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"What attracts you to Thailand?" The food  | |||
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"What attracts you to Thailand? The food "Ah yes, it's an acquired taste. | |||
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"What attracts you to Thailand? always pause before typing "That's no fun. | |||
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"What attracts you to Thailand?" I was just about to ask the same question  | |||
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"Until my daughter is ready to live without me. Then I’ll be ready to go" Awww man, this is gonna make me cry again. | |||
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"What attracts you to Thailand? I was just about to ask the same question "Married a Thai woman,have been there many times,beautiful country,great street food, and awesome whores | |||
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"What's the health care like out there ?" I don't think he's going for the health care. | |||
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"Until my daughter is ready to live without me. Then I’ll be ready to go Awww man, this is gonna make me cry again. " Awww wow ….. no words | |||
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"What attracts you to Thailand? I was just about to ask the same question
Married a Thai woman,have been there many times,beautiful country,great street food, and awesome whores"Nice, enjoy | |||
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" Beautiful country,great street food, and awesome whores" The Thai tourist board is snapping this tag line up... | |||
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"Burn bright and strong for a short time my man,, feck that dragging it out lark, go blow a gasket in Thailand. " I don't think gaskets are what would be getting blown | |||
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"I'm sure living in Thailand would be lovely, but why would you die sooner there? By not treating your diabetes etc?" Been there many times,drinking whoreing,drugs,friend just died there after 5 years liver cancer | |||
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"Burn bright and strong for a short time my man,, feck that dragging it out lark, go blow a gasket in Thailand. I don't think gaskets are what would be getting blown " You know x | |||
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"Burn bright and strong for a short time my man,, feck that dragging it out lark, go blow a gasket in Thailand. I don't think gaskets are what would be getting blown " ahhh lol, you never know, something for everyone over there,  | |||
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"Op, why don't you go over to Thailand like you say but this time go & see A Traditional Chinese Medicine Doctor/Acupuncturist? It is positively encouraged in that country. Just a thought... They might be able to fix you? "Unfortunately can’t see arthritis being cured but a bit of Thai stick [cannabis}may relieve the symptoms | |||
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" Beautiful country,great street food, and awesome whores The Thai tourist board is snapping this tag line up..." I think he meant hors...as in hors d'ouevres? Maybe some of us are making massive assumptions though! | |||
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"Until my daughter is ready to live without me. Then I’ll be ready to go Awww man, this is gonna make me cry again. " Here...have my last tissue. I've shed enough tears tonight. | |||
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" Beautiful country,great street food, and awesome whores The Thai tourist board is snapping this tag line up... I think he meant hors...as in hors d'ouevres? Maybe some of us are making massive assumptions though!" Yes, I'm sure you're right. Who can say no to those little sweetcorn fritters... | |||
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"Burn bright and strong for a short time my man,, feck that dragging it out lark, go blow a gasket in Thailand. I don't think gaskets are what would be getting blown You know x" Nope, but subtle you are not | |||
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"We should all retire at 50 and clock out at 65 in my book. Mr" Would love a good 15 years of healthy retirement | |||
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"We should all retire at 50 and clock out at 65 in my book. Mr Would love a good 15 years of healthy retirement " Yes and far more chance of it.  | |||
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"You could scrap that & go to Vietnam instead..... Pro's: A few hundred pounds could make you a Dong Millionaire! You could open a bank account & stare at your monthly statement at how much Dong you got! You might like Dog restaurants? Con's: You might have to eat dog meat - there are a lot of dog restaurants! A lot of Germans & Americans eat in these restaurants so you'll never be short of chatting to peeps. True, I shit you not! LOL - just an alternative...." Unfortunately Vietnam already getting over comercialised but Lhao still cheap as chips | |||
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"We should all retire at 50 and clock out at 65 in my book. Mr Would love a good 15 years of healthy retirement Yes and far more chance of it. " | |||
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"We should all retire at 50 and clock out at 65 in my book. Mr Would love a good 15 years of healthy retirement " Have your favourite meal, a glass or two of your prized wine, make love to your partner, have a goodnight kiss and a cuddle, wake up with the angels. Best way to go surely | |||
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"Until my daughter is ready to live without me. Then I’ll be ready to go" FFS! 
