FabSwingers.com forum: Turn offs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In a message!

So let’s assume they’ve got a great profile, great pics but then they say something in a message that makes you hit delete!

For me it’s being referred to as having a caramel, chocolate pussy etc etc

What’s yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pet names like princess babe or anything along those lines comeing from a total stranger just no

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

Straight guys who become bi when wanting to meet then straight again on a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pet names like princess babe or anything along those lines comeing from a total stranger just no "

I’d agree with this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They'd love to be impregnated by my cock. WTF !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Straight guys who become bi when wanting to meet then straight again on a meet

I meet I couple ones with a interesting foolproof way off stoping that from happening

When I meet them for the first time

The female hafe instead that hubby fucks me first and she just sit and watch

Only afterwards did she join in

The second go around she joined in from the start

Then told me that I had passed they test to root out fake bi people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pet names like princess babe or anything along those lines comeing from a total stranger just no

I’d agree with this! "

Definitely nothing send a message to the bucket faster then pet names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their latest erotic novel installments.. I'm not a book publisher pack it in.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Being called daddy in the first reply.

If the subject has been discussed previously then I am ok with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmmmmmmmmmmm

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"Mmmmmmmmmmmmm"
mmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Any message that tells me how amazing I am.

It's obviously true but no idea how they can tell that from a few pics and words on a screen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm"

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i get called daddy Soooo many times,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being spoken to like I’m a performing monkey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being spoken to like I’m a performing monkey "

Dance Biatch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crude first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like what I see.. When are you available for me to fuck you"

Like I'm some sort of choice off a fast food menu.. Absolutely not sweet cheeks

get in the bin!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women who say they are sapiosexual and then give one or two word replies. Every time. So if I go into great detail about me , what I do for a living and why I do what I do etc then when I ask 'how about you?' and all they say is

'I'm a ....'

That's it. 3 word reply. I'll continue abit , but If I reply with more than a sentence or two and continue to just get a couple words in a reply, I'll just not message them again.

I won't delete them, but It just doesn't sit right with me, so I respectfully just say they're not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expectation that il fuck em just cos they are female

Treating me like im just gonna be a penis to sit on

Giving me any sense that im a backup

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

Being called 'Daddy'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like hello love the profile. Not ( are you a heavy cummer)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being spoken to like I’m a performing monkey

Dance Biatch

Pretty much

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By *ubyBlairWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow-ish / Edinburgh

"wantin' pumped?" or any such derivative of that.

Like come on, give me something more than that at least

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Asking how big my cock is, requesting dick pics from the off and making any reference to my race that I deem to be fetishising, or making crazy demands

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Daddy. Just no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pet names, being called daddy when I'm no soft Dom, crude first messages, lying about being into what we are, lying about being poly, 1 word answers. Plus more no doubt

Max

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

Lazy, one line messages

Addressing Mrs but not Mr

Dick pics

“Meet now”

“Babe”

“Nice tits”

Need we go on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lazy, one line messages

Addressing Mrs but not Mr

Dick pics

“Meet now”

“Babe”

“Nice tits”

Need we go on?

Oooooo I forgot the one about just addressing the Mrs in the couple!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"making any reference to my race that I deem to be fetishising "

Agreed! Race fetishisation is my biggest issue on here by far!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Mmmmmmmmmmmmm"

Are you cho**ing on that nana

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a message!

So let’s assume they’ve got a great profile, great pics but then they say something in a message that makes you hit delete!

For me it’s being referred to as having a caramel, chocolate pussy etc etc

What’s yours?"

Can't say I can pick a particular thing that is wrong but there will be something in the message that just flags red to me...

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"In a message!

So let’s assume they’ve got a great profile, great pics but then they say something in a message that makes you hit delete!

For me it’s being referred to as having a caramel, chocolate pussy etc etc

What’s yours?"

I can see why that would be a big turn off for you

For me it would be getting too sexual too quick or trying to tell me what we'd do ,what to wear etc .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Low effort replies, if it gets monosyllabic I'm out.

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By *rg4Man
over a year ago

hunktown

They wear trainers

They wear ankle socks or no socks at all

Short hair

Say hun

Thin lips

Wear 3/4s

Like weird sexual stuff

Don’t reply promptly

Think they’re better than everyone else

Skinny

Won’t peg me

Bite your lip while kissing

Doesn’t like kissing

Shit at handjobs/blowjobs

Lots more to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any references to them wanting to destroy me in the first message.

Asking if I squirt.

Assuming they're going to make me cum (sometimes apparently more than once!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they say no. It’s a total turn off when the say that …

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

One word messages, doesn't matter how good the profile I'm not replying.

