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"My first club experience was really my first step into swinging. It was 6yrs ago and I attended xtasia alone. I didn't expect anything and I wasn't shocked. I worn a little black dress and as the evening progressed I changed into a nice set of undies and had a sheer cover up The staff at the club were brilliant and introduced me to lots of regulars. I stayed with them all night. I didn't play but had offers The best pieces of advice I can give is Don't drink too much Wear what you are comfortable in, maybe have different outfits Be open minded about the other guests." Thank you that’s really helpful! X | |||
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"Good. Stripped off and in the hot tubs pretty quick. Inhibitions meaningless. Nobody cares about size or shape. Very sociable. Recommend club F at Chester le Street, near you x"Is Shhh any good? Chester Le Street is a bit out the way for me x | |||
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"I’ve never been to a club and would love to know how you all found your very first experience… The good, the bad and the ugly, your top tips, no no’s, what to wear, best nights for a beginner to go etc. Thanks all "We haven’t been to a club yet, so following the thread for the tips and advice, too Hope you have fun when you eventually visit a club! F (Mrs) | |||
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"There's a big difference between my first night and your first night! You'll have people falling over you. It all depends on the club, the night, try to get there early to get a proper tour as some of them are like rat runs! And maybe go to one of the organised meets so you can chat to some of the Guestlist before hand. I was a bit overwhelmed on my first go but gets better. " Haha thank you well I love attention so can imagine that would be nice, as long as they were too persistent ha x | |||
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"Not what I expected, but better than I had hoped." Can I ask how was it different to what you expected? X | |||
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"Plan for your first night to be an experiment so no expectations to play, if you do then its a bonus. Choose a time that suits your mindset; weeknights and daytimes are quieter, Friday & Saturdays are busier, do you want a time with Single guys there or just couples & women? Check their calendar to find what fits. Wear sexy casual wear you're comfortable in, & lingerie underneath, in case you feel like showing it off. Can sometimes be overly hot depending on where you go, with jacuzzis & heating on. You'll get introduced to a regular for your tour so you will know 1 person at least. I found chatting to the women in the locker room helped my nerves the first time. There will likely be every age & body type there, someone for everyone & no means no so just say the word if you aren't comfortable. Lastly, enjoy yourself "Great advice! Thank you! I’m undecided whether to go alone or go with a girl friend. I think I’d be looking to play with single guys or couples | |||
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"Not what I expected, but better than I had hoped. Can I ask how was it different to what you expected? X" I thought it was going to be a roman orgy, just masses of bodies writhing on the floor, no holes barred, just get naked and dive right in. Mainly through a lack of understanding, knowledge and listening to tabloids and gossip. Thankfully it had a bit more decorum, and I didn’t have to get my willy out if I didn’t want to. | |||
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"I thought it was going to be a roman orgy, just masses of bodies writhing on the floor, no holes barred, just get naked and dive right in. Mainly through a lack of understanding, knowledge and listening to tabloids and gossip. Thankfully it had a bit more decorum, and I didn’t have to get my willy out if I didn’t want to." Yes I suppose I wonder how quick things tend to heat up, whether it starts a bit slower and then continues for most or all of the night | |||
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"My first club visit was to No.3, in Chorley, and was very much an anti climax. It felt more like a Sunday afternoon in a working men’s club, than what I imagined a Friday night in a swingers’ club might be, from all the stories I had read in the forums. It wasn’t the busiest of nights, there weren’t many people in, but I did chat with some couples and other single guys while I was there. As others have said OP, your club experience is likely to be the polar opposite to any single guy’s, wherever you go. Have fun "Oh dear! I bet that wasn’t what you anticipated at all, hope you’ve had some good experiences since then x | |||
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"Not what I expected, but better than I had hoped. Can I ask how was it different to what you expected? X I thought it was going to be a roman orgy, just masses of bodies writhing on the floor, no holes barred, just get naked and dive right in. Mainly through a lack of understanding, knowledge and listening to tabloids and gossip. Thankfully it had a bit more decorum, and I didn’t have to get my willy out if I didn’t want to." Good point! The bar area is okay with clothes on, play areas need less. Some clubs have a time where the bar area also turns to less but not all so worth a check. You will see people doing everything, some times its smokin' hot, other times its not but you can leave them to it. Stone people keep to their friends, others mingle & chat. Some single guys will follow women they like around the play areas but usually just hang about watching & hoping for an invite to join. This can happen on couples only nights too but less so. I like to call them the wanking dead  but they are harmless really. Eye contact & smiling is a perfect invite to chat with anyone, and a firm 'no thanks' should divert anyone you aren't interested in, but any issues chat to the staff & they should help you right away xo | |||
