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By *hors fantasy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Hi all hope you are well. On monday I am having a hysterectomy it is very much wanted and needed and bot at all upset about it. I am more questioning returning to sex, how long after and how was it? How did you help see to each others needs whilst healing? We are a very ravenous couple and a bit nervous about this side of it xx

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Hi all hope you are well. On monday I am having a hysterectomy it is very much wanted and needed and bot at all upset about it. I am more questioning returning to sex, how long after and how was it? How did you help see to each others needs whilst healing? We are a very ravenous couple and a bit nervous about this side of it xx "

Good luck OP, I hope it goes well for you!

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"Hi all hope you are well. On monday I am having a hysterectomy it is very much wanted and needed and bot at all upset about it. I am more questioning returning to sex, how long after and how was it? How did you help see to each others needs whilst healing? We are a very ravenous couple and a bit nervous about this side of it xx "

When I was discharged after mine I was given a leaflet of what I was allowed to do each week. The 1st week was total rest & you will need it. I was off work for 13 weeks. Everyone is different. Do not rush anything as it will only set you back. You have the rest of your lives together for sex & pleasure but only 1 chance to full heal xx Best of luck to you - mine really was a life changer xxx

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all hope you are well. On monday I am having a hysterectomy it is very much wanted and needed and bot at all upset about it. I am more questioning returning to sex, how long after and how was it? How did you help see to each others needs whilst healing? We are a very ravenous couple and a bit nervous about this side of it xx

When I was discharged after mine I was given a leaflet of what I was allowed to do each week. The 1st week was total rest & you will need it. I was off work for 13 weeks. Everyone is different. Do not rush anything as it will only set you back. You have the rest of your lives together for sex & pleasure but only 1 chance to full heal xx Best of luck to you - mine really was a life changer xxx

J x"

This was the healing time when my mom had hers but they do it key hole now so I think healing time is alot less. You'd be better off asking your Dr's about all these things because they will be the ones to give you the best and most useful advice

Hope everything goes well with the op!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm, seeing to each others needs... well I put on my big boy pants and cared for her like any grown up should, without wondering when she'd do the right thing, and get it wet.

As for her needs, empathy? Lot's of that worked really well. And tea.

Time to heal may be slightly different for everyone, speak to your Dr as they'll know best but I think it was a couple of weeks minimum, maybe a tad more.

Was it different, not to my knowledge, maybe for her? Did it affect the results we're used too, not a jot, thankfully.

Good luck with it all though, fingers crossed for you.

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By *hors fantasy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Erm, seeing to each others needs... well I put on my big boy pants and cared for her like any grown up should, without wondering when she'd do the right thing, and get it wet.

As for her needs, empathy? Lot's of that worked really well. And tea.

Time to heal may be slightly different for everyone, speak to your Dr as they'll know best but I think it was a couple of weeks minimum, maybe a tad more.

Was it different, not to my knowledge, maybe for her? Did it affect the results we're used too, not a jot, thankfully.

Good luck with it all though, fingers crossed for you. "

Love it gemma writes the post asking questions and your white knighting assuming it’s me asking when we can have sex again…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, prefer a more normal response like, let him jizz on your face after you had your insides scooped out like raspberry ripple soft serve?

You asked, you got. I don't care who did the typing.

If my being so fucking wonderful pushes you into thinking I'm white knighting, well that might be on you.

Good day, sir, I said good day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you wait long enough, so you don’t fuck up the healing

Plus points, it can actually hurt less, especially if cervic removed (and any causes of problems)

Down side for me, I used to get strong uterine contractions when orgasming, I obviously don’t get that now, so it has changed that, they are still lovely, just different

I’m off for a week now, but happy to answer any q’s if you message me

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Plenty of oral I don’t think that needs to stop but I’m no doctor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty of oral I don’t think that needs to stop but I’m no doctor"

It’s not a good idea, as there is a lot of internal stitching, and it’s easy to damage that.

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By *hors fantasy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Sorry, prefer a more normal response like, let him jizz on your face after you had your insides scooped out like raspberry ripple soft serve?

You asked, you got. I don't care who did the typing.

