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"Some people feel the need to brag about what they have. Expensive car, big house, etc etc. Some people have those things but don't feel the need to draw attention to them. Are the braggers insecure? Do people really care about 'things' more than actual people? Why do people feel the need to get so horribly into debt at xmas/ other times of year, just to try to appear to be something they aren't? " True... True... Some are... Some do... Personal choice.... Each to their own.... | |||
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" We were so poor in our house when I was young, that on xmas morning, if you didn't have a hard - on you had fook all to play with. " poor barry. | |||
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"if they have worked hard and achieved, the fact that they mention what their endeavours have bought doesn't bother me in the slightest. I read the car & holiday threads and think wow.... nice car or great location and hope they enjoy it. I truly have no idea of the sacrifices that they may have made to aid their successes, there will be many. Inverted snobbery is at a greater level than the reverse..." I have an 'inverted snobbery' t-shirt. £2.99 off the indoor market. And matching 'judgemental grumpy cow' granny knickers, bargain 50p. | |||
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"if they have worked hard and achieved, the fact that they mention what their endeavours have bought doesn't bother me in the slightest. I read the car & holiday threads and think wow.... nice car or great location and hope they enjoy it. I truly have no idea of the sacrifices that they may have made to aid their successes, there will be many. Inverted snobbery is at a greater level than the reverse... I have an 'inverted snobbery' t-shirt. £2.99 off the indoor market. And matching 'judgemental grumpy cow' granny knickers, bargain 50p. " | |||
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"if they have worked hard and achieved, the fact that they mention what their endeavours have bought doesn't bother me in the slightest. I read the car & holiday threads and think wow.... nice car or great location and hope they enjoy it. I truly have no idea of the sacrifices that they may have made to aid their successes, there will be many. Inverted snobbery is at a greater level than the reverse... I have an 'inverted snobbery' t-shirt. £2.99 off the indoor market. And matching 'judgemental grumpy cow' granny knickers, bargain 50p. " When I get time later I am going to design an Inverted Shrubbery t-shirt and get it printed. | |||
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"From experience, when we have come into contact with blow hards and braggers, we have found that the ones boasting have got all their trappings on plastic and owe most of their stuff on finance, so it's genuinely theirs. We haven't got a lot but it's all bought and paid for." *so its NOT genuinely theirs* | |||
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"A mate I went to school with is now on paper a millionaire. He has so so worked for it though. When we all go out though he is just one of the lads. He never ever brags and I admire him for that" Being a millionaire on paper isn't that hard nowadays. A half decent sized home in an OK area will take some folk quite a way towards £1M on paper. The Sunday Times Rich List only really takes account of 'stuff' and ignores money in the bank. | |||
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"if they have worked hard and achieved, the fact that they mention what their endeavours have bought doesn't bother me in the slightest. I read the car & holiday threads and think wow.... nice car or great location and hope they enjoy it. I truly have no idea of the sacrifices that they may have made to aid their successes, there will be many. Inverted snobbery is at a greater level than the reverse... I have an 'inverted snobbery' t-shirt. £2.99 off the indoor market. And matching 'judgemental grumpy cow' granny knickers, bargain 50p. " No relation | |||
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""Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate; hate leads to suffering. Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed that is"" Never a truer word spoken..... Never have understood jealousy. Horrible personality trait | |||
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"Some people feel the need to brag about what they have. Expensive car, big house, etc etc. Some people have those things but don't feel the need to draw attention to them. Are the braggers insecure? Do people really care about 'things' more than actual people? Why do people feel the need to get so horribly into debt at xmas/ other times of year, just to try to appear to be something they aren't? " Haha how funny i was tempted to post on the same subject yesterday about bragging. I have seen many posts on here where peeeps want to tell everyone about stuff they have. Unfortunatly our society places huge emphasis on what we have rather than who we are. Of course that outlook on our lives, the planet we live on and the never ending ininite universe has no majesty in it. It does however make a few people rich and keeps the wheels of capatilism in motion | |||
