FabSwingers.com forum: Have you found people rude on here?

By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

I understand the joys and the complexities of chatting but if a stranger blocks you after asking you a question with absolutely no indication why - in this case asked if I was staying in a hotel on the second of a polite couple of emails then I find myself questioning the attitudes of people. Are they just expecting you to be offensive from the first email? What is the etiquette here?

#confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The etiquette is respect people's decisions and what they feel is a reason to block someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The etiquette is respect people's decisions and what they feel is a reason to block someone. "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be hard to accept………. But accept you must

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Don't over think it

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

"The etiquette is respect people's decisions and what they feel is a reason to block someone. "

I have no issue with respecting their decisions just seems a little rude to block mid conversation ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope tend to be very complementary so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on.

Trying to second guess the motivations of strangers on the internet will drive you scatty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pre blocking is a big thing for some we've always done it for many reasons and it works for us it save loads of time stop those whom you have no interest in and it states on our profile not here to chat to people we have no imtention of meeting or thinking of meeting..

just because you joined a swingers site dont mean anybody owes you anything

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

Perhaps I have just been unlucky then. Not an offensive person generally

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope never came across anyone rude to myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The etiquette is respect people's decisions and what they feel is a reason to block someone.

I have no issue with respecting their decisions just seems a little rude to block mid conversation ????"

You said something, or they saw something they didn’t like, and to save the potential for a bunch of abuse following the impending rejection…..have hit the block button.

Many people get arsed when they’re told no thanks. I’m not saying that’s you, but it happens a LOT.

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

A swingers site is no guarantee of sex, absolutely agreed. It was just the mid conversation block that confused.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It happens. There'll likely be a reason on their end, you just don't know what it is

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

Definitely not me but I guess if people have that experience it's a bit sad. People should just respect and be nice

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"The etiquette is respect people's decisions and what they feel is a reason to block someone.

I have no issue with respecting their decisions just seems a little rude to block mid conversation ????"

Maybe you said something to them in your conversation that they found was a little rude…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't over think it"

This. And don't worry about it. It's only strangers on the Internet.

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

I'm sure there is, was just trying to guage whether this was normal it just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not me but I guess if people have that experience it's a bit sad. People should just respect and be nice

Trick is to not take it personally.

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

Strangers are just friends you haven't met yet or something like that....

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

I just asked how their meetup went today and said if they ever wanted a beer I would be available to have one (or something very inoffensively similar)

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

Nope. It's not me it's them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just asked how their meetup went today and said if they ever wanted a beer I would be available to have one (or something very inoffensively similar)"

Probably just meant you weren’t for them and they didn’t fancy having to say no!

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

It's sad they didn't feel confident to say it. I guess if they have had so many bad experiences that's pretty damning of the community for something that should be so fun

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

Thank you all for you comments. My first time posting on here

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Press reply and quote OP. We haven’t a clue who you’re replying to??

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

"Press reply and quote OP. We haven’t a clue who you’re replying to?? "

The joy of first posts.. thank you

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I presume that you weren't blocked for being offensive, they just thought you weren't compatible

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By *onLicks OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

"I presume that you weren't blocked for being offensive, they just thought you weren't compatible"

That's what I concluded. Was just surprised it was only by the second message after asking me a question...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's only one half of a "conversation" here. People can be "chatting" with one party just being polite and the other party being oblivious that it's not actually going well. Polite party has experience of relentless conversations with people they believe can't take a hint and default to a block as it's easy.

Like Mimi said don't over think it. FWIW Mimi is very adept at communicating her feelings

and that works better than just blocking people

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

People might block you now because of your negative status

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People are here for very different reasons. Even if you are here for the same things, most people are not compatible with most other people. Accessing this is essential.

Next, with thousands of people here, many need to use block and no reply, to manage their enjoyment of fab. When in Rome...

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