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Do you know when to quit?

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By *bi Haive OP   Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Not necessarily anything in particular, just generally in life.

Can you recognise when it's time to stop, when you're flogging a dead horse, when something is no longer worth investing time, effort or momey in, or when a personal or business relationship has run it's course?

Do you reach a point where you'll admit defeat, give yourself a pat on the back for trying and look for a new hobby/career/relationship?

Or are you too stubborn to realise that carrying on is doing you no good and will continue as before hoping for a different result or that some miracle will happen and eventually you'll figure out how to succeed?

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

Yes I have learnt when to quit be it a relationship,a friendship or anything else really. Sometimes I have tried for longer than I should have but now once I start to realise it's more toxic than good I can walk away and not look back.There is no point in wasting time on people like that..Bo.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I know when to quit.

However I do recognise that it takes time.

We doubt. We shake it off. We doubt. We question. We doubt............. then we realise and no longer want to waste time and effort.

There should be NO going back ever.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Mostly. But I’m also an emotional masochist and have stuck things out longer than I should have just to see if things can really get worse or even better.

I am my own drama triangle, persecutor, victim and rescuer all in one.

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By *bi Haive OP   Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"

I am my own drama triangle, persecutor, victim and rescuer all in one. "

Now this I really like. And ive been there myself. Top comment!!

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be very stubborn at the best of times, usually giving people that I thought highly of far more latitude than is reasonable in the hope of improvement.

Inevitably, there is always that certain point that's reached, when the pragmatic side is boxing clever with the stubborn sunk time/cost fallacy.

It's weird though, sometimes I'll be ruthless and cut ties with very little worry or remorse either, moving on without thinking back.

So yeah, typical six of one, half a dozen of the other

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

Generally I do know when to give up, there’s no point in persisting when something is not right. Once I’m over something that is the end of it no matter what it is.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Yup, sorted that out a few years ago - decided life's to short

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I have given up actively looking for meets on here after several no shows, however, I am too stubborn to quit the site all together, besides I enjoy the banter of the forums, and the organised social side

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

I am terrible for not being able to stop!

When Rachael and I go out she is always saying “let’s head back to the room”

But not me. I am terrified I miss anything.

I hang around and hang around in the useless hope that a group of five or six guys are going to walk into that bar and invite me back to their hotel room!

And me… the only princess at the party! (Or at least in my dreams!! )

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"

I am my own drama triangle, persecutor, victim and rescuer all in one.

Now this I really like. And ive been there myself. Top comment!!

A"

I stole it first. I know exactly where it's going too.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Yep, when my mind doesn’t engage with it anymore or starts noticing blockers then it’s time to quit and move on.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle


"I know when to quit.

However I do recognise that it takes time.

We doubt. We shake it off. We doubt. We question. We doubt............. then we realise and no longer want to waste time and effort.

There should be NO going back ever. "

Its ok to look back - not go back xxx the only exception is reverse cowgirl where you can do both!!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes deffo not worth flogging a dead horse x

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

More a case of learning when and when not to pick/choose life's battles.

Experience is the best teacher for that. Patience too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i dont know how to accept loss of any kind il fight for victory until i die

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once the happiness turns to exhaustion, that's usually the sign for me it's time to call it a day with anything or anyone.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Once the happiness turns to exhaustion, that's usually the sign for me it's time to call it a day with anything or anyone."

Thats my dayjob right there at the moment xx

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By *eamworkboyMan
over a year ago

Irvine

Yes, in work and personally I get a gut feeling when I've overstayed my welcome or just know when the end of the road is getting close.

Nothing worse than someone who doesn't.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Defenitly i know , there's no point in wasting time or energy, i tend to just let i go without drama . If something didn't work out well is because didn't mean to be for you, that's my thinking

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

I know when to qu....

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Nope...

I have too much hope and belief in that "it must be alright"

Only when it causes me Angst can I look at the situation and say to myself "what the fuck are you doing" then I can walk away

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I do but whether I acquire that knowledge in a timely fashion is another thing altogether

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Yep specially on fa

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

When something becomes too much effort and causes more pain, stress and anxiety that far outweighs any benefits that's when I quit.

It can be anything from something benign like a game to something life-changing like a relationship or a job.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

In my head I’d think so, but upon honest reflection, probably not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just knew when to quit on a thread on here

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Drinking yes, everything else no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much reading...I'm out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friendships, romances , family.

We all need to surround ourselves with positive energy people.. I recently blocked a 'friend' who loved drama, I had to say goodbye!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Insanity Is Doing the Same Thing Over and Over Again and Expecting Different Results

I can be insane at times and at others well not so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not necessarily anything in particular, just generally in life.

Can you recognise when it's time to stop, when you're flogging a dead horse, when something is no longer worth investing time, effort or momey in, or when a personal or business relationship has run it's course?

Do you reach a point where you'll admit defeat, give yourself a pat on the back for trying and look for a new hobby/career/relationship?

Or are you too stubborn to realise that carrying on is doing you no good and will continue as before hoping for a different result or that some miracle will happen and eventually you'll figure out how to succeed?

I know when to quit but the hard part is the quitting

A"

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Yes, but the combination of eternal optimism that things can improve combined with a fear of change mean I drag things out well passed that realisation.

Usually it takes a further incident, potentially trivial to make me walk away completely

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

In the past I didn't know when to stop but in the last 6 or 7 years my mental health and stress levels have benefitted from cutting ties, making big decisions and moving on.

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By *cott73Man
over a year ago

brighton

If at first you don't succeed, give up.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

As soon as I have a doubt or dislike for something, I do move on quite easily without pondering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not necessarily anything in particular, just generally in life.

Can you recognise when it's time to stop, when you're flogging a dead horse, when something is no longer worth investing time, effort or momey in, or when a personal or business relationship has run it's course?

Do you reach a point where you'll admit defeat, give yourself a pat on the back for trying and look for a new hobby/career/relationship?

Or are you too stubborn to realise that carrying on is doing you no good and will continue as before hoping for a different result or that some miracle will happen and eventually you'll figure out how to succeed?

A"

Sometimes I know when to quit and sometimes I don't. The key is to just be humble and when I'm wrong and I know I'm wrong I'll admit it, try to fix it and not dwell on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clearly not, as I'm still here..

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