FabSwingers.com forum: Status and wealth

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. As long as someone is well presented and respectful I couldn’t care less about their job, class or social standing.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I couldn't care less, and think it's pretty tacky to use anything like that to impress anyone. Could be because I don't have wealth or status, but that's beside the point!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Not for sexual encounters.

I don't feel I am less of a person if I feel attracted to a man who rents one tiny room in a house, and works as a security guard.

If I like them I'll have sex with them.

If someone wanted more than sex I'd rather not go to higher end restaurants as I like to chill and have a laugh with men.

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By *KG12Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

We're not bothered about any of the above. We look for people that can hold a conversation, can flirt a bit and that are looking for similar to us x

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care? "

There are a few on here who openly love telling everyone about their processions and all that. Obviously must believe some people care. Each to their own

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I care. I don’t want a woman above me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not really. As long as someone is well presented and respectful I couldn’t care less about their job, class or social standing."

And do people try and impress you much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here, couldn’t care less!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me "

Above you in what way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I couldn't care less, and think it's pretty tacky to use anything like that to impress anyone. Could be because I don't have wealth or status, but that's beside the point!"

It's not for me, but clearly it works for some people thus my question.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care? "

I used to. Now I don't. Nice is nice. Many things make the heart race or take your breath away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

If they mention anything like that then it’s an instant put off for me and I’m not interested. It’s even worse on another site I’m on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care about money, cars or any of that.

Certain jobs of guys I've met in the past have been a huge turn on, not because of the money though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really. As long as someone is well presented and respectful I couldn’t care less about their job, class or social standing.

And do people try and impress you much? "

We’ve had the messages offering to pay for meals at expensive restaurants but we don’t do socials so they’re wasting their time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not, it’s all about the personality for me and status, wealth and upbringing doesn’t automatically have any correlation with being a nice, honest, open minded and caring person.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

And why does a tire company get to say how good a restaurant is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

LeRoux348

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

LeRoux348"

Or check out RamseysTreat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

LeRoux348"

I'll take a look...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes me uncomfortable and I'm more impresses by the personality and attributes than I am about status....I don't want to know about your lifestyle and what you can offer... who are you? And what makes you tick? People seem genuinely baffled when I say that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't give a fig how wealthy someone is, on here or in RL. Dropping references into conversation of wealth and possessions is crass as hell and very off-putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wealth and status don't bother me in the slightest. I don't want fancy cars, Michelin restaurants and to be showered with gifts. I want someone who treats me right, is respectful and kind, can hold a conversation and likes snuggling up with TV or music.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

LeRoux348

Or check out RamseysTreat"

Ffs only just got the joke. Its nearly bed time and my head is fuzzy

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Usually the only time a career is brought up is if it can make it a little awkward to arrange meeting up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've yet to see anyone bragging about it personally.

Sure, I've seen a few profiles ensuring there's a picture of their decadent lifestyles but openly using to try and persuade?

To be honest, I think in these days, reverse snobbery is more prevalent, with affluent people being made to feel rather uncomfortable about their success.

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By *ittle Miss PuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Your fantasies

It really depends on what I'm looking for in the moment. I was raised working class and for me a man with rough hands is a man I can trust.

On the other hand I do enjoy the finer things in life and I love a man who can wine me and dine me and show me how the other half live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really. As long as someone is well presented and respectful I couldn’t care less about their job, class or social standing."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must work for some people. The Tinder Swindler is proof of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If Miss independent wants to treat me on my lunch break she can

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

" I've yet to see anyone bragging about it personally.

Sure, I've seen a few profiles ensuring there's a picture of their decadent lifestyles but openly using to try and persuade?

To be honest, I think in these days, reverse snobbery is more prevalent, with affluent people being made to feel rather uncomfortable about their success."

It’s more in messages to be fair and it does happen quite a lot.

I do agree with your last paragraph though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

LeRoux348

Or check out RamseysTreat

Ffs only just got the joke. Its nearly bed time and my head is fuzzy"

You need a good meal. It just so happens that I'm loaded and own a Michelin starred restaurant round the corner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not for sexual encounters.

I don't feel I am less of a person if I feel attracted to a man who rents one tiny room in a house, and works as a security guard.

If I like them I'll have sex with them.

If someone wanted more than sex I'd rather not go to higher end restaurants as I like to chill and have a laugh with men.

Actually the mention of high end restaurants and fancy clubs makes me nervous - it's not a turn on at all.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

For sex and swinging, no, not at all. Offering to take me to nice restaurants and posh hotels on here is pointless. I also don’t tend to get into conversation enough to even find out.

For dating and real life- yes.

I like certain & finer things and want to be with someone who appreciates the same.

I’m a career gal and made sacrifices for it. Someone who understands those and has done the same is probably better on my wavelength.

That being said, you can’t help who you fall for huh. X

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Not for sexual encounters.

I don't feel I am less of a person if I feel attracted to a man who rents one tiny room in a house, and works as a security guard.

If I like them I'll have sex with them.

If someone wanted more than sex I'd rather not go to higher end restaurants as I like to chill and have a laugh with men.

