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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are you all of the things the younger men think you are? Experienced, know what you want, confident, sexy.

What word do you prefer to be labelled with, if any?

I do like younger men for various reasons but I do get a teensy bit frustrated at the stereotypes and the number of threads about us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm probably don't conform to the stereotype.

I prefer the label 'woman' it does the job quite nicely

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

At 65 Yes I like to think so! Weather i would live up to expectations who knows? And mature is a good word better than elderly x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm probably don't conform to the stereotype.

I prefer the label 'woman' it does the job quite nicely "

Do any of us conform to the stereotype? I don't!

Woman works for me too

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I know most of the threads are aimed at mature women but there's a misconception on here that age equals experience or confidence.

The majority of women I've spoken to in 5 years are not experienced or confident and I joined here aged 52 with the experience level of a monk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At 65 Yes I like to think so! Weather i would live up to expectations who knows? And mature is a good word better than elderly x"

Certainly don't think anyone would call you elderly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At 65 Yes I like to think so! Weather i would live up to expectations who knows? And mature is a good word better than elderly x"

Elderly hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know most of the threads are aimed at mature women but there's a misconception on here that age equals experience or confidence.

The majority of women I've spoken to in 5 years are not experienced or confident and I joined here aged 52 with the experience level of a monk. "

Those misconceptions make a lot of people feel they're lacking, don't they? I've spoken to men in their thirties who feel terrible that they're not "experienced". And compare themselves to me. But I feel equally lacking in several respects.

Lack of experience isn't something anyone should feel bad about.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I prefer mature to immature

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I know most of the threads are aimed at mature women but there's a misconception on here that age equals experience or confidence.

The majority of women I've spoken to in 5 years are not experienced or confident and I joined here aged 52 with the experience level of a monk.

Those misconceptions make a lot of people feel they're lacking, don't they? I've spoken to men in their thirties who feel terrible that they're not "experienced". And compare themselves to me. But I feel equally lacking in several respects.

Lack of experience isn't something anyone should feel bad about. "

There are many explanations including conditioning and/or circumstances so it's not something anyone should be ashamed of.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Well I certainly know what I want and don't want, I also don't take any BS

Wouldn't say I was overly confident or particularly experienced though.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"Are you all of the things the younger men think you are? Experienced, know what you want, confident, sexy.

What word do you prefer to be labelled with, if any?

I do like younger men for various reasons but I do get a teensy bit frustrated at the stereotypes and the number of threads about us. "

Would you be able to describe why you are into younger men without sounding stereotypical? ...I prefer (mentally) mature women and that usually is related to age, but I have met plenty of women in their 20s and 30s that had the maturity I was craving for, and met some women in their 40s and 50s who were incredibly immature. What is it about young men that attracts you other than their youth, fitness, looks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They tend to have a warmer pussy and usually put the kettle on after sex

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I prefer mature to immature "

That’s me out then

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By *lder funCouple
over a year ago

tottenham

Look out ladies,they just want our pension book

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The expectations that younger men have are part of what stops me from meeting them.

What does 'they know what they want and how to get it' mean? I know if I want to get a tin of baked beans to go into a shop that sells them. I know what I want sexually but I have only a basic idea of how to get that from a relative stranger. I don't want a guy to turn up and wait for instructions there needs to be some input from him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look out ladies,they just want our pension book"

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The expectations that younger men have are part of what stops me from meeting them.

What does 'they know what they want and how to get it' mean? I know if I want to get a tin of baked beans to go into a shop that sells them. I know what I want sexually but I have only a basic idea of how to get that from a relative stranger. I don't want a guy to turn up and wait for instructions there needs to be some input from him."

Wait a minute ?! Mature ladies don’t come with a manual like ikea furnitures? Insert that piece inside that one

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"At 65 Yes I like to think so! Weather i would live up to expectations who knows? And mature is a good word better than elderly x

Certainly don't think anyone would call you elderly! "

Ha ha they do in messages tell me they been looking for an elderly woman! I suggest they try their local care homes x

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By *lder funCouple
over a year ago

tottenham


"Look out ladies,they just want our pension book

I do "
told you so

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The expectations that younger men have are part of what stops me from meeting them.