Or messages aimed at just 1 of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One word messages, doesn't matter how good the profile I'm not replying.

Or messages aimed at just 1 of us."

I'm terrible at this as I love females more than men...

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Their latest erotic novel installments.. I'm not a book publisher pack it in."

This... Crap erotic fiction

Also being called little lady, missy, princess, young lady... I could go on!

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"Straight guys who become bi when wanting to meet then straight again on a meet

This

We always start by saying on the first meet we will both fck him before anything else happens, s out the liars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pet names definitely a turn off. Call me Tilly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmmm

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By *rg4Man
over a year ago

hunktown

"In a message!

So let’s assume they’ve got a great profile, great pics but then they say something in a message that makes you hit delete!

For me it’s being referred to as having a caramel, chocolate pussy etc etc

What’s yours?"

Lmfao that’s a very specific ick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a message!

So let’s assume they’ve got a great profile, great pics but then they say something in a message that makes you hit delete!

For me it’s being referred to as having a caramel, chocolate pussy etc etc

What’s yours?

Lmfao that’s a very specific ick "

Why’s it funny though? It’s something that’s said to her…

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By *rg4Man
over a year ago

hunktown

"In a message!

So let’s assume they’ve got a great profile, great pics but then they say something in a message that makes you hit delete!

For me it’s being referred to as having a caramel, chocolate pussy etc etc

What’s yours?

Lmfao that’s a very specific ick

Why’s it funny though? It’s something that’s said to her…"

It’s funny because it’s so specific. Not funny that it’s said to her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the biggest turn off on fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In a message!

So let’s assume they’ve got a great profile, great pics but then they say something in a message that makes you hit delete!

For me it’s being referred to as having a caramel, chocolate pussy etc etc

What’s yours?

Lmfao that’s a very specific ick "

Yeah race fetishisation terms aren’t funny to me!

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

When your getting along with a fem ..everything is going grest then they say they ONLY meet with their fb ..well get a cpls profile then if you only meet as a cpl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a prudish old cow, so any references to sex in the first few messages gets a delete.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Meet now

Fuck/lick and go

No strings

Here for a good time, not a long time

Anything that badmouths other women/women's bodies

Being overly crude

I'm in your area for the night/weekend

Balls needing draining

You probably won't be interested but...

Only talking about what they want from me not what I might want out of a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of banter wooden talk

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

If they refer to themselves as Daddy. Or want me to call them that.

That's an instant delete for me.

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By *rg4Man
over a year ago

hunktown

Almost forgot, any who wear sunglasses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meet now

Fuck/lick and go

No strings

Here for a good time, not a long time

Anything that badmouths other women/women's bodies

Being overly crude

I'm in your area for the night/weekend

Balls needing draining

You probably won't be interested but...

Only talking about what they want from me not what I might want out of a meet"

That’s every message I’ve sent to you right there. Should I take it as a maybe then?

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

Calling me Daddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pet names like princess babe or anything along those lines comeing from a total stranger just no

I’d agree with this! "

Definitely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men who say hi babe..... don't ever call a lady you don't know babe... in fact don't call anyone babe boak!!

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Adults acting childish

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

what does boak mean,,

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

“You by far the best looking on here”

Oh really…… hate bull shit

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I'm a prudish old cow, so any references to sex in the first few messages gets a delete. "

Would you talk about sex in the first chat in a bar? No, so it's not being prudish to not expect it here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any one that calls me a lady is deleted. As it shows that they have not read my profile. So I am not going to read your message.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Any one that calls me a lady is deleted. As it shows that they have not read my profile. So I am not going to read your message."

Your profile is hidden

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I find it really irritating when they say ‘can I ask you a question?’ Or they pretend to know you and say ‘hey we spoke last year but…’

I also hate ‘how’s you?’ - it doesn’t even make sense! However the worst is has to be dirty talk in the first message…. Just why? I wonder if anyone responds positively to dirty talk from the off? I can’t imagine it would have a high response rate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give oral. Am I supposed to self suck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a prudish old cow, so any references to sex in the first few messages gets a delete.

Would you talk about sex in the first chat in a bar? No, so it's not being prudish to not expect it here

My tongue was firmly in my cheek

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I'm a prudish old cow, so any references to sex in the first few messages gets a delete.

Would you talk about sex in the first chat in a bar? No, so it's not being prudish to not expect it here

My tongue was firmly in my cheek

As long as that's all that was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what does boak mean,,"

boak is a Scots term for vomit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Young lady"

Just FUCK off, mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Immediate turn Off is being slightly pressured by suggestive comments.

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By *ittleMyWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

"what does boak mean,,"

Vomit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the hell is a “ caramel chocolate pussy” ?