Actually the mention of high end restaurants and fancy clubs makes me nervous - it's not a turn on at all. "

Me too. There’d be nothing on the menu I liked I can guarantee that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For sex and swinging, no, not at all. Offering to take me to nice restaurants and posh hotels on here is pointless. I also don’t tend to get into conversation enough to even find out.

For dating and real life- yes.

I like certain & finer things and want to be with someone who appreciates the same.

I’m a career gal and made sacrifices for it. Someone who understands those and has done the same is probably better on my wavelength.

That being said, you can’t help who you fall for huh. X"

This for me too! I don’t need a guy to pay for me but he needs a level of income that means he can do things with me, nice holidays, good restaurants etc!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

LeRoux348

Or check out RamseysTreat

Ffs only just got the joke. Its nearly bed time and my head is fuzzy

You need a good meal. It just so happens that I'm loaded and own a Michelin starred restaurant round the corner."

A private tasting menu?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf."

Do you ask people which political party they voted for last to meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care?

There are a few on here who openly love telling everyone about their processions and all that. Obviously must believe some people care. Each to their own "

I just say not for me. But it makes me curious about the influence and importance of those things to others. I lived with someone who valued those about all else.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"For sex and swinging, no, not at all. Offering to take me to nice restaurants and posh hotels on here is pointless. I also don’t tend to get into conversation enough to even find out.

For dating and real life- yes.

I like certain & finer things and want to be with someone who appreciates the same.

I’m a career gal and made sacrifices for it. Someone who understands those and has done the same is probably better on my wavelength.

That being said, you can’t help who you fall for huh. X

This for me too! I don’t need a guy to pay for me but he needs a level of income that means he can do things with me, nice holidays, good restaurants etc! "

In a relationship yeah I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the slightest. I have no interest in talking about money with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

Do you ask people which political party they voted for last to meet?

I purposely avoid that topic here... I want to have fun, not get bogged down by someone's politics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

LeRoux348

Or check out RamseysTreat

Ffs only just got the joke. Its nearly bed time and my head is fuzzy

You need a good meal. It just so happens that I'm loaded and own a Michelin starred restaurant round the corner.

A private tasting menu? "

I'll check the specials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

LeRoux348

Or check out RamseysTreat

Ffs only just got the joke. Its nearly bed time and my head is fuzzy

You need a good meal. It just so happens that I'm loaded and own a Michelin starred restaurant round the corner.

A private tasting menu?

I'll check the specials."

They've got a message for you, Duty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't care about money, cars or any of that.

Certain jobs of guys I've met in the past have been a huge turn on, not because of the money though. "

Jobs are a turn on?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

And why does a tire company get to say how good a restaurant is?"

I don't know! But they've been doing it since 1900.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don't care about money, cars or any of that.

Certain jobs of guys I've met in the past have been a huge turn on, not because of the money though.

Jobs are a turn on? "

Some uniforms are. I think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care about money, cars or any of that.

Certain jobs of guys I've met in the past have been a huge turn on, not because of the money though.

Jobs are a turn on?

Some uniforms are. I think so "

I’ve got a McDonald’s uniform

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don't care about money, cars or any of that.

Certain jobs of guys I've met in the past have been a huge turn on, not because of the money though.

Jobs are a turn on?

Some uniforms are. I think so

I’ve got a McDonald’s uniform

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I don't care about money, cars or any of that.

Certain jobs of guys I've met in the past have been a huge turn on, not because of the money though.

Jobs are a turn on?

Some uniforms are. I think so

I’ve got a McDonald’s uniform

Pop your nurse uniform on Nora!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf."

Surely Labour voters can also be "snooty"?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

No I don't care what anyone does or what they earn but for some women it's definitely their USP and that's a major turn off.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don't care about money, cars or any of that.

Certain jobs of guys I've met in the past have been a huge turn on, not because of the money though.

Jobs are a turn on?

Some uniforms are. I think so

I’ve got a McDonald’s uniform

Pop your nurse uniform on Nora!

That’s a size 12. Wouldn’t get my big toe in it now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care about money, cars or any of that.

Certain jobs of guys I've met in the past have been a huge turn on, not because of the money though.

Jobs are a turn on? "

Not the job as such no, but I think some jobs it takes a certain kind of character to do, like guys in the Army for instance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care about money, cars or any of that.

Certain jobs of guys I've met in the past have been a huge turn on, not because of the money though.

Jobs are a turn on?

Some uniforms are. I think so

I’ve got a McDonald’s uniform

I’m in there lads

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not really. As long as someone is well presented and respectful I couldn’t care less about their job, class or social standing.

And do people try and impress you much?

We’ve had the messages offering to pay for meals at expensive restaurants but we don’t do socials so they’re wasting their time."

Other couples using that as an inducement? I mean I guess it must work for some people. If we are talking about fantasies - then I imagine some have a fantasy of being wined and dined and seduced?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

Do you ask people which political party they voted for last to meet?

I'm looking for more than sex - so yes, I would.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I don't care about money, cars or any of that.

Certain jobs of guys I've met in the past have been a huge turn on, not because of the money though.

Jobs are a turn on?

Some uniforms are. I think so

I’ve got a McDonald’s uniform

Pop your nurse uniform on Nora!

