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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ghosted on the day of a meet (yayyy...). No friends are free so it's another Saturday night in by myself... All I wanna do is order pizza and B&J's but I've not been great with food this week so that's gonna make me feel worse, right?

I'm sick of playing video games and watching TV... What are some tips for avoiding comfort binges? How do you make the most of a night by yourself without running to chocolate?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Sorry to hear that! Maybe go out for a little walk before it gets dark x

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I feel you.

The only sure for way I've found is to go for a walk... away from any food shops.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry to hear that! Maybe go out for a little walk before it gets dark x"

My knee's fucked0

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Come on sweetie...I've no words of wisdom other than..please try not to binge ...

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Sorry to hear that! Maybe go out for a little walk before it gets dark x

My knee's fucked0"

Ohh soz! Sit in garden a while? Find fresh air works wonders x

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By *eejay2015Woman
over a year ago

somewhere in Buckinghamshire

Sorry you've been ghosted and your evening plans have gone to shit.

I'm lucky, I loose my appetite.

Great for weight loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice soak in the bath, then a favourite film you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe talk to someone nice with a bit of humour that will make you smile.

You look great btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love nights alone, good job since all my nights are alone.

If I feel rubbish though, I'll work out to the point I'm sweating buckets.

Shower, glass of wine and go man hunting.

I appreciate the glass of wine is not the best when it comes to being healthy but, needs must.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Ghosted again? Fucj these guys

Get a pizza

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Note to self read the whole OP

Sorry to hear that Amber

Unfortunately comfort food is exactly that, can you have a hot bath, wine and a early night?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ghosted again? Fucj these guys

Get a pizza "

Lmao that's what it'll say on my gravestone:

"Ghosted again, but for real this time"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Note to self read the whole OP

Sorry to hear that Amber

Unfortunately comfort food is exactly that, can you have a hot bath, wine and a early night?"

If I don't keep my mind busy at all times I automatically burst out crying

#baggage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can order BJ’s…?…. I don’t like the look of our local Deliveroo guy though…

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Have one of those everything baths. Shave, exfoliate, moisturise, nails, hair mask, face mask fresh sheets and go get some new pjs

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Ghosted again? Fucj these guys

Get a pizza

Lmao that's what it'll say on my gravestone:

"Ghosted again, but for real this time"

Go haunt these dicks

Same day ghost, so rude, because it ruins the whole night

Honestly I’d get a pizza and ice cream. Who cares. Some comfort right now is what’s needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find brushing my teeth the most boring and tedious thing to do so, if I do it early evening, I know I'll not want to do it again that night and I'll not munch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw no

Having a cry can be release. How about a sad film and have a really good sob.

Comfort eating can be ok, if it's done mindfully.

I would make a lasagne, have a glass of wine and read a book in the bath.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or, could you get creative? That might keep your hands and your mind busy. Maybe a jigsaw, or watch an art class online? I knit when I'm bored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or, could you get creative? That might keep your hands and your mind busy. Maybe a jigsaw, or watch an art class online? I knit when I'm bored. "

Have a catch up with Bob Ross

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool

I'd do 500g of dairy milk in... followed by 6 pack of minster munch and and Indian takeaway...

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Sometimes it helps todo something and see a positive outcome. You’ll laugh at this but ironing works because you start off with a mess and within an hour it’s all neat. Also stops hands getting bored and eating.

Give your shoes a thorough clean, paint the bathroom door, shred some bills… anything where you can spend some time and see a benefit quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is go to Enfield and [redacted]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really sorry. That's shit. I'd be wanting to drown/eat my sorrows too.

He's an idiot as you seem really lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Note to self read the whole OP

Sorry to hear that Amber

Unfortunately comfort food is exactly that, can you have a hot bath, wine and a early night?

If I don't keep my mind busy at all times I automatically burst out crying

#baggage"
have a cry. If that's what your body wants to do, honour it. You may find there's some clarity after it.

