FabSwingers.com forum: Letting go

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Buddha

I posted this quote the other day but it’s occurred to me just how relevant it actually is to my life in general and in specifics.

My question is; can you let go of anger? How do you do it, if you do?

Is anger as toxic as the quote implies?

As always, I’m interested in your thoughts folks

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

If channelled it can be useful for giving you strength and resolve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to hold onto anger and hold a grudge. Then I turned to Buddhism and meditation. Now i dont give a damn

If someone makes me angry, thats their issue for being a prat and i tell them so in the moment then let it go

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I think anger is a toxic trait especially if you can't let go, it inadvertently affects other parts of your life, speaking from my own personal experience.

As I've gotten older I've learned to let go and rarely get angry, it's a waste of time and energy and generally achieves nothing.

Mrs

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

It takes a lot to make me angry, depending on what has happened and the resolution (if any) can last between a minute to about a week. Any longer than a week then I will begin to despise that person more than anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really do anger im a 0 to 100 back to 0 in a couple of minutes guy when it comes to anger i do strop and sulk but usually vent it and its gone

Frustration and loss now thats the ones i struggle to shake off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has its place tho like is sport but controlled explosions to motivate work best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you can let go of anger as it's a powerful emotion. We can't control what makes us angry and have to go through the motions when we do. Resentment following the anger you can let go of though, holding onto that only does harm to you not others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to hold onto anger and hold a grudge. Then I turned to Buddhism and meditation. Now i dont give a damn

If someone makes me angry, thats their issue for being a prat and i tell them so in the moment then let it go"

I would love some information on this if you have the time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to hold onto anger and hold a grudge. Then I turned to Buddhism and meditation. Now i dont give a damn

If someone makes me angry, thats their issue for being a prat and i tell them so in the moment then let it go

I would love some information on this if you have the time x"

Feel free

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I ride the emotion in real time and process what triggered me through meditation when I can

I'm very easy going and it takes a lot to rile me really

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I think a thirst for revenge is very toxic indeed.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Buddha

I posted this quote the other day but it’s occurred to me just how relevant it actually is to my life in general and in specifics.

My question is; can you let go of anger? How do you do it, if you do?

Is anger as toxic as the quote implies?

As always, I’m interested in your thoughts folks"
There are one or two on here who need to learn how to let go … years of nonsense from them proves they are totally unable to do that

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Been times where I've felt pangs of anger but it's usually short lived..

I'm too laid back for all that crap life's too short for idiots haha ..

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Nah, I keep anger inside like my own private dynamo.

Never forget.

Never forgive.

Never surrender.

Never say die!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not great at letting go of anger but I’m better than I was and it’s a work in progress for me.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Forgive but never forget is how I deal with it

Marc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm somewhat like Inevitable - I can be quick to anger at times. A hair trigger temper when I am under stress. And then it just disappears. I'd hate to carry anger around with me.

Resentment is the emotion I hang onto and I usually have a stern talk with myself because I need to view the situation from a different perspective.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I had a hard time with this last year, but I found meditation helped tremendously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the scenario but most of the time I have to air why I'm angry otherwise it will bottle up and I'll explode

Miss S x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Very rarely get angry! But when I do everyone around me knows it! But it's gone as soon as it arrived x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anger is a useful tool if you can harness it and turn it in your favour, using it to motivate or to change something which is stale, for example.

Hate on the other hand is insidious and destructive, whilst consuming you and doing little against the subject of your hate.

If you don't deal with the first, you can easily find yourself at the second.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"My question is; can you let go of anger? How do you do it, if you do?

Is anger as toxic as the quote implies?

As always, I’m interested in your thoughts folks"

Yes it's very important that you do!

Personally, I put on headphones and listen to the Frozen track on loud volume... Very cathartic...

Of course, my bf was surprised and thought the song said "Let it snow?" Lol

My silly Billy bf...!

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By *ack_at_the_farm....Man
over a year ago

woodhall spa

Control your emotions and choose your attitude and all is good. Only you can choose whether to allow anger to surface.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Let go and await karma

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I used to be able to get rid of it quickly, go for a ride on the motorbike or bicycle. 5 minutes on either and you soon calmed down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anger is included in the range of emotions we all have, so, I think, at times,it's just as ok to feel anger as it is to feel calm.

If something makes me angry it means it's important to me...I hope I can keep choosing how to respond to it and not lose my temper. It's a practice.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It depends how it manifests … how you manage and display it.

You can often feel your anger Tea in your comments/posts/threads

There are a lot of people here who openly display not just anger but I mean ANGER! if they wrote in capitals it couldn’t be anymore evident!

