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"This site is an unusual place it’s like when you message someone it gets lost in the vortex and a reply never materialises lol " You're not alone there brother | |||
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"This site is an unusual place it’s like when you message someone it gets lost in the vortex and a reply never materialises lol " Welcome to fab.  | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? " ……….  …… I’d give it a bloody good try  | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? " Would give it a good go lol | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? Would give it a good go lol" And this is exactly why women don't reply | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? Would give it a good go lol And this is exactly why women don't reply "That was only said in jest | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? Would give it a good go lol And this is exactly why women don't reply
That was only said in jest "Yeah I'm sure | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? Would give it a good go lol" You’d get real tired after the 1st week Plus, 80% of those messages are gonna be from…. Very undesirables | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? Would give it a good go lol And this is exactly why women don't reply
That was only said in jest
Yeah I'm sure "I know this site is flooded with guys and must be exhausting for the ladies being bombarded with constant messages | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? Would give it a good go lol And this is exactly why women don't reply
That was only said in jest
Yeah I'm sure
I know this site is flooded with guys and must be exhausting for the ladies being bombarded with constant messages "Not really no. What's a tad annoying is the number of desperate guys on here. | |||
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists." When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator | |||
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"It happens with us couples too you know " I’d reply to you guys lols xx | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? Would give it a good go lol And this is exactly why women don't reply
That was only said in jest
Yeah I'm sure
I know this site is flooded with guys and must be exhausting for the ladies being bombarded with constant messages
Not really no.
What's a tad annoying is the number of desperate guys on here. "I don’t think that annoying, i think that’s rather sad  | |||
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists. When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator " Yes, point taken, but I suppose it comes down to which pond you fish in. I'm not sure you can conflate Tinder and Fab anymore than Mumsnet and Fab. | |||
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists. When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator " Desperation in guys you can see a mile off. Asking to meet after a handful of messages and only seeing one very flattering pic. Telling you how beautiful you are when they haven't a fucking clue what you look like. You see it on here replying to every woman on threads telling them how sexy they are. It's cringey. Confidence and not being desperate. Rare combination in men. | |||
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"This site is an unusual place it’s like when you message someone it gets lost in the vortex and a reply never materialises lol " I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. Never had a single moments angst over sent messages from that point on. 
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists. When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator Desperation in guys you can see a mile off. Asking to meet after a handful of messages and only seeing one very flattering pic. Telling you how beautiful you are when they haven't a fucking clue what you look like. You see it on here replying to every woman on threads telling them how sexy they are. It's cringey. Confidence and not being desperate. Rare combination in men. " The rate me threads hurt my head That picture of her calf and she’s a 9/10? Really? A near perfect score. Have a spine man. You might actually be able to stand tall that way | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? Would give it a good go lol You’d get real tired after the 1st week Plus, 80% of those messages are gonna be from…. Very undesirables " Only 80%? | |||
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists. When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator Desperation in guys you can see a mile off. Asking to meet after a handful of messages and only seeing one very flattering pic. Telling you how beautiful you are when they haven't a fucking clue what you look like. You see it on here replying to every woman on threads telling them how sexy they are. It's cringey. Confidence and not being desperate. Rare combination in men. The rate me threads hurt my head That picture of her calf and she’s a 9/10? Really? A near perfect score. Have a spine man. You might actually be able to stand tall that way " Who's worse though, the guy giving every woman a 9/10 (then no doubt following it up with a message) or the women asking for it? | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, " I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab. | |||
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"This site is an unusual place it’s like when you message someone it gets lost in the vortex and a reply never materialises lol " Remember, no reply means no thanks. | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab. "And then when you do get a reply, they can barely string together a sentence. Why is that? Had a response yesterday, and after 2 replies that were basically “yeah lol” I just said no thanks, not for me. Then she got annoyed I hadn’t given her a chance and that she was actually interested. Apparently it’s rude of me to expect a 2 war conversation Why does it go that way. Probably complains constantly about the state of the messages they get, then put in the bare minimum when they do decide to response Fabs truly is a weird place | |||
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"This site is an unusual place it’s like when you message someone it gets lost in the vortex and a reply never materialises lol " We have 40 odd unread messages from the last couple of weeks. That's despite deleting the same number simply after viewing the profile that sent them before even reading the message. Anything that arrives asking to meet now gets binned. It's not as if we don't state that in the first paragraph in our profile. Anything that comes from a profile where there's only a couple of uninteresting photos and one or rwo lines of text that tells us nothing gets binned, again before we've even opened the message. If people can't be arsed to put any effort into their profile then why should we waste our time reading anything sent to us? We adopt tye 'junk mail' approach the same as we do for stuff that comes through the letterbox or spam emails. If it's not something we have any interest in it goes in the bin. We don't message the companies to tell them 'no thanks' though.