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"We haven’t been to a club yet, so following the thread for the tips and advice, too Hope you have fun when you eventually visit a club! F (Mrs)" You too! Every day is a school day | |||
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"My first club visit was to No.3, in Chorley, and was very much an anti climax. It felt more like a Sunday afternoon in a working men’s club, than what I imagined a Friday night in a swingers’ club might be, from all the stories I had read in the forums. It wasn’t the busiest of nights, there weren’t many people in, but I did chat with some couples and other single guys while I was there. As others have said OP, your club experience is likely to be the polar opposite to any single guy’s, wherever you go. Have fun
Oh dear! I bet that wasn’t what you anticipated at all, hope you’ve had some good experiences since then x"I have over the years thank you, and mostly outside the club scene lol | |||
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"Not what I expected, but better than I had hoped. Can I ask how was it different to what you expected? X I thought it was going to be a roman orgy, just masses of bodies writhing on the floor, no holes barred, just get naked and dive right in. Mainly through a lack of understanding, knowledge and listening to tabloids and gossip. Thankfully it had a bit more decorum, and I didn’t have to get my willy out if I didn’t want to. Good point! The bar area is okay with clothes on, play areas need less. Some clubs have a time where the bar area also turns to less but not all so worth a check. You will see people doing everything, some times its smokin' hot, other times its not but you can leave them to it. Stone people keep to their friends, others mingle & chat. Some single guys will follow women they like around the play areas but usually just hang about watching & hoping for an invite to join. This can happen on couples only nights too but less so. I like to call them the wanking dead but they are harmless really. Eye contact & smiling is a perfect invite to chat with anyone, and a firm 'no thanks' should divert anyone you aren't interested in, but any issues chat to the staff & they should help you right away xo"Some not stone* | |||
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"I’ve never been to a club and would love to know how you all found your very first experience… The good, the bad and the ugly, your top tips, no no’s, what to wear, best nights for a beginner to go etc. Thanks all "Youre in Newcastle so the closest club to you is Club Shhh and Club F. Can't comment on Club Shhhh (not been yet) but Club F is very welcoming to first timers. On our first go we where given a tour and told the Club rules which boils down to no means no and ladies rule the roost (and the staff will look out for you). They have lots of themed nights but Fridays are aimed at singles and Saturdays at couples and single ladies with a limited amount of guys allowed. It's always been a freindly crowd when weve gone. As for.what to wear, wear whatever you like. If you want to go dressed down you can get changed there. Many go dressed for a night out then dress down when they get there. All in all we recommend Club f for a first time visit but you can check out reviews for all clubs in the club section part of the site and make uour own mind up on where is best for you. | |||
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"Good point! The bar area is okay with clothes on, play areas need less. Some clubs have a time where the bar area also turns to less but not all so worth a check. You will see people doing everything, some times its smokin' hot, other times its not but you can leave them to it. Stone people keep to their friends, others mingle & chat. Some single guys will follow women they like around the play areas but usually just hang about watching & hoping for an invite to join. This can happen on couples only nights too but less so. I like to call them the wanking dead but they are harmless really. Eye contact & smiling is a perfect invite to chat with anyone, and a firm 'no thanks' should divert anyone you aren't interested in, but any issues chat to the staff & they should help you right away xo"The wanking dead haha yes I’ve heard that expression before. I wouldn’t want them getting too close, so would hope they’d respectfully back off, if not invited x | |||
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"Good. Stripped off and in the hot tubs pretty quick. Inhibitions meaningless. Nobody cares about size or shape. Very sociable. Recommend club F at Chester le Street, near you x
Is Shhh any good? Chester Le Street is a bit out the way for me x"Not been. I hear it's OK x | |||
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"I’ve never been to a club and would love to know how you all found your very first experience… The good, the bad and the ugly, your top tips, no no’s, what to wear, best nights for a beginner to go etc. Thanks all
Youre in Newcastle so the closest club to you is Club Shhh and Club F.
Can't comment on Club Shhhh (not been yet) but Club F is very welcoming to first timers.
On our first go we where given a tour and told the Club rules which boils down to no means no and ladies rule the roost (and the staff will look out for you).
They have lots of themed nights but Fridays are aimed at singles and Saturdays at couples and single ladies with a limited amount of guys allowed.
