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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I've been thinking about where we, mentally and emotionally, when we're feeling anxious, scared, dealing with change, or just unsure about something.

One of the young people (over 20) makes us listen and singalong to the Wiggles.

I regress to being about 10 and watching old musicals, a Saturday afternoon family thing.

Where do you go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learnt a little about this a long time ago.

When in very stressful painful situations I've learnt to focus on a memory of looking into someone's eyes who is no longer here. The moment takes me away from it all. It works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jumping in puddles like Peppa Pig. (piggy) (oink)

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

" I learnt a little about this a long time ago.

When in very stressful painful situations I've learnt to focus on a memory of looking into someone's eyes who is no longer here. The moment takes me away from it all. It works."

That's a lovely memory to turn to.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Jumping in puddles like Peppa Pig. (piggy) (oink) "

Bright yellow wellies too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been thinking about where we, mentally and emotionally, when we're feeling anxious, scared, dealing with change, or just unsure about something.

One of the young people (over 20) makes us listen and singalong to the Wiggles.

I regress to being about 10 and watching old musicals, a Saturday afternoon family thing.

Where do you go?"

I regress to Banana Man, Telebugs and Thundercats cartoons. Thank the gods and goddesses for YouTube.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I've been thinking about where we, mentally and emotionally, when we're feeling anxious, scared, dealing with change, or just unsure about something.

One of the young people (over 20) makes us listen and singalong to the Wiggles.

I regress to being about 10 and watching old musicals, a Saturday afternoon family thing.

Where do you go?

I regress to Banana Man, Telebugs and Thundercats cartoons. Thank the gods and goddesses for YouTube. "

Telebugs. A much forgotten cartoon series

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I've been thinking about where we, mentally and emotionally, when we're feeling anxious, scared, dealing with change, or just unsure about something.

One of the young people (over 20) makes us listen and singalong to the Wiggles.

I regress to being about 10 and watching old musicals, a Saturday afternoon family thing.

Where do you go?

I regress to Banana Man, Telebugs and Thundercats cartoons. Thank the gods and goddesses for YouTube. "

I knew you were younger by the references. YouTube offering suggestions could provide hours of comfort.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I've been thinking about where we, mentally and emotionally, when we're feeling anxious, scared, dealing with change, or just unsure about something.

One of the young people (over 20) makes us listen and singalong to the Wiggles.

I regress to being about 10 and watching old musicals, a Saturday afternoon family thing.

Where do you go?

I regress to Banana Man, Telebugs and Thundercats cartoons. Thank the gods and goddesses for YouTube.

Telebugs. A much forgotten cartoon series

I never had the chance to forget it as I never saw it.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I've been thinking about where we, mentally and emotionally, when we're feeling anxious, scared, dealing with change, or just unsure about something.

One of the young people (over 20) makes us listen and singalong to the Wiggles.

I regress to being about 10 and watching old musicals, a Saturday afternoon family thing.

Where do you go?

I regress to Banana Man, Telebugs and Thundercats cartoons. Thank the gods and goddesses for YouTube.

Telebugs. A much forgotten cartoon series

I never had the chance to forget it as I never saw it.

You missed a cultural delight. YouTube for you

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

On a regular basis I watch In the Night Garden; Peppa Pig; Teletubbies; Timmy Time and more.

I feel happy when I watch them because I'm with the babies.

When I was severely depressed I used to watch cartoons in the mornings. I go back to being 4/5 again, watching Andy Pandy while my mum does the ironing.

It's always sunny in the room and I can smell the smell of the hot iron on the cotton.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"On a regular basis I watch In the Night Garden; Peppa Pig; Teletubbies; Timmy Time and more.

I feel happy when I watch them because I'm with the babies.

When I was severely depressed I used to watch cartoons in the mornings. I go back to being 4/5 again, watching Andy Pandy while my mum does the ironing.

It's always sunny in the room and I can smell the smell of the hot iron on the cotton.

That's such a clear picture, I can see you there.

I went through a phase of watching the things we used to watch with the babies, and still sometimes dip into a Phineas and Ferb or a Spongebob from when they were older.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a panic attack but depends how bad it is. I'll watch anything fairly light hearted, something I've seen a thousand times or if Eros is home, I just curl up on his lap and try to sleep.

Pxx

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its interesting where we can go to end up in a safe space. It’s not always due to negative emotions, but the result is the same, a feeling of safety and security.

Any wonder why Caregiver/little or DD/lg type dynamics appeal to so many?!?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Have a panic attack but depends how bad it is. I'll watch anything fairly light hearted, something I've seen a thousand times or if Eros is home, I just curl up on his lap and try to sleep.

Pxx"

Does this take you back to a time when you felt safe?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Its interesting where we can go to end up in a safe space. It’s not always due to negative emotions, but the result is the same, a feeling of safety and security.

Any wonder why Caregiver/little or DD/lg type dynamics appeal to so many?!?