That’s a size 12. Wouldn’t get my big toe in it now!

Just wear.... nothing then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I've yet to see anyone bragging about it personally.

Sure, I've seen a few profiles ensuring there's a picture of their decadent lifestyles but openly using to try and persuade?

To be honest, I think in these days, reverse snobbery is more prevalent, with affluent people being made to feel rather uncomfortable about their success."

I was speaking of messages more than profiles. I don't think that I'm showing reverse snobbery with my OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really. As long as someone is well presented and respectful I couldn’t care less about their job, class or social standing.

And do people try and impress you much?

We’ve had the messages offering to pay for meals at expensive restaurants but we don’t do socials so they’re wasting their time.

Other couples using that as an inducement? I mean I guess it must work for some people. If we are talking about fantasies - then I imagine some have a fantasy of being wined and dined and seduced? "

It only seems to be single men with meals but we have had offers from couples in expensive hotels but they could just be staying in them and wanting a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

Surely Labour voters can also be "snooty"? "

Or drama Queens

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

Do you ask people which political party they voted for last to meet?

I'm looking for more than sex - so yes, I would. "

Do people tell you? To me that’s private. I don’t even discuss that kind of thing with friends. I’d block someone who asked me that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know someone who will only wear big labels for their clothing. They don't say things like "I wore my navy suit the other day". It has to be "I wore my Ralph Lauren suit, with my Dior shoes". I find it all crass. I don't care where your clothes come from!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"It makes me uncomfortable and I'm more impresses by the personality and attributes than I am about status....I don't want to know about your lifestyle and what you can offer... who are you? And what makes you tick? People seem genuinely baffled when I say that."

I agree it’s boring. When I’ve met couples and MR is trying so hard to impress me taking about finance and property, and who cares? mrs is rolling her eyes thinking here he goes again…..

It can a barrier sometimes with single women for going on holidays etc but hopefully by that time you e come to an understanding based on trust

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For sex and swinging, no, not at all. Offering to take me to nice restaurants and posh hotels on here is pointless. I also don’t tend to get into conversation enough to even find out.

For dating and real life- yes.

I like certain & finer things and want to be with someone who appreciates the same.

I’m a career gal and made sacrifices for it. Someone who understands those and has done the same is probably better on my wavelength.

That being said, you can’t help who you fall for huh. X

This for me too! I don’t need a guy to pay for me but he needs a level of income that means he can do things with me, nice holidays, good restaurants etc! "

Do you think men feel the same about women? I don't have a level of income to go on nice holidays etc - so I avoid men on dating sites who show that status/income matters to them.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm not bothered about that kind of thing when comes to fab things. If I was looking for a ltr then I would definitely take that kind of thing into account though. Unfortunately these days you need a certain amount of income to live well.

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

Do you ask people which political party they voted for last to meet?

You can generally form a fairly confident guess at that after 10mins of chat haha

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Personally, I'm just happy you turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as their standards in men are low enough that they’d consider meeting me, then it’s all good.

If they want to treat me to a McDonalds while we’re at it, then I’m not going to turn my nose up at such an ostentatious show of wealth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I've yet to see anyone bragging about it personally.

Sure, I've seen a few profiles ensuring there's a picture of their decadent lifestyles but openly using to try and persuade?

To be honest, I think in these days, reverse snobbery is more prevalent, with affluent people being made to feel rather uncomfortable about their success.

I was speaking of messages more than profiles. I don't think that I'm showing reverse snobbery with my OP? "

Not atall, and my comment wasn't directed at any individual poster or you OP.

But if you read enough of the forums you'll see reverse snobbery.

If someone was blatantly bragging of their wealth for status, I could understand, but some folk can't accept that others are better off sometimes and that's life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not bothered about that kind of thing when comes to fab things. If I was looking for a ltr then I would definitely take that kind of thing into account though. Unfortunately these days you need a certain amount of income to live well. "

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

Do you ask people which political party they voted for last to meet?

It's the batman in tow that gives it away

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I've yet to see anyone bragging about it personally.

Sure, I've seen a few profiles ensuring there's a picture of their decadent lifestyles but openly using to try and persuade?

To be honest, I think in these days, reverse snobbery is more prevalent, with affluent people being made to feel rather uncomfortable about their success.

I was speaking of messages more than profiles. I don't think that I'm showing reverse snobbery with my OP?

Not atall, and my comment wasn't directed at any individual poster or you OP.

But if you read enough of the forums you'll see reverse snobbery.

If someone was blatantly bragging of their wealth for status, I could understand, but some folk can't accept that others are better off sometimes and that's life."

Thank you - I try to be even-handed. I can accept that other people are better off. I find it a bit much when they pop onto money saving threads etc to just say they're fine.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"For sex and swinging, no, not at all. Offering to take me to nice restaurants and posh hotels on here is pointless. I also don’t tend to get into conversation enough to even find out.

For dating and real life- yes.

I like certain & finer things and want to be with someone who appreciates the same.

I’m a career gal and made sacrifices for it. Someone who understands those and has done the same is probably better on my wavelength.

That being said, you can’t help who you fall for huh. X

This for me too! I don’t need a guy to pay for me but he needs a level of income that means he can do things with me, nice holidays, good restaurants etc! "

Lingerie shopping at Primark ?