It's always been a freindly crowd when weve gone.
As for.what to wear, wear whatever you like. If you want to go dressed down you can get changed there. Many go dressed for a night out then dress down when they get there.
All in all we recommend Club f for a first time visit but you can check out reviews for all clubs in the club section part of the site and make uour own mind up on where is best for you.
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"I’ve never been to a club and would love to know how you all found your very first experience… The good, the bad and the ugly, your top tips, no no’s, what to wear, best nights for a beginner to go etc. Thanks all
Youre in Newcastle so the closest club to you is Club Shhh and Club F.
Can't comment on Club Shhhh (not been yet) but Club F is very welcoming to first timers.
On our first go we where given a tour and told the Club rules which boils down to no means no and ladies rule the roost (and the staff will look out for you).
They have lots of themed nights but Fridays are aimed at singles and Saturdays at couples and single ladies with a limited amount of guys allowed.
It's always been a freindly crowd when weve gone.
As for.what to wear, wear whatever you like. If you want to go dressed down you can get changed there. Many go dressed for a night out then dress down when they get there.
All in all we recommend Club f for a first time visit but you can check out reviews for all clubs in the club section part of the site and make uour own mind up on where is best for you.
Club F was my first club many moons ago, I remember finding it hard to spot the entrance initially but great once inside. The regulars were super chatty & friendly to first timers"Yes, it's lovely. The village is Stanley. Big red door and it's like a comfortable pub | |||
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"Youre in Newcastle so the closest club to you is Club Shhh and Club F. Can't comment on Club Shhhh (not been yet) but Club F is very welcoming to first timers. On our first go we where given a tour and told the Club rules which boils down to no means no and ladies rule the roost (and the staff will look out for you). They have lots of themed nights but Fridays are aimed at singles and Saturdays at couples and single ladies with a limited amount of guys allowed. It's always been a freindly crowd when weve gone. As for.what to wear, wear whatever you like. If you want to go dressed down you can get changed there. Many go dressed for a night out then dress down when they get there. All in all we recommend Club f for a first time visit but you can check out reviews for all clubs in the club section part of the site and make uour own mind up on where is best for you." Great advice, thank you. Seems like Club F is the place to start x | |||
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"Good point! The bar area is okay with clothes on, play areas need less. Some clubs have a time where the bar area also turns to less but not all so worth a check. You will see people doing everything, some times its smokin' hot, other times its not but you can leave them to it. Stone people keep to their friends, others mingle & chat. Some single guys will follow women they like around the play areas but usually just hang about watching & hoping for an invite to join. This can happen on couples only nights too but less so. I like to call them the wanking dead but they are harmless really. Eye contact & smiling is a perfect invite to chat with anyone, and a firm 'no thanks' should divert anyone you aren't interested in, but any issues chat to the staff & they should help you right away xo
The wanking dead haha yes I’ve heard that expression before. I wouldn’t want them getting too close, so would hope they’d respectfully back off, if not invited x"Most will loiter in the doorways, 1-2m away from you watching if your playing with someone, but the odd one may come close, but the no thanks should do the job, if you're in the bar they won't do this, just when you wander to the play area. If you like any, be prepared to make it really obvious with your eye contact so they know its OK to come over & chat in the bar. Or if your confident (I'm not) you can approach them. Its just chat in the bar, no pressure to play xo | |||
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"Im not a fan i got sex but got way more than i bargained for accidental gangbangs flying rogue winkys grabby cheeky cunt wanking dead and all that shite never again "Haha sorry that made me lol flying rogue winkys. I suppose that is what worries me, someone trying to touch without being invited.i hope they are few and far between x | |||
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"Youre in Newcastle so the closest club to you is Club Shhh and Club F. Can't comment on Club Shhhh (not been yet) but Club F is very welcoming to first timers. On our first go we where given a tour and told the Club rules which boils down to no means no and ladies rule the roost (and the staff will look out for you). They have lots of themed nights but Fridays are aimed at singles and Saturdays at couples and single ladies with a limited amount of guys allowed. It's always been a freindly crowd when weve gone. As for.what to wear, wear whatever you like. If you want to go dressed down you can get changed there. Many go dressed for a night out then dress down when they get there. All in all we recommend Club f for a first time visit but you can check out reviews for all clubs in the club section part of the site and make uour own mind up on where is best for you. Great advice, thank you. Seems like Club F is the place to start x" I can vouch for Club f being a great club. My best club experiences have all been in there, and it’s a great setup over three floors  | |||
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"Im not a fan i got sex but got way more than i bargained for accidental gangbangs flying rogue winkys grabby cheeky cunt wanking dead and all that shite never again
Haha sorry that made me lol flying rogue winkys. I suppose that is what worries me, someone trying to touch without being invited.i hope they are few and far between x"There's the wanking dead, but don't worry about random touches. There's plenty of people about to intervene x | |||
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"Is it acceptable to ask someone to stop watching if they were creeping you out or is it fair game that anyone can watch within close range if you’re in a more open space? "There are private rooms, with lockable doors and curtains. You don't have to 'perform' in front of others x | |||