I have wondered how much regression feeds into those dynamics. As you say. regression doesn't have to be about negative emotions, but it is often a defence/protective measure.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I haven't really progress beyond 10 so no regression required for me thanks so there yah boo

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I haven't really progress beyond 10 so no regression required for me thanks so there yah boo

I'm going to tell your mum you're being naughty on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a panic attack but depends how bad it is. I'll watch anything fairly light hearted, something I've seen a thousand times or if Eros is home, I just curl up on his lap and try to sleep.

Pxx

Does this take you back to a time when you felt safe?

I think so, I used to love cuddling up with my parents when I was little so it's probably related to that. As an adult I still love a cuddle. I can have a week of no sleep then curl up on him and be asleep in seconds.

Pxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jumping in puddles like Peppa Pig. (piggy) (oink)

Bright yellow wellies too?

Definitely!

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Have a panic attack but depends how bad it is. I'll watch anything fairly light hearted, something I've seen a thousand times or if Eros is home, I just curl up on his lap and try to sleep.

Pxx

Does this take you back to a time when you felt safe?

Pxx"

It's good to have a lap like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds like it has elements of re-parenting, which can be very beneficial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This sounds like it has elements of re-parenting, which can be very beneficial "

Can I ask what this is? I've never heard of it before.

Pxx

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"This sounds like it has elements of re-parenting, which can be very beneficial "

I hadn't thought about reparenting oneself... I'll have a think.

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over a year ago

"This sounds like it has elements of re-parenting, which can be very beneficial

Can I ask what this is? I've never heard of it before.

Pxx"

It’s when you give yourself things you missed out on as a child. So a really simple thing to do is to keep a promise to yourself, and it can be a tiny thing. Like, I will come back from my walk and drink a glass of water. Building trust in yourself, giving yourself what you need.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"On a regular basis I watch In the Night Garden; Peppa Pig; Teletubbies; Timmy Time and more.

I feel happy when I watch them because I'm with the babies.

When I was severely depressed I used to watch cartoons in the mornings. I go back to being 4/5 again, watching Andy Pandy while my mum does the ironing.

It's always sunny in the room and I can smell the smell of the hot iron on the cotton.

That's such a clear picture, I can see you there.

I went through a phase of watching the things we used to watch with the babies, and still sometimes dip into a Phineas and Ferb or a Spongebob from when they were older.

I still watch Family Guy and South Park.

I just remembered I used to watch Roly Poly Oly when I felt depressed too.

I felt calm when I watched it.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I can go to good or bad places depending on the trigger.

Happy ones are usually out in the countryside up in the clouds or nose deep in one of my favourite books.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

- my great grandma brushing my hair. Very few people do, it's a very simple but quite special thing to me.

- Listening to Disney songs.

Both help me just be me. Sit with it. I'm generally quite high energy. But when I have a low, it's a low. I feel emotions acutely, almost too acutely at times. I wouldn't change that but it's nice to switch off and feel cared for. Safe. Loved. Even if it's by me.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I can go to good or bad places depending on the trigger.

Happy ones are usually out in the countryside up in the clouds or nose deep in one of my favourite books. "

Ah reading is a very good one! Yes, I sometimes sit with my favourite blanket and switch off. I have a real love for those I care about reading to me. The fact they take the time to do so, it's a very calming thing. Stills my soul and mind.

Even simple things like walking barefoot in grass. It's soothing.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I can go to good or bad places depending on the trigger.

Happy ones are usually out in the countryside up in the clouds or nose deep in one of my favourite books.

Even simple things like walking barefoot in grass. It's soothing."

I think I love you Meli

I have my favourite blanket that I snuggle down with. And I'm really possessive over it, I don't like others using it though. Being read to is simply bliss it's a little piece of heaven.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching Trap Door, Maid Marion and Her Merry Men, Round the Twist.... they all evoke lovely feelings of comfort and safety. I loved watching Horrible Histories with my children as I loved reading the books as a kid. I was always happiest when I was reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This sounds like it has elements of re-parenting, which can be very beneficial

Can I ask what this is? I've never heard of it before.

Pxx

I've done a lot of re-parenting work as part of my therapy. It's done wonders.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Watching Trap Door, Maid Marion and Her Merry Men, Round the Twist.... they all evoke lovely feelings of comfort and safety. I loved watching Horrible Histories with my children as I loved reading the books as a kid. I was always happiest when I was reading

I blooming loved Maid Marion, I can still sing the theme tune. I'm going to introduce my boys to it thank you for reminding me

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over a year ago

"This sounds like it has elements of re-parenting, which can be very beneficial

Can I ask what this is? I've never heard of it before.

Pxx

I've done a lot of re-parenting work as part of my therapy. It's done wonders."

It’s not very well known, but can be so effective, and is quite simple really. I’m glad it’s helped you

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I can go to good or bad places depending on the trigger.

Happy ones are usually out in the countryside up in the clouds or nose deep in one of my favourite books.

Even simple things like walking barefoot in grass. It's soothing.

