Absolutely.

Helpful if people change their fan name and you don't recognise it.

I use it for if I've seen their face pic. Any statuses, messages or forum posts which show we wouldn't be compatible

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Oh yeah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We make use of the private notes.

Try to use that rather than block.

We find it really useful, leaving notes of things that have caught our attention, be that good or bad.

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By *ttis669Man
over a year ago

huntington

I do, i often chat to couples and if thry enjoy tributes i make a note and when i fancy doing one, ill check back theyre still ok to get them and send over, or noting why you have hotlisted them if you e been chatting about specific kinks etc

Not a diary or anything, just helps a bit

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yep I love it !

I also put it on a profile when I block them too ,so if I'm in any doubt I remember why .

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By *ad_Bod_ToddMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I use it to note that I've contacted that person previously and that they were not interested in me. Reminds me not to message them again.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Yep.

Really useful.

We use them all the time.

For a couple who log on at different times it helps us keep track of who we’ve spoken to, looked at or are interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I forget it's there most of the time, and even when I make a note I forget that too and never look at it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use it to note that I've contacted that person previously and that they were not interested in me. Reminds me not to message them again."

I think this is the better option over blocking.

People can change, what they want can change.

We were messaged a while back by someone that if we were looking at the time, we could have been interested.

We explained we're not looking right now and will update profile when we are.

Shortly after, found we were blocked.

I imagine they took it as a simple, polite no.

Using the private notes, we could have still contacted them when we were next looking.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I made a note on my own profile to remind me of who I am and why I'm here. It's my fab version of a medical bracelet.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I made a note on my own profile to remind me of who I am and why I'm here. It's my fab version of a medical bracelet. "

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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago

wirral

"I only just learned if it and personally think it’s a little weird to write a diary entry about every person you don’t like and will never meet on a swinging website. Seems a weird use of time

A block is enough for me. The reason is irrelevant "

Yeah totally agree.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

All the time

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes....never let's me forget what a dickhead they are x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I contemplated using it to gather info on forumites and then run a thread where I made myself out to be a medium and could tell people all about themselves.

But it seemed very stalkerish and extremely time consuming so I've not written a single note.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make detailed notes of everything everyone said to see how many times they contradict themselves. "

I am happy to disclose that nothing I say should be trusted and I espouse only bollocks. Saves all that note taking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, for all sorts of reasons. Personally find it very helpful. It’s an age thing!

Viv

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I use it sporadically. It’s a good feature but I often forget it’s there. I should probably leave myself a note!

Gbat

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Ohh yes!! Mostly use them on posters in the forums! Rarely block love the private note option x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I use them for peoples names

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Didn't even know this was a thing. Sounds like too much admin to worry about.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

You only get it with the site supporter upgrade and we're far too tight fisted to pay that.

So instead we use a bespoke system of many, many leather bound books in which we write notes on antique Egyptian papyrus using the ink from extremely rare 'colossal squids' and then file them alphabetically by username on fine mahogany shelves in the wood panelled reading room in our stately home.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

It’s handy for amusing reasons as well when you get a message from a guy who messages every 7/8 months or so.

The bulk of his message stays exactly the same, but his job changes. In the last couple of years he’s been a pilot, an over-worked doctor during the lockdowns, a barrister and today apparently a very very successful businessman (and has been for 15 years).

If he used the notes to remember what career he’d bullshitted about he might actually get somewhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I use the notes - ive a rubbish memory atm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes - names, important life events, birthdays & preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to use this, but I haven't done it for quite some time, I think I need to start again. As I am terrible at remembering 'real' names

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Never yet used it - indeed, I'd forgotten it was a feature until I read this.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Yup, mostly to remember people's names. It'd be awkward calling someone "CervixDestroyer420BlazeIt" in the middle of Cafe Nero

LvM"

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Yes...I use it. Mainly for names

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