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"There's the wanking dead, but don't worry about random touches. There's plenty of people about to intervene x" Do some clubs have security or do they just have the club hosts? | |||
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"Is it acceptable to ask someone to stop watching if they were creeping you out or is it fair game that anyone can watch within close range if you’re in a more open space? "I can't speak definitively for all clubs... But any which doesn't allow you to enforce yr consent should be left post haste. | |||
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"Is it acceptable to ask someone to stop watching if they were creeping you out or is it fair game that anyone can watch within close range if you’re in a more open space? "If you are in an open room it’s par for the course. If you don’t want to be watched go in a private room. | |||
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"Im not a fan i got sex but got way more than i bargained for accidental gangbangs flying rogue winkys grabby cheeky cunt wanking dead and all that shite never again
Haha sorry that made me lol flying rogue winkys. I suppose that is what worries me, someone trying to touch without being invited.i hope they are few and far between x"during 5 mins i had to do well over 10 judo chops to sneaky hands a few growls n snarls and drag a sneaky head from drying to get between her legs my advice take a body guard or 10 | |||
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If you are in an open room it’s par for the course. If you don’t want to be watched go in a private room. "yet in a bar thats sexual assault hmmm funny that  | |||
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"There's the wanking dead, but don't worry about random touches. There's plenty of people about to intervene x Do some clubs have security or do they just have the club hosts? " I haven't been to 1 with security as generally not needed. It is not like a standard bar with male behaviour (reality for many women in a normal club, is there are passing gropes, close body to body bumps & aggressive body language/chat, etc), single men in the swingers clubs I've been to are way more held back & mild in inital approach, the odd 1 may dial up to normal bar level but a 'no' would send them away where as in a normal bar you'd have all the backwards/forwards agg of saying no, I like women, I have a boyfriend, etc, etc. Also others around you, regulars etc, staff would deal with them sharpish if they did anything inappropriate or ignored your no. As others have said, there are open rooms & private rooms, so you play where you are comfortable, if at all xo | |||
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"during 5 mins i had to do well over 10 judo chops to sneaky hands a few growls n snarls and drag a sneaky head from drying to get between her legs my advice take a body guard or 10" Yeah that’s what I’m wondering, whether it might be worth going with another guy for the first time. Sad as it is, I think some blokes (of course not all, I’m sure most are very respectful) may pay more attention at being told to back off by another man? | |||
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"I’ve never been to a club and would love to know how you all found your very first experience… The good, the bad and the ugly, your top tips, no no’s, what to wear, best nights for a beginner to go etc. Thanks all "once upon a time...had my first club experience..i have to warn you..you might get addicted  ..as for expectations..just walk in,have no expectations and you might get more then you expect,relax(few shots of tequila might help)... | |||
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"Is it acceptable to ask someone to stop watching if they were creeping you out or is it fair game that anyone can watch within close range if you’re in a more open space? "My first experience was in club Shh, and I went with a playmate who was also a virgin clobber. The staff were very welcoming, gave us a tour and kept checking in with us through the night. Various rooms to play in and various rules/guidelines. So, in some more smaller and private rooms, you can choose to leave the door open and people cannot cross the threshold without your permission if you’re in that room playing. Or you can close the door, or leave it open for people to watch. All in all, it was a good introduction to a club. Plus it was quite quiet as I think it had just reopened after covid and a refurb. | |||
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"I haven't been to 1 with security as generally not needed. It is not like a standard bar with male behaviour (reality for many women in a normal club, is there are passing gropes, close body to body bumps & aggressive body language/chat, etc), single men in the swingers clubs I've been to are way more held back & mild in inital approach, the odd 1 may dial up to normal bar level but a 'no' would send them away where as in a normal bar you'd have all the backwards/forwards agg of saying no, I like women, I have a boyfriend, etc, etc. Also others around you, regulars etc, staff would deal with them sharpish if they did anything inappropriate or ignored your no. As others have said, there are open rooms & private rooms, so you play where you are comfortable, if at all xo" Thank you that reassurance appreciate all the feedback. For the most part it seems very positive. I think, as you’ve said, it’s just the unknown, as I only have experience of ‘normal’ bars and clubs which can be very sexually aggressive. I would hope that you are right and the men would be more respectful of your space and boundaries without an invitation x | |||
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"once upon a time...had my first club experience..i have to warn you..you might get addicted ..as for expectations..just walk in,have no expectations and you might get more then you expect,relax(few shots of tequila might help)... "Haha yes I can imagine it would get a bit addictive. I bet it gives such a buzz when you have a good experience x | |||
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"once upon a time...had my first club experience..i have to warn you..you might get addicted ..as for expectations..just walk in,have no expectations and you might get more then you expect,relax(few shots of tequila might help)...