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over a year ago

"As long as their standards in men are low enough that they’d consider meeting me, then it’s all good.

If they want to treat me to a McDonalds while we’re at it, then I’m not going to turn my nose up at such an ostentatious show of wealth

I'd take you for a Happy Meal Dan, might even stretch to a nana milkshake....and you can keep the toy

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

" I've yet to see anyone bragging about it personally.

Sure, I've seen a few profiles ensuring there's a picture of their decadent lifestyles but openly using to try and persuade?

To be honest, I think in these days, reverse snobbery is more prevalent, with affluent people being made to feel rather uncomfortable about their success.

I was speaking of messages more than profiles. I don't think that I'm showing reverse snobbery with my OP?

Not atall, and my comment wasn't directed at any individual poster or you OP.

But if you read enough of the forums you'll see reverse snobbery.

If someone was blatantly bragging of their wealth for status, I could understand, but some folk can't accept that others are better off sometimes and that's life."

100 %.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care? "

I would love a rich upper class lady to let me bend her over the chaise long and push her classy lace knickers to one side and fuck her, if she wanted to treat me to a nice Maserati afterwards then added bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

Do you ask people which political party they voted for last to meet?

You can generally form a fairly confident guess at that after 10mins of chat haha"

So you don’t like Snooty people and think they’re pretty repulsive.

Snooty as is in the dictionary definition “people who show contempt or disapproval of others?” Gotcha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as their standards in men are low enough that they’d consider meeting me, then it’s all good.

If they want to treat me to a McDonalds while we’re at it, then I’m not going to turn my nose up at such an ostentatious show of wealth

I'd take you for a Happy Meal Dan, might even stretch to a nana milkshake....and you can keep the toy

Well if you want to play with some toys …

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

Do you ask people which political party they voted for last to meet?

You can generally form a fairly confident guess at that after 10mins of chat haha

So you don’t like Snooty people and think they’re pretty repulsive.

Snooty as is in the dictionary definition “people who show contempt or disapproval of others?” Gotcha

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him? "

I think it would put people (of both sexes) off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw a guy with a number plate spelled out jealous today im like dude whos jealous of a range rover its not exactly supercare its basically super up farm equipment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldn't give a fig how wealthy someone is, on here or in RL. Dropping references into conversation of wealth and possessions is crass as hell and very off-putting. "

This

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By *orthmanMan
over a year ago

Kendal

"Which profile is offering the Michelin star restaurant?

Purely out of curiosity

I permanently carry a Michelin spare tyre, if that's of any interest.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Experience has thought me one thing...People lie to make themselves appear more humble and less materialistic

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care? "

I think it’s important that someone is at a similar stage to you in life.

Would you date someone who was unemployed, couldn’t drive and had no desire to work?

There’s a really good Dave Chappell sketch that a showed an extremely rich female friend of mine on this topic. YouTube is your friend.

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

Do you ask people which political party they voted for last to meet?

You can generally form a fairly confident guess at that after 10mins of chat haha

So you don’t like Snooty people and think they’re pretty repulsive.

Snooty as is in the dictionary definition “people who show contempt or disapproval of others?” Gotcha

You put far too much effort into this reply.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him?

I think it would put people (of both sexes) off x"

Exactly …because it speak to who the person is and what their values are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as their standards in men are low enough that they’d consider meeting me, then it’s all good.

If they want to treat me to a McDonalds while we’re at it, then I’m not going to turn my nose up at such an ostentatious show of wealth

I'd take you for a Happy Meal Dan, might even stretch to a nana milkshake....and you can keep the toy

Well if you want to play with some toys …

No, I just fancy a burger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care at all, I like decent considerate people who respect others. I now tend to avoid profiles from those who describe themselves in a certain way due to unsavoury character. Professional and well travelled being two.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"As long as their standards in men are low enough that they’d consider meeting me, then it’s all good.

If they want to treat me to a McDonalds while we’re at it, then I’m not going to turn my nose up at such an ostentatious show of wealth

I'd take you for a Happy Meal Dan, might even stretch to a nana milkshake....and you can keep the toy

Well if you want to play with some toys …

No, I just fancy a burger

You're loving it

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I’ve fucked hot wives in a 5 star hotel and the back seat of my car, I don’t discriminate

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Also, Fab is probably the most artificial online environment I’ve come across. It’s about as distant from RL, as I am from the South Pole.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they're a Tory I object.

Snooty people are pretty repulsive to me. Otherwise idgaf.

Do you ask people which political party they voted for last to meet?

I'm looking for more than sex - so yes, I would.

Do people tell you? To me that’s private. I don’t even discuss that kind of thing with friends. I’d block someone who asked me that. "

I talk about politics. It becomes clear. I wouldn't ask a friend straight up - but I also know how they vote!

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"I’ve fucked hot wives in a 5 star hotel and the back seat of my car, I don’t discriminate

Haha

Good work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as their standards in men are low enough that they’d consider meeting me, then it’s all good.

