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By *ibra-Lover69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Your Town!!

It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak for yourself.

I won’t have sex with someone I’m not attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Penis rule brain syndrome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a different idea of what they find attractive. There's no pecking order, just people's preferences.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Depends on your definition of hot men!

I think you have a point on some level, it’s very very rare I look at a couple and think ‘she’s punching’. Unless people think that about my husband

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w

Because sex for women, biologically, is very risky. Imagine letting some moron fuck you 20,000 years ago and suddenly your pregnant and he’s bolted. You’re as good as dead without society to protect and provide for you like it does today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I really want to argue with this.

Dating apps have released figures that say men ‘swipe to like’ at least twice as much as women. Woman’s stats are really really low on who they find attractive. compared to

Men.

We’re just not shallow I guess….

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Of course men fuck women hotter then them, they tend to have the finances to support it though.

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I spend everyday with women far hotter than me and have a very specific type I go for !

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By *ake02Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I think you need a completely different scale on fab too it’s insane on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course men fuck women hotter then them, they tend to have the finances to support it though. "

Ouch...

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

It's just a hole to alot of men any hole will do x

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

I won’t and never have slept with someone I don’t find attractive. On here is no different

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Depends on your definition of hot men!

I think you have a point on some level, it’s very very rare I look at a couple and think ‘she’s punching’. Unless people think that about my husband "

Can’t remember your husband but I know I certainly would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because men are generally shit at sex.

As a female if you're gonna go to the hassle of waxing/shaving and all that crap just to be disappointed, least we can have is something pretty to look at.

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Thal

Surely men have to be attracted to who they are going to have sex with!?!

What about the turn on factor, the getting aroused and erect element?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wife would never fuck someone she wasn't attracted to.

Me, I wouldn't fuck anyone that I wasn't attracted to but... if I was single then that might change if I hadn't had sex for months but I have a wife that loves cock so I'm not in that position... thankfully.

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By *anBerksMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

I think in general there’s a big difference between who men will *fuck* vs who men want to *date*, it’s partly why ladies on Fab can afford to be very selective on here as the pool of available supply of men to fuck is so great, so that they can always get one ther find “attractive”

Whereas a lot of men on here say they won’t meet anyone they don’t find attractive (me included) that’s naturally going to limit the chances of getting your dick wet, based on available supply.

In the dating game, as opposed to the casual sex game, the odds are much more evenly balanced. Women don’t hold the upper hand in the same way so there’s more “natural selection” on the whole and people, on average, tend to end up with attractive equivalents (all other things, eg wealth, being equal)

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"I think in general there’s a big difference between who men will *fuck* vs who men want to *date*, it’s partly why ladies on Fab can afford to be very selective on here as the pool of available supply of men to fuck is so great, so that they can always get one ther find “attractive”

Whereas a lot of men on here say they won’t meet anyone they don’t find attractive (me included) that’s naturally going to limit the chances of getting your dick wet, based on available supply.

In the dating game, as opposed to the casual sex game, the odds are much more evenly balanced. Women don’t hold the upper hand in the same way so there’s more “natural selection” on the whole and people, on average, tend to end up with attractive equivalents (all other things, eg wealth, being equal) "

Is this basically that women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are yur gatekeepers of relationships?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all about attraction. People said to me that me that my ex was punching… but I thought he was nice at the time. Those sort of comments though just make me feel uncomfortable… I like who like

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over a year ago

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By *lderflowerappleWoman
over a year ago

North Hampshire


"Although I really want to argue with this.

Dating apps have released figures that say men ‘swipe to like’ at least twice as much as women. Woman’s stats are really really low on who they find attractive. compared to

Men.

We’re just not shallow I guess….

"

Does having preferences make a woman shallow? Or does it make them strong because they are capable of saying no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I really want to argue with this.

Dating apps have released figures that say men ‘swipe to like’ at least twice as much as women. Woman’s stats are really really low on who they find attractive. compared to

Men.

We’re just not shallow I guess….

Does having preferences make a woman shallow? Or does it make them strong because they are capable of saying no? "

How does she say no with a ball gag?

Forget safe words, ‘blink three times for stop!’

*it’s a joke.!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because sex for women, biologically, is very risky. Imagine letting some moron fuck you 20,000 years ago and suddenly your pregnant and he’s bolted. You’re as good as dead without society to protect and provide for you like it does today "

And if he was an ugly cnut you're stuck with an ugly wean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course men fuck women hotter then them, they tend to have the finances to support it though. "

How very cynical of you.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

"

Have you surveyed this to back up your argument?

Are you talking about real life or just Fab?

Because I'm pretty sure that's not really true.

Do I consider myself batting out of my league? Every waking moment.

But attraction is personal. I've seen stupidly hot (in stereotypical terms) women with men I'd personally class as average looking (again nothing harsh, just a personal opinion) and not just because they were loaded, but because they were funny as fuck, genuinely good people and the kind of person you'd want to spend time with.