Haha yes I can imagine it would get a bit addictive. I bet it gives such a buzz when you have a good experience x"well..you know that saying...be careful what you wish for...you might get it"  | |||
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"I haven't been to 1 with security as generally not needed. It is not like a standard bar with male behaviour (reality for many women in a normal club, is there are passing gropes, close body to body bumps & aggressive body language/chat, etc), single men in the swingers clubs I've been to are way more held back & mild in inital approach, the odd 1 may dial up to normal bar level but a 'no' would send them away where as in a normal bar you'd have all the backwards/forwards agg of saying no, I like women, I have a boyfriend, etc, etc. Also others around you, regulars etc, staff would deal with them sharpish if they did anything inappropriate or ignored your no. As others have said, there are open rooms & private rooms, so you play where you are comfortable, if at all xo Thank you that reassurance appreciate all the feedback. For the most part it seems very positive. I think, as you’ve said, it’s just the unknown, as I only have experience of ‘normal’ bars and clubs which can be very sexually aggressive. I would hope that you are right and the men would be more respectful of your space and boundaries without an invitation x"I was terrified my first time! But I soon loved it, even just wearing lingerie & being watched, watching. Its a rush. But you will see things that make you go omg too! Go with no intention to play the first time & if you hate it, you never have to go back! Then anything else will be a sexy fun bonus xo | |||
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"My first experience was in club Shh, and I went with a playmate who was also a virgin clobber. The staff were very welcoming, gave us a tour and kept checking in with us through the night. Various rooms to play in and various rules/guidelines. So, in some more smaller and private rooms, you can choose to leave the door open and people cannot cross the threshold without your permission if you’re in that room playing. Or you can close the door, or leave it open for people to watch. All in all, it was a good introduction to a club. Plus it was quite quiet as I think it had just reopened after covid and a refurb. " I really like that idea that they can watch from a specified distance and then can be invited in. I would feel much more comfortable with that. I’m just very selective and just because you might want to have fun with multiple people doesn’t mean your standards go out the window x | |||
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"My first experience was in club Shh, and I went with a playmate who was also a virgin clobber. The staff were very welcoming, gave us a tour and kept checking in with us through the night. Various rooms to play in and various rules/guidelines. So, in some more smaller and private rooms, you can choose to leave the door open and people cannot cross the threshold without your permission if you’re in that room playing. Or you can close the door, or leave it open for people to watch. All in all, it was a good introduction to a club. Plus it was quite quiet as I think it had just reopened after covid and a refurb. I really like that idea that they can watch from a specified distance and then can be invited in. I would feel much more comfortable with that. I’m just very selective and just because you might want to have fun with multiple people doesn’t mean your standards go out the window x" Best advice would be to go with a fella you’re comfortable with. Set out your ideas/plans with him and as long as he’s on board, get yourself over there, and get a feel for the club. I’m pretty sure at most places, single guys are limited, but I think you’ll be fine and you’ll get on with most people who you chat to. Get your first experience arranged and then take things from there x | |||
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"Best advice would be to go with a fella you’re comfortable with. Set out your ideas/plans with him and as long as he’s on board, get yourself over there, and get a feel for the club. I’m pretty sure at most places, single guys are limited, but I think you’ll be fine and you’ll get on with most people who you chat to. Get your first experience arranged and then take things from there x"Yes I think you’re right, that sounds like a good plan. Is it more popular to have club nights with majority of couples rather then single guys or girls? X | |||
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"Best advice would be to go with a fella you’re comfortable with. Set out your ideas/plans with him and as long as he’s on board, get yourself over there, and get a feel for the club. I’m pretty sure at most places, single guys are limited, but I think you’ll be fine and you’ll get on with most people who you chat to. Get your first experience arranged and then take things from there x
Yes I think you’re right, that sounds like a good plan. Is it more popular to have club nights with majority of couples rather then single guys or girls? X"I think that depends on what you are comfortable with. But I’d say there will be more couples at clubs than singles. You can always check out club reviews on fab on the homepage.And maybe chat to someone there, or try getting in touch with someone who has made a comment. Some clubs do have themed nights, so it’s always best to go to their website and check what’s on x | |||
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"I think that depends on what you are comfortable with. But I’d say there will be more couples at clubs than singles. You can always check out club reviews on fab on the homepage.And maybe chat to someone there, or try getting in touch with someone who has made a comment. Some clubs do have themed nights, so it’s always best to go to their website and check what’s on x" I sometimes worry that as a single girl (unicorn?) the female partner in a couple would be bitchy towards me, so didnt know if it would better to go a singles night, although I suppose the whole point of swinging is that they might like to share. I guess everyone just has slightly different preferences x | |||
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"I've never been to one and am wanting to try a club, I'd go with you." It’s pretty daunting isn’t it! The unknown!
