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By *oublethefun OP Man
over a year ago

royston

Why is it that so many single guys wishing to meet couples for mmf fun or wish to fuck a married couple so they can fuck the wife in front of there hubby, don't ever go to sex clubs!!!.

When asked if they go to clubs they all seem to say they would love to go but they feel intimidated at the thought of going on their own.!!!.

If that is the case how on earth are they ever going to have the nerve of meeting a couple for mmf fun let along perform in front of the male half!!!.

I'm sure they would feel far more comfortable being at a club were their are others in the same boat and at the very least can get to chat to others or be able to watch what goes on. Your thoughts.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"Why is it that so many single guys wishing to meet couples for mmf fun or wish to fuck a married couple so they can fuck the wife in front of there hubby, don't ever go to sex clubs!!!.

When asked if they go to clubs they all seem to say they would love to go but they feel intimidated at the thought of going on their own.!!!.

If that is the case how on earth are they ever going to have the nerve of meeting a couple for mmf fun let along perform in front of the male half!!!.

I'm sure they would feel far more comfortable being at a club were their are others in the same boat and at the very least can get to chat to others or be able to watch what goes on. Your thoughts. "

I’m too handsome, I wouldn’t want to make anyone feel inferior

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More chance of success at a club than in here - especially to begin with.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

It’s 2-3x the price as a single male

Everyone in there looks at you like some kinda of disgusting pervert criminal that can’t control himself until you prove them otherwise

Is anyone surprised lots of men turn down paying a small fortune to go somewhere they aren’t wanted?

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Why is it that so many single guys wishing to meet couples for mmf fun or wish to fuck a married couple so they can fuck the wife in front of there hubby, don't ever go to sex clubs!!!

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I'm sure they would feel far more comfortable being at a club were their are others in the same boat. "

It could be perceived that there’s a general hostility to single dudes on fab (though there isn’t in reality), largely due to the fact that there’s a lot of melts out there who send abusive messages etc. I’m sure this probably carries over into some single men assuming the same extends to clubs.

FWIW, I’d also assume most single guys would rather be the only single guy there rather than one of many single guys in the same boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its more personal just the 3 of you, some just like it that way and not with a crowd looking over their shoulder

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

I've been on here numerous times.

Have always felt welcomed and made some good friends from the site.(couples/singles)but live in a small area,so most have seen me around or in the pub (pre c0vid)

I think sometimes some men don't do themselves any favours with the constant negativity.

Would love to go to a club but I think the one's near me all closed down

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

There’s the cost as has been mentioned, but as someone who does go, given the chance, the nights where single men are allowed in are often a really high ratio of single men which can be intimidating for those people who don’t always find it easy to walk up to strangers and start a conversation, or maybe, if they haven’t ever been, then their expectations of what that must be like could also be intimidating, as might the idea that if they did get lucky and meet someone that they might then have to ‘perform’ in public which could certainly induce a little softening nervousness in many guys.

We could almost do with there being some willing volunteers to agree to meet a guy to go into the club with, with no expectation that they will have sex with them, but just to have someone to attach themselves to for a little while until they feel a bit more comfortable in their surroundings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to go to my local club La Chambre quite often. It was 10 minutes away and very cheap to get in, I loved it there!

Unfortunately the ones I’ve looked at are quite expensive with the initial joining fee and entry price and are at least 30 miles from me not that it’s an issue but it all adds up if you take travelling into it and maybe a hotel, then who knows it might be a quiet night. I’d rather arrange a private meet than do that personally.

I really have no need to go these days - I would if I was new to the scene though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s the cost as has been mentioned, but as someone who does go, given the chance, the nights where single men are allowed in are often a really high ratio of single men which can be intimidating for those people who don’t always find it easy to walk up to strangers and start a conversation, or maybe, if they haven’t ever been, then their expectations of what that must be like could also be intimidating, as might the idea that if they did get lucky and meet someone that they might then have to ‘perform’ in public which could certainly induce a little softening nervousness in many guys.

I'd go with you and hold ya hand if you're shy, Jack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s 2-3x the price as a single male

Everyone in there looks at you like some kinda of disgusting pervert criminal that can’t control himself until you prove them otherwise

Is anyone surprised lots of men turn down paying a small fortune to go somewhere they aren’t wanted?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd find going to a club on my own intimidating. And as a single woman I'd be quite welcome I'd imagine. So I can understand why some guys are put off.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I'd go with you and hold ya hand if you're shy, Jack

Haha, I would happily pretend to be a club newbie for that.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

"I'd find going to a club on my own intimidating. And as a single woman I'd be quite welcome I'd imagine. So I can understand why some guys are put off. "

I would happily return the favour too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd go with you and hold ya hand if you're shy, Jack

Haha, I would happily pretend to be a club newbie for that. "

Whereas I am in fact the swinging club newbie!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Maybe they like the idea of the husband watching but don't like the idea of random strangers watching and wanking?