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"We should all retire at 50 and clock out at 65 in my book. Mr Would love a good 15 years of healthy retirement Have your favourite meal, a glass or two of your prized wine, make love to your partner, have a goodnight kiss and a cuddle, wake up with the angels. Best way to go surely "Separated love Thai food,3 sons love to go out a hero to my 3 sons and leave them a legacy.Like Dennis potter said if he new he was dying would have taken out thatcher,but what cunt now is worth dying for | |||
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"There's no time for us. Theeeeerres no place for us. What is this thing that builds our dreams yet slips away from usssss. Who wants to live forever?? ME. " Och, Connor! Where are we??? We are in the Glen my love, you are wearing your sheepskins to protect ye frawm the cauld
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"There's no time for us. Theeeeerres no place for us. What is this thing that builds our dreams yet slips away from usssss. Who wants to live forever?? ME. Och, Connor! Where are we??? We are in the Glen my love, you are wearing your sheepskins to protect ye frawm the cauld
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"There's no time for us. Theeeeerres no place for us. What is this thing that builds our dreams yet slips away from usssss. Who wants to live forever?? ME. Och, Connor! Where are we??? We are in the Glen my love, you are wearing your sheepskins to protect ye frawm the cauld
Let's hope we don't lose our heads. "We would lose our immortality
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"I’m 59 got arthritis,hip replaced already now got possible diabetes tried dieting for a couple of weeks but got bored already,do I just say fuck it and sell up and move to Thailand for a couple of years and die happy ,or live a few more years in this shithole of a country for another 10 years or so bored and in pain " Bar the Thailand thing, I can empathise. I'm 36 and can't imagine sticking out the level of pain and disability I have to achieve an average lifespan. 50 more years like this?! No thanks! | |||
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"Until my daughter is ready to live without me. Then I’ll be ready to go" Facts…when my daughters are settled and happy in their own adult lives, job done. R. | |||
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"Until my daughter is ready to live without me. Then I’ll be ready to go Facts…when my daughters are settled and happy in their own adult lives, job done. R." Our kids are happy and settled in their adult lives. I'm a valuable human being whose life and worth go beyond being a parent. I don't plan on dying yet. | |||
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"Until my daughter is ready to live without me. Then I’ll be ready to go Facts…when my daughters are settled and happy in their own adult lives, job done. R. Our kids are happy and settled in their adult lives. I'm a valuable human being whose life and worth go beyond being a parent. I don't plan on dying yet. " I don’t plan on it, and I hope to live as long as I can with my love, good health willing. I just don’t like this world. Actually, that’s wrong…I don’t like the parasitic human race. Some people are ok, but generally the human race is the worst virus this beautiful planet has ever seen. I actually feel guilty for bringing two beautiful souls into this world. R. | |||
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"Until my daughter is ready to live without me. Then I’ll be ready to go Facts…when my daughters are settled and happy in their own adult lives, job done. R. Our kids are happy and settled in their adult lives. I'm a valuable human being whose life and worth go beyond being a parent. I don't plan on dying yet. I don’t plan on it, and I hope to live as long as I can with my love, good health willing. I just don’t like this world. Actually, that’s wrong…I don’t like the parasitic human race. Some people are ok, but generally the human race is the worst virus this beautiful planet has ever seen. I actually feel guilty for bringing two beautiful souls into this world. R." Oh. I'm sorry you feel that way | |||
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"Until my daughter is ready to live without me. Then I’ll be ready to go Facts…when my daughters are settled and happy in their own adult lives, job done. R. Our kids are happy and settled in their adult lives. I'm a valuable human being whose life and worth go beyond being a parent. I don't plan on dying yet. I don’t plan on it, and I hope to live as long as I can with my love, good health willing. I just don’t like this world. Actually, that’s wrong…I don’t like the parasitic human race. Some people are ok, but generally the human race is the worst virus this beautiful planet has ever seen. I actually feel guilty for bringing two beautiful souls into this world. R. Oh. I'm sorry you feel that way " Don’t be, I’m good. | |||
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"I’m 59 got arthritis,hip replaced already now got possible diabetes tried dieting for a couple of weeks but got bored already,do I just say fuck it and sell up and move to Thailand for a couple of years and die happy ,or live a few more years in this shithole of a country for another 10 years or so bored and in pain " As someone who has a 'life limiting' condition(new pc term for frickin dying)please rest assured no matter what life is and can be its also very sweet. I wake up every day and think: I'm still here...Not dead yet! Yes I'm dying but I'm buggered if I'm going to spend what's left of my life in a 'oh woe is me' state. I laugh joke and make sure I bloody well enjoy what time I have. I'd even welcome a bit of sex, but realistically thats unlikely(who wants to get intimate with someone they know is dying...and I don't lie and certainly won't lie about that. That would be so wrong!). But, hey other than that and the arthritis I'm doing ok, like I say apart from having a terminal disease im disgustingly healthy The thing is about life is to be positive. Negative emotions and thoughts just drag you down whereas positive ones lift you up. Its your life and your choice but for me I love living and therefore I love my life after all it's the only one I have! Blessings to everyone may you all be as happy as I am.  | |||
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"Extreme old age is only fun if you're relatively fit and some contemporaries and family are alive with you. Otherwise it's a lonely and sometimes unhappy existence " This statement has really enamoured me to the idea of growing old (because I'm already falling to pieces ) | |||
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"I’m 59 got arthritis,hip replaced already now got possible diabetes tried dieting for a couple of weeks but got bored already,do I just say fuck it and sell up and move to Thailand for a couple of years and die happy ,or live a few more years in this shithole of a country for another 10 years or so bored and in pain " And what happens when you need medical help? You won’t get that in Thailand unless you have a credit card! 
