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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ruined: To have sex with another in such a manner so the partner is never quite the same.

Can anyone actually say they’ve done this to someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These threads show how much people know about the female anatomy

The vigina is elastic it’s stretch’s and snaps back

Also “tightness” all depends on how turned on they are

If they tight sorry to say but your not doing something right

Also a baby’s heads much bigger than a cock and they seems to be fine after birth so I don’t think a cock is going to change much

This kind off thinking is a outdated outlook on shameing woman who like to have sex with different people or the same person

Oooo she’s banged 20-30-40-500 guys she’s ruined there is no such thing

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By *drian52Man
over a year ago

Derby


"Ruined: To have sex with another in such a manner so the partner is never quite the same.

Can anyone actually say they’ve done this to someone? "

Not me but have women friends who have been abused and that changed them psychologically ...not in a good way

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

I use to work with a guy who ruined women but his definition was that he was so good in bed that no other guy could compete, so she was ruined in the sense that she would never have great sex again unless she was blessed to be invited back a second time.

The amazing thing was he actually believed his own bs...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very much doubt that any man can ruin anything that can allow the passage of tye size of a human baby!

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Some beautifully heavy responses from the fun brigade here...

Think OP is talking of the saying in terms of great sex that leaves someone always wanting it and no one ever meeting that threshold again...

But the scorn and man hate in the answer above is quite comical.

Especially as you hear women the the phrase too

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

It’s just a phrase.

A lot of men are also good at ruining meals!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"It’s just a phrase.

A lot of men are also good at ruining meals! "

And ruining sex with daft expressions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean to ruin as in to do physical harm or to mentally ruin by doing psychological harm or to ruin in the manner that it’s so good, the lady doesn’t want to ever go elsewhere?

Your OP isn’t clear in that way.

I do know that any messages with the word “ruin” in get deleted.

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By *estLondonDeepMan
over a year ago

London

Feels like I've walked into an episode of the Inbetweeners. Ruined?

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian


"Do you mean to ruin as in to do physical harm or to mentally ruin by doing psychological harm or to ruin in the manner that it’s so good, the lady doesn’t want to ever go elsewhere?

Your OP isn’t clear in that way.

I do know that any messages with the word “ruin” in get deleted. "

I’m guessing he means that the sex was so good and different that you couldn’t look at another in the same way

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I don't like the word ruined for sex. It doesn't make sense to me. I don't want to ruin anybody or anything. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll get back to you on 1st September

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I have a feeling I’m going to get totally ruined… I’ll let you know on the 1st September J x

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"I don't like the word ruined for sex. It doesn't make sense to me. I don't want to ruin anybody or anything. Luke"

Agreed.

PS - great version of "Maple Leaf Rag" BTW!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I always looked at it as being left a sweating, quivering mess, hardly able to speak and in multi-orgasm heaven, but that might just be me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always looked at it as being left a sweating, quivering mess, hardly able to speak and in multi-orgasm heaven, but that might just be me "

That’s a lovely way of putting it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think there’s more too it! Both psychological and physical. I think you can be “ruined” (by the definition given) by the way kiss someone kisses you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blame the porn culture

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh I have a feeling I’m going to get totally ruined… I’ll let you know on the 1st September J x "

Hope you enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a fine line between giving pleasure and abusing someone.... language like 'ruined' is typical male oriented machismo bullshit.

We have had a few comments from guys asking to meet, and us saying no and getting a response along the lines of .... "oh you don't know what you're missing - I'd ruin you !!".... er really? don't think so...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is a fine line between giving pleasure and abusing someone.... language like 'ruined' is typical male oriented machismo bullshit.

We have had a few comments from guys asking to meet, and us saying no and getting a response along the lines of .... "oh you don't know what you're missing - I'd ruin you !!".... er really? don't think so... "

Male or unrated? - I’ve heard loads of women use that term! Usually talking about Harry Styles! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but id not say she was ruined id say she levelled up in life points

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"There is a fine line between giving pleasure and abusing someone.... language like 'ruined' is typical male oriented machismo bullshit.

We have had a few comments from guys asking to meet, and us saying no and getting a response along the lines of .... "oh you don't know what you're missing - I'd ruin you !!".... er really? don't think so... "

I'd say they'd well and truly ruined it....for themselves!

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

I hate sayings such as "ruined", "wrecked" etc, in terms of describing sex. They are brutal, totally misogynistic, and display a complete lack of respect for women.

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

I despise messages that say anything along the lines of I will ruin you.It has always been a sure fire way to a deleted message and a note on the profile to avoid them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off"

I'm honoured

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured "

You’re part of the random crew too then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know "

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then? "

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo "

Which one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

Which one? "

It's GAPE argh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then?

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I "

Alright randomers, one at a time, I can only take so much ruining

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then?

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I

Alright randomers, one at a time, I can only take so much ruining "

My turn!!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

Which one?

It's GAPE argh!"

No one wants a gaping fanny. But everyone wants a gapping fanny!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then?

