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"I miss morning glories " I still have them, but these days, it's more my body stopping me pissing the bed than it is a passion for early morning sex | |||
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"I miss my relationship. I've found swinging is dull outside of one and that it's totally pointless without. I had freedom in my relationship. I miss the companionship. Single life just means that I can make my Own decisions I miss the fantastic sex that I feel only comes from a loving relationship and cuddles. Cali" Yes, similar to how I feel. | |||
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"I love being single and I know I always will be, I adore the freedom of doing what I want, when I want. I do love seeing people in relationships blissfully happy together. There is an elderly couple pass my house most days, they must be 80 and they are so joined up... they treat each other with such affection. It is sad when I see couples out together and there are no words exchanged between them during the entire meal." I agree, my parents are like your couple, they row like mad still though but insist on a cuddle each night before they go to sleep | |||
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" and is there somewhere in between or is just 1 or the other ?" I was just chatting about this yesterday with a real good friend/playmate, we both admitted neither of us are 'selfless' enough for the whole being in Love malarky. I realized this some time ago and for me, Yes, there will have to be something inbetween Being a selfish cow if I start feeling 'obliged' towards a person, I immediately start to resent them, with this in mind I never try to make anyone else feel 'obliged' towards me. I just want a bloody good part-time 'companion' with common interests to enjoy social stuff with and to laugh like a drain with! Sexually we should explore together as well as seperately and be glad for each other to do so. I DO want a connection, I want to care about the person and them me and respect must be high up there. We can talk about our problems without expecting the other to magically 'fix' them. I don't think this is impossible and I do think I'll find it one day I just never want to have to call it anything other than 2 free people enjoying each other in every way till it stops. No regrets, no resentments just...Thanks for a lovely time, enjoy the rest of your life | |||
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" and is there somewhere in between or is just 1 or the other ? I was just chatting about this yesterday with a real good friend/playmate, we both admitted neither of us are 'selfless' enough for the whole being in Love malarky. I realized this some time ago and for me, Yes, there will have to be something inbetween Being a selfish cow if I start feeling 'obliged' towards a person, I immediately start to resent them, with this in mind I never try to make anyone else feel 'obliged' towards me. I just want a bloody good part-time 'companion' with common interests to enjoy social stuff with and to laugh like a drain with! Sexually we should explore together as well as seperately and be glad for each other to do so. I DO want a connection, I want to care about the person and them me and respect must be high up there. We can talk about our problems without expecting the other to magically 'fix' them. I don't think this is impossible and I do think I'll find it one day I just never want to have to call it anything other than 2 free people enjoying each other in every way till it stops. No regrets, no resentments just...Thanks for a lovely time, enjoy the rest of your life " Think that's what I want. Don't think I'll get it though. Also liked the comment above about sometimes it being more lonely in a relationship than being single. So fricking true. | |||
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"The pros and the cons ? what do you like / dislike about both ? and is there somewhere in between or is just 1 or the other ?" I have been in the same relationship since my mid teens. So have no idea what's it is like to single. Very happy with what we have got | |||
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"I love the freedom that being single gives me. I miss cuddles but god I love having a double bed to myself!" Oh most definately having the kingsized bed to myself. forgot that bit | |||
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"There's one thing I wouldn't miss if I became single again and that's saying one thing and having my partner assume I've said something completely different. That drives me insane. " So when she reads this she'll assume you want a divorce.....just joking... | |||
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"Single means having the very selfish ability to do as one pleases but you miss out on the comfort of having another person to share your life with. And I like having sex on tap too. " as a single parent, my freedom and wishing to do what i want to do still doesnt happen for me! i have to say i have thought about this lately and have come to the cunclusion.. i cant think of any reason to be in a relationship, i have a good social life, amazing friends, an excellent job, supportive family, financially ok, basically i can run the show and im not in need of sharing my life with one person as i have so many to do so with.. what i see from finding a relationship is, having to compromise over everything, having someone under my feet, putting up with their bad habits, worrying about the impact of the person in my sons life.. i just dont see anything but hassle.. as for the sexual side, im a single female on sites like this.. i have sex on tap if i wanted it! but sex isnt that important in my life.. everything else comes first.. and as long as i have my friends, work, family, pets i can easily give up sex for all of them | |||
