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By *.L.0460. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

I had coffee in a Costa near Portsmouth today. We sat at a table next to two rather lovely looking bikers of a similar age to me...one of them made eye contact, smiled a few times & I was aware that he was giving me sneaky side glances. They got up to leave before us- I instigated a conversation by making a joke & we chatted for a moment before they said goodbye & left.

I wish I had the guts to have asked for a number...After all, I had nothing to lose!

How many other women just let these chances pass them by because it's ingrained in them that men should make the first move? Who is actually brave enough to put themselves out there & risk the knock backs??

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"I had coffee in a Costa near Portsmouth today. We sat at a table next to two rather lovely looking bikers of a similar age to me...one of them made eye contact, smiled a few times & I was aware that he was giving me sneaky side glances. They got up to leave before us- I instigated a conversation by making a joke & we chatted for a moment before they said goodbye & left.

I wish I had the guts to have asked for a number...After all, I had nothing to lose!

How many other women just let these chances pass them by because it's ingrained in them that men should make the first move? Who is actually brave enough to put themselves out there & risk the knock backs?? "

Been there, I know your pain

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Most men won't knock you back

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If you are single just do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well OP, the moral of the story appears to be .. ladies, make that first move!

And with that in mind, my inbox is currently wide open and craving attention. Just sayin’

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Well OP, the moral of the story appears to be .. ladies, make that first move!

And with that in mind, my inbox is currently wide open and craving attention. Just sayin’ "

Good idea buddy

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Put it on your status, I know a few bikers that are on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does

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By *eepjoyMan
over a year ago

truro

Biker here, always happy to oblige

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Goodness..I'm always ready to get moved in on

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By *.L.0460. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does "

I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. When did it change for the man to make the first move.

Remember when a woman would drop a handkerchief? The man would pick it up ‘is this yours maam? Etc.

I’d be flattered for a woman to make it clear she liked me by making moves. But alas…. I’m on Fab ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have done the same tbh. I've never made the first move on a guy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I like how Americans go about it and just ask for a date. Not a care if knocked back but always seems to be an exchange of numbers at at least for that little confidence boost.

We Brit’s clearly take the word ‘date’ too seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on, dive in..... Us men have been getting knocked back for years, it's easy when you try

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

If a guy is interested, he will make the first move

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By *ittleMyWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

OP I have the opposite problem! I'm so over making the first move! There's probably something in this about being too much in our masculine/feminine. I should learn to lean back for a change and you my girl should seize the opportunity next time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy is interested, he will make the first move "

That’s not always technically true. I’ve fancied people before and not approached them because I either wasn’t sure if they were interested or just plain an simple bottled it

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

When I was younger maybe I wouldn't have but, now if I was really drawn to someone, I would.

I had a friend who was taken by the look of a guy on the opposite table in a restaurant. She liked that guy but wouldn't approach him so I wrote her number down, I had a word and passed the number to him.

They dated for a while which was nice.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does

I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league "

It's not desperate. Don't worry x

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm like future Superintendent Chalmers in the Simpsons who asks to be left alone so he can sit under a tree and think of all the women he could have spoken to and never did

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral


"I had coffee in a Costa near Portsmouth today. We sat at a table next to two rather lovely looking bikers of a similar age to me...one of them made eye contact, smiled a few times & I was aware that he was giving me sneaky side glances. They got up to leave before us- I instigated a conversation by making a joke & we chatted for a moment before they said goodbye & left.

I wish I had the guts to have asked for a number...After all, I had nothing to lose!

How many other women just let these chances pass them by because it's ingrained in them that men should make the first move? Who is actually brave enough to put themselves out there & risk the knock backs?? "

Where you interested in just one - or both?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opportunity was taken from my hands by time and fate and me fighting too hard to defeat em chicks used to want you to fight so i think i did all i could

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

The one time I did I got knocked back. I don’t like rejection so don’t tend to make the first move, but if they show they are interested I’m not afraid to show that I am too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does

I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league "

He may well be but you might just end up with a gorgeous guy

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By *.L.0460. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does

I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league

He may well be but you might just end up with a gorgeous guy "

Lol!!

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By *.L.0460. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"I had coffee in a Costa near Portsmouth today. We sat at a table next to two rather lovely looking bikers of a similar age to me...one of them made eye contact, smiled a few times & I was aware that he was giving me sneaky side glances. They got up to leave before us- I instigated a conversation by making a joke & we chatted for a moment before they said goodbye & left.

I wish I had the guts to have asked for a number...After all, I had nothing to lose!

How many other women just let these chances pass them by because it's ingrained in them that men should make the first move? Who is actually brave enough to put themselves out there & risk the knock backs??

Where you interested in just one - or both?"

Tbh they were both very attractive to me, so if either had approached me, I'd have been made up! There was a little thought in the back of my brain that was imagining me in between both of them!

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I personally wouldn’t have the balls. I mean to be fair I don’t get a side glance or a smile so I definitely wouldn’t risk the rejection

You may come across them again at some point, be brave, what have you got to lose

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"If a guy is interested, he will make the first move "

What if he’s interested but very shy and doesn’t have the confidence?

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden


"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does

I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league "

If he's out of your league it's because he is in a lower league. You look lovely.

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By *rmainman10Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I know that feeling... If only I had that time stone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's how I am. I wouldn't of made a move, I'm not that brave

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does

I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league "

Similar - don’t want to be that guy / pest and don’t have confidence in that area to approach someone.

Did it once last year after a few weeks of both of us checking each other out on walks. First time since my teens and thought now or never. Started small talk, established interest, deep breath and asked her.

Nothing … I’m at a loss with dating / meeting people sometimes

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By *.L.0460. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"Are we still in the stone ages where the guy has to make the first move, I like it when a woman does

I'm recently out of a 22 year relationship & I'm now 49. I don't really know what is acceptable & don't want to look desperate because if I find a guy attractive, I automatically think he's out of my league

If he's out of your league it's because he is in a lower league. You look lovely.

"

Thank you

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By *ritishguyMan
over a year ago

chatburn

We've all done it and regretted it later. One of those things I guess, what could of been xx

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