What does 'they know what they want and how to get it' mean? I know if I want to get a tin of baked beans to go into a shop that sells them. I know what I want sexually but I have only a basic idea of how to get that from a relative stranger. I don't want a guy to turn up and wait for instructions there needs to be some input from him.

Wait a minute ?! Mature ladies don’t come with a manual like ikea furnitures? Insert that piece inside that one

"

We do I just forgot where I put mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The expectations that younger men have are part of what stops me from meeting them.

What does 'they know what they want and how to get it' mean? I know if I want to get a tin of baked beans to go into a shop that sells them. I know what I want sexually but I have only a basic idea of how to get that from a relative stranger. I don't want a guy to turn up and wait for instructions there needs to be some input from him.

Wait a minute ?! Mature ladies don’t come with a manual like ikea furnitures? Insert that piece inside that one

We do I just forgot where I put mine "

Have you checked the hairy drawer ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The expectations that younger men have are part of what stops me from meeting them.

What does 'they know what they want and how to get it' mean? I know if I want to get a tin of baked beans to go into a shop that sells them. I know what I want sexually but I have only a basic idea of how to get that from a relative stranger. I don't want a guy to turn up and wait for instructions there needs to be some input from him.

Wait a minute ?! Mature ladies don’t come with a manual like ikea furnitures? Insert that piece inside that one

We do I just forgot where I put mine

Have you checked the hairy drawer ? "

The hairy drawer!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The expectations that younger men have are part of what stops me from meeting them.

What does 'they know what they want and how to get it' mean? I know if I want to get a tin of baked beans to go into a shop that sells them. I know what I want sexually but I have only a basic idea of how to get that from a relative stranger. I don't want a guy to turn up and wait for instructions there needs to be some input from him.

Wait a minute ?! Mature ladies don’t come with a manual like ikea furnitures? Insert that piece inside that one

We do I just forgot where I put mine

Have you checked the hairy drawer ?

The hairy drawer!? "

that a term used by youngsters to describe mature pussies. Well according to Ricky Machado !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yodas grandma gave amazing blowjobs her gums were like a helmet massage

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By *resh8585Man
over a year ago

Poulton

I always think you can have a better conversation with a 'mature' woman. Whether that's because they are self assured or not, it has been my experience. Which is all part of the fun right!?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence and experience is rare in my experience. There used to be a club night for youngens and mums and I happened to attend the last one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you all of the things the younger men think you are? Experienced, know what you want, confident, sexy.

What word do you prefer to be labelled with, if any?

I do like younger men for various reasons but I do get a teensy bit frustrated at the stereotypes and the number of threads about us.

Would you be able to describe why you are into younger men without sounding stereotypical? ...I prefer (mentally) mature women and that usually is related to age, but I have met plenty of women in their 20s and 30s that had the maturity I was craving for, and met some women in their 40s and 50s who were incredibly immature. What is it about young men that attracts you other than their youth, fitness, looks? "

Yes, I would. But you seem to be making assumptions already about why I am attracted? Men my age can also be good looking and fit, you know.

My attitude to life gels better with younger men. I've noticed it more as I get older than many guys in their fifties have a very different ethos than I do.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Woman works for me too, we are all individuals.

I’ve had people remark I’m not really mature as in I have quite a young outlook/attitude to things.

I’ve never really been one for older men, tended more towards younger guys, but prefer women closer in age to me. Mainly as that’s who I get along best with on a social level and that makes anything else work better too in my experience.

Talking of which when I started fabbing I was really quite inexperienced sexually, having been only in long term relationships beforehand mainly my marriage and I’d married quite young. So despite being 40ish at that time I wasn’t really fitting the stereotype of experienced older woman.

Fab has of course changed that somewhat and I’ve discovered things about myself and what I enjoy sexually that have surprised and even shocked me!

There’s also been an element of having to “unlearn” the conditioning of being a woman in a patriarchal society where women being sexually confident, even proactive is still very stigmatised. Haven’t totally succeeded there yet but I'm getting there.

That’s also contributed to building/rebuilding confidence fab has been amazing for that, not only the flattery from those potentially interested in meeting me but also the platonic friends I’ve met during my time here.