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"This site is an unusual place it’s like when you message someone it gets lost in the vortex and a reply never materialises lol " I feel your pain pal | |||
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"We reply to all messages even if to say "No Thanks". "Haven’t received one like that from you yet 
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists. When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator Desperation in guys you can see a mile off. Asking to meet after a handful of messages and only seeing one very flattering pic. Telling you how beautiful you are when they haven't a fucking clue what you look like. You see it on here replying to every woman on threads telling them how sexy they are. It's cringey. Confidence and not being desperate. Rare combination in men. " How about confident and indifferent… ?  | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? " Not a good analogy, yes most men would, but we are wired up differently to most ladies! | |||
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists. When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator Desperation in guys you can see a mile off. Asking to meet after a handful of messages and only seeing one very flattering pic. Telling you how beautiful you are when they haven't a fucking clue what you look like. You see it on here replying to every woman on threads telling them how sexy they are. It's cringey. Confidence and not being desperate. Rare combination in men. " this the amount of guys who want to meet without seeing pics without even a small conversation its so off putting | |||
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"We reply to all messages even if to say "No Thanks". "The problem with that method is that if in the future you decide to block single males from messaging, anyone you've said 'no thanks' to will still be able to contact you. Replying disables that part of the filter unless you individually block them. A | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise. "I keep them. I look through periodically and delete/block those that didn’t bother with me. My connections are becoming as rare as a shiny Pokémon. | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise. "Totally this. I wonder how many do this. | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Totally this. I wonder how many do this. "It’s all I’ve ever done. I don’t send many 1st messages nowadays, but if I did, they’re binned as soon as they’re sent. | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise. "Question on this though They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine. It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then? Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get. | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get. "I say ...... Use private notes to keep tabs. Maybe add a date of when you messaged and what their reply was or if they didn't reply. From there, you can decide whether to message again and when. | |||
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"This site is an unusual place it’s like when you message someone it gets lost in the vortex and a reply never materialises lol " You do know that it has to be passed around every forumite for approval first ? Just be patient. Your 'no thanks' will arrive soon. | |||
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"This site is an unusual place it’s like when you message someone it gets lost in the vortex and a reply never materialises lol You do know that it has to be passed around every forumite for approval first ? Just be patient. Your 'no thanks' will arrive soon." A little truth in jest, I'm thinking  | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get. "Women only get loads of messages if they want them though. So ye any woman who gets a load, messages will get lost in there. Women who don't want a crap load of mail from people they aren't ever going to be interested in use their filters it dramatically cuts down on mail they receive. It's what I do. I rarely ever get messages. In saying that I will delete ones if there cheat to get through filters or have a no effort profile. | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get. "Nope. We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from. We're just not in a rush to reply. None of them are lost. That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles. A | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
Nope.
We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from.
We're just not in a rush to reply.
None of them are lost.
That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles.
A"THIS! I get a lot but still never miss messages from people I actually want to chat to. If it’s unread it’s because the first line is crude or boring or I’ve checked out the profile and they’re not what I’m looking for. | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
Nope.
We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from.
We're just not in a rush to reply.
None of them are lost.
That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles.
A"Weird, I’ve seen tonnes of women, both in forums and in statuses, saying they can’t keep up with the volume of messages and they either get forgotten or bulk deleted without a look. Are they lying? | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
I say ......
Use private notes to keep tabs.
Maybe add a date of when you messaged and what their reply was or if they didn't reply.
From there, you can decide whether to message again and when. "Smart idea, if I cared enough I’d do it, but keeping notes on fabswingers profiles isn’t something I could bring myself to do. I just considered unopened as unopened, and I’d maybe try again another time Opened and no reply is a straight block so they don’t clog up my search results | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get. "I’ll never know if it’s unopened because I’ve already deleted the sent mail from my outbox. | |||
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"Imagine if you had 100 new messages a day from woman asking to fuck you Would you respond to them all? Would give it a good go lol You’d get real tired after the 1st week Plus, 80% of those messages are gonna be from…. Very undesirables " 95% | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab.
And then when you do get a reply, they can barely string together a sentence. Why is that?
Had a response yesterday, and after 2 replies that were basically “yeah lol” I just said no thanks, not for me.
Then she got annoyed I hadn’t given her a chance and that she was actually interested. Apparently it’s rude of me to expect a 2 war conversation
Why does it go that way. Probably complains constantly about the state of the messages they get, then put in the bare minimum when they do decide to response
Fabs truly is a weird place "Many women are on here for the ego boost and have no intention of meeting. They only need to reply with a few words to keep the desperate men gagging for it. I think most men have gone off the idea of sex with anyone on here and they are just desperate for some human interaction. Any reply is better than nothing at all. | |||
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists. When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator Desperation in guys you can see a mile off. Asking to meet after a handful of messages and only seeing one very flattering pic. Telling you how beautiful you are when they haven't a fucking clue what you look like. You see it on here replying to every woman on threads telling them how sexy they are. It's cringey. Confidence and not being desperate. Rare combination in men. " Especially on here | |||
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists. When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator Desperation in guys you can see a mile off. Asking to meet after a handful of messages and only seeing one very flattering pic. Telling you how beautiful you are when they haven't a fucking clue what you look like. You see it on here replying to every woman on threads telling them how sexy they are. It's cringey. Confidence and not being desperate. Rare combination in men. The rate me threads hurt my head That picture of her calf and she’s a 9/10? Really? A near perfect score. Have a spine man. You might actually be able to stand tall that way " God they make me cringe those threads! | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab.