Comfort eating and other stuff like that is about trying to find a high so you can ignore what's going on. Trouble is, what is going on doesn't go away. So you just end up chasing the highs.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"I find brushing my teeth the most boring and tedious thing to do so, if I do it early evening, I know I'll not want to do it again that night and I'll not munch

Sorry to hear about your evening, OP.

I second this toothbrushing advice! Or chewing gum, which is my anti-munching solution. Hope you're feeling better later!

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

He's an idiot as you seem really lovely.

I also second this.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Why are some people trying to encourage Amber to do exactly what she wants to avoid (bingeing)? That's really not helpful at all.

Amber, why don't you see if you can find something to occupy your mind and hands that isn't your video game? Maybe craft, drawing, upcycling, reading, crosswords, puzzles, DIY, anything like that? Or, if you have a bath, take a cup of tea or something and have a nice long bubble bath?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have one of those everything baths. Shave, exfoliate, moisturise, nails, hair mask, face mask fresh sheets and go get some new pjs

That's a good shout. My niece recently informed me that's called a "Yaaaas Queen!"

Erm....... Isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Old school I know but read a book ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww hugs beautiful they must be crazy to stand you up

And my go to for the blues is online shopping probably not the best idear

But always look forward to a new dress skirt to leggings or heels comeing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ghosted on the day of a meet (yayyy...). No friends are free so it's another Saturday night in by myself... All I wanna do is order pizza and B&J's but I've not been great with food this week so that's gonna make me feel worse, right?

I'm sick of playing video games and watching TV... What are some tips for avoiding comfort binges? How do you make the most of a night by yourself without running to chocolate? "

Yay and me!

He's been online and purposely not opened my message considering we're supposed to be meeting at 7.30 this evening lol

Why do they do this??

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By *arrenandhisduckCouple
over a year ago

blackpool

Not sure of your situation but is getting a pet an option? Something to focus on, love & look after?

I got my first dog when I was on my own & things weren't great she was my little life saver.

Duck

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Have a pamper evening and get lost in a good book to distract your mind away from wanting to comfort eat, it's what I would do xx

Tg xx

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Jeeez I’m sorry this happened. Can relate as I had the same earlier this week.

Treat yourself to a shower/bath and chill in a fluffy towel doing something you love. Sending hugs

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Nothing will fill my void when comfort eating

now 12 weeks after gastric sleeve surgery and 3.5 stone gone my new addiction to make me feel good is shopping. Maybe just find something else what makes you feel good? Instead of meet at yours maybe visit swingers club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as food goes, I have things I adore and would devour that don't agree with me.

The only way to avoid it is to get the thought of how bad I'll feel afterwards properly front&centre and wedged in my brain to make it unappealing and find a better substitute.

Set yourself a goal in your mind or on paper. Maybe of how your knee might feel eased or whatever would be goal #1 for you. It's important to keep steps small and achievable and then just hop to the next one again and again.

PS you've dodged a bullet there, he has very kindly shown himself up and taken himself out to the bin to save you the hassle & heartache xx

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Get pizza

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are some people trying to encourage Amber to do exactly what she wants to avoid (bingeing)? That's really not helpful at all.

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this. Drop me a DM Amber if you need someone to chat with.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

"Have one of those everything baths. Shave, exfoliate, moisturise, nails, hair mask, face mask fresh sheets and go get some new pjs

That's a good shout. My niece recently informed me that's called a "Yaaaas Queen!"

Erm....... Isn't it? "

Hahahaha Yaaaas Queen!

Yeah she’s right on that one. They’re the best things

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Note to self read the whole OP

Sorry to hear that Amber

Unfortunately comfort food is exactly that, can you have a hot bath, wine and a early night?

If I don't keep my mind busy at all times I automatically burst out crying

#baggage"

Why not focus on going out to buy the ingredients to make something you really like and that won't make you feel guilty afterwards, and then spend time making it

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Sorry to hear that OP. Have a pamper? Or a wander around big Tesco always cheers me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sick of playing video games and watching TV... What are some tips for avoiding comfort binges? How do you make the most of a night by yourself without running to chocolate? "

Come round to mine and we can share the pizza lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Note to self read the whole OP

Sorry to hear that Amber

Unfortunately comfort food is exactly that, can you have a hot bath, wine and a early night?