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"I think that depends on what you are comfortable with. But I’d say there will be more couples at clubs than singles. You can always check out club reviews on fab on the homepage.And maybe chat to someone there, or try getting in touch with someone who has made a comment. Some clubs do have themed nights, so it’s always best to go to their website and check what’s on x I sometimes worry that as a single girl (unicorn?) the female partner in a couple would be bitchy towards me, so didnt know if it would better to go a singles night, although I suppose the whole point of swinging is that they might like to share. I guess everyone just has slightly different preferences x" You’re right, I have heard that can happen, even when you’ve arranged it with them. But I’d go with an open mind, I doubt that would happen, so just be yourself, have an idea of what you’d like to happen, and if you go with someone, at least you can have fun with them and try out a few rooms together. Just have fun x | |||
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"Is Shhh any good? Chester Le Street is a bit out the way for me x" We attended Shhh as our first (and so far only) club and we love it. A decent mix of people, nearly all the rooms have lockable doors so you can play in private, clean and tidy, good range of facilities. Definitely recommend. Happy to answer questions if you have any. | |||
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"This is all great advice! Thanks everyone! Think I’m going to speak to one of my girl friends and try and get something arranged. I’m confident enough to know my limits and would be ok to tell someone a polite but firm ‘no’. From what you’ve all said, the staff all sound great at the venues and that makes me feel reassured. I do think I’d find myself getting hooked, as most of you have suggested. It must be a great experience the majority of the time or their wouldn’t be thousands of us here would there "Single females are definitely in the minority in the clubs, so the staff really do look after you. You’re also particularly hot, so will never be short of attention. The hardest part for you, will be going through the front door for the first time, you’ll do very well once inside | |||
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"We attended Shhh as our first (and so far only) club and we love it. A decent mix of people, nearly all the rooms have lockable doors so you can play in private, clean and tidy, good range of facilities. Definitely recommend. Happy to answer questions if you have any." Thank you so much! Shhh would definitely be easier in terms of location so that may be my first port of call. Might do some research for the different nights to decide when may be best to go x | |||
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"Single females are definitely in the minority in the clubs, so the staff really do look after you. You’re also particularly hot, so will never be short of attention. The hardest part for you, will be going through the front door for the first time, you’ll do very well once inside "That’s good to know! Ah thank you! That’s very nice of you to say I do think I would enjoy it, and there would probably be no looking back after that, just taking that first step! X | |||
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"Single females are definitely in the minority in the clubs, so the staff really do look after you. You’re also particularly hot, so will never be short of attention. The hardest part for you, will be going through the front door for the first time, you’ll do very well once inside
That’s good to know! Ah thank you! That’s very nice of you to say I do think I would enjoy it, and there would probably be no looking back after that, just taking that first step! X "Club F also have on site accommodation if you get into the party spirit x | |||
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"Club F also have on site accommodation if you get into the party spirit x"That’s good to know - thank you! | |||
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"First club I went to was La Chambre (closed now) was a brilliant night - Introduced to loads of friendly people and told about Fab there … how it all started 5 years ago for me "And on that just treat it like going on a night out if anything happens great it’s a bonus, if not nothing lost I found it a good place to make friends and then from that they introduce you to their friends in the scene, it was almost like networking. | |||
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