Likewise 'genetically blessed' looks wise guys with women that many would percieve as less stereotypically attractive.

And that's in real life, in swingers clubs and in couples on here.

I'm not suggesting my 'survey' is better than, or more reliable than yours of course. But there's definitely no bias, agenda or motivation behind mine.

So I'm definitely curious what's caused you to feel this way OP.

Please share.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the issue is we tended to judge attractiveness best of what we like. Somebody I may find attractive someone else will not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is attractive if you look for that in them

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By *it-chrissyTV/TS
over a year ago

sw. london

seems a very reductive, reality show view of the world. this is not how i live x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dude dont speak for me i turn the hottys down too

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

All women are attractive...men are just prepared to look harder to find their attractiveness

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I definitely can only sleep with someone I'm attracted to, the visual is part of the fun, I ain't kissing a face I don't want to look at, shallow or not, why do something if it's not a turn on.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

I have learnt the hard way that hugely attractive lookingwomen are so far up their own arse to be unpleasant to be around.

So to be honest I woukd avoid them like bubonic plague.

If a woman has a nice personality and treats me like a human being then I find their company more fulfilling even in the swinging world looks are nit everything.

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By *eorgesdad69Man
over a year ago

nottingham

I won’t let anyone fuck me unless I am attracted to them! Men or women equally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are attracted to purely what they see.

Women=boobs=attracted!!

Women are more attracted to what they see and hear.

Hot guy opens mouth = woman gets the vibrator out.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

"

It's even funnier that anyone could think this is true...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are attracted to purely what they see.

Women=boobs=attracted!!

Women are more attracted to what they see and hear.

Hot guy opens mouth = woman gets the vibrator out.

"

Hot woman opens her mouth…. I get my cock out

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Of course men fuck women hotter then them, they tend to have the finances to support it though.

How very cynical of you. "

I'm not quite being serious. In the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course men fuck women hotter then them, they tend to have the finances to support it though.

How very cynical of you.

I'm not quite being serious. In the slightest."

I believe you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are attracted to purely what they see.

Women=boobs=attracted!!

Women are more attracted to what they see and hear.

Hot guy opens mouth = woman gets the vibrator out.

Hot woman opens her mouth…. I get my cock out"

Teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are attracted to purely what they see.

Women=boobs=attracted!!

Women are more attracted to what they see and hear.

Hot guy opens mouth = woman gets the vibrator out.

Hot woman opens her mouth…. I get my cock out

Teeth"

You take your teeth out? I never knew!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are attracted to purely what they see.

Women=boobs=attracted!!

Women are more attracted to what they see and hear.

Hot guy opens mouth = woman gets the vibrator out.

Hot woman opens her mouth…. I get my cock out

Teeth

You take your teeth out? I never knew!? "

This is why men like older women!!

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Thal


"Men are attracted to purely what they see.

Women=boobs=attracted!!

Women are more attracted to what they see and hear.

Hot guy opens mouth = woman gets the vibrator out.

Hot woman opens her mouth…. I get my cock out

Teeth

You take your teeth out? I never knew!?

This is why men like older women!!"

Hmmmmm….interesting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are attracted to purely what they see.

Women=boobs=attracted!!

Women are more attracted to what they see and hear.

Hot guy opens mouth = woman gets the vibrator out.

Hot woman opens her mouth…. I get my cock out

Teeth

You take your teeth out? I never knew!?

This is why men like older women!!"

This is why I don’t put my drink of water down near pensioners….

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

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By *tsalwaysthequietonesCouple
over a year ago

Lancs

We get messages off super hot men and I mostly just ignore then, I know for a fact they wouldn't be seen dead with me in public, it makes me feel really self conscious so I couldn't have sex with them.

I have to feel mutual attraction first, Mr P on the other hand is less picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak for yourself

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Who told you women don't fuck someone they don't find attractive? I'd beg to differ. I think millions bof women do just that every day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get offers when they haven't even seen a picture. Some still do when they have . I won't even chat if I'm not attracted to them.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

As with most things sweeping generalistics are inaccurate, I've known women who'll fuck anyone just as I've known men who won't. Perhaps age and hormones may be a driver - who knows. Best thing I can be is honest to myself I get approached by a significant number of women several decades younger than me whilst it's flattering and I'll admit that they're attractive but it won't happen as in my head that's having sex with someone my daughter's age and I can't Square that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger I'd fuck (almost) anyone, but with age comes selectiveness, and even as a bi man Id rather go without than fuck someone I didnt like. Quality over quantity now!

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

"

Maybe you but not me

Marc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow "

Good looking people CAN be shallow. Men and women. This is a shallow site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

"

Are your definitions of "hot" and "attractive" only based on looks? Because some of us like others and want to sleep with them based on more than that.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think in both sexes some will be more selective than others.