If my being so fucking wonderful pushes you into thinking I'm white knighting, well that might be on you.

Good day, sir, I said good day."

No prefer non judgmental responses! Thinking he is not looking after me is just bull. Thinking it has to be the man weiting is bull. I wondering about others experiences and how they can help me!

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By *hors fantasy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Make sure you wait long enough, so you don’t fuck up the healing

Plus points, it can actually hurt less, especially if cervic removed (and any causes of problems)

Down side for me, I used to get strong uterine contractions when orgasming, I obviously don’t get that now, so it has changed that, they are still lovely, just different

I’m off for a week now, but happy to answer any q’s if you message me "

Thankyou I will be careful but obviously I love sex and wanna get back as quick as possible haha. I bet you it is me getting him to try first ha xx

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere


"Make sure you wait long enough, so you don’t fuck up the healing

Plus points, it can actually hurt less, especially if cervic removed (and any causes of problems)

Down side for me, I used to get strong uterine contractions when orgasming, I obviously don’t get that now, so it has changed that, they are still lovely, just different

I’m off for a week now, but happy to answer any q’s if you message me

Thankyou I will be careful but obviously I love sex and wanna get back as quick as possible haha. I bet you it is me getting him to try first ha xx"

Good luck - obey the Drs - they’re the experts xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a total hysterectomy 4 years ago and I would say it depends on type of surgery you have. I had open abdominal surgery and it’s the best thing I’ve done was back in the gym after 6 weeks rest and after that I was scared at first to have sex but it’s no different. If you opt for key hole surgery there is more vaginal trauma and bruising and some people take a lot longer to recover.

This is a time when the man needs to put the other person first and not worry about his own needs until fully recovered.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Plenty of oral I don’t think that needs to stop but I’m no doctor

It’s not a good idea, as there is a lot of internal stitching, and it’s easy to damage that.

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Thanks for clearing that up for me didn’t think it was so close to the clit thanx again

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

No wonder it’s easier for the man to get done wouldn’t want to be a woman going through that hope all goes well

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel


"Hi all hope you are well. On monday I am having a hysterectomy it is very much wanted and needed and bot at all upset about it. I am more questioning returning to sex, how long after and how was it? How did you help see to each others needs whilst healing? We are a very ravenous couple and a bit nervous about this side of it xx "

I know it’s a huge potentially life changing event for a woman, hope it goes well and take your time recovering, a few months of abstinence would likely be worth it long term

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Hi all hope you are well. On monday I am having a hysterectomy it is very much wanted and needed and bot at all upset about it. I am more questioning returning to sex, how long after and how was it? How did you help see to each others needs whilst healing? We are a very ravenous couple and a bit nervous about this side of it xx "

Wife had a hysterectomy when she was 30 due to issues. That was 20 years ago. Sounds a bit horrific and young to have it happen but we didn't want more kids and she welcomed the removal herself.It ended up being a huge positive rather than a negative shall we say.

Anyway, if I recall, she didn't feel up to anything for about a week and when she did, we kept it to external stimulation for a week or two as well. I think it was 3 weeks after surgery that she "took a ride" so to speak but in the two weeks before that we where doing everything but penetrative sex.

If you dont have one, just invest in a wand and keep it on stand by is all I'm saying..

Good luck.

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By *hors fantasy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"No wonder it’s easier for the man to get done wouldn’t want to be a woman going through that hope all goes well"

Its not for contraception! Health issues and it wouldn't be easier for a man to lose his testicles so that was a stupid thing to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, best wishes for the op on Monday my lovely. I hope it goes well and recover is straightforward for you.

I had a hysterectomy 7 years ago. Hoped for keyhole surgery but once in theatre they needed to remove via the sun roof option. I had a very neat scar just like a c section. I had my cervix removed but retained my ovaries (my choice)

From a returning to sex perspective - you will obviously listen to your doctors advice & your body. Your hormones will be fluctuating and this can make you horny as you would already know.

I had penetrative sex about 2 weeks after surgery, it was very gentle for the first few weeks. You also need to be careful to avoid getting infections and I don't mean STI, I mean being touched with unclean hands and saliva for example- I am not saying you or your partner are unclean but just this is something you need to be aware of as you need to heal internally aswell as externally.

