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"..enough to end a relationship? " I can't answer that but I do know a lack of communication and a failure to express the sentiment to your partner is. If you can't talk to them to try and improve things then maybe it's not the relationship you want | |||
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"..enough to end a relationship? I can't answer that but I do know a lack of communication and a failure to express the sentiment to your partner is. If you can't talk to them to try and improve things then maybe it's not the relationship you want " | |||
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"..enough to end a relationship? " Not quite as straightforward as that, but yeah. | |||
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"is shit sex better than no sex at all?" No way! | |||
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"..enough to end a relationship? " When you say Shit sex. 1/ What constitutes Shit sex ? Are they too vanilla for you ? Are they a bit frigid ? Have they been brainwashed into thinking sex is dirty or bad ? 2/ Do you know if your partner thinks the same or if they think it's brilliant ? It depends on the level of sex the person got in a previous relationship ? However, if you're not confident enough in yourself to talk to your partner about it things won't improve with anyone. Unless you expect your partners to be mind readers. Another important factor in a relationship is , how would you feel if they fell ill and had a colostomy bag fitted? Would you still love them and want to be with them or if they ended up in a wheelchair ? And what if any of that happened to you would you of the opinion , " that's fair enough that they leave me" or would you be devestated ? A true relationship really means opening your soul to someone but if they don't reciprocate it's a no go. | |||
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"..enough to end a relationship? " No sex at all definitely is | |||
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"If you're shallow, yes." Why does it make someone shallow? | |||
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"If you're shallow, yes. Why does it make someone shallow?" A relationship is much more than sex. Sex is one factor amongst others so if you end up a relationship because of one factor that according to your perspective is shit, I guess that makes you shallow. | |||
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"If you're shallow, yes. Why does it make someone shallow? A relationship is much more than sex. Sex is one factor amongst others so if you end up a relationship because of one factor that according to your perspective is shit, I guess that makes you shallow. " But as stated many times it's often a symptom of something more going wrong in the relationship. Self preservation is not shallow. | |||
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"If you're shallow, yes. Why does it make someone shallow? A relationship is much more than sex. Sex is one factor amongst others so if you end up a relationship because of one factor that according to your perspective is shit, I guess that makes you shallow. But as stated many times it's often a symptom of something more going wrong in the relationship. Self preservation is not shallow. " Self preservation was not the question. Based on the question purely it is shallow. But I agree with you there in the symptoms, therefore the decision is way beyond shit sex. | |||
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"..enough to end a relationship? " Yes. What's the point in being with someone if they aren't a good fuck? If they don't fuck to the required standard or frequency, get rid. 2 weeks of no sex? Bin them and get someone else. | |||
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"..enough to end a relationship? " shit sex no, no sex yes | |||
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"..enough to end a relationship? I can't answer that but I do know a lack of communication and a failure to express the sentiment to your partner is. If you can't talk to them to try and improve things then maybe it's not the relationship you want " EXACTLY THIS | |||
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"And this site is full of people on here without their partners knowledge. Probably in the majority of cases (not all!) because they are not getting the kind of sex they want at home, so they look to supplement it from elsewhere. So I’d say sex is pretty important to most people. Whether they want to admit that to themselves is another matter. " Exactly LL. I've been chatting to a guy for years who is extremely happy in his marriage in every way except the sex. There's not enough and she's not remotely willing to explore kinkier interests. He's tried talking and introducing new stuff. He's now looking to cheat and has spent so many years weighing up the pros and cons. I can't imagine feeling like that. Loving your long term partner but just needing more sexually. | |||
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"For those that said no, I wonder, genuinely, how long they would participate in passionless, cold sex, with someone who clearly isn't present in the moment... " That's a different question though. The bad sex for me wasn't cold and pasionless. Just often painful and not very pleasurable. We were together for a year so it wasn't a huge amount of time. I'm not sure if it would have eventually started to get to me if we stayed together. | |||
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"And this site is full of people on here without their partners knowledge. Probably in the majority of cases (not all!) because they are not getting the kind of sex they want at home, so they look to supplement it from elsewhere. So I’d say sex is pretty important to most people. Whether they want to admit that to themselves is another matter. Exactly LL. I've been chatting to a guy for years who is extremely happy in his marriage in every way except the sex. There's not enough and she's not remotely willing to explore kinkier interests. He's tried talking and introducing new stuff. He's now looking to cheat and has spent so many years weighing up the pros and cons. I can't imagine feeling like that. Loving your long term partner but just needing more sexually. " If he is willing to cheat then he does not love his wife and should do the decent thing. If getting a shag is more important than the life you build together then he really does not love her and only thinks of sex. How truely sad for the unawhere wife. | |||
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"And this site is full of people on here without their partners knowledge. Probably in the majority of cases (not all!) because they are not getting the kind of sex they want at home, so they look to supplement it from elsewhere. So I’d say sex is pretty important to most people. Whether they want to admit that to themselves is another matter. Exactly LL. I've been chatting to a guy for years who is extremely happy in his marriage in every way except the sex. There's not enough and she's not remotely willing to explore kinkier interests. He's tried talking and introducing new stuff. He's now looking to cheat and has spent so many years weighing up the pros and cons. I can't imagine feeling like that. Loving your long term partner but just needing more sexually. If he is willing to cheat then he does not love his wife and should do the decent thing. If getting a shag is more important than the life you build together then he really does not love her and only thinks of sex. How truely sad for the unawhere wife." I'll disagree with that. I believe you can love someone and have sex with other people. We're discussing this on a swinging site. | |||