I think I love you Meli

I have my favourite blanket that I snuggle down with. And I'm really possessive over it, I don't like others using it though. Being read to is simply bliss it's a little piece of heaven. "

Aww Frida! Mutual.

I'm realizing we're quite alike! What with the ruining and being read to... it's really lovely. Intimate but in a soul feeding way. Nourishing almost.

My favourite blanket is punishable by death if someone else uses it. Tend to keep it hidden in my wardrobe so no one touches it and it's mine. All mine.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Something else I did was buy brushed cotton bedding for the winter.

First time I got in them reminded me of Sundays as a child, getting into bed after my bath and freshly washed candy striped sheets and pillow case. Anyone my age will know the ones I'm talking about.

Best feeling in the world.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I spent a big part of my life living in the past and once I made the decision 7 years ago not to do it again I've never had to regress at all.

I suffer from anhedonia so I'm almost permanently in the present.

I have all the available options to regress to but never take any of them which sounds weird as when I see it written down but is a fact.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Something else I did was buy brushed cotton bedding for the winter.

First time I got in them reminded me of Sundays as a child, getting into bed after my bath and freshly washed candy striped sheets and pillow case. Anyone my age will know the ones I'm talking about.

Best feeling in the world. "

Nanna, I'm a wee bit younger than you, but the stripy brushed cotton bedding was a staple of my childhood too

We have brushed cotton (white) on our bed right now.

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over a year ago

"Something else I did was buy brushed cotton bedding for the winter.

First time I got in them reminded me of Sundays as a child, getting into bed after my bath and freshly washed candy striped sheets and pillow case. Anyone my age will know the ones I'm talking about.

Best feeling in the world. "

Loved those. I need to see if they still sell them somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hit the field and unleash holy hell smashing ribs left n right until i cant walk

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"I've been thinking about where we, mentally and emotionally, when we're feeling anxious, scared, dealing with change, or just unsure about something.

One of the young people (over 20) makes us listen and singalong to the Wiggles.

I regress to being about 10 and watching old musicals, a Saturday afternoon family thing.

Where do you go?"

You are quite litterally designed to cope with this as 1000s of your ancestors did in harsher times than now.

And this is exactlt what I think in hard times.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I spent a big part of my life living in the past and once I made the decision 7 years ago not to do it again I've never had to regress at all.

I suffer from anhedonia so I'm almost permanently in the present.

I have all the available options to regress to but never take any of them which sounds weird as when I see it written down but is a fact. "

I am sorry to learn of your anhedonia. It seems almost oxymoronic to be here, where people think it is all hedonistic (unless they spend too much time on the forum

I don't feel that regression, in a low-level way, is living in the past. More, borrowing the tools from then for practical use now.

However, I do admire people that can make decisions like that and stick to them.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Thanks for the responses.

I want to borrow some of the things mentioned, like being read to. It wouldn't be a regression for me as I was never read to. Audio books on tape on my Walkman when I was in hospital is as close as it has got.

I'd like to hear from more men. I witness what I think of as regressive behaviour in some men but have found few men acknowledge that as a coping mechanism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's the Ewoks cartoons. Love being reminded of my childhood favourites.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"For me it's the Ewoks cartoons. Love being reminded of my childhood favourites. "

Ewoks had a cartoon? I must have been working when that happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally look the fucker in the eye and dive in. Results may vary..

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I generally look the fucker in the eye and dive in. Results may vary.."

There's lot to unpack there, but I have no idea where to start.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Thanks for the responses.

I'd like to hear from more men. I witness what I think of as regressive behaviour in some men but have found few men acknowledge that as a coping mechanism.

As a follow on to what I said above, I did use it as a coping mechanism and that was part of my problem.

Life became just one great coping mechanism that wouldn't allow me to move forward.

It was when I realised that I also decided I wouldn't use any of the tools regression offered because I didn't want to cope, I wanted to live.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Thanks for the responses.

I'd like to hear from more men. I witness what I think of as regressive behaviour in some men but have found few men acknowledge that as a coping mechanism.

As a follow on to what I said above, I did use it as a coping mechanism and that was part of my problem.

Life became just one great coping mechanism that wouldn't allow me to move forward.

It was when I realised that I also decided I wouldn't use any of the tools regression offered because I didn't want to cope, I wanted to live. "

Thanks for that additional information.

Do you take an existential approach to everything?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Thanks for the responses.

I'd like to hear from more men. I witness what I think of as regressive behaviour in some men but have found few men acknowledge that as a coping mechanism.

As a follow on to what I said above, I did use it as a coping mechanism and that was part of my problem.

Life became just one great coping mechanism that wouldn't allow me to move forward.

It was when I realised that I also decided I wouldn't use any of the tools regression offered because I didn't want to cope, I wanted to live.

Thanks for that additional information.

Do you take an existential approach to everything?

I rarely give it any thought apart from in threads such as this.

I've honestly no idea what an existential approach is.

It's probably a bit like the poster above who put it much more succinctly.

I don't go back or forward and just look things in the eye when they appear.

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