I'm definitely more picky than my partner is (not meaning he'd meet anyone) ,hence why we have solo profiles and don't meet that often.I'd rather not bother than meet for the sake of it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow "

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course men fuck women hotter then them, they tend to have the finances to support it though. "

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By *ake_holeMan
over a year ago

London

I would also say that assuming a man is not attracted to a woman is a whole other bad kettle of fish but op is getting roasted enough in this chat as it is

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

My ex was one of those that would find almost anything to make someone "fuckable"

I don't find her pretty but she's got nice ankles that make her fuckable

Her body isn't for me, but she's got pretty eyes that make her fuckable

She's got a shitty personality and she ain't no looker, but her confidence makes her fuckable

I'm not into men, I don't find them attractive in the slightest, but if it turns you on I'll fuck him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

"

Fucking down is great. They are really desperate to get their dick wet so they put a lot of effort in and make it worthwhile.

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By *tsalwaysthequietonesCouple
over a year ago

Lancs


"My ex was one of those that would find almost anything to make someone "fuckable"

I don't find her pretty but she's got nice ankles that make her fuckable

Her body isn't for me, but she's got pretty eyes that make her fuckable

She's got a shitty personality and she ain't no looker, but her confidence makes her fuckable

I'm not into men, I don't find them attractive in the slightest, but if it turns you on I'll fuck him.

"

Thats a great way of working it.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling


"My ex was one of those that would find almost anything to make someone "fuckable"

I don't find her pretty but she's got nice ankles that make her fuckable

Her body isn't for me, but she's got pretty eyes that make her fuckable

She's got a shitty personality and she ain't no looker, but her confidence makes her fuckable

I'm not into men, I don't find them attractive in the slightest, but if it turns you on I'll fuck him.

"

See, we man need to have some attraction to fuck

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Bernie ecclestone...case closed

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Bernie ecclestone...case closed "

I was about to mention him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex was one of those that would find almost anything to make someone "fuckable"

I don't find her pretty but she's got nice ankles that make her fuckable

Her body isn't for me, but she's got pretty eyes that make her fuckable

She's got a shitty personality and she ain't no looker, but her confidence makes her fuckable

I'm not into men, I don't find them attractive in the slightest, but if it turns you on I'll fuck him.

See, we man need to have some attraction to fuck "

See. We have depth…

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Neither of us would have sex with someone we didn't find attractive, we also wouldn't have sex with someone we did find attractive but had no chemistry with, what's the point?

In clubs we tend to notice the opposite to be honest, there are a lot of couples where I find the woman much more attractive than the guy she is with.

K x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective. "

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

I just came here to watch men and women generalise and tell each other what the opposite sex thinks and wants. You know, because everyone is a veteran psychologist with decades of research experience and not at all generalising a whole gender group based on anecdotal experiences.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person "

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you


"I just came here to watch men and women generalise and tell each other what the opposite sex thinks and wants. You know, because everyone is a veteran psychologist with decades of research experience and not at all generalising a whole gender group based on anecdotal experiences. "

Well said fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get messages off super hot men and I mostly just ignore then, I know for a fact they wouldn't be seen dead with me in public, it makes me feel really self conscious so I couldn't have sex with them.

I have to feel mutual attraction

first, Mr P on the other hand is

less picky "

I do this too, very aware of my 'visual limitations'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i enjoy being unfuckable by everyone.

i know exactly where i stand then

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?"

They fall in the middle

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle "

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies? "

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways "

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here? "

It applies to them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d never fuck someone I’m not attracted to and I can tell if someone is attracted to me but each to their own I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Speak for yourself.

I won’t have sex with someone I’m not attracted to. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too "

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

I have definitely been with people I found attractive at the time but after a few more conversations and their personality opened up a bit more, I then found them extremely unattractive and regret being with them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways "

Yeah, I do see your point and I can only point to individuals that don't conform to that rule. However I am stunningly beautiful and have the personality of a saint

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness. "

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn"

Love a good news bulletin.

Please continue

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

And this very idea is why many women have such a hard time believing when they're given a compliment.

Because we've heard "good enough to shag but you wouldn't want to be seen with her in public" and that's the idea that has stuck.

We all know the accepted and fashionable standard of attractiveness, that doesn't mean we are attracted to those people.

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By *heDeliveryManMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

"

I've never slept with anyone worse looking than me... mainly because I'm a bloke who doesn't fancy men. Personally there has to be an attractive mind more than anything. You make love to the whole of the woman body, mind, and soul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn"

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment. "

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have sex with people who I find attractive and who have good personalities.

Whether others view them as hot is down to their preferences. If I like them I’m not concerned whether anyone else thinks I’m fucking up or down..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apeak for yourself OP.

