FabSwingers.com forum: Unexpected item in the bagging area

By *herryaide20 OP Woman
over a year ago

Honiton

I've been a swinger for 15 years so not new to this game but now I have a dilemma. I started mentoring a newbie 8 years my junior something I've done before and never had a problem,trouble is I find myself falling for him and haven't a clue what to do.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Ease off seeing him until the feelings fade.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Explain your feelings and if he doesn’t feel the same way then cut off all communication. It sounds harsh but it’s the best way to get over it.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Marry him

LvM

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Tell him. If feelings are reciprocated it's great if they're not you'll know and won't spend months wondering.

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By *herryaide20 OP Woman
over a year ago

Honiton

I think you might be onto something

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

“Mentoring“. A word I’ve never heard associated with Fab. Lol.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

What kind of feelings?

Love, lust, an emotional bond, jealousy?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"“Mentoring“. A word I’ve never heard associated with Fab. Lol. "

That went through my head.......

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

He's nearly 40 ? What's he being 'mentored' in ..... ?

Do you mean you fancy him or you are falling for him ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

ooops ..... you said falling for ......

He's a man ...... just tell him.

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By *mooth shaftMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Get him on a night out and ride his shaft hard and fast - he's a bloke he'll love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s the issue? Ask him on a date

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"Get him on a night out and ride his shaft hard and fast - he's a bloke he'll love it"

Can’t agree more

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Hey fellas won't that just be sexual harrasement? Think of the OP being a bloke and mentee being a younger woman?

To OP, I know you live in Horny Town (giggle) but seriously...

To take your mind off him, I think you should find and shag any fellas on here. I'm sure there will be lots of guys willing. Hell, even pick one who looks like your mentee and shag him senseless.

Then work out your inner feelings as to your emotional response to him. Is there a gap in your physical / emotional needs that is clouding your professional judgement?

And if after all that... And you still have feelings, then maybe speak to him as suggested?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hey fellas won't that just be sexual harrasement? Think of the OP being a bloke and mentee being a younger woman?

To OP, I know you live in Horny Town (giggle) but seriously...

To take your mind off him, I think you should find and shag any fellas on here. I'm sure there will be lots of guys willing. Hell, even pick one who looks like your mentee and shag him senseless.

Then work out your inner feelings as to your emotional response to him. Is there a gap in your physical / emotional needs that is clouding your professional judgement?

And if after all that... And you still have feelings, then maybe speak to him as suggested?

I took it to mean she was mentoring him in swinging. In a work scenario I'd advise keeping it professional

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"I took it to mean she was mentoring him in swinging. In a work scenario I'd advise keeping it professional"

Oh ok... Silly moo me!

Well if that is the case, then this is the minefield of having feelings for fuck-buddies?

Been there... and so a straightforward chat settled it. My ex-fb (who I no longer shag) is one of my besties ever!

So yeah, various outcomes could be at play here... So perhaps a case of thinking through all the possible "playbook" outcomes?

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By *herryaide20 OP Woman
over a year ago

Honiton

"What kind of feelings?

Love, lust, an emotional bond, jealousy?"

Emotional bond

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By *herryaide20 OP Woman
over a year ago

Honiton

Met him on here he's new to the scene fancy the fuck out of him

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"I've been a swinger for 15 years so not new to this game but now I have a dilemma. I started mentoring a newbie 8 years my junior something I've done before and never had a problem,trouble is I find myself falling for him and haven't a clue what to do."

Is this a problem? It might not be.

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By *orthmanMan
over a year ago

Kendal

Are you sure it isn't an unexpected item in the tea-bagging area?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met him on here he's new to the scene fancy the fuck out of him "

Has he said he's open to an arrangement or more? In general terms

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Have the awkward convo. Judge it from there. If that fails, light saber duel with your young padawan.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Hey fellas won't that just be sexual harrasement? Think of the OP being a bloke and mentee being a younger woman?

To OP, I know you live in Horny Town (giggle) but seriously...

To take your mind off him, I think you should find and shag any fellas on here. I'm sure there will be lots of guys willing. Hell, even pick one who looks like your mentee and shag him senseless.

Then work out your inner feelings as to your emotional response to him. Is there a gap in your physical / emotional needs that is clouding your professional judgement?

And if after all that... And you still have feelings, then maybe speak to him as suggested?

He's in his 40's .......

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

"Met him on here he's new to the scene fancy the fuck out of him "

Then fuck the fancy out of him and see how feel afterwards. See if it's just lust or genuine feelings.

Oh and 8 years difference that's nothing these days x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Start fancying me instead ..I won't mind

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By *annabarberaCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

Here’s my thoughts…..

Although Fab is a swinging site ( or as I like to call it sexually liberated) it is inevitable at some point you are going to meet somebody especially if you meet regularly that you have that emotional connection with.

For me that is what makes the journey even more intense.Building trust and experiencing new things as a duo. Happened for me

Don’t see it as a negative

Have a conversation be open and honest you could both be on the same page and what opportunities that could bring x

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