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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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your energy.

So we all have them. Days when we're feeling more alert, high on life. Other days when we're in a lower mood/slump. Do you find it easy to listen to your body and change what you're doing? How do you manage it?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"your energy.

So we all have them. Days when we're feeling more alert, high on life. Other days when we're in a lower mood/slump. Do you find it easy to listen to your body and change what you're doing? How do you manage it? "

Generally? Coffee. Lots of it.

There are certain responsibilities that are 7 days a week and even if I'm feeling like I've been hit by a train and awake for a month, still need doing.

Not that healthy I know but it works.

The high energy days frustratingly seem to come when I have no real plans, nothing scheduled and logically should be used for rest and relaxation, but invariably I find myself either stressing because I'm looking for things to do that aren't there, or I end up sofa bound spending time on here or binge watching box sets.

My body is a dick. It usually decides to feel the opposite of how it needs to on any given day.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can turn my energy up. I can’t help it dropping into a downer, but I can turn it up when needed, I just imagine all the good positive stuff or people around me.

And that’s another thing, I feed off peoples energy like others will. You have good times with good people.

Which also means people can drop my mood pretty quickly too.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It depends on what I’m doing. As Obi posted, there are some things just just have to be done and in a certain way, with a certain energy.

If I’m feeling low energy or low mood, in my down time, I’m quite good at knowing and managing myself

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

It's sunny here. I feel more alive than if it's damp and miserable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is just a series of peaks and troughs, and you don't whether you're in a trough until you're climbing out, or on a peak until you're coming down.

And that's it, you know, you never know what's round the corner. But it's all good.

"If you want the rainbow you've got to put up with the rain".

Do you know which "philosopher" said that?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

My way of being productive is erratic to say the least. The more I need to do the more efficient I am.

I definitely have cycles which I now listen to more. In a month I have 2 weeks where I'm most productive and the other 2 aren't. So I now work to that timetable. If I need to get something done when I'm not really in the mindset for it. I'll pop on music, go for a walk and then get it done. And not be to harsh on myself if it's not what I deem perfect.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Life is just a series of peaks and troughs, and you don't whether you're in a trough until you're climbing out, or on a peak until you're coming down.

And that's it, you know, you never know what's round the corner. But it's all good.

"If you want the rainbow you've got to put up with the rain".

Do you know which "philosopher" said that?"

Sometimes I really miss your wise words E. It is all good.

And yep, the great bapped philosopher of love, work and being true to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On vibrant, energetic days I can overdo it and burn out if I'm not careful. Learning to pace myself is a work in progress. Low mood sluggish days are easier for me to deal with, probably because I've has more practice at them. Frustration and unproductiveness are very frequent feelings, either for not getting things done because I'm at a low ebb, or for not having somewhere to channel the high energy on a sparkly day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get as giddy as i used to i try exhaust myself thru the week by staying busy otherwise i bounce around like a tommyspinner bouncing off walls so end up going for a drive and overthinking my past

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

My body is always telling me to sit on the sofa.

So that is what I do

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I can turn my energy up. I can’t help it dropping into a downer, but I can turn it up when needed, I just imagine all the good positive stuff or people around me.

And that’s another thing, I feed off peoples energy like others will. You have good times with good people.

Which also means people can drop my mood pretty quickly too. "

Yes I get this but (and it's easier said than done) maybe we shouldn't let others hold the cards to our moods. Sure, we're human but why let it be detrimental and be such a big effect? Value ourselves a bit more, understand that people have moods that aren't our responsibility or fault and embrace how we feel without feeling beholden to another's whims. I definitely feed off energy from another. Can allow myself to be meh'd because of another's behaviour but it doesn't serve me. It's something I'm working on clearly and struck a chord!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life is just a series of peaks and troughs, and you don't whether you're in a trough until you're climbing out, or on a peak until you're coming down.

And that's it, you know, you never know what's round the corner. But it's all good.

"If you want the rainbow you've got to put up with the rain".

Do you know which "philosopher" said that?

Sometimes I really miss your wise words E. It is all good.

And yep, the great bapped philosopher of love, work and being true to yourself."

And people say she's just a big pair of tits.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I can turn my energy up. I can’t help it dropping into a downer, but I can turn it up when needed, I just imagine all the good positive stuff or people around me.

And that’s another thing, I feed off peoples energy like others will. You have good times with good people.

Which also means people can drop my mood pretty quickly too.

Yes I get this but (and it's easier said than done) maybe we shouldn't let others hold the cards to our moods. Sure, we're human but why let it be detrimental and be such a big effect? Value ourselves a bit more, understand that people have moods that aren't our responsibility or fault and embrace how we feel without feeling beholden to another's whims. I definitely feed off energy from another. Can allow myself to be meh'd because of another's behaviour but it doesn't serve me. It's something I'm working on clearly and struck a chord!"

100% this!

Tricky if it's your significant other that your talking about as you will always try to help raise their energy levels and mood because you love them, but even with them it can be good to occasionally just let someone dwell, work out their own mood and deal with it in their own way, as trying too hard or attempting help in the wrong way can certainly have the opposite effect to the one desired. Just be there if needed.

A

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By *aughty_Smooth_OperatorMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Generally listen to my body it was telling me this morning have two wanks before I go sleep not one

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Work is a real bear when I'm tired and I quickly burn out. So I just build in breaks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find if I have eaten early the previous evening that I have more energy 1st thing. I am aware when I'm more sluggish so have to make more effort to get motivated.