I only have sex with someonewho I find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action. "

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness? "

The less 'personality' they have the more attractive they'll be it would seem

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Yeah, I do see your point and I can only point to individuals that don't conform to that rule. However I am stunningly beautiful and have the personality of a saint "

And here I am looking like the back end of a bus yet with a personality more abrasive than coarse grade sandpaper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness?

The less 'personality' they have the more attractive they'll be it would seem"

To some. I guess. Can't think of anything less attractive than a good looking man with nowt in his head.

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over a year ago


"It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

"

Speaking from my own experience Stella Artois has a lot to answer for

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Herts/Bucks


"It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

"

Sadly, men like that spoil sites like this for the rest of us. I’ll continue to be choosy and selective, if that’s ok?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness? "

There probably aren’t studies because it’s a hard thing to quantify

But it’s common sense to me. If having pretty privilege let’s you get away with more, what pressure is there to change

You let a kid be bad without consequences and he’s more likely to keep being bad

You’re a stunning woman with unlimited options, what’s making you be a good person? That’s not to say they will always be a bad person, but it’s nature vs nurture, there’s usually a driving force behind change.

A good example is a guy on here with no bio and a dick pic. The driving force to make him make a better profile is that fact that his current profile is getting no success.

If he was getting 500 messages a day though, why would he change? He might of his own decision, but there’s no driving force behind him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness?

There probably aren’t studies because it’s a hard thing to quantify

But it’s common sense to me. If having pretty privilege let’s you get away with more, what pressure is there to change

You let a kid be bad without consequences and he’s more likely to keep being bad

You’re a stunning woman with unlimited options, what’s making you be a good person? That’s not to say they will always be a bad person, but it’s nature vs nurture, there’s usually a driving force behind change.

A good example is a guy on here with no bio and a dick pic. The driving force to make him make a better profile is that fact that his current profile is getting no success.

If he was getting 500 messages a day though, why would he change? He might of his own decision, but there’s no driving force behind him"

Your "common sense" is based on your world view. Which is inherently cynical, I think? I don't know you, I'm basing that on what I've seen you post. My worldview is inherently not cynical (exceptions obviously) so my common sense doesn't assume that "pretty people" don't have a motivation to be nice as well. My motivation to be a nicer person isn't based on other people thinking better of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone once told me that if it's on offer, men will say yes, even if there's zero attraction. I don't find that to be true for all men though. My partner has to have an attraction to people to go with them. As do I.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness?

There probably aren’t studies because it’s a hard thing to quantify

But it’s common sense to me. If having pretty privilege let’s you get away with more, what pressure is there to change

You let a kid be bad without consequences and he’s more likely to keep being bad

You’re a stunning woman with unlimited options, what’s making you be a good person? That’s not to say they will always be a bad person, but it’s nature vs nurture, there’s usually a driving force behind change.

A good example is a guy on here with no bio and a dick pic. The driving force to make him make a better profile is that fact that his current profile is getting no success.

If he was getting 500 messages a day though, why would he change? He might of his own decision, but there’s no driving force behind him"

Most kids aren't bad because they get away with it, they behave badly because they're either, unstable, struggling, haven't learnt how to process emotions or simply learning boundaries.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness?

There probably aren’t studies because it’s a hard thing to quantify

But it’s common sense to me. If having pretty privilege let’s you get away with more, what pressure is there to change

You let a kid be bad without consequences and he’s more likely to keep being bad

You’re a stunning woman with unlimited options, what’s making you be a good person? That’s not to say they will always be a bad person, but it’s nature vs nurture, there’s usually a driving force behind change.

A good example is a guy on here with no bio and a dick pic. The driving force to make him make a better profile is that fact that his current profile is getting no success.

If he was getting 500 messages a day though, why would he change? He might of his own decision, but there’s no driving force behind him

Your "common sense" is based on your world view. Which is inherently cynical, I think? I don't know you, I'm basing that on what I've seen you post. My worldview is inherently not cynical (exceptions obviously) so my common sense doesn't assume that "pretty people" don't have a motivation to be nice as well. My motivation to be a nicer person isn't based on other people thinking better of me. "

That’s fair, we just disagree then. I think if you have less push back against a bad behaviour your lure likely to have that behaviour. That’s just common sense to me, and I don’t think it’s cynical, it’s just realistic. But it’s just opinion based on what I’ve seen and experienced, so it’s no less right or wrong than anyone else’s opinion

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

Men fuck with thier dicks, women fuck with thier minds.

Hence the book men are from Mars and women are from Venus

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"Men fuck with thier dicks, women fuck with thier minds.

Hence the book men are from Mars and women are from Venus

"

This I can get behind!

Sex to men is like food. Sure we’d all like steak sometimes, but when I’m really hungry a fish finger sandwich can really hit the spot

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Men fuck with thier dicks, women fuck with thier minds.

Hence the book men are from Mars and women are from Venus

"

Not true.