If they want to treat me to a McDonalds while we’re at it, then I’m not going to turn my nose up at such an ostentatious show of wealth

I'd take you for a Happy Meal Dan, might even stretch to a nana milkshake....and you can keep the toy

Well if you want to play with some toys …

No, I just fancy a burger

Milkshake and motorboats is upon us

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No, I don't have any of those things!

Doesn't make them better people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As long as their standards in men are low enough that they’d consider meeting me, then it’s all good.

If they want to treat me to a McDonalds while we’re at it, then I’m not going to turn my nose up at such an ostentatious show of wealth

Nowt wrong with a macca's!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not a concern if someone is super up themselves as long as she leaves room for me

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I know someone who will only wear big labels for their clothing. They don't say things like "I wore my navy suit the other day". It has to be "I wore my Ralph Lauren suit, with my Dior shoes". I find it all crass. I don't care where your clothes come from! "

Wow, you've actually met Patrick Bateman

I knew he was on Fab!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't reject someone with status and wealth, why would I? I'm not intimidated by someone who has more money or a better job and I don't think any the worse of them because of it.

I don't think bad of people with less money either.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I don’t care about a persons wealth or status. No one is better than me, and trying to flaunt wealth, status or intelligence just makes me think they are a twat.

Money is just a thing that allows you to do other things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him?

I think it would put people (of both sexes) off x"

If someone was unemployed yes that would bother me. Not the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as their standards in men are low enough that they’d consider meeting me, then it’s all good.

If they want to treat me to a McDonalds while we’re at it, then I’m not going to turn my nose up at such an ostentatious show of wealth

I'd take you for a Happy Meal Dan, might even stretch to a nana milkshake....and you can keep the toy

Well if you want to play with some toys …

No, I just fancy a burger

Milkshake and motorboats is upon us

No speeding, if I spill my shake then over board you go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care?

I think it’s important that someone is at a similar stage to you in life.

Would you date someone who was unemployed, couldn’t drive and had no desire to work?

There’s a really good Dave Chappell sketch that a showed an extremely rich female friend of mine on this topic. YouTube is your friend. "

You're not talking about the same thing though? Being unemployed and having no desire to work isn't comparable to not having a terrific income. I don't. I do drive. If men want to not date me because I'm a single mum who doesn't earn loads - that's fine with me.

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care? "

No i personally don't I find it an abnoxious trait in men... and women... for balance.

I suppose the reason people do it or exhibit the behaviour is because it generally they have success with it?

Speaks volumes bout the people accepting of it doesn't it...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't reject someone with status and wealth, why would I? I'm not intimidated by someone who has more money or a better job and I don't think any the worse of them because of it.

I don't think bad of people with less money either. "

I don't think I said I rejected them because of that. Or even that I rejected them (but I did). Its using status and wealth to persuade me to fuck them that I find off-putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 good thing she can pay the hotel bill

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I wouldn't reject someone with status and wealth, why would I? I'm not intimidated by someone who has more money or a better job and I don't think any the worse of them because of it.

I don't think bad of people with less money either.

I don't think I said I rejected them because of that. Or even that I rejected them (but I did). Its using status and wealth to persuade me to fuck them that I find off-putting. "

To me it feels like they think they can kind of buy you. I don’t like it at all.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'm not bothered about someone's status,wealth,job etc. As long as they are a decent person who I get along with and can have a laugh with that's all that matters to me.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him?

I think it would put people (of both sexes) off x

If someone was unemployed yes that would bother me. Not the rest. "

The actual job wouldn’t bother me.

And I can fund my life style but I want to be able to holiday, go out for tea whenever I want too or a concert or whatever your interests are.

And don’t want to have to fund that for someone else, but I also wouldn’t want to stop it either.

Being honest, it’s really difficult because I’d like to think it wouldn’t bother me… but now you’ve made me think about it… I think it would x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't reject someone with status and wealth, why would I? I'm not intimidated by someone who has more money or a better job and I don't think any the worse of them because of it.

I don't think bad of people with less money either.

I don't think I said I rejected them because of that. Or even that I rejected them (but I did). Its using status and wealth to persuade me to fuck them that I find off-putting.

To me it feels like they think they can kind of buy you. I don’t like it at all. "

That's what it's felt like. I once had a guy send me a pic of himself getting the key to a city when I asked what he did for a living. That and other obnoxious things put me off!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I wouldn't reject someone with status and wealth, why would I? I'm not intimidated by someone who has more money or a better job and I don't think any the worse of them because of it.

I don't think bad of people with less money either.

I don't think I said I rejected them because of that. Or even that I rejected them (but I did). Its using status and wealth to persuade me to fuck them that I find off-putting.

To me it feels like they think they can kind of buy you. I don’t like it at all.

That's what it's felt like. I once had a guy send me a pic of himself getting the key to a city when I asked what he did for a living. That and other obnoxious things put me off!"

Yep. I know exactly what you mean. Like telling me what car you drive is going to make me fancy you. Not for me thanks. I find it totally cringe.

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By *ixenforfunWoman
over a year ago

banes mask

Nope. Fancy places are nice but im happy out sitting by the sea eating chips

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him?

I think it would put people (of both sexes) off x

Exactly …because it speak to who the person is and what their values are."

Their income speaks of their values? How?