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

If I don't reply then I get asked am I shy erm no definitely not shy, just don't want to talk to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are obviously doing really well then. We don't get many messages and virtually all are courteous and nice. Get a few one liners mostly from guys which just get deleted in less time than it took to write it.

I think maybe our profile looks a bit like a faker so we don't get a hell of alot of traffic or the resounding complaints of hundreds of drivel mails from males to deal with

No that doesn't mean we suddenly want them either

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By *merican WomanWoman
over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

Beards

No pic on the first message

Poorly dressed

Can't chat to women

Doesn't give oral

Goes limp during sex

Bad hygiene

No sense of humour

Takes obsessive amout of selfies, leave that to the ladies

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

"If I don't reply then I get asked am I shy erm no definitely not shy, just don't want to talk to you

Hahaha this made me giggle I can’t lie

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By *_Love_CandyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Nice tits

Want to fuck.

Free now.

Send me pics noone else has seen.

Not reading my profile.

Are you horny.

Sending dic pics, not face pics.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Anything that's zero effort, dick pics, from someone who could not be bothered to read our profile or just the bizarre.

Had one message once asking to buy my wife's worn shoes (wtf?) And a great one today. A random picture of some guy playing a guitar and what I surmise was a woman's bottom with the message "would ypu meet us"?

Won't lie, read that last one like it had come from Buffalo Bill. It was just so odd. Instant "nope".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I don't reply then I get asked am I shy erm no definitely not shy, just don't want to talk to you

I wonder if people that do that would continue to try and converse with someone in public that blanked them as a totally unsuitable conversant?

I'm totally too polite but

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

thank you for letting me know what boak means,, your right

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Arrogance - I love a normal message as though we were real people In the real world not an arrogant - you’re lucky Im answering you type - very rare it happens but it does…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being called daddy. It’s so weird

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By *nked and Ms InkedCouple
over a year ago

nr wrexham

People who don’t read the profile and think I’m going to call them mistress or be submissive to them. Or those who think I’ll betray my Dom and meet behind his back or try to push my boundaries. Not going to happen.

Submissive to only one. If you don’t understand or respect me or our dynamics, don’t message. I’m not naturally submissive sexually, so they’re wasting my (and their) time. Viv xx

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By *ornyvirginphxWoman
over a year ago

phoenix

Lol same for me - men who say they want to impregnate, r@pe, or anything else like that are a big no

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By *obbiKentMan
over a year ago

maidstone

arrogance, strong or confident can be as sexy as hell, but pleasure is a two way street, not just for theirs

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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago

London

Not on here. No one messages me on here. (Hint, hint) But on fabguys I constantly get, "Hi, RU horny?" Well, yes, I was until I got that message anyway.

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By *uiet_69Man
over a year ago

Near

Vanilla

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By *undance_KidMan
over a year ago

London

Jizz emanating from pussy or arsehole shots.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

For some reason being called young lady gets the bile raising.

Also, being over familiar and pretending we've spoken before, sending dick pics, and an erotic novel describing exactly what they want to do to me.

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By *ovikCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Been called ‘hun’ but that goes for any platform. Hate the term. Like finger nails down a chalk board.

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By *undayTarkaMan
over a year ago

North Devon, Manchester Middleton

When woman demand a face pic be sent with a message, in their profile. yet they Don't have one pic. Profile or friends and unverified. Block.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Full on action pics on the profile..does absolutely nothing for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad breath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ‘nice guy’ line - either in username or in msg. If you need to tell me you’re the nice guy chances are you’re not! Nice guys don’t need to put down other males on here to see some action

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Being called Daddy. Wrong on so many levels.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

A single male profile that attaches an action shot of their cock in someone's orifices....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A single male profile that attaches an action shot of their cock in someone's orifices....

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armpit sex is a sweaty affair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being called slut / dirty bitch etc on a first message

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By *rg4Man
over a year ago

hunktown

"Being called slut / dirty bitch etc on a first message"

How about after 3 ?

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

So "hey hum, I'm in Tesco car park in my camper van with a tub of Ben and Jerry's that I want to smear all over you and lick off, 2nd parking space on the left by the main entrance, don't bother wearing any underwear as you won't have it on for long. Come now before it all melts." Wouldn't work, bugger I wondered why I couldn't get a meet

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I'd be tempted by that depending on the flavour.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"A single male profile that attaches an action shot of their cock in someone's orifices....

Oooo this one definitely! X

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"A single male profile that attaches an action shot of their cock in someone's orifices....

Oooo this one definitely! X"

Single ladies with those same kind of pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being called slut / dirty bitch etc on a first message

How about after 3 ? "

Possibly

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Wish i was a slut

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