And then when you do get a reply, they can barely string together a sentence. Why is that?
Had a response yesterday, and after 2 replies that were basically “yeah lol” I just said no thanks, not for me.
Then she got annoyed I hadn’t given her a chance and that she was actually interested. Apparently it’s rude of me to expect a 2 war conversation
Why does it go that way. Probably complains constantly about the state of the messages they get, then put in the bare minimum when they do decide to response
Fabs truly is a weird place
Many women are on here for the ego boost and have no intention of meeting. They only need to reply with a few words to keep the desperate men gagging for it.
I think most men have gone off the idea of sex with anyone on here and they are just desperate for some human interaction. Any reply is better than nothing at all. "this seems specially true. Women asking for a demi God specs here for meet else it's a no reply and then they say there's no good man available on fabs. | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab.
And then when you do get a reply, they can barely string together a sentence. Why is that?
Had a response yesterday, and after 2 replies that were basically “yeah lol” I just said no thanks, not for me.
Then she got annoyed I hadn’t given her a chance and that she was actually interested. Apparently it’s rude of me to expect a 2 war conversation
Why does it go that way. Probably complains constantly about the state of the messages they get, then put in the bare minimum when they do decide to response
Fabs truly is a weird place
Many women are on here for the ego boost and have no intention of meeting. They only need to reply with a few words to keep the desperate men gagging for it.
I think most men have gone off the idea of sex with anyone on here and they are just desperate for some human interaction. Any reply is better than nothing at all. this seems specially true. Women asking for a demi God specs here for meet else it's a no reply and then they say there's no good man available on fabs. "Demi god? | |||
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists. When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator Desperation in guys you can see a mile off. Asking to meet after a handful of messages and only seeing one very flattering pic. Telling you how beautiful you are when they haven't a fucking clue what you look like. You see it on here replying to every woman on threads telling them how sexy they are. It's cringey. Confidence and not being desperate. Rare combination in men. The rate me threads hurt my head That picture of her calf and she’s a 9/10? Really? A near perfect score. Have a spine man. You might actually be able to stand tall that way God they make me cringe those threads!" Me too, rate my body, rate my boobs, rate my cock (not that i've got one!). No thanks!! | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab.
And then when you do get a reply, they can barely string together a sentence. Why is that?
Had a response yesterday, and after 2 replies that were basically “yeah lol” I just said no thanks, not for me.
Then she got annoyed I hadn’t given her a chance and that she was actually interested. Apparently it’s rude of me to expect a 2 war conversation
Why does it go that way. Probably complains constantly about the state of the messages they get, then put in the bare minimum when they do decide to response
Fabs truly is a weird place
Many women are on here for the ego boost and have no intention of meeting. They only need to reply with a few words to keep the desperate men gagging for it.
I think most men have gone off the idea of sex with anyone on here and they are just desperate for some human interaction. Any reply is better than nothing at all. this seems specially true. Women asking for a demi God specs here for meet else it's a no reply and then they say there's no good man available on fabs.
Demi god? "Maybe not Demi god, but if some women/couples ran the maths on how many guys possess the things they want, they’d realise it’s purely a statistical fact they’d struggle to meet someone Even something as simple as 6ft (14% of men) and 7 inches (about 2.5%) significantly reduces your finding that person. I think that works out to be about 1 in 3000 guys Standards and preferences are fine, good for them, but blaming other for not meeting them isn’t chill | |||
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"…… this seems specially true. Women asking for a demi God specs here for meet else it's a no reply and then they say there's no good man available on fabs. Demi god? "Well I was asked if my tool is 20cm and girth of 8cm. I could have just lied but decided its not worth it. | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab.
And then when you do get a reply, they can barely string together a sentence. Why is that?
Had a response yesterday, and after 2 replies that were basically “yeah lol” I just said no thanks, not for me.
Then she got annoyed I hadn’t given her a chance and that she was actually interested. Apparently it’s rude of me to expect a 2 war conversation
Why does it go that way. Probably complains constantly about the state of the messages they get, then put in the bare minimum when they do decide to response
Fabs truly is a weird place
Many women are on here for the ego boost and have no intention of meeting. They only need to reply with a few words to keep the desperate men gagging for it.
