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By *ont you just love OP   Couple
over a year ago

Banbury

Is anybody else on here fed up with the small-minded people who send you endless messages, saying they won't let you down, then they don't turn up. The only course of action you have is the block button then they just move on to someone else and do it again, we have had so many in the last few weeks that we are seriously considering just meeting others in clubs.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

A lot of folk just meet in clubs for that very reason. It might be a better option to consider?

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By *ont you just love OP   Couple
over a year ago

Banbury


"A lot of folk just meet in clubs for that very reason. It might be a better option to consider?"

Think you are right, at least you can all see each other, without pics lol

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

Had loads of time wasters. Even worse when only get limited times to meet and get let down at last minute.

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By *ont you just love OP   Couple
over a year ago

Banbury


"Had loads of time wasters. Even worse when only get limited times to meet and get let down at last minute. "

Know what you mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh but after you've had a wank you don't have the desire to meet anymore

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By *ont you just love OP   Couple
over a year ago

Banbury

Some don't have the decency to tell you they aren't coming, so there you sit giving them extra time for nothing

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

I only meet in clubs now. Even if there’s no play you still have a great night out x

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

There is definitely a direct link between the length of time you chat to people and them turning up or not.

I don't believe for a second that's it's just me but I've never had a no show in 5½ years here and never been one.

Clubs aren't the only answer because we don't have a club scene over here so that removes that option but the way I see it is that if something is happening over and over with the same outcome it's maybe time for a different approach even if that is to look at how you vet those you chat to.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I don't spend long messaging before having a social. That way not much time is wasted!

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

We only meet for a drink and chat in a halfway pub initially if it's a 121 meet.

If no show, we've had a nice evening in the pub together.

If folks want to have lots of messaging and chat before meet we generally swerve.

We have only ever had one no show, find a very early telephone chat sorts things out.

Parties, clubs, swingers holidays and organised socials generally sorts out the chatters from meeters.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Early phone call.

If they won't do that then stop messaging and definitely don't plan to meet.

Simples.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We tend to find the ones who we message with over a few weeks are the most reliable. Virtually everybody who we have agreed to meet after two or three messages in a week have been total flakes. Virtually everybody who invests in a conversation over a longer time has been very reliable.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"There is definitely a direct link between the length of time you chat to people and them turning up or not.

I don't believe for a second that's it's just me but I've never had a no show in 5½ years here and never been one.

Clubs aren't the only answer because we don't have a club scene over here so that removes that option but the way I see it is that if something is happening over and over with the same outcome it's maybe time for a different approach even if that is to look at how you vet those you chat to. "

I agree with this. I also have not had a no show.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm a serial vagina tease.

To be fair I never let people down

I'm always there. I'm just very difficult to get to pin down and meet in the first place.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"There is definitely a direct link between the length of time you chat to people and them turning up or not.

I don't believe for a second that's it's just me but I've never had a no show in 5½ years here and never been one.

Clubs aren't the only answer because we don't have a club scene over here so that removes that option but the way I see it is that if something is happening over and over with the same outcome it's maybe time for a different approach even if that is to look at how you vet those you chat to.

I agree with this. I also have not had a no show."

Me and My Girl rarely meet off the back of an Internet arrangement. Pretty much everyone we know and meet up with we've met in clubs or who we've seduced on a vanilla night out in town. Setting up dates online has too much chance of failure and/or awkwardness vs the effort. Clubs are effortless, work to your time frame and your not tied down to one person or couple if the chemistry isn't working.

As a single don't really have the time for arrangements. So generally just go to clubs at my convenience and find the mischief and people I find.

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By *JandCMCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Wife wanted to try an MMF n we got talking to guy who was interested in joining us n then let us down by not turning up n this happened with 2 different men, has put the wife off for now.

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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago

London & New Brighton


"Had loads of time wasters. Even worse when only get limited times to meet and get let down at last minute.

Know what you mean. "

I never let anyone down if ive arrange a meet, it kills the meaning of a site like this, i mean maybe there will be times where things just might pop up out of the blue but not to call or message is just bad manners and very disrespectful in my opinion

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Actually had one yesterday been chatting with a couple.all ready to meet ,then looked at their profile and they'd block me ...ah well their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend to find the ones who we message with over a few weeks are the most reliable. Virtually everybody who we have agreed to meet after two or three messages in a week have been total flakes. Virtually everybody who invests in a conversation over a longer time has been very reliable. "

So I thought had three over the weekend and have chatted for a good while, one I've met a few times.

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