Ex did a number on me confidence wise and fab has undone a lot of damage there - not an uncommon experience for women on fab I’ve noticed.

But I have parts of myself physically and emotionally that I’m still self conscious about and less confident in, but then I think everyone does, male, female, trans, everyone has things they worry about.

I am not a stereotype or a cliche I don’t fit in a box, but then I don’t believe anyone does.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yodas grandma gave amazing blowjobs her gums were like a helmet massage"

You again!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yodas grandma gave amazing blowjobs her gums were like a helmet massage

You again!! "

Gumjob no?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Tbh I avoid anyone who wants to label me that way, I am super conscious about not being a trophy because of my age, skills, experience etc, I want to meet people who like me for being me

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I don’t think I fit any of the stereotypes, it bugs me when they get repeated on here too as if they’re all a given!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I dislike mature/older it implies that I have experience and confidence that I genuinely do not have.

M is younger than me, but we have similar mindsets. I dislike that it's presumed that I'm only with him for his looks etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the thread title in the song of beyonces 'all the single ladies'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read the thread title in the song of beyonces 'all the single ladies' "

Yass! That's how I wrote it!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm not mature, I laugh at farts and jokes about poop.

I'm not confident, I'm terrified and certain of rejection and ridicule.

And as for experienced, well, yes. I have a lot of experience. I've had a lot of experiences, as I've lived quite a while and done quite a lot of stuff. But not necessarily sexual stuff. And I wouldn't wish a lot of my experiences on anyone.

The idea of a sexually assertive, confident older woman is something that boys are into. Men understand that age has nothing to do with those things for a lot of people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yodas grandma gave amazing blowjobs her gums were like a helmet massage

You again!!

Gumjob no?"

Mebbe when I hit 60?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Are you all of the things the younger men think you are? Experienced, know what you want, confident, sexy.

What word do you prefer to be labelled with, if any?

I do like younger men for various reasons but I do get a teensy bit frustrated at the stereotypes and the number of threads about us. "

How young is younger. Asking for a friend obviously

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you all of the things the younger men think you are? Experienced, know what you want, confident, sexy.

What word do you prefer to be labelled with, if any?

I do like younger men for various reasons but I do get a teensy bit frustrated at the stereotypes and the number of threads about us.

How young is younger. Asking for a friend obviously "

My age limits are public

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

All of the stereotypes, fantasies , expectations negative or positive sicken me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you all of the things the younger men think you are? Experienced, know what you want, confident, sexy.

What word do you prefer to be labelled with, if any?

I do like younger men for various reasons but I do get a teensy bit frustrated at the stereotypes and the number of threads about us. "

Experienced, know what I want, confident... yes.

Sexy... as a can of mushroom soup.

Label... elderly is fine.

Younger fucks... yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you all of the things the younger men think you are? Experienced, know what you want, confident, sexy.

What word do you prefer to be labelled with, if any?

I do like younger men for various reasons but I do get a teensy bit frustrated at the stereotypes and the number of threads about us.

Experienced, know what I want, confident... yes.

Sexy... as a can of mushroom soup.

Label... elderly is fine.

Younger fucks... yes

"

I shall remember to mention you as the elderly Outsider from now on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What exactly does experienced mean anyway?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The expectations that younger men have are part of what stops me from meeting them.

What does 'they know what they want and how to get it' mean? I know if I want to get a tin of baked beans to go into a shop that sells them. I know what I want sexually but I have only a basic idea of how to get that from a relative stranger. I don't want a guy to turn up and wait for instructions there needs to be some input from him.

Wait a minute ?! Mature ladies don’t come with a manual like ikea furnitures? Insert that piece inside that one

We do I just forgot where I put mine

Have you checked the hairy drawer ?

The hairy drawer!?

that a term used by youngsters to describe mature pussies. Well according to Ricky Machado ! "

Oh Ricky! The Machado family are well known for their euphemisms. Please pass on my best regards to Mama Machado

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a fan of labels, and when I get a message that refers to any they’re usually deleted. I generally gravitate towards younger guys just for the energy and banter, which I’ve rarely found in older guys.