I think most men have gone off the idea of sex with anyone on here and they are just desperate for some human interaction. Any reply is better than nothing at all. this seems specially true. Women asking for a demi God specs here for meet else it's a no reply and then they say there's no good man available on fabs.
Demi god?
Maybe not Demi god, but if some women/couples ran the maths on how many guys possess the things they want, they’d realise it’s purely a statistical fact they’d struggle to meet someone
Even something as simple as 6ft (14% of men) and 7 inches (about 2.5%) significantly reduces your finding that person. I think that works out to be about 1 in 3000 guys
Standards and preferences are fine, good for them, but blaming other for not meeting them isn’t chill "I actually agree with him! I require tall because I’m tall but I’m also aware my desire for that limits my choices. I like average cock size though and I’m not looking to meet loads of guys, just a couple who’ll hopefully become regulars. I’m also willing to wait to find what I’m looking for. | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab.
And then when you do get a reply, they can barely string together a sentence. Why is that?
Had a response yesterday, and after 2 replies that were basically “yeah lol” I just said no thanks, not for me.
Then she got annoyed I hadn’t given her a chance and that she was actually interested. Apparently it’s rude of me to expect a 2 war conversation
Why does it go that way. Probably complains constantly about the state of the messages they get, then put in the bare minimum when they do decide to response
Fabs truly is a weird place
Many women are on here for the ego boost and have no intention of meeting. They only need to reply with a few words to keep the desperate men gagging for it.
I think most men have gone off the idea of sex with anyone on here and they are just desperate for some human interaction. Any reply is better than nothing at all. this seems specially true. Women asking for a demi God specs here for meet else it's a no reply and then they say there's no good man available on fabs.
Demi god?
Maybe not Demi god, but if some women/couples ran the maths on how many guys possess the things they want, they’d realise it’s purely a statistical fact they’d struggle to meet someone
Even something as simple as 6ft (14% of men) and 7 inches (about 2.5%) significantly reduces your finding that person. I think that works out to be about 1 in 3000 guys
Standards and preferences are fine, good for them, but blaming other for not meeting them isn’t chill "Which woman on the thread complained that she doesn't get Demi gods? Yet you're still sniping about us. How many threads a week started by women blaming men because they can't get the meets they want? Versus threads started by men complaining about no meets, no replies etc. | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab.
And then when you do get a reply, they can barely string together a sentence. Why is that?
Had a response yesterday, and after 2 replies that were basically “yeah lol” I just said no thanks, not for me.
Then she got annoyed I hadn’t given her a chance and that she was actually interested. Apparently it’s rude of me to expect a 2 war conversation
Why does it go that way. Probably complains constantly about the state of the messages they get, then put in the bare minimum when they do decide to response
Fabs truly is a weird place
Many women are on here for the ego boost and have no intention of meeting. They only need to reply with a few words to keep the desperate men gagging for it.
I think most men have gone off the idea of sex with anyone on here and they are just desperate for some human interaction. Any reply is better than nothing at all. this seems specially true. Women asking for a demi God specs here for meet else it's a no reply and then they say there's no good man available on fabs.
Demi god?
Maybe not Demi god, but if some women/couples ran the maths on how many guys possess the things they want, they’d realise it’s purely a statistical fact they’d struggle to meet someone
Even something as simple as 6ft (14% of men) and 7 inches (about 2.5%) significantly reduces your finding that person. I think that works out to be about 1 in 3000 guys
Standards and preferences are fine, good for them, but blaming other for not meeting them isn’t chill
Which woman on the thread complained that she doesn't get Demi gods? Yet you're still sniping about us.
How many threads a week started by women blaming men because they can't get the meets they want?
Versus threads started by men complaining about no meets, no replies etc. "I’m just talking generally. Nothing specific to here, or this thread, or you. So don’t take it too personally  | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab.
And then when you do get a reply, they can barely string together a sentence. Why is that?
Had a response yesterday, and after 2 replies that were basically “yeah lol” I just said no thanks, not for me.
Then she got annoyed I hadn’t given her a chance and that she was actually interested. Apparently it’s rude of me to expect a 2 war conversation
Why does it go that way. Probably complains constantly about the state of the messages they get, then put in the bare minimum when they do decide to response
Fabs truly is a weird place
Many women are on here for the ego boost and have no intention of meeting. They only need to reply with a few words to keep the desperate men gagging for it.
I think most men have gone off the idea of sex with anyone on here and they are just desperate for some human interaction. Any reply is better than nothing at all. this seems specially true. Women asking for a demi God specs here for meet else it's a no reply and then they say there's no good man available on fabs.
Demi god?
Maybe not Demi god, but if some women/couples ran the maths on how many guys possess the things they want, they’d realise it’s purely a statistical fact they’d struggle to meet someone
Even something as simple as 6ft (14% of men) and 7 inches (about 2.5%) significantly reduces your finding that person. I think that works out to be about 1 in 3000 guys
Standards and preferences are fine, good for them, but blaming other for not meeting them isn’t chill
Which woman on the thread complained that she doesn't get Demi gods? Yet you're still sniping about us.