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"if they have worked hard and achieved, the fact that they mention what their endeavours have bought doesn't bother me in the slightest. I read the car & holiday threads and think wow.... nice car or great location and hope they enjoy it. I truly have no idea of the sacrifices that they may have made to aid their successes, there will be many. Inverted snobbery is at a greater level than the reverse..." Very true | |||
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"Some people feel the need to brag about what they have. Expensive car, big house, etc etc. Some people have those things but don't feel the need to draw attention to them. Are the braggers insecure? Do people really care about 'things' more than actual people? Why do people feel the need to get so horribly into debt at xmas/ other times of year, just to try to appear to be something they aren't? " Don't understand it myself. (Posted from my £3000 laptop, while sitting in my solid gold bathtub, eating caviar served by my butler) | |||
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"Some people feel the need to brag about what they have. Expensive car, big house, etc etc. Some people have those things but don't feel the need to draw attention to them. Are the braggers insecure? Do people really care about 'things' more than actual people? Why do people feel the need to get so horribly into debt at xmas/ other times of year, just to try to appear to be something they aren't? Don't understand it myself. (Posted from my £3000 laptop, while sitting in my solid gold bathtub, eating caviar served by my butler) " I am not a butler | |||
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"Some people feel the need to brag about what they have. Expensive car, big house, etc etc. Some people have those things but don't feel the need to draw attention to them. Are the braggers insecure? Do people really care about 'things' more than actual people? Why do people feel the need to get so horribly into debt at xmas/ other times of year, just to try to appear to be something they aren't? Don't understand it myself. (Posted from my £3000 laptop, while sitting in my solid gold bathtub, eating caviar served by my butler) I am not a butler " Fetch me some champers, please darling. | |||
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"I don't give a flying monkey what people have/don't have! To be honest, if they have worked hard for it then good for them! " We're so wealthy that we have our own zoo of flying monkeys. | |||
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"I don't think it's as easy as insecurity. You only need to watch TV for an hour to get subliminally told that possessions are good and having very little is bad. This country runs economically on people buying things and consumerism is encouraged therefore people equate having things with esteem. Some people I should say, I don't care enough about stuff I'm afraid. " I agree its not as simple as insecurity. People are constantly bombarded that our reality is all about money and what we can purchase. Its understandable that people have their whole sense of self and their status wrapped up in "things." Telling others about what you have although in my _iew is a bit sad, it seems more about receiving some affirmation that you are a success and that you are doing the right thing with your life. The capatilist system and the way the world operates is about as unimaginative as you could possibly get. I think it also stops people from reaching their real potential and the evolution of the human race | |||
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"Im the poor relation in our family lol" Bollocks! You're rich in my eyes. You have a great son, great friends, a lovely bloke and better than that your bloke doesn't live with you!! | |||
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"I dont have an awful lot, just a son and 4 cats. Getting in debt at Christmas though, especially for children, I can understand. Bullies seem to be worse than ever at school these days if your child/children haven't got the latest phone/trainers/ipod etc and when you have the childs father with a good job, buying every latest game console, ipad, tv etc, he feels disappointed when he comes to me. It feels as though his dad is buying my sons love and its working. Try to explain that money and the latest gadgets aren't important, that love, good health and a safe, clean home is more important, but he's having none of it. " Thats awful. His dad is buying his love but when he gets older he will love you the same for being kind and always being there for him. | |||
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"I dont have an awful lot, just a son and 4 cats. Getting in debt at Christmas though, especially for children, I can understand. Bullies seem to be worse than ever at school these days if your child/children haven't got the latest phone/trainers/ipod etc and when you have the childs father with a good job, buying every latest game console, ipad, tv etc, he feels disappointed when he comes to me. It feels as though his dad is buying my sons love and its working. Try to explain that money and the latest gadgets aren't important, that love, good health and a safe, clean home is more important, but he's having none of it. Thats awful. His dad is buying his love but when he gets older he will love you the same for being kind and always being there for him. " I do try, but it breaks my heart that he doesn't appreciate what I do for him sometimes. | |||