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"For shit country so many want to live here... Anyway life is for living and I always believe that someone is more worse off than me so chill and live with what you have. BTW Thailand may have many opportunities for playtime however that's not the whole country so be careful where you go as you may not like some bits..." Married to a Thai woman for 20 years so have seen many regions of Thailand not just the Tourist areas,don’t think this country is shit really,just the way it’s being run | |||
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"Extreme old age is only fun if you're relatively fit and some contemporaries and family are alive with you. Otherwise it's a lonely and sometimes unhappy existence This statement has really enamoured me to the idea of growing old (because I'm already falling to pieces )"Sorry it made you feel that way | |||
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"Extreme old age is only fun if you're relatively fit and some contemporaries and family are alive with you. Otherwise it's a lonely and sometimes unhappy existence This statement has really enamoured me to the idea of growing old (because I'm already falling to pieces )
Sorry it made you feel that way "Honestly, just reinforces how I already feel. I'm not keen on knowing what the next 20yrs brings, let alone 50. My family are all irritatingly long lived too, all the way back to my G-G Grandmother on Dad's side (born 1830s, lived to mid 80s, birthed 16 kids). Either I'll get on with it, or I won't. Time will tell. | |||
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"Why is everyone so negative, life is pretty good when you look closely enough. Be positive folks" Because my current circumstances mean I have to live upstairs in my house, or go out and stay out. My house is completely unsuitable for my disability needs and the more I force myself to hobble up/down stairs on crutches, the worse I make my disability. I live in pain 100% of the time. I have to continue to work, a) for my sanity and b) because I'm the main income earner. A stairlift will cost £9k due to our stairs, the LA is reluctant to help and there's a year's waiting list anyway. I'm 36 and cannot see any quality of life now, let alone when I'm unable to self propel in my wheelchair (out of the house). Our bathroom looks like it belongs to someone in their 80s, due to the aids required and frankly I don't want to live in one room, on my own, in pain, for the rest of my life. If that's what my life has to be, I'd rather cut it short. | |||
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"Why is everyone so negative, life is pretty good when you look closely enough. Be positive folks Because my current circumstances mean I have to live upstairs in my house, or go out and stay out. My house is completely unsuitable for my disability needs and the more I force myself to hobble up/down stairs on crutches, the worse I make my disability. I live in pain 100% of the time. I have to continue to work, a) for my sanity and b) because I'm the main income earner. A stairlift will cost £9k due to our stairs, the LA is reluctant to help and there's a year's waiting list anyway. I'm 36 and cannot see any quality of life now, let alone when I'm unable to self propel in my wheelchair (out of the house). Our bathroom looks like it belongs to someone in their 80s, due to the aids required and frankly I don't want to live in one room, on my own, in pain, for the rest of my life. If that's what my life has to be, I'd rather cut it short. " I'm sorry you are having such dificulties. My circumstances are different I have arthritis so badly that means I am pretty much always in pain and I am also terminally ill with pulmonary fibrosis I'm down to 30% lung function with 21% efficiency so am on permanent oxygen. Things will get worse until my lungs scar and stiffen to the point where I suffocate. But I truly believe being positive has helped me stay alive and able to carry on. I've been lucky enough to get assigned a wonderfully helpful social worker that got me a stairlift installed and is in the process of trying to get me a wetroom with a wash dry toilet, dont know if she'll get it but she is trying. Not trying to be insulting or telling you how to suck eggs but can you get assigned someone to try and help you? Even being as positive as I always am I would probably struggle to stay so in your circumstances but please please never ever wish your life away. From someone who's life has been wished away for him it is such a precious thing. You have my sincere wishes and I hope things get better for you. | |||
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"Until my daughter is ready to live without me. Then I’ll be ready to go Facts…when my daughters are settled and happy in their own adult lives, job done. R. Our kids are happy and settled in their adult lives. I'm a valuable human being whose life and worth go beyond being a parent. I don't plan on dying yet. " That’s you. Life is overrated and when my daughter is good and set, I’ll find peace elsewhere. | |||