I like to fuck with other peoples minds more than my dick.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men fuck with thier dicks, women fuck with thier minds.

Hence the book men are from Mars and women are from Venus

"

I mind fuck lots of guys so yeah I'll go with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men fuck with thier dicks, women fuck with thier minds.

Hence the book men are from Mars and women are from Venus

"
im not having that if she cant get into my head theres not a chance il get into her pants id rather be excited to see someone than fuck a cardboard cutout

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By *exy Ruby 100 300Couple
over a year ago

unknown

Personally for me I'd never Shag anyone if I don't find them physically attractive there has to be something about them that makes me want them Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men fuck with thier dicks, women fuck with thier minds.

Hence the book men are from Mars and women are from Venus

This I can get behind!

Sex to men is like food. Sure we’d all like steak sometimes, but when I’m really hungry a fish finger sandwich can really hit the spot "

What woman doesn't want to be a fish finger sandwich to a man?

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness?

There probably aren’t studies because it’s a hard thing to quantify

But it’s common sense to me. If having pretty privilege let’s you get away with more, what pressure is there to change

You let a kid be bad without consequences and he’s more likely to keep being bad

You’re a stunning woman with unlimited options, what’s making you be a good person? That’s not to say they will always be a bad person, but it’s nature vs nurture, there’s usually a driving force behind change.

A good example is a guy on here with no bio and a dick pic. The driving force to make him make a better profile is that fact that his current profile is getting no success.

If he was getting 500 messages a day though, why would he change? He might of his own decision, but there’s no driving force behind him

Most kids aren't bad because they get away with it, they behave badly because they're either, unstable, struggling, haven't learnt how to process emotions or simply learning boundaries."

You would need to define "bad". Otherwise it's quite the opposite.

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I think for a woman to allow another person to enter her body she will tend to be more selective than a man who wants to get his dick wet and run

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"I think for a woman to allow another person to enter her body she will tend to be more selective than a man who wants to get his dick wet and run "

Have you seen the body count on some of the female profiles on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's funny that women won't fuck some one they don't find attractive..

But even hot men will fuck women they don't find attractive or would even want to be seen in public with ...!!

So do women ever fuck down ?

Do men ever fuck women hotter then them ?

"

I won’t fuck anyone, male or female, that I’m not attracted to in some way, and it’s not all down to looks - for me it is just about having a connection with someone…which seems to be an alien concept to many haha. But at the end of the day, each to their own, as long as people are having fun, who are we to judge

F (Mrs)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

#notallmen

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"#notallmen"

#notallanygroupever

The hypocritical acceptance of some "isms" is astounding

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby


"Depends on your definition of hot men!

I think you have a point on some level, it’s very very rare I look at a couple and think ‘she’s punching’. Unless people think that about my husband "

I think you're gorgeous! No Kym Marsh but still pretty sexy

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I think for a woman to allow another person to enter her body she will tend to be more selective than a man who wants to get his dick wet and run

Have you seen the body count on some of the female profiles on here? "

Hahahaha - I’m posting this on the wrong site

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"Men fuck with thier dicks, women fuck with thier minds.

Hence the book men are from Mars and women are from Venus

"

Where did you learn this pish?

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness?

There probably aren’t studies because it’s a hard thing to quantify

But it’s common sense to me. If having pretty privilege let’s you get away with more, what pressure is there to change

You let a kid be bad without consequences and he’s more likely to keep being bad

You’re a stunning woman with unlimited options, what’s making you be a good person? That’s not to say they will always be a bad person, but it’s nature vs nurture, there’s usually a driving force behind change.

A good example is a guy on here with no bio and a dick pic. The driving force to make him make a better profile is that fact that his current profile is getting no success.

If he was getting 500 messages a day though, why would he change? He might of his own decision, but there’s no driving force behind him

Your "common sense" is based on your world view. Which is inherently cynical, I think? I don't know you, I'm basing that on what I've seen you post. My worldview is inherently not cynical (exceptions obviously) so my common sense doesn't assume that "pretty people" don't have a motivation to be nice as well. My motivation to be a nicer person isn't based on other people thinking better of me.

That’s fair, we just disagree then. I think if you have less push back against a bad behaviour your lure likely to have that behaviour. That’s just common sense to me, and I don’t think it’s cynical, it’s just realistic. But it’s just opinion based on what I’ve seen and experienced, so it’s no less right or wrong than anyone else’s opinion "

I mean this keeps coming up in these intrinsically men v women debates...

It's all very well saying I haven't seen or am not aware of... as if that is the arbitrators benchmark. It is infact just willful ignorance... in sofar as your avoid becoming informed about something so as to avoid having to make undesirable admissions that such information might prompt...

I mean... its the forum of what is essentially a grumble site, or... nonetheless a double blind study and empiric evidence is the shout... lol.

Would they bother there ass to read it... I think not...