If I don't keep my mind busy at all times I automatically burst out crying

#baggage"

It’s ok to cry, let that emotion out, crying is a healthy release.

I’m sorry this happened to you, maybe he was a massive knob with no knob.

Have a bath, put some music on and dance, put a feel good movie on.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Harsh but...

Stop making bad choices walk or food You have control.

Remember it ok to fail once in a while but as long as you win most times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine waking up in the morning and feeling a little squint of pride that you didn't give the dickhead the time of day or headspace to be the reason you decide to eat something you have said you don't really want to eat.

It's always your choice.

And take a minute to savour it

You're a kickass fabber hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sick of playing video games and watching TV... What are some tips for avoiding comfort binges? How do you make the most of a night by yourself without running to chocolate? "

Hi A, try milky drinks like ovaltine and a feelgood movie. Not the best thing to do on a Sat night but better than brooding about some arse who ghosted you...hope you feel better soon Tony x

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I know exactly what you mean OP. I find if I get like this comedy is the answer. Laughter lifts up the mood

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove

That’s why I will only meet people I have met before, I know they’re reliable

I’m having a night in too

Let’s hit the chocolate at the same time

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Stop in on some family?

My big brother is my safe haven if I feel low/at a loose end.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Self massage is my go to

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'd have a lovely, indulgent bath then give myself a manicure and paint my nails a nice bright pink.

And/ or phone my bestie.

Don't let the fuckwit get you down, you are better than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wee bit of self care/pampering.

Exfoliate, shave, body lotion, face mask,paint nails & toenails.

Fuck 'em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Binge alcohol and send text messages you know you’ll regret in the morning. That’s always great therapy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice everyone xx

Spent the evening feeling shit (not just coz of this guy but you know when everything's shit anyway so the little things send you spiraling) but glad to say I did not binge and donated the money I was gonna spend on takeaway to the Pakistani flood appeal instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice everyone xx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Thanks for the advice everyone xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice everyone xx

Love this

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By *ittleMyWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

"Thanks for the advice everyone xx

That's a lovely selfless thing to do. I hope you had a restful night and things are looking brighter this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice everyone xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done for the donation, that sounds like the inner workings of self healing so if you look at it from the outside you are well past the first step and that’s to be celebrated

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"What are some tips for avoiding comfort binges? How do you make the most of a night by yourself without running to chocolate? "

After looking at my bank balance a good good few years ago I realised I was spending over £100 a week on burgers and junk food outside of my regular food shop, which was both shocking and unsustainable, so cut it on principle.

One thing I found was a craving for tomato sauce not the burgers. I still have it now (when I'm most tired), where I go through spates of lazy eating or covering things with the stuff but I am nowhere near spending what I was.

Some tips are apparently busying yourself for 5 minutes, having a drink as we usually eat when we're thirsty, removing apps that might tempt you, finding that trigger as explained above, having food defrosted or ready to cook on days you might usually feel lazy.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Well done, OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m really sorry to hear this has happened to you. Personally when I’m pissed off or let down I put on my headphones and blast some heavy metal or rock works every time to help me forget. I’m diabetic so no chocolates for me so forget the shops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant OP even when feeling low you thought of others before yourself. It will come back to you, not when you expect it and probably in a way you'd least expect. But, you always always reap what you sow and you sowed love. That is a special thing when you are feeling low and could easily think of yourself first.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Thanks for the advice everyone xx

That's a really productive use the money nice one. Did you find anything pleasant to do with your time last night?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice everyone xx

That's a really productive use the money nice one. Did you find anything pleasant to do with your time last night? "

Nah just more of the same really

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Brilliant OP even when feeling low you thought of others before yourself. It will come back to you, not when you expect it and probably in a way you'd least expect. But, you always always reap what you sow and you sowed love. That is a special thing when you are feeling low and could easily think of yourself first."

It's a cause close to my heart and not one I feel is getting enough attention.

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