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"Why is everyone so negative, life is pretty good when you look closely enough. Be positive folks Because my current circumstances mean I have to live upstairs in my house, or go out and stay out. My house is completely unsuitable for my disability needs and the more I force myself to hobble up/down stairs on crutches, the worse I make my disability. I live in pain 100% of the time. I have to continue to work, a) for my sanity and b) because I'm the main income earner. A stairlift will cost £9k due to our stairs, the LA is reluctant to help and there's a year's waiting list anyway. I'm 36 and cannot see any quality of life now, let alone when I'm unable to self propel in my wheelchair (out of the house). Our bathroom looks like it belongs to someone in their 80s, due to the aids required and frankly I don't want to live in one room, on my own, in pain, for the rest of my life. If that's what my life has to be, I'd rather cut it short. I'm sorry you are having such dificulties. My circumstances are different I have arthritis so badly that means I am pretty much always in pain and I am also terminally ill with pulmonary fibrosis I'm down to 30% lung function with 21% efficiency so am on permanent oxygen. Things will get worse until my lungs scar and stiffen to the point where I suffocate. But I truly believe being positive has helped me stay alive and able to carry on. I've been lucky enough to get assigned a wonderfully helpful social worker that got me a stairlift installed and is in the process of trying to get me a wetroom with a wash dry toilet, dont know if she'll get it but she is trying. Not trying to be insulting or telling you how to suck eggs but can you get assigned someone to try and help you? Even being as positive as I always am I would probably struggle to stay so in your circumstances but please please never ever wish your life away. From someone who's life has been wished away for him it is such a precious thing. You have my sincere wishes and I hope things get better for you. " Unfortunately, your status as being terminally ill places you (rightly) at the top of the priory list for assistance. That is as it should be. People of 36 with a non life limiting physical disability, who struggle on with working and have another adult living at home with them (to be their carer, obviously), means I am at the very bottom of what is a long list. I have tried. I've had assessors out. I've had a breakdown in A&E and had "intervention" from nurses and others but it hasn't materialised any actual help. I have to wait over a year and everything is means tested. We've been warned we're unlikely to get much or any financial assistance but adaptations to our house would require tens of thousands of pounds. | |||
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"Until I die, or 2 years and 7 months - whichever is the earlier date. " The planet might die before then | |||
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"Until I die, or 2 years and 7 months - whichever is the earlier date. The planet might die before then" The death throes of the planet may well precipitate the first condition before the planet calls it quits. | |||
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"Until I die, or 2 years and 7 months - whichever is the earlier date. The planet might die before then The death throes of the planet may well precipitate the first condition before the planet calls it quits. " Ngl, you’re overestimating my intelligence but I like it  | |||
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"Why is everyone so negative, life is pretty good when you look closely enough. Be positive folks Because my current circumstances mean I have to live upstairs in my house, or go out and stay out. My house is completely unsuitable for my disability needs and the more I force myself to hobble up/down stairs on crutches, the worse I make my disability. I live in pain 100% of the time. I have to continue to work, a) for my sanity and b) because I'm the main income earner. A stairlift will cost £9k due to our stairs, the LA is reluctant to help and there's a year's waiting list anyway. I'm 36 and cannot see any quality of life now, let alone when I'm unable to self propel in my wheelchair (out of the house). Our bathroom looks like it belongs to someone in their 80s, due to the aids required and frankly I don't want to live in one room, on my own, in pain, for the rest of my life. If that's what my life has to be, I'd rather cut it short. I'm sorry you are having such dificulties. My circumstances are different I have arthritis so badly that means I am pretty much always in pain and I am also terminally ill with pulmonary fibrosis I'm down to 30% lung function with 21% efficiency so am on permanent oxygen. Things will get worse until my lungs scar and stiffen to the point where I suffocate. But I truly believe being positive has helped me stay alive and able to carry on. I've been lucky enough to get assigned a wonderfully helpful social worker that got me a stairlift installed and is in the process of trying to get me a wetroom with a wash dry toilet, dont know if she'll get it but she is trying. Not trying to be insulting or telling you how to suck eggs but can you get assigned someone to try and help you? Even being as positive as I always am I would probably struggle to stay so in your circumstances but please please never ever wish your life away. From someone