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

If there expecting me to leap off my wardrobe onto their unlubed nob and ride them to the Finnish line, while slapping their face side to side yelling call me mrs Robinson then they are going to be some very disappointed people

I might pop a hip out

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"

If there expecting me to leap off my wardrobe onto their unlubed nob and ride them to the Finnish line, while slapping their face side to side yelling call me mrs Robinson then they are going to be some very disappointed people

I might pop a hip out "

. I bloody love you. You always have me in stitches

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I love it when you g men tell me I'm 'still' attractive 'for my age' it makes me feel very special

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I love it when you g men tell me I'm 'still' attractive 'for my age' it makes me feel very special "

Haha. And “are you really 51?”

“No I added a few years to my age” Said no one ever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you all of the things the younger men think you are? Experienced, know what you want, confident, sexy.

What word do you prefer to be labelled with, if any?

I do like younger men for various reasons but I do get a teensy bit frustrated at the stereotypes and the number of threads about us.

How young is younger. Asking for a friend obviously "

My age pal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Woman works for me too, we are all individuals.

I’ve had people remark I’m not really mature as in I have quite a young outlook/attitude to things.

I’ve never really been one for older men, tended more towards younger guys, but prefer women closer in age to me. Mainly as that’s who I get along best with on a social level and that makes anything else work better too in my experience.

Talking of which when I started fabbing I was really quite inexperienced sexually, having been only in long term relationships beforehand mainly my marriage and I’d married quite young. So despite being 40ish at that time I wasn’t really fitting the stereotype of experienced older woman.

Fab has of course changed that somewhat and I’ve discovered things about myself and what I enjoy sexually that have surprised and even shocked me!

There’s also been an element of having to “unlearn” the conditioning of being a woman in a patriarchal society where women being sexually confident, even proactive is still very stigmatised. Haven’t totally succeeded there yet but I'm getting there.

That’s also contributed to building/rebuilding confidence fab has been amazing for that, not only the flattery from those potentially interested in meeting me but also the platonic friends I’ve met during my time here.

Ex did a number on me confidence wise and fab has undone a lot of damage there - not an uncommon experience for women on fab I’ve noticed.

But I have parts of myself physically and emotionally that I’m still self conscious about and less confident in, but then I think everyone does, male, female, trans, everyone has things they worry about.

I am not a stereotype or a cliche I don’t fit in a box, but then I don’t believe anyone does.

"

Great post, thank you. FWIW I was very similar having left a LTR which I entered having little experience of men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

If there expecting me to leap off my wardrobe onto their unlubed nob and ride them to the Finnish line, while slapping their face side to side yelling call me mrs Robinson then they are going to be some very disappointed people

I might pop a hip out "

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Yes I am all of those but I don’t conform to being labelled ….

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By *eed.a.signalMan
over a year ago

Local

Breaking through stereotypes and sounding unique is the motto this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it when you g men tell me I'm 'still' attractive 'for my age' it makes me feel very special

Haha. And “are you really 51?”

“No I added a few years to my age” Said no one ever!

"

That one gets me every time too Nora

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I apologise as I once wrote a thread and used the word ‘cougar’ only because I wasn’t sure the ‘rules’ of how someone became one…. my intention wasn’t to stereotype or label I was just curious on how the label became attached

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By *eed.a.signalMan
over a year ago

Local


"I love it when you g men tell me I'm 'still' attractive 'for my age' it makes me feel very special

Haha. And “are you really 51?”

“No I added a few years to my age” Said no one ever!

That one gets me every time too Nora "

Most of aroused by the the look, others by the number, bar code……the background of the wall your stood by

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

If I must be labelled then woman is fine but prefer to be addressed by my name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like the use of the word mature myself, what’s wrong with the word older. I prefer older women.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don’t like the use of the word mature myself, what’s wrong with the word older. I prefer older women. "

Nothing at all in my opinion but why preface it with anything?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I must be labelled then woman is fine but prefer to be addressed by my name."

Hi Flik

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"If I must be labelled then woman is fine but prefer to be addressed by my name.

Hi Flik "

You see...much nicer

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands


"Look out ladies,they just want our pension book"

Only 2 more years to wait then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I must be labelled then woman is fine but prefer to be addressed by my name.