As its litterally right there if you Google it. But no... state you haven't seen (or searched) as that assists in validating a point at a cursory glance...

But... accepted measured research dating back to about 1927 from what i understand (maybe later) by various physiological institutions around the world establishing a base line for attractiveness exists (shock horror).

These also assess the various character traits of the individual...(shock horror 2)

Summary, being attractive people do indeed appear to have in general more negative character traits and a less 'agreeable' nature. (Shock horror 3).

We have known about this for a long time... even the Romans assessed it in a fashion... (shock horror IV)

You should be aware pople seem to assume that positive interpersonal qualities and physical attractiveness are systematically linked...

i.e., a “halo effect”... heard of it...?

No...?

See andreoni & Petrie, 2008;

Callan, Powell, & Ellard, 2007;

Smith, McIntosh, & Bazzini, 1999

Its essentially the reason why two men of differing aesthetics (undesirable and desirable) both asking a girl the same question can be percieved incredibly differently as an example...

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness?

There probably aren’t studies because it’s a hard thing to quantify

But it’s common sense to me. If having pretty privilege let’s you get away with more, what pressure is there to change

You let a kid be bad without consequences and he’s more likely to keep being bad

You’re a stunning woman with unlimited options, what’s making you be a good person? That’s not to say they will always be a bad person, but it’s nature vs nurture, there’s usually a driving force behind change.

A good example is a guy on here with no bio and a dick pic. The driving force to make him make a better profile is that fact that his current profile is getting no success.

If he was getting 500 messages a day though, why would he change? He might of his own decision, but there’s no driving force behind him

Your "common sense" is based on your world view. Which is inherently cynical, I think? I don't know you, I'm basing that on what I've seen you post. My worldview is inherently not cynical (exceptions obviously) so my common sense doesn't assume that "pretty people" don't have a motivation to be nice as well. My motivation to be a nicer person isn't based on other people thinking better of me.

That’s fair, we just disagree then. I think if you have less push back against a bad behaviour your lure likely to have that behaviour. That’s just common sense to me, and I don’t think it’s cynical, it’s just realistic. But it’s just opinion based on what I’ve seen and experienced, so it’s no less right or wrong than anyone else’s opinion

I mean this keeps coming up in these intrinsically men v women debates...

It's all very well saying I haven't seen or am not aware of... as if that is the arbitrators benchmark. It is infact just willful ignorance... in sofar as your avoid becoming informed about something so as to avoid having to make undesirable admissions that such information might prompt...

I mean... its the forum of what is essentially a grumble site, or... nonetheless a double blind study and empiric evidence is the shout... lol.

Would they bother there ass to read it... I think not...

As its litterally right there if you Google it. But no... state you haven't seen (or searched) as that assists in validating a point at a cursory glance...

But... accepted measured research dating back to about 1927 from what i understand (maybe later) by various physiological institutions around the world establishing a base line for attractiveness exists (shock horror).

These also assess the various character traits of the individual...(shock horror 2)

Summary, being attractive people do indeed appear to have in general more negative character traits and a less 'agreeable' nature. (Shock horror 3).

We have known about this for a long time... even the Romans assessed it in a fashion... (shock horror IV)

You should be aware pople seem to assume that positive interpersonal qualities and physical attractiveness are systematically linked...

i.e., a “halo effect”... heard of it...?

No...?

See andreoni & Petrie, 2008;

Callan, Powell, & Ellard, 2007;

Smith, McIntosh, & Bazzini, 1999

Its essentially the reason why two men of differing aesthetics (undesirable and desirable) both asking a girl the same question can be percieved incredibly differently as an example..."

The papers I have read in the original study of attractiveness was not specifically measuring attractiveness of people. Not especially in a sexual attraction. It was more about desirability. What makes something or someone attravtive in a way that a person would desire to obtain what is being viewed.

To my understanding.

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness?

There probably aren’t studies because it’s a hard thing to quantify

But it’s common sense to me. If having pretty privilege let’s you get away with more, what pressure is there to change

You let a kid be bad without consequences and he’s more likely to keep being bad

You’re a stunning woman with unlimited options, what’s making you be a good person? That’s not to say they will always be a bad person, but it’s nature vs nurture, there’s usually a driving force behind change.

A good example is a guy on here with no bio and a dick pic. The driving force to make him make a better profile is that fact that his current profile is getting no success.

If he was getting 500 messages a day though, why would he change? He might of his own decision, but there’s no driving force behind him

Your "common sense" is based on your world view. Which is inherently cynical, I think? I don't know you, I'm basing that on what I've seen you post. My worldview is inherently not cynical (exceptions obviously) so my common sense doesn't assume that "pretty people" don't have a motivation to be nice as well. My motivation to be a nicer person isn't based on other people thinking better of me.

