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when was the last time you changed your mind ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When was the last time you changed your mind on something you were emotionally invested in to believe ?

When was the last time you changed your mind on something you had to challenge your own biases on ?

When was the last time someone you didn't like changed your mind on a topic ?

People like to believe they are capable of objective thought and many are not .

I'd like to think a swinging crowd may be a little more open minded than a general population sample but that may be my own bias also dictating that narrative in my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

I used to believe all smack heads were irredeemable wasters and were better off staying clear of until I met an addict at work who was one of the loveliest people I ever met, sadly the smack got him in the end RIP. But I stay open minded now with people struggling with addiction.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"When was the last time you changed your mind on something you were emotionally invested in to believe ?

When was the last time you changed your mind on something you had to challenge your own biases on ?

When was the last time someone you didn't like changed your mind on a topic ?

People like to believe they are capable of objective thought and many are not .

I'd like to think a swinging crowd may be a little more open minded than a general population sample but that may be my own bias also dictating that narrative in my head."

An open mind sexually doesn't mean having the intelligence to confront alleged personal biases and change old programming.

C

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to believe all smack heads were irredeemable wasters and were better off staying clear of until I met an addict at work who was one of the loveliest people I ever met, sadly the smack got him in the end RIP. But I stay open minded now with people struggling with addiction."

Absolutely fantastic example !

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Sorry O.P. but in my experience a swinging crowd are after sex not an hour of critical analysis of their own prejudices and bias....

Pssssst. I used to think only the open minded would swing.... turns out they are hormone driven to a huge extent

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Because of my work I have to challenge my biases everyday in an unstructured way, and every week in structured supervision. That’s only the biases at work though. I am sometimes too drained after work to reflective and question myself regularly.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I don't change my mind as per se, its more that it evolves to be more tolerable, so they are not all twats, only some are

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I can't answer the questions to be fair. There are too many elements to each.

I'll go for number 1. I used to believe that people would do the right thing. Over the years I learned that there are no absolutes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry O.P. but in my experience a swinging crowd are after sex not an hour of critical analysis of their own prejudices and bias....

Pssssst. I used to think only the open minded would swing.... turns out they are hormone driven to a huge extent "

Nothing to apologise for. There's a forum section on covid. Not sure how many people want covid lol . There's a diverse range of people on here. If they want to comment tbey can. If they don't want to they don't have to. Simple as that really , much like any otber thread x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other day

I was of the opinion that girls football was meh but the right winger mead i think her name is has a hell of a lot of talent the whip and accuracy she gets on the ball when crossing is as good as anyone iv seen cross a ball since becks i think the lack of a ball bag actually helps a lot with this

Thats my mind changed

Maybe yhats why becks was so squeeky

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The other day

I was of the opinion that girls football was meh but the right winger mead i think her name is has a hell of a lot of talent the whip and accuracy she gets on the ball when crossing is as good as anyone iv seen cross a ball since becks i think the lack of a ball bag actually helps a lot with this

Thats my mind changed

Maybe yhats why becks was so squeeky"

That's a great awareness of yourself and fair play challenging your own thoughts. It's another great example ! Something I like about the women's game is I think it tends to be more honest than the men's .

As for the quality , hard to match the mens but as a qualifier there is a hell of a lot of investment and a lot more men play the game. Proportionally speaking , it's fantastic and the games I have watched I have enjoyed .

Your analysis of lack of ball bag has me in stitches laughing !

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Fairly recently. It's one of the challenges and privileges of some facets of my work

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

West Sussex and Wales

I am a stubborn old goat and it is hard for me to change my mind on anything once I have an opinion. However, I am always happy to hear the opinion of others, even if it is not aligned with my own without judgement and am always open to being persuaded by a well thought out and researched defence of position that has not been gleaned for the Sunday sport, QAnon or Wikipedia. Last time I changed my mind on anything was a political thing in a Scottish election when I was persuaded to vote for Alex Salmond, not because he was a SNP member of parliament and I am not naturally inclined to vote that way, but because of his record as an MP for his constituency regardless of his constituents political beliefs

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"[Removed by poster at 29/07/22 14:24:34]"

^^ Then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 29/07/22 14:24:34]

^^ Then "

Do what?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Sorry O.P. but in my experience a swinging crowd are after sex not an hour of critical analysis of their own prejudices and bias....

Pssssst. I used to think only the open minded would swing.... turns out they are hormone driven to a huge extent

Nothing to apologise for. There's a forum section on covid. Not sure how many people want covid lol . There's a diverse range of people on here. If they want to comment tbey can. If they don't want to they don't have to. Simple as that really , much like any otber thread x"

Hmmmmm

I wasn't commenting on the thread content...... I was commenting on what you 'thought' swingers might be like.

Nil pois !

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"[Removed by poster at 29/07/22 14:24:34]

^^ Then

Do what? "

I can’t say

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

I eventually had to agree with lots of other people about the earth being round NOT flat !!

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Yesterday, not sure what I did with the nappy though

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By *ev257Man
over a year ago

cardiff

A few seconds ago.

I wasn't going to look at this post n last second I did click on this post n open it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am a stubborn old goat and it is hard for me to change my mind on anything once I have an opinion. However, I am always happy to hear the opinion of others, even if it is not aligned with my own without judgement and am always open to being persuaded by a well thought out and researched defence of position that has not been gleaned for the Sunday sport, QAnon or Wikipedia. Last time I changed my mind on anything was a political thing in a Scottish election when I was persuaded to vote for Alex Salmond, not because he was a SNP member of parliament and I am not naturally inclined to vote that way, but because of his record as an MP for his constituency regardless of his constituents political beliefs "

I like that example ! Fair play to you !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fairly recently. It's one of the challenges and privileges of some facets of my work

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May I ask what it was ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other day

I was of the opinion that girls football was meh but the right winger mead i think her name is has a hell of a lot of talent the whip and accuracy she gets on the ball when crossing is as good as anyone iv seen cross a ball since becks i think the lack of a ball bag actually helps a lot with this

Thats my mind changed

Maybe yhats why becks was so squeeky

That's a great awareness of yourself and fair play challenging your own thoughts. It's another great example ! Something I like about the women's game is I think it tends to be more honest than the men's .

As for the quality , hard to match the mens but as a qualifier there is a hell of a lot of investment and a lot more men play the game. Proportionally speaking , it's fantastic and the games I have watched I have enjoyed .

Your analysis of lack of ball bag has me in stitches laughing !"
no awareness rwquired i just saw a right winger most of the others were chaff but that girl has a gift

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