How many threads a week started by women blaming men because they can't get the meets they want?
Versus threads started by men complaining about no meets, no replies etc.
I’m just talking generally. Nothing specific to here, or this thread, or you. So don’t take it too personally "I defend my sex. As do you. | |||
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"…… I found this on my old single male profile. It's easily fixed though. I just stopped sending messages. ……, I figured that out very quickly. And that’s why I wouldn’t scold those that copy and paste so much. (I don’t By the way, before anyone jumps on me … I wish )
I send one out now and again, I get reminded how much choice women must have in here when it might get read but it is ignored. And that’s their prerogative.
But consider this, people come here to connect with like minded people , and the biggest majority of the sigh are not getting to connect with anyone, I don’t think it’s desperation with sex, but probably frustration of feeling invisible. I genuinely feel sorry for those who are actully perplexed how this site works. There isn’t an answer to why a good person isn’t getting what they expected by joining fab.
And then when you do get a reply, they can barely string together a sentence. Why is that?
Had a response yesterday, and after 2 replies that were basically “yeah lol” I just said no thanks, not for me.
Then she got annoyed I hadn’t given her a chance and that she was actually interested. Apparently it’s rude of me to expect a 2 war conversation
Why does it go that way. Probably complains constantly about the state of the messages they get, then put in the bare minimum when they do decide to response
Fabs truly is a weird place
Many women are on here for the ego boost and have no intention of meeting. They only need to reply with a few words to keep the desperate men gagging for it.
I think most men have gone off the idea of sex with anyone on here and they are just desperate for some human interaction. Any reply is better than nothing at all. this seems specially true. Women asking for a demi God specs here for meet else it's a no reply and then they say there's no good man available on fabs.
Demi god?
Maybe not Demi god, but if some women/couples ran the maths on how many guys possess the things they want, they’d realise it’s purely a statistical fact they’d struggle to meet someone
Even something as simple as 6ft (14% of men) and 7 inches (about 2.5%) significantly reduces your finding that person. I think that works out to be about 1 in 3000 guys
Standards and preferences are fine, good for them, but blaming other for not meeting them isn’t chill
Which woman on the thread complained that she doesn't get Demi gods? Yet you're still sniping about us.
How many threads a week started by women blaming men because they can't get the meets they want?
Versus threads started by men complaining about no meets, no replies etc.
I’m just talking generally. Nothing specific to here, or this thread, or you. So don’t take it too personally
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
Nope.
We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from.
We're just not in a rush to reply.
None of them are lost.
That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles.
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Weird, I’ve seen tonnes of women, both in forums and in statuses, saying they can’t keep up with the volume of messages and they either get forgotten or bulk deleted without a look. Are they lying? "Quite possibly, yes. Because it strokes their egos, makes them feel desired and gives the impression they're popular and important - even if they have zero intention of meeting and are just seeking attention. I've known some very attractive and active women on Fab over the years. None ever made vocal complaints about overloaded inboxes because they used filters, the delete and block buttons and managed their inboxes, rather than sit back and watch ego inflating numbers rack up. I suspect the actual number who couldn't keep up if they really wanted to would be minimal. A | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
Nope.
We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from.
We're just not in a rush to reply.
None of them are lost.
That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles.
A
Weird, I’ve seen tonnes of women, both in forums and in statuses, saying they can’t keep up with the volume of messages and they either get forgotten or bulk deleted without a look. Are they lying?
Quite possibly, yes.
Because it strokes their egos, makes them feel desired and gives the impression they're popular and important - even if they have zero intention of meeting and are just seeking attention.
I've known some very attractive and active women on Fab over the years. None ever made vocal complaints about overloaded inboxes because they used filters, the delete and block buttons and managed their inboxes, rather than sit back and watch ego inflating numbers rack up.
I suspect the actual number who couldn't keep up if they really wanted to would be minimal.
A"Interesting theory, I’m not on board with it, purely because my short time as a couple on here was hard work, and almost every meet I’ve had on here had the same experience. But still, it’s an interseing theory | |||
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"The surprising thing about this is not so much that replies are seldom received but that the situation endures. Most guys, like myself, must surely realise that messaging is pretty futile and will cease. So who persists? Must be newcomers or 5-star optimists. When you have no other options, you’ll keep trying I’ve got friends that have been on tinder for 10 years without a single date. Desperation is a powerful motivator Desperation in guys you can see a mile off. Asking to meet after a handful of messages and only seeing one very flattering pic. Telling you how beautiful you are when they haven't a fucking clue what you look like. You see it on here replying to every woman on threads telling them how sexy they are. It's cringey. Confidence and not being desperate. Rare combination in men. Especially on here "Confident and not desperate would be multitasking and you know how that goes.. | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
Nope.
We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from.
We're just not in a rush to reply.
None of them are lost.