I'm not an exhibitionist, so I find clubs incredibly off-putting. They aren't a universal answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met couples for yrs but would never or interested in clubs I'd rather not meet.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

"Maybe they like the idea of the husband watching but don't like the idea of random strangers watching and wanking?

I'm not an exhibitionist, so I find clubs incredibly off-putting. They aren't a universal answer."

But clubs have lockable private rooms, no exhibitionism is necessarily required

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I wouldn't go to a club on my own so I understand why a man may not want to.

I don't see how having sex in a club environment and having sex as a threesome in private are seen as the same thing. To me they would be completely different scenarios.

If it is an issue for ye op then just concentrate on meeting men who attend clubs rather than acting like those who don't are somehow less capable of great sex.

I also don't agree with men having to pay more to go to a club but that's another issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s 2-3x the price as a single male

Everyone in there looks at you like some kinda of disgusting pervert criminal that can’t control himself until you prove them otherwise

Is anyone surprised lots of men turn down paying a small fortune to go somewhere they aren’t wanted?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't go to a club on my own so I understand why a man may not want to.

I don't see how having sex in a club environment and having sex as a threesome in private are seen as the same thing. To me they would be completely different scenarios.

If it is an issue for ye op then just concentrate on meeting men who attend clubs rather than acting like those who don't are somehow less capable of great sex.

I also don't agree with men having to pay more to go to a club but that's another issue. "

It's totally different scenarios!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Single man. Love clubs. Go on my own all the time. It's an age/experience thing. Treat it like you're going to a bar, but everyone is naked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its ok i dont wish to share anyones mrs i dont do sharing

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

The average price for a single guy into a club is £25-£40 depending on when you go.

Single ladies £5-£10, quite a disparity

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Why is it that so many single guys wishing to meet couples for mmf fun or wish to fuck a married couple so they can fuck the wife in front of there hubby, don't ever go to sex clubs!!!.

When asked if they go to clubs they all seem to say they would love to go but they feel intimidated at the thought of going on their own.!!!.

If that is the case how on earth are they ever going to have the nerve of meeting a couple for mmf fun let along perform in front of the male half!!!.

I'm sure they would feel far more comfortable being at a club were their are others in the same boat and at the very least can get to chat to others or be able to watch what goes on. Your thoughts. "

I've never been to a club but my first meet here was a MFM with a married couple.

Not going to clubs doesn't mean it can't or won't happen but it does make it less likely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The average price for a single guy into a club is £25-£40 depending on when you go.

Single ladies £5-£10, quite a disparity"

And for some clubs the initial annual membership fee on top of that which is usually the same and the entrance fee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The average price for a single guy into a club is £25-£40 depending on when you go.

Single ladies £5-£10, quite a disparity

And for some clubs the initial annual membership fee on top of that which is usually the same and the entrance fee "
dunno about you but im not paying that for a chance to hide the sausage when i can get it free at the mutton isle in THE asda

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The average price for a single guy into a club is £25-£40 depending on when you go.

Single ladies £5-£10, quite a disparity

And for some clubs the initial annual membership fee on top of that which is usually the same and the entrance fee "

that's a lot of money in these straightened times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I’ll stay home , have a wank and subscribe to Sky Sports instead

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"The average price for a single guy into a club is £25-£40 depending on when you go.

Single ladies £5-£10, quite a disparity

And for some clubs the initial annual membership fee on top of that which is usually the same and the entrance fee "

Closest one to me is 35 entry and 85 per year membership, it's crazy prices. Add on fuel to get there and back and a hotel room after and it's really expensive.

It's like a mini trip to Disney

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

It is intimidating to go to a club (I'm not speaking from experience here). But I've heard couples and singles both men and women say they're nervous about going.

It's much less scary approaching a couple online than it is approaching a building full of strangers.

I have had fun with a couple but have never gone to a club. But it is definitely on my list on my list.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Why is the answer to every single males problem, go to a club? Maybe just maybe that not everyone feels comfortable in that environment. Even if they have never been to one you can build up an image that doesn’t seem that appealing.

Marc

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

OP, I did as you say in Swindon when visiting relatives and paid the fee, was totally on my own, stood alone not creeping anyone out and chatted to a few friendly coiples and females but not many. What the problem was for me was feeling let down by the creepy actions of many of the single men there and didn't want to be judged the same so will never go alone to a club again.