I remember that by week 2 I was starting to feel rather frisky and was practically begging my fwb for sex... oh let's be honest I was completely begging him. He was nervous incase he hurt me or we cause a problem, initially we had "soft play" everything but oral or penetration from anything (fingers, toys, penis).

As a couple you will be able to enjoy lots of closeness, the connection and lust for each other will still be there and it isn't long before you're thoroughly enjoying your sex life once again.

Best wishes both and fingers crossed for Monday

NBVN x

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"No wonder it’s easier for the man to get done wouldn’t want to be a woman going through that hope all goes well

Its not for contraception! Health issues and it wouldn't be easier for a man to lose his testicles so that was a stupid thing to say "

I wasn’t aware it wasn’t for reproductive issues so having a pop when all I was saying was it’s a lot harder for a woman to recover from is just spiteful when it was said with good intentions

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"Hi all hope you are well. On monday I am having a hysterectomy it is very much wanted and needed and bot at all upset about it. I am more questioning returning to sex, how long after and how was it? How did you help see to each others needs whilst healing? We are a very ravenous couple and a bit nervous about this side of it xx "

Hi there, I Nilly had a hysterectomy 8 years ago, best thing ever... avoid penetrative sex for 6 weeks then all good to go... I was incredibly horny after it and Willy had amazing sensible self control, so lots of non penetrative sex worked OK, although wouldn't want to do 6 weeks again...actually had ffm 6 weeks after and mfm 8 weeks after that...all was fine and no issues

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By *hors fantasy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"No wonder it’s easier for the man to get done wouldn’t want to be a woman going through that hope all goes well

Its not for contraception! Health issues and it wouldn't be easier for a man to lose his testicles so that was a stupid thing to say

I wasn’t aware it wasn’t for reproductive issues so having a pop when all I was saying was it’s a lot harder for a woman to recover from is just spiteful when it was said with good intentions"

You entered a post about a hysterectomy and thought a lady would have a major organ removed for contraception… schools need to spend more time on education and less time on whatever’s the fuck they taught you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the best OP I really hope you have a speedy recovery from your operation.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"No wonder it’s easier for the man to get done wouldn’t want to be a woman going through that hope all goes well

Its not for contraception! Health issues and it wouldn't be easier for a man to lose his testicles so that was a stupid thing to say

I wasn’t aware it wasn’t for reproductive issues so having a pop when all I was saying was it’s a lot harder for a woman to recover from is just spiteful when it was said with good intentions

You entered a post about a hysterectomy and thought a lady would have a major organ removed for contraception… schools need to spend more time on education and less time on whatever’s the fuck they taught you"

We’re getting personal now so let’s start I know 3 women who have had it done for contraceptive purposes so get your shit right before slagging folk off

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By *hors fantasy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"No wonder it’s easier for the man to get done wouldn’t want to be a woman going through that hope all goes well

Its not for contraception! Health issues and it wouldn't be easier for a man to lose his testicles so that was a stupid thing to say

I wasn’t aware it wasn’t for reproductive issues so having a pop when all I was saying was it’s a lot harder for a woman to recover from is just spiteful when it was said with good intentions

You entered a post about a hysterectomy and thought a lady would have a major organ removed for contraception… schools need to spend more time on education and less time on whatever’s the fuck they taught you

We’re getting personal now so let’s start I know 3 women who have had it done for contraceptive purposes so get your shit right before slagging folk off"

I seriously doubt that Gemma’s been fighting for this op for years and the pain she gets has hospitalised her several times so removing the womb instead of the many other less invasive options for contraception is as likely as the government having our best interests

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

All I was trying to do is be nice and you like a prick turned it round so let’s just forget I said anything

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It will depend what type of hysterectomy you have.

If you have opted to have your ovaries removed you will go into menopause. That may affect your libido.

I had a full vaginal hysterectomy 15 years ago. My recovery time was much shorter than for other methods, however it did weaken my pelvic floor muscles.

I hope all goes well. It's not an easy decision but I wish I had done it much sooner and not lost so much of my life to pain.

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