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By *aughty treats OP   Man
over a year ago

tamworth

Random question to the nation but for those who are on dating sites - do you expect the communication to be vastly different on here as it would on pof or tinder? Trying to work out how varied the approach is….:

I actually try to communication similar on all three platforms but doesn’t seem to be working ??

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Think of it like this no matter where you are chatting with someone they are still a human being and the approach would be the same within that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Type "fancy a fuck" a lot, I'm sure you'll get a reaction.

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By *aughty treats OP   Man
over a year ago

tamworth


"Think of it like this no matter where you are chatting with someone they are still a human being and the approach would be the same within that "

That’s the way I do approach it but wondering if a more direct approach is preferred in here. Just trying to work out what is best. I try to type specific messages depending on the profile and if I think there is a possible connection

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By *aughty treats OP   Man
over a year ago

tamworth


"Type "fancy a fuck" a lot, I'm sure you'll get a reaction. "

??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not on date sites

But if I was yes on date sites I would be looking to date I would be looking for a long term partner

On here it’s about sexual compatibility

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I expect the person to message me in the context of what is on my profile, same as on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your apporach is respectful, thoughtful and well mannered then just stick to that.

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Communication on a dating site? What's that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level.

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By *aughty treats OP   Man
over a year ago

tamworth


"Communication on a dating site? What's that?"

?????? well if you aren’t the best looking then some smooth talking is the best chance ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think of it like this no matter where you are chatting with someone they are still a human being and the approach would be the same within that "

Ditto this. Be open, authentic, friendly, & whats for you, will find you. First impressions are everything so profiles, pics & initial messages matter. Laughter is the best ice breaker & friendship glue. Good luck

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By *aughty treats OP   Man
over a year ago

tamworth


"When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level. "

I get that. But just wondering whether a nicer, warmer message in here is the way forward or if people prefer a more direct approach. I’ve tried mixing it up but my natural reaction and gut is to try and be more respectful to start a convo.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level.

I get that. But just wondering whether a nicer, warmer message in here is the way forward or if people prefer a more direct approach. I’ve tried mixing it up but my natural reaction and gut is to try and be more respectful to start a convo. "

I react better to a nice warmer message on here. One that shows you've read my profile, not just looked at my photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level. "

I agree but I'd still expect a respectful message either way. 'Fancy a f*ck tonight or tomorrow' from a blank profile, gets an instant delete from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level.

I agree but I'd still expect a respectful message either way. 'Fancy a f*ck tonight or tomorrow' from a blank profile, gets an instant delete from me."

Yeah, I don't respond well to that either.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level.

I get that. But just wondering whether a nicer, warmer message in here is the way forward or if people prefer a more direct approach. I’ve tried mixing it up but my natural reaction and gut is to try and be more respectful to start a convo. "

Remember everyone is different but still deserve the respect if someone doesn't like something about either the profile or pictures it might not lead to a connection but words are very powerful

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

I find people communicate pretty much the same on all 3 tbh.

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By *aughty treats OP   Man
over a year ago

tamworth


"I find people communicate pretty much the same on all 3 tbh."

Maybe my picture are just better on pof then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I communicate the same, just be respectful and hope the best

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove

Men are a nightmare to message people online, it’s all about them, they can’t be arsed to make conversation and think a response is a one word answer or an emoji

Those that do message make it all about THEIR sexual needs zzzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same person here and on dating sites. Why do I deserve less respect on this site? I just don't understand the logic. People are not objects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not on any social media except here, hence my experience is limited. I approach a person as a person. I find that the same social graces and decorum when conversing with someone in 'real world' works very well in the virtual one also.

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By *aughtyAlex2021Woman
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"Think of it like this no matter where you are chatting with someone they are still a human being and the approach would be the same within that

Ditto this. Be open, authentic, friendly, & whats for you, will find you. First impressions are everything so profiles, pics & initial messages matter. Laughter is the best ice breaker & friendship glue. Good luck "

I agree with sinlingerie. Being yourself without any pretentious wording goes along way. Someone who can make me laugh definitely keeps me interested.

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