who's life has been wished away for him it is such a precious thing. You have my sincere wishes and I hope things get better for you. Unfortunately, your status as being terminally ill places you (rightly) at the top of the priory list for assistance. That is as it should be. People of 36 with a non life limiting physical disability, who struggle on with working and have another adult living at home with them (to be their carer, obviously), means I am at the very bottom of what is a long list. I have tried. I've had assessors out. I've had a breakdown in A&E and had "intervention" from nurses and others but it hasn't materialised any actual help. I have to wait over a year and everything is means tested. We've been warned we're unlikely to get much or any financial assistance but adaptations to our house would require tens of thousands of pounds. " Makes me so bloody angry...you've got all these companys and wealthy bastards screwing literally hundreds of thousands of pounds out of the system and when someone desperately needs help there's no bloody money. Im not normally a revolutionary type by by god we need a revolution in this country. I wish I was in a position to do more than send you all my wishes for your future xx | |||
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"Why is everyone so negative, life is pretty good when you look closely enough. Be positive folks Because my current circumstances mean I have to live upstairs in my house, or go out and stay out. My house is completely unsuitable for my disability needs and the more I force myself to hobble up/down stairs on crutches, the worse I make my disability. I live in pain 100% of the time. I have to continue to work, a) for my sanity and b) because I'm the main income earner. A stairlift will cost £9k due to our stairs, the LA is reluctant to help and there's a year's waiting list anyway. I'm 36 and cannot see any quality of life now, let alone when I'm unable to self propel in my wheelchair (out of the house). Our bathroom looks like it belongs to someone in their 80s, due to the aids required and frankly I don't want to live in one room, on my own, in pain, for the rest of my life. If that's what my life has to be, I'd rather cut it short. I'm sorry you are having such dificulties. My circumstances are different I have arthritis so badly that means I am pretty much always in pain and I am also terminally ill with pulmonary fibrosis I'm down to 30% lung function with 21% efficiency so am on permanent oxygen. Things will get worse until my lungs scar and stiffen to the point where I suffocate. But I truly believe being positive has helped me stay alive and able to carry on. I've been lucky enough to get assigned a wonderfully helpful social worker that got me a stairlift installed and is in the process of trying to get me a wetroom with a wash dry toilet, dont know if she'll get it but she is trying. Not trying to be insulting or telling you how to suck eggs but can you get assigned someone to try and help you? Even being as positive as I always am I would probably struggle to stay so in your circumstances but please please never ever wish your life away. From someone who's life has been wished away for him it is such a precious thing. You have my sincere wishes and I hope things get better for you. Unfortunately, your status as being terminally ill places you (rightly) at the top of the priory list for assistance. That is as it should be. People of 36 with a non life limiting physical disability, who struggle on with working and have another adult living at home with them (to be their carer, obviously), means I am at the very bottom of what is a long list. I have tried. I've had assessors out. I've had a breakdown in A&E and had "intervention" from nurses and others but it hasn't materialised any actual help. I have to wait over a year and everything is means tested. We've been warned we're unlikely to get much or any financial assistance but adaptations to our house would require tens of thousands of pounds. Makes me so bloody angry...you've got all these companys and wealthy bastards screwing literally hundreds of thousands of pounds out of the system and when someone desperately needs help there's no bloody money. Im not normally a revolutionary type by by god we need a revolution in this country. I wish I was in a position to do more than send you all my wishes for your future xx" I'm very sorry that you find yourself in the position of having a terminal illness and hope that you get ALL the help and support you will need. It's essential you have that. | |||