That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles.
A
Weird, I’ve seen tonnes of women, both in forums and in statuses, saying they can’t keep up with the volume of messages and they either get forgotten or bulk deleted without a look. Are they lying?
Quite possibly, yes.
Because it strokes their egos, makes them feel desired and gives the impression they're popular and important - even if they have zero intention of meeting and are just seeking attention.
I've known some very attractive and active women on Fab over the years. None ever made vocal complaints about overloaded inboxes because they used filters, the delete and block buttons and managed their inboxes, rather than sit back and watch ego inflating numbers rack up.
I suspect the actual number who couldn't keep up if they really wanted to would be minimal.
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Interesting theory, I’m not on board with it, purely because my short time as a couple on here was hard work, and almost every meet I’ve had on here had the same experience. But still, it’s an interseing theory "I started as a single guy. I was successful because I used good approaches - clubs, engaging in the forums, networking, socials and sent less messages than I recieved. So I know what being a single male is like as had a single profile for nigh on 6 years. I met Fox when she was a 23 Yr old single female with pretty wide open filters. Not once did she struggle to manage her inbox, nor did any of the other single.women I met. We've had a couples profile since 2012. Again. We've never struggled with an overflowing inbox. I have seen many women claim they need to bulk delete, along with the status updates apologising for lack of replies. Generally these aren't from visibly active profiles (in terms of obvious signs such as meet request posts, veris etc.) rather from those who focus on elements of fab duch as 'hot pics', chat rooms and the forums. So whether you're on board or not, that's my/our experience having been on here since 2008. But assuming messages are lost in a sea of others, women are unable to manage inboxes and that there's any reason other than a lack of an interesting profile and/or message probably makes it easier on the male ego than what is likely the truth - that the recipient of a message just isn't interested. A | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
Nope.
We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from.
We're just not in a rush to reply.
None of them are lost.
That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles.
A
Weird, I’ve seen tonnes of women, both in forums and in statuses, saying they can’t keep up with the volume of messages and they either get forgotten or bulk deleted without a look. Are they lying?
Quite possibly, yes.
Because it strokes their egos, makes them feel desired and gives the impression they're popular and important - even if they have zero intention of meeting and are just seeking attention.
I've known some very attractive and active women on Fab over the years. None ever made vocal complaints about overloaded inboxes because they used filters, the delete and block buttons and managed their inboxes, rather than sit back and watch ego inflating numbers rack up.
I suspect the actual number who couldn't keep up if they really wanted to would be minimal.
A
Interesting theory, I’m not on board with it, purely because my short time as a couple on here was hard work, and almost every meet I’ve had on here had the same experience. But still, it’s an interseing theory
I started as a single guy. I was successful because I used good approaches - clubs, engaging in the forums, networking, socials and sent less messages than I recieved. So I know what being a single male is like as had a single profile for nigh on 6 years.
I met Fox when she was a 23 Yr old single female with pretty wide open filters. Not once did she struggle to manage her inbox, nor did any of the other single.women I met.
We've had a couples profile since 2012. Again. We've never struggled with an overflowing inbox.
I have seen many women claim they need to bulk delete, along with the status updates apologising for lack of replies. Generally these aren't from visibly active profiles (in terms of obvious signs such as meet request posts, veris etc.) rather from those who focus on elements of fab duch as 'hot pics', chat rooms and the forums.
So whether you're on board or not, that's my/our experience having been on here since 2008.
But assuming messages are lost in a sea of others, women are unable to manage inboxes and that there's any reason other than a lack of an interesting profile and/or message probably makes it easier on the male ego than what is likely the truth - that the recipient of a message just isn't interested.
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
Nope.
We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from.
We're just not in a rush to reply.
None of them are lost.
That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles.
A
Weird, I’ve seen tonnes of women, both in forums and in statuses, saying they can’t keep up with the volume of messages and they either get forgotten or bulk deleted without a look. Are they lying?
Quite possibly, yes.
Because it strokes their egos, makes them feel desired and gives the impression they're popular and important - even if they have zero intention of meeting and are just seeking attention.
I've known some very attractive and active women on Fab over the years. None ever made vocal complaints about overloaded inboxes because they used filters, the delete and block buttons and managed their inboxes, rather than sit back and watch ego inflating numbers rack up.
I suspect the actual number who couldn't keep up if they really wanted to would be minimal.
A
Interesting theory, I’m not on board with it, purely because my short time as a couple on here was hard work, and almost every meet I’ve had on here had the same experience. But still, it’s an interseing theory
I started as a single guy. I was successful because I used good approaches - clubs, engaging in the forums, networking, socials and sent less messages than I recieved. So I know what being a single male is like as had a single profile for nigh on 6 years.
I met Fox when she was a 23 Yr old single female with pretty wide open filters. Not once did she struggle to manage her inbox, nor did any of the other single.women I met.
We've had a couples profile since 2012. Again. We've never struggled with an overflowing inbox.