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Please allow me to introduce myself

I'm a man of wealth and taste

I've been around for a long, long years

Stole million man's soul an faith

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't reject someone with status and wealth, why would I? I'm not intimidated by someone who has more money or a better job and I don't think any the worse of them because of it.

I don't think bad of people with less money either.

I don't think I said I rejected them because of that. Or even that I rejected them (but I did). Its using status and wealth to persuade me to fuck them that I find off-putting.

To me it feels like they think they can kind of buy you. I don’t like it at all.

That's what it's felt like. I once had a guy send me a pic of himself getting the key to a city when I asked what he did for a living. That and other obnoxious things put me off!

Yep. I know exactly what you mean. Like telling me what car you drive is going to make me fancy you. Not for me thanks. I find it totally cringe. "

What do you think of old Nissan Micra drivers?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’ve been to a 5 star restaurant and the cafe at a garden centre. It’s the person that makes it good or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't reject someone with status and wealth, why would I? I'm not intimidated by someone who has more money or a better job and I don't think any the worse of them because of it.

I don't think bad of people with less money either.

I don't think I said I rejected them because of that. Or even that I rejected them (but I did). Its using status and wealth to persuade me to fuck them that I find off-putting.

To me it feels like they think they can kind of buy you. I don’t like it at all.

That's what it's felt like. I once had a guy send me a pic of himself getting the key to a city when I asked what he did for a living. That and other obnoxious things put me off!

Yep. I know exactly what you mean. Like telling me what car you drive is going to make me fancy you. Not for me thanks. I find it totally cringe. "

I've been with guys who drive nice cars. If they'd upfront used that as a way to get me on a meet/date - nope. All those men on dating sites with pics of their cars! But clearly it does appeal to some people. I just spent too long living with a status obsessed man to take the risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex weaponised our shared incomes so, whatever the future brings, I will never mix finances again.

It's immaterial to me what anyone does or has unless they're trying to play me for the spare change down the back of the sofa.

It makes me really uncomfortable to not pay my way. It feels like being a leech, be that a coffee or a date. I'm not looking to emasculate anyone or be objectionable. There are ways to share costs of socials and dates without dealing notes out on a table. Turn-about for one.

Getting messages on here with £££ as a heading is unpleasant

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him?

I think it would put people (of both sexes) off x

If someone was unemployed yes that would bother me. Not the rest.

The actual job wouldn’t bother me.

And I can fund my life style but I want to be able to holiday, go out for tea whenever I want too or a concert or whatever your interests are.

And don’t want to have to fund that for someone else, but I also wouldn’t want to stop it either.

Being honest, it’s really difficult because I’d like to think it wouldn’t bother me… but now you’ve made me think about it… I think it would x"

I understand that - and I would never expect someone to fund me. I don't want that. So I avoid people where high-cost things are mentioned.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Wealthy men don't put me off either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care?

No i personally don't I find it an abnoxious trait in men... and women... for balance.

I suppose the reason people do it or exhibit the behaviour is because it generally they have success with it?

Speaks volumes bout the people accepting of it doesn't it...

I had a chat with a guy about this - prompted my thread really. He said women on dating sites were often looking for guys with a good income. He was in his 50s. That could be because they want someone to rely upon, or to share the finer things, or they're avoiding cock lodgers! I find it interesting and aware that it challenges me because I find status/class difficult to engage with, I guess.

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

A bitbof an observation that sometimes people can be a little hypocritical and adjust their opinions to suck up to others.Same people who have quite openly flaunted their wealth at times, pretend that status nd wealth do not matter. Everyone is different. It does not matter to me and probably most prople but if it does to you well that's you and own it.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Tbh, I couldn't care less about any of it, status, wealth, job, car, house... I just don't care and if I meet people that think those things should impress, I am not interested in it progressing to any kind of friendship either

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

One of things I’ve learnt since *ahem* “earning more” is to stay humble as fuck.

It doesn’t phase me what sort of job someone does, what car they drive or where they live, if we connect, we connect.

and I’ve seen people lost their high paying jobs and crash & burn.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Wealthy men don't put me off either.

They don’t put me off but the op is more about people flaunting it and pushing it in your face to try and get you to meet them. That’s what would put me off.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Just remember a twat with money is still a twat

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

When I see or hear people talking about how much money and what they have I just switch off, and body swerve them at every opportunity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just remember a twat with money is still a twat

Exactly and it doesn't give you class either

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

What about eccentric millionaires who don't flaunt their wealth, shop at Lidl and meet women through Fab?

Their kudos must be through the roof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People fixated on material things don’t tend to have much available time in our opinion.

I know men that have beautiful homes and cars that their wives enjoy while they’re at work on the overtime again.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just remember a twat with money is still a twat

a twat with no money is still a twat too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What about eccentric millionaires who don't flaunt their wealth, shop at Lidl and meet women through Fab?

Their kudos must be through the roof

My god, YES. The amount of eccentric millionaires I meet in the middle of Lidl is INSANE!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me

Above you in what way? "

Career/earnings

I’m meant to be the provider

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

Are we talking for club sex... what does that BS matter?

For vanilla dating... nope doesn't matter either. A persons time and intentions are way more important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just remember a twat with money is still a twat

I'm a twat

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me

Above you in what way?