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"Why is everyone so negative, life is pretty good when you look closely enough. Be positive folks Because my current circumstances mean I have to live upstairs in my house, or go out and stay out. My house is completely unsuitable for my disability needs and the more I force myself to hobble up/down stairs on crutches, the worse I make my disability. I live in pain 100% of the time. I have to continue to work, a) for my sanity and b) because I'm the main income earner. A stairlift will cost £9k due to our stairs, the LA is reluctant to help and there's a year's waiting list anyway. I'm 36 and cannot see any quality of life now, let alone when I'm unable to self propel in my wheelchair (out of the house). Our bathroom looks like it belongs to someone in their 80s, due to the aids required and frankly I don't want to live in one room, on my own, in pain, for the rest of my life. If that's what my life has to be, I'd rather cut it short. I'm sorry you are having such dificulties. My circumstances are different I have arthritis so badly that means I am pretty much always in pain and I am also terminally ill with pulmonary fibrosis I'm down to 30% lung function with 21% efficiency so am on permanent oxygen. Things will get worse until my lungs scar and stiffen to the point where I suffocate. But I truly believe being positive has helped me stay alive and able to carry on. I've been lucky enough to get assigned a wonderfully helpful social worker that got me a stairlift installed and is in the process of trying to get me a wetroom with a wash dry toilet, dont know if she'll get it but she is trying. Not trying to be insulting or telling you how to suck eggs but can you get assigned someone to try and help you? Even being as positive as I always am I would probably struggle to stay so in your circumstances but please please never ever wish your life away. From someone who's life has been wished away for him it is such a precious thing. You have my sincere wishes and I hope things get better for you. " Don't really know what to say but I wanted to say something but I applaud and love your positivity. Hope you get that wet room fella. | |||
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"Why is everyone so negative, life is pretty good when you look closely enough. Be positive folks Because my current circumstances mean I have to live upstairs in my house, or go out and stay out. My house is completely unsuitable for my disability needs and the more I force myself to hobble up/down stairs on crutches, the worse I make my disability. I live in pain 100% of the time. I have to continue to work, a) for my sanity and b) because I'm the main income earner. A stairlift will cost £9k due to our stairs, the LA is reluctant to help and there's a year's waiting list anyway. I'm 36 and cannot see any quality of life now, let alone when I'm unable to self propel in my wheelchair (out of the house). Our bathroom looks like it belongs to someone in their 80s, due to the aids required and frankly I don't want to live in one room, on my own, in pain, for the rest of my life. If that's what my life has to be, I'd rather cut it short. I'm sorry you are having such dificulties. My circumstances are different I have arthritis so badly that means I am pretty much always in pain and I am also terminally ill with pulmonary fibrosis I'm down to 30% lung function with 21% efficiency so am on permanent oxygen. Things will get worse until my lungs scar and stiffen to the point where I suffocate. But I truly believe being positive has helped me stay alive and able to carry on. I've been lucky enough to get assigned a wonderfully helpful social worker that got me a stairlift installed and is in the process of trying to get me a wetroom with a wash dry toilet, dont know if she'll get it but she is trying. Not trying to be insulting or telling you how to suck eggs but can you get assigned someone to try and help you? Even being as positive as I always am I would probably struggle to stay so in your circumstances but please please never ever wish your life away. From someone who's life has been wished away for him it is such a precious thing. You have my sincere wishes and I hope things get better for you. Unfortunately, your status as being terminally ill places you (rightly) at the top of the priory list for assistance. That is as it should be. People of 36 with a non life limiting physical disability, who struggle on with working and have another adult living at home with them (to be their carer, obviously), means I am at the very bottom of what is a long list. I have tried. I've had assessors out. I've had a breakdown in A&E and had "intervention" from nurses and others but it hasn't materialised any actual help. I have to wait over a year and everything is means tested. We've been warned we're unlikely to get much or any financial assistance but adaptations to our house would require tens of thousands of pounds. Makes me so bloody angry...you've got all these companys and wealthy bastards screwing literally hundreds of thousands of pounds out of the system and when someone desperately needs help there's no bloody money. Im not normally a revolutionary type by by god we need a revolution in this country. I wish I was in a position to do more than send you all my wishes for your future xx I'm very sorry that you find yourself in the position of having a terminal illness and hope that you get ALL the help and support you will need. It's essential you have that. " Thanks for that, fortunately between my son and daughter in law and brother and his family I do get lots of help and support. I hope you start getting some of the help and support that you obviously need as well. Take good care of yourselves and if you ever ever feel the need for a chat just send me a message ok. And, I'm not just saying that I truly mean it. Regards to both of you, please take care and stay safe Tony xx | |||
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