Hi Flik

You see...much nicer "

You spoke I listened :p

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

To be addressed by my name is fine. Don't particularly like labels. I have plenty of life experience if that counts.

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey


"Yodas grandma gave amazing blowjobs her gums were like a helmet massage"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t like the use of the word mature myself, what’s wrong with the word older. I prefer older women.

Nothing at all in my opinion but why preface it with anything? "

It’s just a case of us being more specific. It’s ok me saying Yh I love women, but if I wanted to be more specific I’d say I prefer older women, some people may use the word mature. Everyone’s categorised or stereotyped one way or another.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"I prefer mature to immature

That’s me out then "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An older lady is more wiser and more down to earth than most younger ladies… that with a great figure always attracts me to them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I apologise as I once wrote a thread and used the word ‘cougar’ only because I wasn’t sure the ‘rules’ of how someone became one…. my intention wasn’t to stereotype or label I was just curious on how the label became attached "

I don't see that you need to apologise? Its not a label I relate to as I'm not predatory but some women like it. Older women seems safest based on this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I must be labelled then woman is fine but prefer to be addressed by my name.

Hi Flik

You see...much nicer

You spoke I listened :p "

Peg him Flik

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I must be labelled then woman is fine but prefer to be addressed by my name.

Hi Flik

You see...much nicer

You spoke I listened :p

Peg him Flik"

Don't listen, Flik!

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Woman works for me too, we are all individuals.

I’ve had people remark I’m not really mature as in I have quite a young outlook/attitude to things.

I’ve never really been one for older men, tended more towards younger guys, but prefer women closer in age to me. Mainly as that’s who I get along best with on a social level and that makes anything else work better too in my experience.

Talking of which when I started fabbing I was really quite inexperienced sexually, having been only in long term relationships beforehand mainly my marriage and I’d married quite young. So despite being 40ish at that time I wasn’t really fitting the stereotype of experienced older woman.

Fab has of course changed that somewhat and I’ve discovered things about myself and what I enjoy sexually that have surprised and even shocked me!

There’s also been an element of having to “unlearn” the conditioning of being a woman in a patriarchal society where women being sexually confident, even proactive is still very stigmatised. Haven’t totally succeeded there yet but I'm getting there.

That’s also contributed to building/rebuilding confidence fab has been amazing for that, not only the flattery from those potentially interested in meeting me but also the platonic friends I’ve met during my time here.

Ex did a number on me confidence wise and fab has undone a lot of damage there - not an uncommon experience for women on fab I’ve noticed.

But I have parts of myself physically and emotionally that I’m still self conscious about and less confident in, but then I think everyone does, male, female, trans, everyone has things they worry about.

I am not a stereotype or a cliche I don’t fit in a box, but then I don’t believe anyone does.

Great post, thank you. FWIW I was very similar having left a LTR which I entered having little experience of men. "

I was very gun shy!

I actually came to fab upon the recommendation of someone from another hook up site that wasn’t really working for me. I knew I didn’t want a relationship but I did want some fun and quite honestly a wee ego boost!

Fab has unexpectedly led to not only amazing sexual experiences but also some truly lovely friendships.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I don’t like labels, I’m me

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Mature makes me think of Cheddar cheese, and I'm sure that's not the vision supposed to be conjured up!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mature makes me think of Cheddar cheese, and I'm sure that's not the vision supposed to be conjured up! "

You've put that in my head now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I must be labelled then woman is fine but prefer to be addressed by my name."

This

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

You can call me whatever you want, as long as it's nothing nasty. I really don't go for all the neo-feminist stuff, and can quote you the Offside Rule, so as long as everyone's having fun and being respectful, I'm happy to be called anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I apologise as I once wrote a thread and used the word ‘cougar’ only because I wasn’t sure the ‘rules’ of how someone became one…. my intention wasn’t to stereotype or label I was just curious on how the label became attached

I don't see that you need to apologise? Its not a label I relate to as I'm not predatory but some women like it. Older women seems safest based on this thread!"

I took that on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I must be labelled then woman is fine but prefer to be addressed by my name.