Career/earnings

I’m meant to be the provider "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are we talking for club sex... what does that BS matter?

For vanilla dating... nope doesn't matter either. A persons time and intentions are way more important "

I don't have club sex but I was more talking about meets here and dating (vanilla or otherwise!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me

Above you in what way?

Career/earnings

I’m meant to be the provider "

Who says you're meant to be the provider? I think most people would say that's a fairly old fashioned view.

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Nothing wrong with having wealth but there is nothing attractive about flaunting. Being humble, have humility and appreciate that other people matter irrespective of the staus and wealth is a much more attractive attribute.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I care about wealth or status to the extent it interferes with our interaction.

Whether that's "you should think I'm special because I wear designer dacks" or "I can't afford bed sheets", or anything in between

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By *ed AstaireWoman
over a year ago

Lancaster

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him?

I think it would put people (of both sexes) off x

If someone was unemployed yes that would bother me. Not the rest.

The actual job wouldn’t bother me.

And I can fund my life style but I want to be able to holiday, go out for tea whenever I want too or a concert or whatever your interests are.

And don’t want to have to fund that for someone else, but I also wouldn’t want to stop it either.

Being honest, it’s really difficult because I’d like to think it wouldn’t bother me… but now you’ve made me think about it… I think it would x"

I'm totally with the wisest woman I know on this.

Date with a vegan sausage roll from Gregg's or a delight from Levanter.. I know where I'm choosing.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

If a gorgeous woman wants to take me to a Michelin starred restaurant and then use me afterwards I am willing to pretend to be impressed by her wealth and status.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me

Above you in what way?

Career/earnings

I’m meant to be the provider

Who says you're meant to be the provider? I think most people would say that's a fairly old fashioned view. "

The studies I’ve seen and my experiences still suggest most women don’t date down.

Call it what you want. Facts are facts

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me

Above you in what way?

Career/earnings

I’m meant to be the provider

Who says you're meant to be the provider? I think most people would say that's a fairly old fashioned view.

The studies I’ve seen and my experiences still suggest most women don’t date down.

Call it what you want. Facts are facts "

Date down?! Did I take a wrong turn, circa 1953?

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

"Are we talking for club sex... what does that BS matter?

For vanilla dating... nope doesn't matter either. A persons time and intentions are way more important

I don't have club sex but I was more talking about meets here and dating (vanilla or otherwise!)"

Again.... meets from here ... why would it matter? You're meeting for sex.

Dating can get tricky if someone has an issue with the amount he other earns. A huge differential can cause some ill feeling.

I would hate to feel 'carried' by someone - but likewise I would hate to financially carry someone else too.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me

Above you in what way?

Career/earnings

I’m meant to be the provider

Who says you're meant to be the provider? I think most people would say that's a fairly old fashioned view.

The studies I’ve seen and my experiences still suggest most women don’t date down.

Call it what you want. Facts are facts

Date down?! Did I take a wrong turn, circa 1953?

I personally consider notions like "dating down" beneath me. I don't want to date someone with those notions.

Oh heck, I've tripped into another paradox, haven't I?

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"What about eccentric millionaires who don't flaunt their wealth, shop at Lidl and meet women through Fab?

Their kudos must be through the roof

My god, YES. The amount of eccentric millionaires I meet in the middle of Lidl is INSANE! "

I detect a hint of sarcasm but there is a statistically greater concentration of high net worth individuals in that aisle

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him?

I think it would put people (of both sexes) off x

If someone was unemployed yes that would bother me. Not the rest.

The actual job wouldn’t bother me.

And I can fund my life style but I want to be able to holiday, go out for tea whenever I want too or a concert or whatever your interests are.

And don’t want to have to fund that for someone else, but I also wouldn’t want to stop it either.

Being honest, it’s really difficult because I’d like to think it wouldn’t bother me… but now you’ve made me think about it… I think it would x

I'm totally with the wisest woman I know on this.

Date with a vegan sausage roll from Gregg's or a delight from Levanter.. I know where I'm choosing.

From the woman who only wears 100% cotton, pure linen and designer shoes

HAHAHA!

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By *ed AstaireWoman
over a year ago

Lancaster

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him?

I think it would put people (of both sexes) off x

If someone was unemployed yes that would bother me. Not the rest.

The actual job wouldn’t bother me.

And I can fund my life style but I want to be able to holiday, go out for tea whenever I want too or a concert or whatever your interests are.

And don’t want to have to fund that for someone else, but I also wouldn’t want to stop it either.

Being honest, it’s really difficult because I’d like to think it wouldn’t bother me… but now you’ve made me think about it… I think it would x

I'm totally with the wisest woman I know on this.

Date with a vegan sausage roll from Gregg's or a delight from Levanter.. I know where I'm choosing.

From the woman who only wears 100% cotton, pure linen and designer shoes

HAHAHA! "

But by fuck I love a dirty builder and a vegan sausage roll.. lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me

Above you in what way?

Career/earnings

I’m meant to be the provider

Who says you're meant to be the provider? I think most people would say that's a fairly old fashioned view.

The studies I’ve seen and my experiences still suggest most women don’t date down.

