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"I have 3 categories My longterm partners who know everything about me My 3 close friends on fab who know everything about me Everyone else knows what I want them to know about me Great. Now I’m going to cry into a pillow. " Are you referring to my pillowy boobs | |||
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"I have 3 categories My longterm partners who know everything about me My 3 close friends on fab who know everything about me Everyone else knows what I want them to know about me Great. Now I’m going to cry into a pillow. Are you referring to my pillowy boobs " Yeah. I wish. | |||
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"I have a list of TOP TEN FORUMITES that I compile in secret and update every Sunday." They self identify on forum threads. | |||
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"My circle outside of fab is small and within, smaller still. I have some very good friends I met through here that are no longer on the site for various reasons. I have a very close friend and current fabber that I trust implicitly with everything both here and beyond. There are others I chat to on a regular or semi regular basis but we know little of each others lives outside of fab. Beyond that there is nothing. Unfortunately I don't subscribe to the fab friends are fab theory and have found to my cost that a tenuous friendship based simply on being members of the site is often abused by those who use those friendships as currency. " • Hence why I consciously didn't mention the "Fab Friends" part of this: it's extraneous to my 'theorem'. But I get your point, Mr. Bites. | |||
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"I have a list of TOP TEN FORUMITES that I compile in secret and update every Sunday. They self identify on forum threads. " The algorithm is getting too complicated. Even I don't understand it anymore. It's a bit like the film Tron. In that it's a bit shit. | |||
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"I'm not friends with anyone on here " • Don't worry. It takes time. Give it another year and you'll be able to shake hands with a few. And a year after that - you might get to go "ooh la la" and the world's your oyster. | |||
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"I've always found friendships difficult to navigate in RL and it's no different here on Fab. Apart from my partner, who I met on here, I have one good friend from Fab that I would trust with my worst self. Us both being neurodivergant helps, so they don't mind if I'm "too much" sometimes. With other people, including those I've met sexually, I'm rubbish at gauging things like how much someone likes me, whether they're replying to be polite or if they really value my company and contact, if contact is too much/not enough etc. and as a result I tend to let things peter out because I worry I'm being annoying. I suppose my hierarchy is "all or nothing", which saddens me." Oh i can see myself reflected in what you said x | |||
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"I've always found friendships difficult to navigate in RL and it's no different here on Fab. Apart from my partner, who I met on here, I have one good friend from Fab that I would trust with my worst self. Us both being neurodivergant helps, so they don't mind if I'm "too much" sometimes. With other people, including those I've met sexually, I'm rubbish at gauging things like how much someone likes me, whether they're replying to be polite or if they really value my company and contact, if contact is too much/not enough etc. and as a result I tend to let things peter out because I worry I'm being annoying. I suppose my hierarchy is "all or nothing", which saddens me. Oh i can see myself reflected in what you said x" It's so complicated | |||
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"Loyalty and the test of time is the most important thing to me I sometimes ask a new partner how long they have known their closest friends " • That's not a bad approach. It's a great indicator to weigh up how much 'emotional investment' one is prepared to make (with a prospective new 'partner'). | |||
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