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Does the starter of a thread have a fabligation to keep it running?

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I don’t know why I converged fab and obligation but that’s me, as whacky as Timmy Mallet after three packets of skittles and a bottle of Coca Cola.

Other high sugar fizzy drinks are available.

Anyway, what do you think, should the OP have some degree of ownership or should it hopefully flow as people post.

Personally I prefer when all contributors are happy to to and fro with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’ve asked a question, I’ll try to respond to some of the answers.

Other times I’ll drop the bomb and run.

All depends how much spare time I’ve got to participate.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Nah. Too much work

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"If I’ve asked a question, I’ll try to respond to some of the answers.

Other times I’ll drop the bomb and run.

All depends how much spare time I’ve got to participate."

Very similar to me.

I try to respond to people then invariably miss somebody out and that’s not nice for them, albeit totally accidental.

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Nah. Too much work "

It is.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

At least look at it to see how it gets skewed and responded to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play for a while. Cum. Then let everyone do their thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if its a certain opinion of yours that the title, can't just let ppl slate you and your opinion without some sort of defence

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I start off with all good intentions too.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Sometimes it's just used as a way to bump it to the top if it's getting no response. Sometimes people ask questions or make comments which the Op responds to. To read the exchange is quite entertaining sometimes.

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Depends on how much time and energy I have. I have done threads and replied to everyone before, and it's exhausting, but can be fun. Sometimes I'll just reply to a few interesting comments. Otherwise a bump now and then to keep it in track

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By *llaandGCouple
over a year ago

London

Nothing worse than being the last poster on a thread that hasn't grown too big.....

G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do a Tom and throw a grenade and run. Then give it a shameless bump with a deliberately inflammatory comment. Say what you want about him but he knows how to get a thread to 175.

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By *llaandGCouple
over a year ago

London

Phew!

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By *llaandGCouple
over a year ago

London

Oh, wait...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. No. Maybe. Discuss?

I don’t know. Sometimes my threads go off track and I leave them to it.

Others I feel like they’re answering me so I stay involved.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I only start threads to watch them die or burn with chaos.

Don't respond to this Fidds, else I shall touch your peen!

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Mostly as if people are participating in your thread, you should do so too but without overdoing it.

Not keen on threads that OP puts it out there and then disappears, especially if it's controversial subject aimed at causing a bit of friction.

I also abandon my own threads if they get off the point by certain people or high jacked by those arrogant enough to believe that their opinion is the only one that matters

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I think the OP has to stick with it.

They must respond to every post, anything less is just being tardy.

They must keep the thread on topic and they must sort out any arguments and poor behaviour.

They must be the last person to post on the thread, with a thank you, to all those who have participated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Within 3 posts, the comments generally have nothing to do with the original post, the predictable profiles will have arrived and the OP will be getting pulled apart

For my part, it's creating a subject that people comment on, regardless of content...participation is the whole point, not who's right or wrong...thats just an argument. Can't be bottom argue with strangers on the Internet.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I think it's down to the subject matter.

Just know, I will be judging you on how you now handle yours, fiddles

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Just do a Tom and throw a grenade and run. Then give it a shameless bump with a deliberately inflammatory comment. Say what you want about him but he knows how to get a thread to 175."

Shame on you NE...

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Just do a Tom and throw a grenade and run. Then give it a shameless bump with a deliberately inflammatory comment. Say what you want about him but he knows how to get a thread to 175.

Shame on you NE... "

True enough... yes?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Nah. Too much work "

It can be a lot of work

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Just do a Tom and throw a grenade and run. Then give it a shameless bump with a deliberately inflammatory comment. Say what you want about him but he knows how to get a thread to 175."

not opening any of those is the best approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I start threads I do enjoy interacting with the people that have posted but I know that is not necessary for a lot of thread topics.

NBVN x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Well a pop up personal appearance is always nice.

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I think the OP has to stick with it.

They must respond to every post, anything less is just being tardy.

They must keep the thread on topic and they must sort out any arguments and poor behaviour.

They must be the last person to post on the thread, with a thank you, to all those who have participated. "

Thank you.

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I think it's down to the subject matter.

Just know, I will be judging you on how you now handle yours, fiddles "

To crossover to your masturbation thread.

I’m quite fond of handling mine.

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I only start threads to watch them die or burn with chaos.

Don't respond to this Fidds, else I shall touch your peen!

"

Sorry touching is only allowed on the 12th Saturday of years ending in 3,4 and 8.

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Depends on how much time and energy I have. I have done threads and replied to everyone before, and it's exhausting, but can be fun. Sometimes I'll just reply to a few interesting comments. Otherwise a bump now and then to keep it in track "

Like this

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No. There's no fabligation whatsoever.

Some do some don't. Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don't.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


" Within 3 posts, the comments generally have nothing to do with the original post, the predictable profiles will have arrived and the OP will be getting pulled apart

For my part, it's creating a subject that people comment on, regardless of content...participation is the whole point, not who's right or wrong...thats just an argument. Can't be bottom argue with strangers on the Internet. "

bottom ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I think the OP has to stick with it.

They must respond to every post, anything less is just being tardy.

They must keep the thread on topic and they must sort out any arguments and poor behaviour.

They must be the last person to post on the thread, with a thank you, to all those who have participated. "

I'd rather be Tardy

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I think it's down to the subject matter.

Just know, I will be judging you on how you now handle yours, fiddles

To crossover to your masturbation thread.

I’m quite fond of handling mine. "

Ya don't say

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't start threads that require a lot of input from me beyond the original post. Probably why 99% of them die after a handful of comments.