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I

Alright randomers, one at a time, I can only take so much ruining "

Said you …….never….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

Which one?

It's GAPE argh!

No one wants a gaping fanny. But everyone wants a gapping fanny! "

Not me. Seeing the word gapping makes my clunge clam shut!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

Which one?

It's GAPE argh!

No one wants a gaping fanny. But everyone wants a gapping fanny!

Not me. Seeing the word gapping makes my clunge clam shut!"

I like that! I’m going to steal it.

Everyone wants a gapping Clunge clam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then?

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I

Alright randomers, one at a time, I can only take so much ruining

Said you …….never…. "

Erm, please refer to my previous comment…..

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Ruined: To have sex with another in such a manner so the partner is never quite the same.

Can anyone actually say they’ve done this to someone? "

Yeah. Did it to my wife and myself back in the day actually.

Most other people would say I got us pregnant but neither of us have been the same since

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then?

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I

Alright randomers, one at a time, I can only take so much ruining

Said you …….never….

Erm, please refer to my previous comment….."

Alright clunge clam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then?

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I

Alright randomers, one at a time, I can only take so much ruining

Said you …….never….

Erm, please refer to my previous comment…..

Alright clunge clam "

It’s gapping thank you VERY MUCH

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I have had a couple of ex partners tell me that I have ruined them for others - inasmuch as the sex was incredible.

It could be taken as an ego boost but in reality I found it a little disturbing. I really don't want to be compared against anyone. I want them to find joy in intimate moments with others, not have it marred with a "but it's not..." sentiment, however fleeting.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then?

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I

Alright randomers, one at a time, I can only take so much ruining

Said you …….never….

Erm, please refer to my previous comment…..

Alright clunge clam

It’s gapping thank you VERY MUCH"

But is it a ruined gapping clunge clam?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

Which one?

It's GAPE argh!

No one wants a gaping fanny. But everyone wants a gapping fanny!

Not me. Seeing the word gapping makes my clunge clam shut!

I like that! I’m going to steal it.

Everyone wants a gapping Clunge clam "

Except me.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

Which one?

It's GAPE argh!

No one wants a gaping fanny. But everyone wants a gapping fanny!

Not me. Seeing the word gapping makes my clunge clam shut!

I like that! I’m going to steal it.

Everyone wants a gapping Clunge clam

Except me. "

Challenege accepted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ruined: To have sex with another in such a manner so the partner is never quite the same.

Can anyone actually say they’ve done this to someone? "

Ridiculous term , we block anyone that asks if J wants to be " Ruined " pathetic.

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By *ornyOAPMan
over a year ago

Fethiye


"These threads show how much people know about the female anatomy

The vigina is elastic it’s stretch’s and snaps back

Also “tightness” all depends on how turned on they are

If they tight sorry to say but your not doing something right

Also a baby’s heads much bigger than a cock and they seems to be fine after birth so I don’t think a cock is going to change much

This kind off thinking is a outdated outlook on shameing woman who like to have sex with different people or the same person

Oooo she’s banged 20-30-40-500 guys she’s ruined there is no such thing "

Well said

To many know nothing pricks around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

Which one?

It's GAPE argh!

No one wants a gaping fanny. But everyone wants a gapping fanny!

Not me. Seeing the word gapping makes my clunge clam shut!

I like that! I’m going to steal it.

Everyone wants a gapping Clunge clam

Except me.

Challenege accepted "

Especially don't want my clunge gapped as a challenege. Yeesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then?

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I

Alright randomers, one at a time, I can only take so much ruining

Said you …….never….

Erm, please refer to my previous comment…..

Alright clunge clam

It’s gapping thank you VERY MUCH

But is it a ruined gapping clunge clam?"

Who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then?

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I

Alright randomers, one at a time, I can only take so much ruining

Said you …….never….

Erm, please refer to my previous comment…..

Alright clunge clam

It’s gapping thank you VERY MUCH

But is it a ruined gapping clunge clam?

Who knows "

Not yet…

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"From two particular people - hell yes, because they know what I want/like and I trust them.

From a random, no - fuck off

I'm honoured

You’re part of the random crew too then?

Oh. Hang on.

Crap. I totally assumed wrong there, didn't I

Alright randomers, one at a time, I can only take so much ruining

Said you …….never….

Erm, please refer to my previous comment…..

Alright clunge clam

It’s gapping thank you VERY MUCH

But is it a ruined gapping clunge clam?

Who knows "

See if you can fit a sky remote in sideways and come back to us

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

Which one?

It's GAPE argh!

No one wants a gaping fanny. But everyone wants a gapping fanny!

Not me. Seeing the word gapping makes my clunge clam shut!

I like that! I’m going to steal it.

Everyone wants a gapping Clunge clam

Except me.

Challenege accepted

Especially don't want my clunge gapped as a challenege. Yeesh."

But what about your clunge clam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate sayings such as "ruined", "wrecked" etc, in terms of describing sex. They are brutal, totally misogynistic, and display a complete lack of respect for women."

