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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I bottled a meet at the weekend with a really exciting girl because I didn't feel like we got to know each other better before.

Have you ever bottled one for the same reason or is it just me

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I haven't ,because I'd never agree to meet until I felt ready & even then it would be for a social

Do what feels right for you and don't be pressurised to meet sooner than you're comfortable .

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden


"So I bottled a meet at the weekend with a really exciting girl because I didn't feel like we got to know each other better before.

Have you ever bottled one for the same reason or is it just me "

Did you let her know or did you just not turn up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's normal to want to get to know someone a little first. Ultimately you need to be comfortable on a first meet so don't do it until you're ready. If your meet has issues with that, your meeting the wrong person.

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By *risxbrisxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I would never bottle a meet, even if anxious, just gotta go for it and enjoy the experience.

Otherwise you're left wondering what if? What if she is amazing and you're not getting a second chance? What if it could have led to something amazing?

Fair enough though.. each to their own

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Perfectly normal.

We're people we have fears, insecurities, doubts, vulnerability. You did right (providing you let her know) don't ever do something you're uncomfortable with

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I haven't ,because I'd never agree to meet until I felt ready & even then it would be for a social

Do what feels right for you and don't be pressurised to meet sooner than you're comfortable ."

That's great advise. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I bottled a meet at the weekend with a really exciting girl because I didn't feel like we got to know each other better before.

Have you ever bottled one for the same reason or is it just me

Did you let her know or did you just not turn up?"

I let her know, I wouldn't leave anyone hanging even if I didn't technical know them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes it's normal to want to get to know someone a little first. Ultimately you need to be comfortable on a first meet so don't do it until you're ready. If your meet has issues with that, your meeting the wrong person."

Amazing advise, thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would never bottle a meet, even if anxious, just gotta go for it and enjoy the experience.

Otherwise you're left wondering what if? What if she is amazing and you're not getting a second chance? What if it could have led to something amazing?

Also good advise, living with no regrets

Fair enough though.. each to their own "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perfectly normal.

We're people we have fears, insecurities, doubts, vulnerability. You did right (providing you let her know) don't ever do something you're uncomfortable with"

Great advise, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's par for the course op. The only thing I'd say is, I've thought I'm getting a good handle on someone through messages, then I meet them for coffee/drink and there's no real spark. You still have a great social but the attraction isn't there in real life. So my advice would be to meet people for a social, even if you feel nervous, (I'd be concerned if you were completely without any nerves tbh,) it's really is the only way to know for sure.

Good luck

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Meets aren't something that I have, but if I arranged to meet somebody then I'd have to be at deaths door before I cancel

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"So I bottled a meet at the weekend with a really exciting girl because I didn't feel like we got to know each other better before.

Have you ever bottled one for the same reason or is it just me

Did you let her know or did you just not turn up?

I let her know, I wouldn't leave anyone hanging even if I didn't technical know them "

Why didn’t you meet for a social and get to know each other?

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Maybe in the future get to know someone better go for coffee etc before taking things further ..

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Always have a social first

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Wow.

Judging by the action shots on your profile I would ‘t have pegged you as someone that bottled a meet with an exciting girl.

But follow your heart, if it doesn’t feel right its not right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I bottled a meet at the weekend with a really exciting girl because I didn't feel like we got to know each other better before.

Have you ever bottled one for the same reason or is it just me "

Were you doing sex chat via messages before you'd met her in person?

Was the meet going to be for sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never bottle it. As the cool kids say “YOLO”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow.

Judging by the action shots on your profile I would ‘t have pegged you as someone that bottled a meet with an exciting girl.

But follow your heart, if it doesn’t feel right its not right "

Ikwym

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perfectly normal.

We're people we have fears, insecurities, doubts, vulnerability. You did right (providing you let her know) don't ever do something you're uncomfortable with"

I couldn’t say it better myself. Never do anything you’re not comfortable doing, but make sure you communicate with all parties involved.

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden


"So I bottled a meet at the weekend with a really exciting girl because I didn't feel like we got to know each other better before.

Have you ever bottled one for the same reason or is it just me

Did you let her know or did you just not turn up?

I let her know, I wouldn't leave anyone hanging even if I didn't technical know them "

Are you still in touch with her?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Christina Aguilera

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I haven’t because I make sure I’m 100% I want to meet them but I do most of the time have an urge to cancel because of nerves. I know how it feels to be cancelled on so I push myself to go and then end up enjoying it.

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