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" Not having to queue for the toilet (seriously, if I took half an hour to have a poo, I'd go to the doctors!) " Then I guess we would not get on! | |||
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"I just want a bloody good part-timetime 'companion' with common interests to enjoy social stuff with and to laugh like a drain with! Sexually we should explore together as well as seperately and be glad for each other to do so. " | |||
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"ive seriously got the best of both worlds. i live on my own, do what i like, then i have a man who i love more than anything and when we are together its quality time" Is very envious! | |||
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"I guess the comforts and pleasures of a relationship are defined by that very relationship. A relationship based on trust, acceptance and an element of freedom to do one's own thing (not just talking about sex here) is in my world the best of both worlds. Being in a relationship for the hell of it, for fear of being alone is not a good stance. Equally, I have come to the conclusion over the years that expection perfection from a relationship (any relationship) every step of the way is likely to set you up for disappointment. If you are in a relationship for the long haul it is more about accepting the other with their good and bad points, about talking openly about difficulties and staying in the frame of mind that even the best relationship needs working on. " #Just realised the typo... "Equally, I have come to the conclusion over the years that expecting perfection from a relationship (any relationship) every step of the way is likely to set you up for disappointment. | |||
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"ive seriously got the best of both worlds. i live on my own, do what i like, then i have a man who i love more than anything and when we are together its quality timeIs very envious!" but what works for me might not work for someone else | |||
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"I have that with a someone I have known for about 20 years, we are both single, and free to do what we wish. we have the common interests, and enjoy social stuff together, Sexually, its great we both explore together and separately, and have had some great fun. we care about each other deeply, and to some extent would do anything for each other, (a few weeks ago, I was rushed into hospital, I have no family so hers was the number they called, she left work to come and make sure I was ok - I am now). We talk about anything and everything, there is not much she does not know about me, nor me her if anything. Mutual friends keep telling us we should get together and be a couple, that's not going to happen, isn't even up for discussion from both our sides, we are both happy as we are, single, but with that special person as a friend." Sounds like you got the best of both worlds, too. | |||
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"I have that with a someone I have known for about 20 years, we are both single, and free to do what we wish. we have the common interests, and enjoy social stuff together, Sexually, its great we both explore together and separately, and have had some great fun. we care about each other deeply, and to some extent would do anything for each other, (a few weeks ago, I was rushed into hospital, I have no family so hers was the number they called, she left work to come and make sure I was ok - I am now). We talk about anything and everything, there is not much she does not know about me, nor me her if anything. Mutual friends keep telling us we should get together and be a couple, that's not going to happen, isn't even up for discussion from both our sides, we are both happy as we are, single, but with that special person as a friend.Sounds like you got the best of both worlds, too. " we both do | |||
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"im single. can do what i like when i like. and come on be honest. who would put up with me? " Aw... dont say that! | |||
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"I have that with a someone I have known for about 20 years, we are both single, and free to do what we wish. we have the common interests, and enjoy social stuff together, Sexually, its great we both explore together and separately, and have had some great fun. we care about each other deeply, and to some extent would do anything for each other, (a few weeks ago, I was rushed into hospital, I have no family so hers was the number they called, she left work to come and make sure I was ok - I am now). We talk about anything and everything, there is not much she does not know about me, nor me her if anything. Mutual friends keep telling us we should get together and be a couple, that's not going to happen, isn't even up for discussion from both our sides, we are both happy as we are, single, but with that special person as a friend." See! it does exist I just have to find mine now | |||
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"The pros and the cons ? what do you like / dislike about both ? and is there somewhere in between or is just 1 or the other ? There is somewhere in between, " There are lots of places inbetween... happy places. | |||
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