That’s fair, we just disagree then. I think if you have less push back against a bad behaviour your lure likely to have that behaviour. That’s just common sense to me, and I don’t think it’s cynical, it’s just realistic. But it’s just opinion based on what I’ve seen and experienced, so it’s no less right or wrong than anyone else’s opinion

I mean this keeps coming up in these intrinsically men v women debates...

It's all very well saying I haven't seen or am not aware of... as if that is the arbitrators benchmark. It is infact just willful ignorance... in sofar as your avoid becoming informed about something so as to avoid having to make undesirable admissions that such information might prompt...

I mean... its the forum of what is essentially a grumble site, or... nonetheless a double blind study and empiric evidence is the shout... lol.

Would they bother there ass to read it... I think not...

As its litterally right there if you Google it. But no... state you haven't seen (or searched) as that assists in validating a point at a cursory glance...

But... accepted measured research dating back to about 1927 from what i understand (maybe later) by various physiological institutions around the world establishing a base line for attractiveness exists (shock horror).

These also assess the various character traits of the individual...(shock horror 2)

Summary, being attractive people do indeed appear to have in general more negative character traits and a less 'agreeable' nature. (Shock horror 3).

We have known about this for a long time... even the Romans assessed it in a fashion... (shock horror IV)

You should be aware pople seem to assume that positive interpersonal qualities and physical attractiveness are systematically linked...

i.e., a “halo effect”... heard of it...?

No...?

See andreoni & Petrie, 2008;

Callan, Powell, & Ellard, 2007;

Smith, McIntosh, & Bazzini, 1999

Its essentially the reason why two men of differing aesthetics (undesirable and desirable) both asking a girl the same question can be percieved incredibly differently as an example...

The papers I have read in the original study of attractiveness was not specifically measuring attractiveness of people. Not especially in a sexual attraction. It was more about desirability. What makes something or someone attravtive in a way that a person would desire to obtain what is being viewed.

To my understanding. "

No problem... he we go...

Kenrick D. T. (1989). Bridging social psychology and sociobiology: The case of sexual attraction

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person "

Every woman has a long list of fuckboys they've dated? Factually incorrect

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"What is fucking down? A woman who's only attribute is her looks is hardly a great catch.

But a less attractive woman will have much more going for her personality and can be just as attractive. Amazing looking women are often very shallow

This is an often expressed point of view. I genuinely don't understand how looks dictate perceived personality when attractiveness is subjective.

Probably because this “attentiveness is subjective” isn’t that true

It helps people sleep at night to think everyone’s hot in their own way, but the truth is we all know whose is attractive and who isn’t in general

And because we have pretty privilege, people that are attractive get away more often with being a shitty person.

There’s a reason the tall, dark, handsome guy with tattoos can be such a dick and have endless women throwing themselves at him. It’s the reason every women hates fuckboys but still has a long list of fuckboys she’s dated

It’s the same reason a supermodel can have half a brain and still be chased by endless men.

When your really really really super good looking, you can get away with having a bunch of bad traits like being shallow or boring or nasty or whatever

Ugly peoples learn quick, if you don’t wanna be alone forever, you’ve gotta not be a shitty person

What about the millions of us in the middle of the two extremes?

They fall in the middle

But really, do you think all ugly/ unattractive people have scintillating personalities and give alms to the poor and all attractive/beautiful people are horrible and kick puppies?

Not all, generally though I think it’s a good rule to follow.

Nature vs nature. And pretty privilege is a pretty strong bias

You only need to look at how women treat men on here because no one’s there to check them, and even if they do, they have 1000 options so they don’t care anyways

Could we also look at how some men treat women on here?

It applies to them too

So I'm pretty (as I'm told I am) means I must be a shallow bitch? I don't see pretty privilege

With men here. I have had nasty messages from across the spectrum of attractiveness.

Well… if you aren’t getting pretty privilege, I’ve got bad news for youn

I'll survive as I don't believe the compliments anyway. But you didn't respond to the rest of my comment.

It’s a general rule, not black and white. We should all treat people for who they are, not a general rule

But knowing the general rule really helps you make some quicker judgements and waste less time

Pretty people are less likely to get scorned for shitty behaviour / personality traits. So in general, they’re more likely to have them

It’s not black and white, but I’ve definitely seen it in action.

I know there's research to support positive biases towards the conventionally attractive. Across a number of areas. I haven't seen research to support your suggestion that this means pretty people are then more likely to have negative character traits. And here most people don't show their faces (including you and I) so how can we know their true attractiveness?

There probably aren’t studies because it’s a hard thing to quantify

But it’s common sense to me. If having pretty privilege let’s you get away with more, what pressure is there to change

You let a kid be bad without consequences and he’s more likely to keep being bad

You’re a stunning woman with unlimited options, what’s making you be a good person? That’s not to say they will always be a bad person, but it’s nature vs nurture, there’s usually a driving force behind change.

A good example is a guy on here with no bio and a dick pic. The driving force to make him make a better profile is that fact that his current profile is getting no success.