Call it what you want. Facts are facts "

You've not presented any facts?

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

None would alter my view on whether to meet a person

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By *ed AstaireWoman
over a year ago

Lancaster

"If a gorgeous woman wants to take me to a Michelin starred restaurant and then use me afterwards I am willing to pretend to be impressed by her wealth and status."

What ya doing Friday week.. _luttylaylas free I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are we talking for club sex... what does that BS matter?

For vanilla dating... nope doesn't matter either. A persons time and intentions are way more important

I don't have club sex but I was more talking about meets here and dating (vanilla or otherwise!)

Again.... meets from here ... why would it matter? You're meeting for sex.

Dating can get tricky if someone has an issue with the amount he other earns. A huge differential can cause some ill feeling.

I would hate to feel 'carried' by someone - but likewise I would hate to financially carry someone else too.

You're meeting for sex. I'm not just meeting for sex and it matters to me. And some others. We all have different perspectives.

Yes I'd not like being carried nor could I carry someone even if I wanted to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What about eccentric millionaires who don't flaunt their wealth, shop at Lidl and meet women through Fab?

Their kudos must be through the roof

My god, YES. The amount of eccentric millionaires I meet in the middle of Lidl is INSANE!

I detect a hint of sarcasm but there is a statistically greater concentration of high net worth individuals in that aisle

Just a hint? Damn, I need to work on it!

Oh really? Evidence?

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me

Above you in what way?

Career/earnings

I’m meant to be the provider

Who says you're meant to be the provider? I think most people would say that's a fairly old fashioned view.

The studies I’ve seen and my experiences still suggest most women don’t date down.

Call it what you want. Facts are facts "

Dating down??? What an odious expression! No way would I date someone who's own self worth appeared to be dependant on earning more than me!!

I have a modest wage, enough to look after myself & help out my son. I pay for myself & a man who felt threatened by that would be most unattractive to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me

Above you in what way?

Career/earnings

I’m meant to be the provider

Who says you're meant to be the provider? I think most people would say that's a fairly old fashioned view.

The studies I’ve seen and my experiences still suggest most women don’t date down.

Call it what you want. Facts are facts

Date down?! Did I take a wrong turn, circa 1953?

I personally consider notions like "dating down" beneath me. I don't want to date someone with those notions.

Oh heck, I've tripped into another paradox, haven't I?

I suspect so...

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

It puts me off if someone's unemployed ngl. Even though it would have it's benefits as they'd have plenty of free time to meet. Other than that I'm not bothered what they do for a living.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"I care. I don’t want a woman above me

Above you in what way?

Career/earnings

I’m meant to be the provider

Who says you're meant to be the provider? I think most people would say that's a fairly old fashioned view.

The studies I’ve seen and my experiences still suggest most women don’t date down.

Call it what you want. Facts are facts "

You seem like you have some issues with masculinity to work out.

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care?

No i personally don't I find it an abnoxious trait in men... and women... for balance.

I suppose the reason people do it or exhibit the behaviour is because it generally they have success with it?

Speaks volumes bout the people accepting of it doesn't it...

That assumes his assertion is correct. I'd suggest it's not its just distorted.

He percieves this seemingly as a transaction... to be fair what he wants is available due to the saturation provided by 'content creators'... and less nuanced gold diggers theres a evident market.

The fact hes looking here suggest to me that on some level hes perhaps seeking something emotional. Just using the wrong tools to find it...

Maybe direct him to only fans

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

I'll ask my butler and get back to you

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

It depends. Me and my GF both have unusual jobs outside the norm and I like that.

In a hook up, depends. If someone had an interesting job I would be intrigued. I'm not into 'normal' so if someone is doing something outside of the norm it's a plus for me.

Money wise, eh if they're paying for a nice hotel it's nice but I'm not going to sleep with someone just because they have money, it's just a nice cherry on top for the night I guess. Not a deal breaker either way though, the type of person they are is first and foremost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wear Gucci shoes but don't have a pot to piss in so all bases covered I think

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I wear Gucci shoes but don't have a pot to piss in so all bases covered I think

You could trying pissing in your shoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care? "

Nope

Don’t care about material things

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

But if someone doesn't have that - you'd not be interested in dating him? "

Not at my age, no!

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"Do you care about someone's status, job, car etc? Do you think those things impress people?

I've had various messages from guys who think I must care (I will take you to Michelin starred restaurants etc). And so many guys on dating sites write their profiles drawing attention to status.

Do you care? "

No, I don't care. Struggle to see how wealth and 'status' comes up on a site like this to be honest (certainly hasn't with anyone I've chatted to). Rabbit hole discussion on how we're measuring status too!

Jobs are a weird one: if I'm getting to know someone well, I'm likely to ask at some point, but only as I'm interested and not as some kind of sift! I'm likely to be "impressed" as they'll have skills I don't, or do something I am interested in/admire/know is tough. But I think there's something 'impressive' in most people's jobs, to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. it is all about rapport.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not in the slightest...

more important they be genuine, clean and free from STI’s/STD’s and are up for nsa discreet fun...

oh yeah, and have a big dick coupled with an abundance of stamina...

it’s not asking too much is it...!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want a hot rich man.

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