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"And this site is full of people on here without their partners knowledge. Probably in the majority of cases (not all!) because they are not getting the kind of sex they want at home, so they look to supplement it from elsewhere. So I’d say sex is pretty important to most people. Whether they want to admit that to themselves is another matter. Exactly LL. I've been chatting to a guy for years who is extremely happy in his marriage in every way except the sex. There's not enough and she's not remotely willing to explore kinkier interests. He's tried talking and introducing new stuff. He's now looking to cheat and has spent so many years weighing up the pros and cons. I can't imagine feeling like that. Loving your long term partner but just needing more sexually. If he is willing to cheat then he does not love his wife and should do the decent thing. If getting a shag is more important than the life you build together then he really does not love her and only thinks of sex. How truely sad for the unawhere wife. I'll disagree with that. I believe you can love someone and have sex with other people. We're discussing this on a swinging site." Swinging and cheating are not the same thing | |||
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"I left my husband after 20 yrs as I felt unfulfilled, if I’d still been in love with him though I’d of stayed. " Ditto | |||
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"And this site is full of people on here without their partners knowledge. Probably in the majority of cases (not all!) because they are not getting the kind of sex they want at home, so they look to supplement it from elsewhere. So I’d say sex is pretty important to most people. Whether they want to admit that to themselves is another matter. Exactly LL. I've been chatting to a guy for years who is extremely happy in his marriage in every way except the sex. There's not enough and she's not remotely willing to explore kinkier interests. He's tried talking and introducing new stuff. He's now looking to cheat and has spent so many years weighing up the pros and cons. I can't imagine feeling like that. Loving your long term partner but just needing more sexually. If he is willing to cheat then he does not love his wife and should do the decent thing. If getting a shag is more important than the life you build together then he really does not love her and only thinks of sex. How truely sad for the unawhere wife. I'll disagree with that. I believe you can love someone and have sex with other people. We're discussing this on a swinging site. Swinging and cheating are not the same thing " | |||
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"And this site is full of people on here without their partners knowledge. Probably in the majority of cases (not all!) because they are not getting the kind of sex they want at home, so they look to supplement it from elsewhere. So I’d say sex is pretty important to most people. Whether they want to admit that to themselves is another matter. Exactly LL. I've been chatting to a guy for years who is extremely happy in his marriage in every way except the sex. There's not enough and she's not remotely willing to explore kinkier interests. He's tried talking and introducing new stuff. He's now looking to cheat and has spent so many years weighing up the pros and cons. I can't imagine feeling like that. Loving your long term partner but just needing more sexually. If he is willing to cheat then he does not love his wife and should do the decent thing. If getting a shag is more important than the life you build together then he really does not love her and only thinks of sex. How truely sad for the unawhere wife. I'll disagree with that. I believe you can love someone and have sex with other people. We're discussing this on a swinging site. Swinging and cheating are not the same thing " I think 'cheating' is a trigger for so many who have been on either side of the equation, and one where only those in each individual set of circumstances can judge. Personally, I chose celebacy followed by divorce when my marriage died. There are no two situations the same and it's an easy out to say that it's black and white. Are there serial cheaters who have no love or respect for their partner? Yes Are there cheaters who dearly love their partners, persisted and tried other avenues and have reluctantly dipped a toe outside of their vows? Yes I could go on with a dozen more scenarios. I make choices within my own moral compass, I walk my own path, and I will only engage with someone who is attached if their partner is on here or I can verify that they are aware. A relationship will survive many challenges, bad sex and no sex included, if there are other intimacies like emotional or affection, and respect, and other connections to secure that bond. Two isolated people occupying a shared space is not a relationship..... that's got an expiration date for sure. | |||
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"For those that said no, I wonder, genuinely, how long they would participate in passionless, cold sex, with someone who clearly isn't present in the moment... " 19 years... | |||
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"Another important factor in a relationship is , how would you feel if they fell ill and had a colostomy bag fitted? Would you still love them and want to be with them or if they ended up in a wheelchair ? And what if any of that happened to you would you of the opinion , " that's fair enough that they leave me" or would you be devestated ?" I'm a bit confused by this comment as many people in these situations have active sex lives. Shit sex is not the end of a relationship, but lack of communication and intimacy would be. Some men who are impotent will satisfy their partners with toys and foreplay, or for them to have a buddy to fulfil those needs, if that's what works for them. Love and sex are two separate things, if love goes then that is the end. | |||
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"Yes. Dated someone very briefly with a chode, and a small one at that. Imagine a button mushroom, when hard. Nothing to work with." What a very shallow women. Judging a guy by the size of his cock. He cant help how big it is. | |||
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"Yes. Dated someone very briefly with a chode, and a small one at that. Imagine a button mushroom, when hard. Nothing to work with. What a very shallow women. Judging a guy by the size of his cock. He cant help how big it is. " Indeed he couldn’t. But I couldn’t help that it didn’t work for me. | |||
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