If he was getting 500 messages a day though, why would he change? He might of his own decision, but there’s no driving force behind him

Your "common sense" is based on your world view. Which is inherently cynical, I think? I don't know you, I'm basing that on what I've seen you post. My worldview is inherently not cynical (exceptions obviously) so my common sense doesn't assume that "pretty people" don't have a motivation to be nice as well. My motivation to be a nicer person isn't based on other people thinking better of me.

That’s fair, we just disagree then. I think if you have less push back against a bad behaviour your lure likely to have that behaviour. That’s just common sense to me, and I don’t think it’s cynical, it’s just realistic. But it’s just opinion based on what I’ve seen and experienced, so it’s no less right or wrong than anyone else’s opinion

I mean this keeps coming up in these intrinsically men v women debates...

It's all very well saying I haven't seen or am not aware of... as if that is the arbitrators benchmark. It is infact just willful ignorance... in sofar as your avoid becoming informed about something so as to avoid having to make undesirable admissions that such information might prompt...

I mean... its the forum of what is essentially a grumble site, or... nonetheless a double blind study and empiric evidence is the shout... lol.

Would they bother there ass to read it... I think not...

As its litterally right there if you Google it. But no... state you haven't seen (or searched) as that assists in validating a point at a cursory glance...

But... accepted measured research dating back to about 1927 from what i understand (maybe later) by various physiological institutions around the world establishing a base line for attractiveness exists (shock horror).

These also assess the various character traits of the individual...(shock horror 2)

Summary, being attractive people do indeed appear to have in general more negative character traits and a less 'agreeable' nature. (Shock horror 3).

We have known about this for a long time... even the Romans assessed it in a fashion... (shock horror IV)

You should be aware pople seem to assume that positive interpersonal qualities and physical attractiveness are systematically linked...

i.e., a “halo effect”... heard of it...?

No...?

See andreoni & Petrie, 2008;

Callan, Powell, & Ellard, 2007;

Smith, McIntosh, & Bazzini, 1999

Its essentially the reason why two men of differing aesthetics (undesirable and desirable) both asking a girl the same question can be percieved incredibly differently as an example...

The papers I have read in the original study of attractiveness was not specifically measuring attractiveness of people. Not especially in a sexual attraction. It was more about desirability. What makes something or someone attravtive in a way that a person would desire to obtain what is being viewed.

To my understanding.

No problem... he we go...

Kenrick D. T. (1989). Bridging social psychology and sociobiology: The case of sexual attraction"

Not the study I was referring to. I'll need to dig through my notes to find it.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Only if their is attraction for me, for some if it just has a pulse will do

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"

Not the study I was referring to. I'll need to dig through my notes to find it. "

Doesn't matter... I'm simply showing you it exists outside of your current scope... and essentially that's my point...

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"Men fuck with thier dicks, women fuck with thier minds.

Hence the book men are from Mars and women are from Venus

This I can get behind!

Sex to men is like food. Sure we’d all like steak sometimes, but when I’m really hungry a fish finger sandwich can really hit the spot

What woman doesn't want to be a fish finger sandwich to a man? "

That’s why women are so selective

They tell every women she’s his perfect steak. When in reality she’s a bowl of cereal and he’s just hungry. Sorting the 2 is very difficult

Where as men? I’m just a bowl of cereal to you? Fine by me

In reality plenty of men aren’t like that, and plenty of women don’t mind being a fish finger sandwich if he’s hot enough, we aren’t too dissimilar

It’s just much easier for my pea sized male brain to sort everyone into binary groups, especially on here where it doesn’t matter because everyone’s just a name I don’t recognise on a forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men fuck with thier dicks, women fuck with thier minds.

Hence the book men are from Mars and women are from Venus

This I can get behind!

Sex to men is like food. Sure we’d all like steak sometimes, but when I’m really hungry a fish finger sandwich can really hit the spot

What woman doesn't want to be a fish finger sandwich to a man?

That’s why women are so selective

They tell every women she’s his perfect steak. When in reality she’s a bowl of cereal and he’s just hungry. Sorting the 2 is very difficult

Where as men? I’m just a bowl of cereal to you? Fine by me

In reality plenty of men aren’t like that, and plenty of women don’t mind being a fish finger sandwich if he’s hot enough, we aren’t too dissimilar

It’s just much easier for my pea sized male brain to sort everyone into binary groups, especially on here where it doesn’t matter because everyone’s just a name I don’t recognise on a forum "

I don't see men as interchangeable bowls of cereal. And I don't GAF how hot he is, I'm not being anyone's fish finger sandwich. I have some self- respect.

Pea brain- yeah right.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

All I can say is thank the lord some men are willing to fuck us fuglies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men fuck with thier dicks, women fuck with thier minds.

Hence the book men are from Mars and women are from Venus

Where did you learn this pish?"

From a book.

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