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove

"Why is it that so many single guys wishing to meet couples for mmf fun or wish to fuck a married couple so they can fuck the wife in front of there hubby, don't ever go to sex clubs!!!.

When asked if they go to clubs they all seem to say they would love to go but they feel intimidated at the thought of going on their own.!!!.

If that is the case how on earth are they ever going to have the nerve of meeting a couple for mmf fun let along perform in front of the male half!!!.

I'm sure they would feel far more comfortable being at a club were their are others in the same boat and at the very least can get to chat to others or be able to watch what goes on. Your thoughts. "

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Most of the male profiles I look at that’s exactly what they’re looking for, very few seem to be looking to meet a single F unless they’ve got one of their mates standing in the wings for a MFM

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I've been to several clubs over the years and have had zero success with anyone.

A lot of socialising goes on but not enough fucking.

I stopped going after my 10th time or so. On average its a £60 entry and that's an average. The majority of couples want to meet couples rather than single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone has to love clubs, it’s way more nerve wracking going to a club than meeting outside of one.

Remember that some people are introverted and won’t find a club fun! Going to clubs really takes it out of my introverted self. I’ve still been to them but I really have to psyche myself up.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

"The average price for a single guy into a club is £25-£40 depending on when you go.

Single ladies £5-£10, quite a disparity"

Wow! What clubs do you go to? That's cheap. I don't think I've ever paid under £60 for entry to a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The average price for a single guy into a club is £25-£40 depending on when you go.

Single ladies £5-£10, quite a disparity

Wow! What clubs do you go to? That's cheap. I don't think I've ever paid under £60 for entry to a club

Surrey is an expensive part of the country!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Maybe they don't like an audience? I know I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we've been to some club nights where men dont seem welcomed full stop ... there are lots of anti single men couples mainly male lead as they dont want single guys getting what they think is theirs ie thiers wives and other wives ... alot of strange couples like that

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

I'm sure they would feel far more comfortable being at a club were their are others in the same boat and at the very least can get to chat to others or be able to watch what goes on. Your thoughts. "

Why are you so sure single guys will feel more comfortable at club/public ambience than in intimate/private? Just a few of us are exhibitionist. I’ve been to a clubs and private meets. Few visit to a clubs were very successful, others not that much…

And yeah, clubs are not welcoming place for single dudes starting from 2-3 x entrance fee, tiny(or absence) of male changing room etc. Totally understand these who say no to a club.

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

I suppose I can understand why not just single guys but anyone seems to have worries about going to a club

My simple advice is treat the club like any other social gathering chat with folks go in with no expectations and simple enjoy your self ....if you come out having simply spoken to someone treat it like you've achieved what you set out to do.

I regularly go to clubs either on my own or with my FWB and I always leave happy

These guys who say they have issues with going to a club need to pick the right evening to go,treat it like a normal club ,talk to people ,relax ,and expect nothing

Follow those rules and trust me you will have a great time

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"The average price for a single guy into a club is £25-£40 depending on when you go.

Single ladies £5-£10, quite a disparity

Wow! What clubs do you go to? That's cheap. I don't think I've ever paid under £60 for entry to a club

Sounds like you got mugged to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The average price for a single guy into a club is £25-£40 depending on when you go.

Single ladies £5-£10, quite a disparity

And for some clubs the initial annual membership fee on top of that which is usually the same

Closest one to me is 35 entry and 85 per year membership, it's crazy prices. Add on fuel to get there and back and a hotel room after and it's really expensive.

It's like a mini trip to Disney

Exactly! It’s crazy when you add it all up stick another tenner on for drinks

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I suppose I can understand why not just single guys but anyone seems to have worries about going to a club

I regularly go to clubs either on my own or with my FWB and I always leave happy

These guys who say they have issues with going to a club need to pick the right evening to go,treat it like a normal club ,talk to people ,relax ,and expect nothing

Follow those rules and trust me you will have a great time

He’s quite right. Also chaperoned newbies with nsa.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"The average price for a single guy into a club is £25-£40 depending on when you go.

Single ladies £5-£10, quite a disparity

And for some clubs the initial annual membership fee on top of that which is usually the same

Closest one to me is 35 entry and 85 per year membership, it's crazy prices. Add on fuel to get there and back and a hotel room after and it's really expensive.

It's like a mini trip to Disney

Exactly! It’s crazy when you add it all up stick another tenner on for drinks

Yeah the only good thing is with my nearest you take your own drink

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