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By *ttmcdguyTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

This is slightly embarrassing for me to write

I’ve got an appointment with mental health on Wednesday

I am suffering right now (and have been for a cpl year’s) with anger issues

I can’t calm down like ever

Slightest little thing sets me off

I’ve not been physical with it with anyone but have thrown things punched things been extremely vocal and what is worse is going quite and not venting

Then I listen to my brain warp and twist what was not worth anything anyway

But then after I feel horrible and guilty and remorseful and then tend to feel depressed

Until something else riles me

I can’t control any of my emotions

I don’t know why

I know I can’t carry on like it

The dr said 1st step is knowing when you need help

I’ve never been known as an angry person always quick with the banter life and sole of the party

I don’t know what changed/happened and don’t know how to fix it

Pls don’t judge me I know im a dick but not everything is as easy as a light switch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Breathe in deep,breathe out exhale.

We most need closure for many unsorted issues. If not.

The person/persons whom have grown are the ones whom forgive.

That positive mindset is very deep,very powerful and will set you free from the chains of control.

It all a journey arriveing at that point!

Peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anger is a secondary emotion, so to let go of it I have to identify the primary emotion that triggered it. It's usually fear, panic at being overwhelmed, or feeling betrayed. Holding onto anger isn't healthy, but neither is suppressing it without exploring where it's come from.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Angers a choice , I rarely choose it these days. I get angry at myself sometimes when I make a mistake !

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By *istalloverCouple
over a year ago

Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance

"“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Buddha

I posted this quote the other day but it’s occurred to me just how relevant it actually is to my life in general and in specifics.

My question is; can you let go of anger? How do you do it, if you do?

Is anger as toxic as the quote implies?

As always, I’m interested in your thoughts folks"

–----------'zzxx

We had an argument over who quoted this.

My wife said somebody else said it.

Buy I cant believe I its not buddha

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Buddha

I posted this quote the other day but it’s occurred to me just how relevant it actually is to my life in general and in specifics.

My question is; can you let go of anger? How do you do it, if you do?

Is anger as toxic as the quote implies?

As always, I’m interested in your thoughts folks"

Interesting quote - I like it.

I’m not an angry person at all tbh. I’m pretty chilled about many things that others could never forgive - and I’m happier and sleep better because of it. Lately I bumped into someone who, years ago, had me in floods of tears. By the end of the day we were drinking partners again. I don’t do grudges.

I think the only exception would be if anyone intentionally physically seriously hurt (or killed) one of my kids - then I’d kill the fuckers without a second thought. Hopefully that’ll never happen though.

Hugs

Peachy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what I'm angry at. If someone crosses that line then I can stay angry for a good while then I'll eventually calm down. More often than not though, I'm getting good at not giving a shit anymore and just ignore it. People hate that and that just makes me not care even more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is general frustration a form of anger?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think there's hella truth in what Buddha said.

For me personally tho, here's how I work.

I do hold onto anger, but it may not be as you think considering how cunty I can come across. The anger I hold deep down inside of me and cannot seem to shake is anger, disappointment and frustration at myself for "allowing" situations to occur.

I blame myself for most things.

If I'd have acted sooner it wouldn't have happened

If I'd have been stronger it wouldn't have happened

If I didn't go somewhere I went, it wouldn't have happened

I blame my decisions, my choices. I don't forgive myself internally for not learning or growing and repeating putting my faith in places in had no business being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's hella truth in what Buddha said.

For me personally tho, here's how I work.

I blame myself for most things.

If I'd have acted sooner it wouldn't have happened

If I'd have been stronger it wouldn't have happened

If I didn't go somewhere I went, it wouldn't have happened

I blame my decisions, my choices. I don't forgive myself internally for not learning or growing and repeating putting my faith in places in had no business being.

I get this

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I don’t bear grudges. Bitterness just causes wrinkles apparently and I haven’t got time for that! Nor can I afford a facelift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*As Yoda sits next to me, we look at each other and close our eyes to feel the comfort of the Jedi way…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually very good at letting go, but i do get triggered occasionally by daily mail readers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really good at helping others to work through their issues and turn it into a positive perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get pissed off very easily but if someone does piss me off I'm only pissed off with them, it doesn't affect my mood with anyone else, but I'm generally over it the next day, life's too short to let someone get you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely toxic. Do something or don't do something but don't sit there thinking about what you "should" to do, what you "should" have done, how you don't deserve this, how it's all someone elses fault etc etc. Almost entirely oointless emotion.

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