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"Im the poor relation in our family lol Bollocks! You're rich in my eyes. You have a great son, great friends, a lovely bloke and better than that your bloke doesn't live with you!! " I know its just a tease i say too them lol | |||
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"I dont have an awful lot, just a son and 4 cats. Getting in debt at Christmas though, especially for children, I can understand. Bullies seem to be worse than ever at school these days if your child/children haven't got the latest phone/trainers/ipod etc and when you have the childs father with a good job, buying every latest game console, ipad, tv etc, he feels disappointed when he comes to me. It feels as though his dad is buying my sons love and its working. Try to explain that money and the latest gadgets aren't important, that love, good health and a safe, clean home is more important, but he's having none of it. " You just raised a brilliant but for me a heart breaking point. At what young age are children brain washed by marketing and advertising ? | |||
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"I dont have an awful lot, just a son and 4 cats. Getting in debt at Christmas though, especially for children, I can understand. Bullies seem to be worse than ever at school these days if your child/children haven't got the latest phone/trainers/ipod etc and when you have the childs father with a good job, buying every latest game console, ipad, tv etc, he feels disappointed when he comes to me. It feels as though his dad is buying my sons love and its working. Try to explain that money and the latest gadgets aren't important, that love, good health and a safe, clean home is more important, but he's having none of it. Thats awful. His dad is buying his love but when he gets older he will love you the same for being kind and always being there for him. I do try, but it breaks my heart that he doesn't appreciate what I do for him sometimes. " i know it hurts. when my son was born i had to leave home, didnt have much money. my older sister who made my life a misery when i was living at home with my baby used to take him out a lot and realy spoil him. she could afford to because she never left home. only now my sons grown up he doesnt get on with his auntie anyway. | |||
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"You just raised a brilliant but for me a heart breaking point. At what young age are children brain washed by marketing and advertising ? " Too early - about 4 for our son. That why we have put our foot down last year and this year and limited the amount of stuff we let people buy him. He is an only child so we are very wary of him being "spoilt" so it is one main present from us, one smaller one and some fun bits in his stocking. And we don't let anyone else spoil him either. And we always make him choose some toys that he doesn't play with after xmas/birthdays to give to the "little boys and girls who don't have as much." People may disagree but we think if he gets too much he won't appreciate what he does get and expect it all the time. And if we can drill an awareness of how lucky his is compared to others into him at the same time so much the better. Just our attempt at good parenting though. | |||
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"You just raised a brilliant but for me a heart breaking point. At what young age are children brain washed by marketing and advertising ? Too early - about 4 for our son. That why we have put our foot down last year and this year and limited the amount of stuff we let people buy him. He is an only child so we are very wary of him being "spoilt" so it is one main present from us, one smaller one and some fun bits in his stocking. And we don't let anyone else spoil him either. And we always make him choose some toys that he doesn't play with after xmas/birthdays to give to the "little boys and girls who don't have as much." People may disagree but we think if he gets too much he won't appreciate what he does get and expect it all the time. And if we can drill an awareness of how lucky his is compared to others into him at the same time so much the better. Just our attempt at good parenting though." We have a lot of relatives that want to buy things at xmas. Last year I asked them to make a donation to a children's charity of their choice on his behalf. (I asked him first if it was ok to not get toys and he was fine with it.) He was happy. | |||
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"Some people feel the need to brag about what they have. Expensive car, big house, etc etc. Some people have those things but don't feel the need to draw attention to them. Are the braggers insecure? Do people really care about 'things' more than actual people? Why do people feel the need to get so horribly into debt at xmas/ other times of year, just to try to appear to be something they aren't? " Bragger s are just so boring. They have no idea, we run a mile from these types. | |||