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

It's rare that I have a day when I can't pull myself up out of a slump. When I do I just accept, listen to what my body/mind is telling me and crack on with my day promising myself 'me time' as soon as I can. A bubblebath, lay on the bed with music, draw or sit amongst nature allows me to let the lows pass through.

I feed off other people's energy so I will avoid negative vibes at all costs!

Cherry

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Can allow myself to be meh'd because of another's behaviour but it doesn't serve me. It's something I'm working on clearly and struck a chord!

100% this!

Tricky if it's your significant other that your talking about as you will always try to help raise their energy levels and mood because you love them, but even with them it can be good to occasionally just let someone dwell, work out their own mood and deal with it in their own way, as trying too hard or attempting help in the wrong way can certainly have the opposite effect to the one desired. Just be there if needed.

A"

Yes, definitely. Knowing that you don't have to fix things and just as you sit with things, sometimes others need to, it's important that you don't become an emotional sponge. I do try and be there for people and probably err on the must fix line but getting better at stepping away and letting people navigate their own emotional wellbeing with out my well intentioned waffling check ins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think i read this properly before commenting did i

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"My way of being productive is erratic to say the least. The more I need to do the more efficient I am.

I definitely have cycles which I now listen to more. In a month I have 2 weeks where I'm most productive and the other 2 aren't. So I now work to that timetable. If I need to get something done when I'm not really in the mindset for it. I'll pop on music, go for a walk and then get it done. And not be to harsh on myself if it's not what I deem perfect. "

You don't need to be perfect. Not everything needs to be done perfectly. No one is perfect. And it's nigh on impossible to hold yourself up to a ridiculous standard and be perfect all the time.

Have you read up on a woman's cycle and the effect it has on the body/mood etc Frida? I'm guessing you have.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I dont get as giddy as i used to i try exhaust myself thru the week by staying busy otherwise i bounce around like a tommyspinner bouncing off walls so end up going for a drive and overthinking my past "

There's not one way to answer, Inevitable, on the fora. Ever.

Managing and listening to how you feel and adopting coping strategies is a good way to be.

I have phases of Tiggering so hard but know that I'll burn out if I keep it up/don't expend the energy so try and be very productive in that time otherwise I end up feeling really antsy and restless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The slump is age, the body starts changing in the 40s for men and women and the fix is exercise and good quality vitamins and supplements, testosterone replacement even the cheap ones on Amazon can make a big difference as they aren’t really testosterone merely a high dose vitamin that encourages testosterone to be released, thus turning said slumping male into a horny thirty something again, for the ladies glucosamine and other options should be looked at, lethargy will just kill us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a wank then a nap or vice versa

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"My way of being productive is erratic to say the least. The more I need to do the more efficient I am.

I definitely have cycles which I now listen to more. In a month I have 2 weeks where I'm most productive and the other 2 aren't. So I now work to that timetable. If I need to get something done when I'm not really in the mindset for it. I'll pop on music, go for a walk and then get it done. And not be to harsh on myself if it's not what I deem perfect.

You don't need to be perfect. Not everything needs to be done perfectly. No one is perfect. And it's nigh on impossible to hold yourself up to a ridiculous standard and be perfect all the time.

Have you read up on a woman's cycle and the effect it has on the body/mood etc Frida? I'm guessing you have."

I have indeed read up on how body and mood are effected by their monthly cycles. And I can predict fairly accurately when my most productive days are and those that are not. So if I have to for example give an important talk, I try and schedule it on one of those days. For me personally learning about my cycle has been a massive game changer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont get as giddy as i used to i try exhaust myself thru the week by staying busy otherwise i bounce around like a tommyspinner bouncing off walls so end up going for a drive and overthinking my past

There's not one way to answer, Inevitable, on the fora. Ever.

Managing and listening to how you feel and adopting coping strategies is a good way to be.

I have phases of Tiggering so hard but know that I'll burn out if I keep it up/don't expend the energy so try and be very productive in that time otherwise I end up feeling really antsy and restless. "
ooo yeah i get that i was like that last night woke up after 2 hours sleep cos i was still giddy from the rugby game i played earlier wound me right up trying to nod off

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Have you read up on a woman's cycle and the effect it has on the body/mood etc Frida? I'm guessing you have.

I have indeed read up on how body and mood are effected by their monthly cycles. And I can predict fairly accurately when my most productive days are and those that are not. So if I have to for example give an important talk, I try and schedule it on one of those days. For me personally learning about my cycle has been a massive game changer.

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Yes! I do similar - schedule certain things (like discussing courses, salary, owner meetings) on certain weeks because I know that I'll be performing better, able to think more clearly and be the more optimized version of myself. I know that the next few days are definitely a certain stage of it so I'm organising a last minute shopping trip with a good friend, booked a gym class... small things that go with my natural state rather than fight against it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life is just a series of peaks and troughs, and you don't whether you're in a trough until you're climbing out, or on a peak until you're coming down.

And that's it, you know, you never know what's round the corner. But it's all good.

"If you want the rainbow you've got to put up with the rain".

Do you know which "philosopher" said that?"

Don't know who but I like it.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"”If you want the rainbow you've got to put up with the rain".

Do you know which "philosopher" said that?

Don't know who but I like it. "

Zippy, George or Bungle?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I drink more Lucozade if I'm exhausted.

Some days I walk to my local shop to get myself moving.

Some days I just rest.

On the rare occasion I'm having a very energetic day I'll do my floors

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