Hi Flik

You see...much nicer

You spoke I listened :p

Peg him Flik"

Ooooo interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t like labels, I’m me "

Howdy me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I read the word mature, I always think of cheddar cheese

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mature makes me think of Cheddar cheese, and I'm sure that's not the vision supposed to be conjured up! "

Musty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I read the word mature, I always think of cheddar cheese "

Musty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mature makes me think of Cheddar cheese, and I'm sure that's not the vision supposed to be conjured up!

Musty. "

Not just me then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I apologise as I once wrote a thread and used the word ‘cougar’ only because I wasn’t sure the ‘rules’ of how someone became one…. my intention wasn’t to stereotype or label I was just curious on how the label became attached

I don't see that you need to apologise? Its not a label I relate to as I'm not predatory but some women like it. Older women seems safest based on this thread!

I took that on board "

Or "musty" seems popular

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By *ananas2013Man
over a year ago

wolves


"I'm probably don't conform to the stereotype.

I prefer the label 'woman' it does the job quite nicely "

Hi and what a woman xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yodas grandma gave amazing blowjobs her gums were like a helmet massage

You again!! "
she was very energetic for an old bird tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yodas grandma gave amazing blowjobs her gums were like a helmet massage

You again!! she was very energetic for an old bird tho"

Bounced on your helmet, did she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not shy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not shy "

Awesome. Relevance to the thread?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"If I must be labelled then woman is fine but prefer to be addressed by my name.

Hi Flik

You see...much nicer

You spoke I listened :p

Peg him Flik

Don't listen, Flik! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never label them as mature because of how it can be construed but I do think older women carry themselves with more confidence and a better idea of what they want. Whether that's their personality or experience that made them more decisive but it's much easier to guage interest with in my opinion.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"I'd never label them as mature because of how it can be construed but I do think older women carry themselves with more confidence and a better idea of what they want. Whether that's their personality or experience that made them more decisive but it's much easier to guage interest with in my opinion."

We’re all older than you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd never label them as mature because of how it can be construed but I do think older women carry themselves with more confidence and a better idea of what they want. Whether that's their personality or experience that made them more decisive but it's much easier to guage interest with in my opinion.

We’re all older than you x"

Good point, but thought it would be rude to say "much older, twice my age women"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd never label them as mature because of how it can be construed but I do think older women carry themselves with more confidence and a better idea of what they want. Whether that's their personality or experience that made them more decisive but it's much easier to guage interest with in my opinion.

We’re all older than you x

Good point, but thought it would be rude to say "much older, twice my age women" "

Even though you've said that now

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"I'd never label them as mature because of how it can be construed but I do think older women carry themselves with more confidence and a better idea of what they want. Whether that's their personality or experience that made them more decisive but it's much easier to guage interest with in my opinion.

We’re all older than you x

Good point, but thought it would be rude to say "much older, twice my age women" "

Quick mafs!!

Not quite that old but close

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd never label them as mature because of how it can be construed but I do think older women carry themselves with more confidence and a better idea of what they want. Whether that's their personality or experience that made them more decisive but it's much easier to guage interest with in my opinion.

We’re all older than you x

Good point, but thought it would be rude to say "much older, twice my age women"

Even though you've said that now "

See, so straightforward! That's why I'm into older women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd never label them as mature because of how it can be construed but I do think older women carry themselves with more confidence and a better idea of what they want. Whether that's their personality or experience that made them more decisive but it's much easier to guage interest with in my opinion.

We’re all older than you x

Good point, but thought it would be rude to say "much older, twice my age women"

Quick mafs!!

Not quite that old but close "

Haha sorry for adding 5 years to your age

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd never label them as mature because of how it can be construed but I do think older women carry themselves with more confidence and a better idea of what they want. Whether that's their personality or experience that made them more decisive but it's much easier to guage interest with in my opinion.

We’re all older than you x

Good point, but thought it would be rude to say "much older, twice my age women"

Even though you've said that now

See, so straightforward! That's why I'm into older women "

Ya big flirt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yodas grandma gave amazing blowjobs her gums were like a helmet massage

You again!! she was very energetic for an old bird tho"

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