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"My youngest is 6 and still believes in Santa so it's quite difficult to try and explain about how much things cost. But last year I sat him down and explained that Santa has soo many boys and girls to buy for that he can only give each child 1 gift. But Mummy's and Daddy's and Aunts uncles etc can buy gifts as well. This has worked out quite well. As far as the lady who talks about her ex buying his love I have a somewhat similar situation. My ex husband and I have 3 kids. 1 who is at uni, 1 who is at college and the little one. He has paid me NO maintenance since we split up 3 years ago. He takes my son every weekend and takes him off out here there and everywhere. Last year he bought a boat and took him out every weekend during the summer. I was worried that K would always look back and see that all his fun times were with Daddy and all Mummy ever did was make him go to bed early, get up for school, do his homework and eat his veg I was talking to the older kids about it and they said No mum when he's older he will look back and know that you gave him unconditional love and your undivided attention. And he will know that you sometimes struggled to pay the mortgage and feed and clothe him and he'll know that his dad made no attempt to help you. Wise kids I have and I believe what they say. All a kid needs is to feel loved and I'm sure you are doing a grand job honey xxx" Also meant to say for his birthday last year K asked if he could sponser a dog from dogs trust - it cost me £2 a month and he gets updates thro the post - he even got a wee award at school for being the best caring and sharing child in his class - I was very proud of him. Only prob is he now wants to sponsor snow leopards, wells, kids etc etc etc very hard to reign him in lol xx | |||
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"Some people feel the need to brag about what they have. Expensive car, big house, etc etc. Some people have those things but don't feel the need to draw attention to them. Are the braggers insecure? Do people really care about 'things' more than actual people? Why do people feel the need to get so horribly into debt at xmas/ other times of year, just to try to appear to be something they aren't? " A lot are envious of others but wont work to get there so going into debt is an easy now forget about later option. | |||
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"I see it more in the reverse on here if I am honest, the anti use of the word 'professional' brigade, the haters of reality TV and the damming of people who watch it from superior beings.. " I see it more like that as well, the spiteful envy of people who have done well for themselves is so apparent on here at times from certain quarters, I look at it a different way....people who have got off their arse and launched a singing or acting career (neither of which are easy to break into), or a footballer, they deserve whatever the going rate is for their endeavours. Sometimes the vitriolic hatred shown for these individuals by some members (usually the same faces and their pals) on this forum is sickenly predictable. | |||
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"I've got a brand new combine harvester Is that what's under your hand?? " Nope, that's my 'ache-rs' you're meant to have 40 but I've only got the 2 | |||
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"People bragging about wealth/possessions doesn't bother me as it goes straight over my head. What does bother me is SEXUAL bragging. I recently read a post stating that she has sex three times a day. Really! " I read one by a single bloke on here saying he also had it 3 times a day - on a weekday ! Took me back to the days of Jackanory | |||
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"People bragging about wealth/possessions doesn't bother me as it goes straight over my head. What does bother me is SEXUAL bragging. I recently read a post stating that she has sex three times a day. Really! " that realy is sad. | |||
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"i dont have much. and i dont want much. i go to work and after christmas will again put lots of things on ebay which i no longer want. im just me, nothing special or flash and i dont want to try and be someone else. only thing i'll be paying for soon is a new suit. maybe boring but i dont care.the people i meet bring me enjoyment and thats all i need right now." | |||
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" We were so poor in our house when I was young, that on xmas morning, if you didn't have a hard - on you had fook all to play with. poor barry. " Thank You | |||
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"Wealth and status symbols like cars and holidays, homes and other belongings have never impressed me, whether inherited or acquired through hard work. At the end of the day you can surround yourself with all the trimmings and still be very lonely. It is people, family and friends that matter. Well, to me anyway. Now that does not mean I would nt partial to yet another pair of heels...;-) " You are so right , apart from the shoes. I totter in heels but love boots | |||
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