I have seen many women claim they need to bulk delete, along with the status updates apologising for lack of replies. Generally these aren't from visibly active profiles (in terms of obvious signs such as meet request posts, veris etc.) rather from those who focus on elements of fab duch as 'hot pics', chat rooms and the forums.
So whether you're on board or not, that's my/our experience having been on here since 2008.
But assuming messages are lost in a sea of others, women are unable to manage inboxes and that there's any reason other than a lack of an interesting profile and/or message probably makes it easier on the male ego than what is likely the truth - that the recipient of a message just isn't interested.
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I’d be interested to see other single women comment on it! We’ve both had extremely different experienced there and I’d imagine the truth is somewhere in the middle "Well a few have replied on this thread saying much the same...... And I suspect it'll be a rare soul that will admit to sitting back and deliberately watching the inbox count rise whilst she strokes her throbbing.........ego.
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
Nope.
We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from.
We're just not in a rush to reply.
None of them are lost.
That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles.
A
Weird, I’ve seen tonnes of women, both in forums and in statuses, saying they can’t keep up with the volume of messages and they either get forgotten or bulk deleted without a look. Are they lying?
Quite possibly, yes.
Because it strokes their egos, makes them feel desired and gives the impression they're popular and important - even if they have zero intention of meeting and are just seeking attention.
I've known some very attractive and active women on Fab over the years. None ever made vocal complaints about overloaded inboxes because they used filters, the delete and block buttons and managed their inboxes, rather than sit back and watch ego inflating numbers rack up.
I suspect the actual number who couldn't keep up if they really wanted to would be minimal.
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Interesting theory, I’m not on board with it, purely because my short time as a couple on here was hard work, and almost every meet I’ve had on here had the same experience. But still, it’s an interseing theory
I started as a single guy. I was successful because I used good approaches - clubs, engaging in the forums, networking, socials and sent less messages than I recieved. So I know what being a single male is like as had a single profile for nigh on 6 years.
I met Fox when she was a 23 Yr old single female with pretty wide open filters. Not once did she struggle to manage her inbox, nor did any of the other single.women I met.
We've had a couples profile since 2012. Again. We've never struggled with an overflowing inbox.
I have seen many women claim they need to bulk delete, along with the status updates apologising for lack of replies. Generally these aren't from visibly active profiles (in terms of obvious signs such as meet request posts, veris etc.) rather from those who focus on elements of fab duch as 'hot pics', chat rooms and the forums.
So whether you're on board or not, that's my/our experience having been on here since 2008.
But assuming messages are lost in a sea of others, women are unable to manage inboxes and that there's any reason other than a lack of an interesting profile and/or message probably makes it easier on the male ego than what is likely the truth - that the recipient of a message just isn't interested.
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I’d be interested to see other single women comment on it! We’ve both had extremely different experienced there and I’d imagine the truth is somewhere in the middle
Well a few have replied on this thread saying much the same......
And I suspect it'll be a rare soul that will admit to sitting back and deliberately watching the inbox count rise whilst she strokes her throbbing.........ego.
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
Nope.
We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from.
We're just not in a rush to reply.
None of them are lost.
That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles.
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Weird, I’ve seen tonnes of women, both in forums and in statuses, saying they can’t keep up with the volume of messages and they either get forgotten or bulk deleted without a look. Are they lying?
Quite possibly, yes.
Because it strokes their egos, makes them feel desired and gives the impression they're popular and important - even if they have zero intention of meeting and are just seeking attention.
I've known some very attractive and active women on Fab over the years. None ever made vocal complaints about overloaded inboxes because they used filters, the delete and block buttons and managed their inboxes, rather than sit back and watch ego inflating numbers rack up.
I suspect the actual number who couldn't keep up if they really wanted to would be minimal.
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Interesting theory, I’m not on board with it, purely because my short time as a couple on here was hard work, and almost every meet I’ve had on here had the same experience. But still, it’s an interseing theory
I started as a single guy. I was successful because I used good approaches - clubs, engaging in the forums, networking, socials and sent less messages than I recieved. So I know what being a single male is like as had a single profile for nigh on 6 years.
I met Fox when she was a 23 Yr old single female with pretty wide open filters. Not once did she struggle to manage her inbox, nor did any of the other single.women I met.
We've had a couples profile since 2012. Again. We've never struggled with an overflowing inbox.
I have seen many women claim they need to bulk delete, along with the status updates apologising for lack of replies. Generally these aren't from visibly active profiles (in terms of obvious signs such as meet request posts, veris etc.) rather from those who focus on elements of fab duch as 'hot pics', chat rooms and the forums.
So whether you're on board or not, that's my/our experience having been on here since 2008.
But assuming messages are lost in a sea of others, women are unable to manage inboxes and that there's any reason other than a lack of an interesting profile and/or message probably makes it easier on the male ego than what is likely the truth - that the recipient of a message just isn't interested.