Kiss, fuck threads are always hilarious when the op has to reply to every comment and it then becomes all about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Within 3 posts, the comments generally have nothing to do with the original post, the predictable profiles will have arrived and the OP will be getting pulled apart

For my part, it's creating a subject that people comment on, regardless of content...participation is the whole point, not who's right or wrong...thats just an argument. Can't be bottom argue with strangers on the Internet.

bottom ?"

...someone read a post from halfway down a thread. My faith is restored.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Purely depends on what mood I am in and how much time, curious to know pretty much runs itself and I can read it later,

If I have a spare hour then I'll go for a serious one but that's rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at my threads as scabs and I need to keep picking at it...dont normally get above 10 posts anyway...

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

From my experience if I feel impassioned about the subject-matter of my thread, then yes, I like to engage with some of those responses and subsequently 'bump' that thread and keep it alive. I do that in a measured and not-so-blatant way.

If there is no further traction then I just assume it's finally run its course. I'm not looking to hit the magic 176 posts mark.

My threads are unconventional and often fall down the rankings, superseded by the voluminous "Rate my Cock", "Fuck, Pass, Piss, or Blow", "Toenail Tuesday" or similar threads. And that's totally fine. I'll make a judgement call on whether I wish to rejuvenate my thread for the sake of variety.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Personally, I will curate my threads. But ultimately it's up to the individual

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

... has the OP done a runner yet?!

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"From my experience if I feel impassioned about the subject-matter of my thread, then yes, I like to engage with some of those responses and subsequently 'bump' that thread and keep it alive. I do that in a measured and not-so-blatant way.

If there is no further traction then I just assume it's finally run its course. I'm not looking to hit the magic 176 posts mark.

My threads are unconventional and often fall down the rankings, superseded by the voluminous "Rate my Cock", "Fuck, Pass, Piss, or Blow", "Toenail Tuesday" or similar threads. And that's totally fine. I'll make a judgement call on whether I wish to rejuvenate my thread for the sake of variety."

I love toenail Tuesday.

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"

... has the OP done a runner yet?! "

I do tend to go for a lunchtime run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the OP if you reply to everyone it soon gets filled up then you look popular AF.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!! If you can't be arsed to run your own thread then why should we .....

I'll go bend over your desk now for punishment Fiddles .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No drop your thoughts let the masses have at it and do as they will just wish people would understand or give context some times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god we don't have to, do we? This isn't in Fab rules. panics about all the woebegone threads that I can't even find to finish...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let them die a natural death usually

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Wait…..am I to infer from this that there is an unwritten etiquette and that I’m supposed to reply to posters on my threads?

Ahhhhh…..shit…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just do a Tom and throw a grenade and run. Then give it a shameless bump with a deliberately inflammatory comment. Say what you want about him but he knows how to get a thread to 175.

Shame on you NE... "

This wasn’t an insult. Mr NE can appreciate a good wind up

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Nope. I like to try to respond to anyone who has typed something though.

Some people seem to think that's stupid or to be ridiculed over.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Wait…..am I to infer from this that there is an unwritten etiquette and that I’m supposed to reply to posters on my threads?

Ahhhhh…..shit….. "

You don't have to. It's rather moronic to ask a question and then bugger off though.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"From my experience if I feel impassioned about the subject-matter of my thread, then yes, I like to engage with some of those responses and subsequently 'bump' that thread and keep it alive. I do that in a measured and not-so-blatant way.

If there is no further traction then I just assume it's finally run its course. I'm not looking to hit the magic 176 posts mark.

My threads are unconventional and often fall down the rankings, superseded by the voluminous "Rate my Cock", "Fuck, Pass, Piss, or Blow", "Toenail Tuesday" or similar threads. And that's totally fine. I'll make a judgement call on whether I wish to rejuvenate my thread for the sake of variety.

I love toenail Tuesday. "

•

I'm setting up a Fiddles Fingering Friday.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I like to reply to everyone that takes the time to reply to my OP. If people are interacting with each other on the thread then I'll leave them to it, but having often been the person who posts and feels ignored (on occasion, normally I'm not that fussed) I don't want to make anyone feel like that, or feel like they aren't seen.

Plus I'm usually demanding photos, and it's only polite to thank everyone who humours my whims

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"I like to reply to everyone that takes the time to reply to my OP. If people are interacting with each other on the thread then I'll leave them to it, but having often been the person who posts and feels ignored (on occasion, normally I'm not that fussed) I don't want to make anyone feel like that, or feel like they aren't seen.

Plus I'm usually demanding photos, and it's only polite to thank everyone who humours my whims "

•

For goodness sake she's killed this thread already, the wench!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

The problem is when I only want to reply to a few but I don't want anyone to feel ignored. Such a dilemma!!

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"Wait…..am I to infer from this that there is an unwritten etiquette and that I’m supposed to reply to posters on my threads?

Ahhhhh…..shit…..

You don't have to. It's rather moronic to ask a question and then bugger off though.

"

Oh I’d not do that

…..*checking old threads…..*

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Wait…..am I to infer from this that there is an unwritten etiquette and that I’m supposed to reply to posters on my threads?

Ahhhhh…..shit…..

You don't have to. It's rather moronic to ask a question and then bugger off though.

Oh I’d not do that

…..*checking old threads…..* "

You do you

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

On more than one occasion I've started a thread then totally forgotten about it.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"I think the OP has to stick with it.

They must respond to every post, anything less is just being tardy.

They must keep the thread on topic and they must sort out any arguments and poor behaviour.

They must be the last person to post on the thread, with a thank you, to all those who have participated.

Thank you. "

You’re welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On more than one occasion I've started a thread then totally forgotten about it.

"

Ditto! And tbh if it drops off your list because you're "chatty" how are you meant to find it again?

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