FabSwingers.com forum: When your wife goes off sex

By *i mandz OP Couple
over a year ago

luton

I used to have sex with mandi every night...

Then she had her midlife thingy...

She wanted divorce but managed to keep her...

We have sex maybe once a month if lucky but I never push her to have more...

What can I do to make her start loving herself again...I don't mind if she wants to stay night with a man...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I used to have sex with mandi every night...

Then she had her midlife thingy...

She wanted divorce but managed to keep her...

We have sex maybe once a month if lucky but I never push her to have more...

What can I do to make her start loving herself again...I don't mind if she wants to stay night with a man..."

Does she have Access to this profile or know you have it?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think the most important question is does Mandy feel like something is wrong?

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

If she has access to your profile and you haven’t checked that she’s happy for you to post this, then you may want to let her know…

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Talk to her not us.

Tell her how you feel and listen to what she has to say about it. Its all about communication.

Can't do anything more than that. There isn't a magic fix all bit of advice anyone can give you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talk to her not us.

Tell her how you feel and listen to what she has to say about it. Its all about communication.

Can't do anything more than that. There isn't a magic fix all bit of advice anyone can give you.

This

Key element is to listen. Women often have to want to have sex with themselves, before they have sex with anyone else. Find out what she needs/wants. Help her get that, offer her intimacy without any intention of sex, & you may find she is open to supporting you with your needs (however you are both comfortable with meeting them). I'd probably hide the profile/ check she is okay with it still being up in the mean time. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks

I now can’t get the song ‘Mandy’ by Barry fucking Manilow out of my head!!

Although that Mandy came and she gave without taking

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

When I've gone off sex in relationships it's always been as a symptom of more going on.

For example I feel taken for granted doing all the house work or paying most of the bills etc.

If she wanted a divorce that probably means she's not entirely happy.Perhaps you should try talking to her and having counselling together rather than trying to concentrate on the sex.

If you manage to talk through your problems ,then the sex might return op.

If you're having problems in the other areas if your marriage ,then trying to get her to meet others won't help you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If she has gone off sex spending the night with another man isn't going to help.

Have a chat with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you married, if so, welcome to "the norm"

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By *esi_in_brusselsMan
over a year ago

Brussels, Belgium

"Are you married, if so, welcome to "the norm"

Married women doesn't like sex is the norm ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Are you married, if so, welcome to "the norm"

Married women doesn't like sex is the norm ?

It's a joke apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You kissed me and stopped me from shaking

I need you today oh mandy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You kissed me and stopped me from shaking

I need you today oh mandy"

Harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hormones could be playing a big part in her lack of libido.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Try having a adult conversation with her.If my husband decided to tell a bunch of strangers before talking to me about it then having sex once a month would be the least of our problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to have sex with mandi every night...

Then she had her midlife thingy...

She wanted divorce but managed to keep her...

We have sex maybe once a month if lucky but I never push her to have more...

What can I do to make her start loving herself again...I don't mind if she wants to stay night with a man..."

Why did she want a divorce? How do you know it's herself who she doesn't love?

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Hi op

When I've gone off sex in relationships it's always been as a symptom of more going on.

For example I feel taken for granted doing all the house work or paying most of the bills etc.

If she wanted a divorce that probably means she's not entirely happy.Perhaps you should try talking to her and having counselling together rather than trying to concentrate on the sex.

If you manage to talk through your problems ,then the sex might return op.

If you're having problems in the other areas if your marriage ,then trying to get her to meet others won't help you."

And sometimes , you ll do all the housework and pay all the bills and be a really hands on dad and turn things around and it ll be temporary .

Because sometimes your partner will for hormonal or health reasons go off sex and for them it ll be no big deal . And you ll have to choose between leaving , staying in a sexless marriage or cheating . And sometimes your finances or children’s needs will make the decision for you

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By *i mandz OP Couple
over a year ago

luton

Thanks guys ...no this is her site aswell...

We are absolutely ok in our relationship she hasp read all comments...

Of course we have had conversations....I'm not that much of a pratt...lol..

When we do have sex its great...we have to change sheets cause all wet....

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