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I’d be interested to see other single women comment on it! We’ve both had extremely different experienced there and I’d imagine the truth is somewhere in the middle
Well a few have replied on this thread saying much the same......
And I suspect it'll be a rare soul that will admit to sitting back and deliberately watching the inbox count rise whilst she strokes her throbbing.........ego.
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Good point, might be a biased search!
I’ve definitely seen guys put stuff like “can’t respond to all messages tonight, will try more tomorrow”
That one makes me laugh from a guy. Wonder if any women fall for it "We all manage things differently, anything in life, anything online. When we're looking, our profile states so and for me, with life going on at the same time, it can become a little overwhelming and on occasion I feel I could easily block delete and start again. I don't tend to do, at least haven't yet, but I can take my time going through messages, often checking profiles first. Some comments highlighted in the quote I'm replying to are a little one dimensional and a little ignorant. For some, having 25 messages with the brunt of them being of no interest been feel too much and they may want to block delete, where as others may be happy to carefully look through 200 messages with no induced anxiety. Can we begin to realise that everyone is different and will handle things the way that suits them?. We use only the new member filter because we're open to chat with people via r forum etc. As we stand, with it clearly stating we're not looking, it can be a little frustrating replying to sometimes 30-40 messages daily, but we try and we are generally polite. When we're looking, jeez, that amount jumps, and again we try to reply to all, we're likely to reply to the ones that have first caught our eye via their profile and then also with their message, but we try to reply to all. I can see though how some may find this a little overwhelming and feel the need to block delete. It's not necessarily down to ego stroking, and you know what, who really cares if it is? | |||
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"Delete your sent mail contents, you’ll never have to worry about if it gets a reply or not after that. A reply will be a pleasant surprise.
Question on this though
They open it, no reply, they aren’t interested. Fine.
It’s stays unopened. Lost in a sea of other messages. What do you do then?
Some people seem to take even an unopened message as they aren’t interested. But I’d say most messages go unopened because of the sheer volume of mail women get.
Nope.
We know exactly how many message are unread, when they arrived and who they're from.
We're just not in a rush to reply.
None of them are lost.
That's a convenient excuse for some to rationalise why they don't get replies but generally not the truth, even on single female profiles.
A
Weird, I’ve seen tonnes of women, both in forums and in statuses, saying they can’t keep up with the volume of messages and they either get forgotten or bulk deleted without a look. Are they lying?
Quite possibly, yes.
Because it strokes their egos, makes them feel desired and gives the impression they're popular and important - even if they have zero intention of meeting and are just seeking attention.
I've known some very attractive and active women on Fab over the years. None ever made vocal complaints about overloaded inboxes because they used filters, the delete and block buttons and managed their inboxes, rather than sit back and watch ego inflating numbers rack up.
I suspect the actual number who couldn't keep up if they really wanted to would be minimal.
A
Interesting theory, I’m not on board with it, purely because my short time as a couple on here was hard work, and almost every meet I’ve had on here had the same experience. But still, it’s an interseing theory
I started as a single guy. I was successful because I used good approaches - clubs, engaging in the forums, networking, socials and sent less messages than I recieved. So I know what being a single male is like as had a single profile for nigh on 6 years.
I met Fox when she was a 23 Yr old single female with pretty wide open filters. Not once did she struggle to manage her inbox, nor did any of the other single.women I met.
We've had a couples profile since 2012. Again. We've never struggled with an overflowing inbox.
I have seen many women claim they need to bulk delete, along with the status updates apologising for lack of replies. Generally these aren't from visibly active profiles (in terms of obvious signs such as meet request posts, veris etc.) rather from those who focus on elements of fab duch as 'hot pics', chat rooms and the forums.
So whether you're on board or not, that's my/our experience having been on here since 2008.
But assuming messages are lost in a sea of others, women are unable to manage inboxes and that there's any reason other than a lack of an interesting profile and/or message probably makes it easier on the male ego than what is likely the truth - that the recipient of a message just isn't interested.
A
I’d be interested to see other single women comment on it! We’ve both had extremely different experienced there and I’d imagine the truth is somewhere in the middle
Well a few have replied on this thread saying much the same......
And I suspect it'll be a rare soul that will admit to sitting back and deliberately watching the inbox count rise whilst she strokes her throbbing.........ego.
A"A lot of this will depend on content! Those of us who like creating content - photos/vids etc and post regularly and regularly get to P1 with that content will get many many more messages than other single females. I received 500 yesterday for example (not a complaint btw). Now a good portion of those would have been rapidly deleted on receipt from the subject line or first line alone or the username (At least half). And another portion left unread after checking out their profile. Good ones tend to stand out even before I’ve opened them so I don’t really have any issues managing my inbox even when I get a lot. I’ve become adept at spotting the good ones even in a sea of messages. This is just my experience though and there are other women who are on P1 much more than me and they will likely receive many more messages. | |||
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