I get ya, although I’ve been with women who prefer misogyny, brutalism and disrespect in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ruined ………wtf are we back in the play ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

Which one?

It's GAPE argh!

No one wants a gaping fanny. But everyone wants a gapping fanny!

Not me. Seeing the word gapping makes my clunge clam shut!

I like that! I’m going to steal it.

Everyone wants a gapping Clunge clam

Except me.

Challenege accepted

Especially don't want my clunge gapped as a challenege. Yeesh.

But what about your clunge clam "

It's staying clammed shut at present

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

So from someone I don't know at all? It wouldn't work. In the slightest. And yep, I really do get the problematic language. Completely. It's awful isn't it? A systematic representation of the misogynistic, porn obsessed zeitgeist.

But... there's a small part of me that actually quite likes the idea of being ruined. Shocker. Where I'm almost cockdr*nk and not able to think of anything really, barely able to walk after many, many orgasms and slightly dazed in the very best of ways. Where my body physically aches in the days after and I can press certain points and relive things. An intoxicating, primal fuck where I feel every sensation keenly. That's what ruined conjures in my mind. Not ruining my sexual experiences with others but ruining my rather prim and proper facade, my desire to be in control constantly.

So... I don't hate the word.

I'll go and hand in my feminist card. Rad fem me of a decade ago would be shaking her head in disapproval, feel free to join in.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"So from someone I don't know at all? It wouldn't work. In the slightest. And yep, I really do get the problematic language. Completely. It's awful isn't it? A systematic representation of the misogynistic, porn obsessed zeitgeist.

But... there's a small part of me that actually quite likes the idea of being ruined. Shocker. Where I'm almost cockdr*nk and not able to think of anything really, barely able to walk after many, many orgasms and slightly dazed in the very best of ways. Where my body physically aches in the days after and I can press certain points and relive things. An intoxicating, primal fuck where I feel every sensation keenly. That's what ruined conjures in my mind. Not ruining my sexual experiences with others but ruining my rather prim and proper facade, my desire to be in control constantly.

So... I don't hate the word.

I'll go and hand in my feminist card. Rad fem me of a decade ago would be shaking her head in disapproval, feel free to join in."

I'll join the club for liking being ruined too thanks Meli

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"So from someone I don't know at all? It wouldn't work. In the slightest. And yep, I really do get the problematic language. Completely. It's awful isn't it? A systematic representation of the misogynistic, porn obsessed zeitgeist.

But... there's a small part of me that actually quite likes the idea of being ruined. Shocker. Where I'm almost cockdr*nk and not able to think of anything really, barely able to walk after many, many orgasms and slightly dazed in the very best of ways. Where my body physically aches in the days after and I can press certain points and relive things. An intoxicating, primal fuck where I feel every sensation keenly. That's what ruined conjures in my mind. Not ruining my sexual experiences with others but ruining my rather prim and proper facade, my desire to be in control constantly.

So... I don't hate the word.

I'll go and hand in my feminist card. Rad fem me of a decade ago would be shaking her head in disapproval, feel free to join in.

I'll join the club for liking being ruined too thanks Meli "

Oh phew, so glad you're on board! Thought you might be. You get it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So from someone I don't know at all? It wouldn't work. In the slightest. And yep, I really do get the problematic language. Completely. It's awful isn't it? A systematic representation of the misogynistic, porn obsessed zeitgeist.

But... there's a small part of me that actually quite likes the idea of being ruined. Shocker. Where I'm almost cockdr*nk and not able to think of anything really, barely able to walk after many, many orgasms and slightly dazed in the very best of ways. Where my body physically aches in the days after and I can press certain points and relive things. An intoxicating, primal fuck where I feel every sensation keenly. That's what ruined conjures in my mind. Not ruining my sexual experiences with others but ruining my rather prim and proper facade, my desire to be in control constantly.

So... I don't hate the word.

I'll go and hand in my feminist card. Rad fem me of a decade ago would be shaking her head in disapproval, feel free to join in.

I'll join the club for liking being ruined too thanks Meli

Oh phew, so glad you're on board! Thought you might be. You get it. "

I’m waiting for the day a woman says to me “I want to ruin you”

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Yes.

They don’t call me the fanny gapper for nothing you know

I can't tell you how disappointed I am in this typo

Which one?

It's GAPE argh!

No one wants a gaping fanny. But everyone wants a gapping fanny!

Not me. Seeing the word gapping makes my clunge clam shut!

I like that! I’m going to steal it.

Everyone wants a gapping Clunge clam

Except me.

Challenege accepted

Especially don't want my clunge gapped as a challenege. Yeesh.

But what about your clunge clam

It's staying clammed shut at present "

At present….

Doesn’t mean forever

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if I’ve ever done this to another but have most certainly been the person who is ruined, I think of it as more having the greatest sex of your life to date and being ruined for all others until someone manages to top it!! It can actually be life changing and scary to think you may never have sex that great again (unless you travel 2000k to get it lol)

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