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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All jokes aside about me and numb nuts getting hitched (its totally not serious and just a giggle)

What were the big changes for you couples who have been there done that/still living it?

My grandmother didn't live with her husband before hand so she found it a little bit challenging to adapt at first.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Bit difficult for me, i lived with one guy and had no children so that wasnt to bad apart from him being a twat.

When i got married i was heavily pregnant in fact we had only been married 2 months when i had callum so it was mostly concentrating on the baby, we had only live together since the march so hadnt really had any time to ourselves.

Would never live with anyone again, i bloody love living on my own and jay feels the same

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All jokes aside about me and numb nuts getting hitched (its totally not serious and just a giggle)

What were the big changes for you couples who have been there done that/still living it?

My grandmother didn't live with her husband before hand so she found it a little bit challenging to adapt at first."

Numb nuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All jokes aside about me and numb nuts getting hitched (its totally not serious and just a giggle)

What were the big changes for you couples who have been there done that/still living it?

My grandmother didn't live with her husband before hand so she found it a little bit challenging to adapt at first.

Numb nuts "

Go to the thread u r sposed to be confessing on .............. lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Numb nuts "

you knew your name then lol

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"All jokes aside about me and numb nuts getting hitched (its totally not serious and just a giggle)

What were the big changes for you couples who have been there done that/still living it?

My grandmother didn't live with her husband before hand so she found it a little bit challenging to adapt at first.

Numb nuts "

She's put it in writing!

I'd sue if I was you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Numb nuts

you knew your name then lol "

Hmmm just you wait 27 days to think of revenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having to be there to cook his meal, make tea, not being able to see my family when i wanted to.

having to clean up the mess he makes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ( Lucy) have been married 3 times, all ended in divorce because of one thing or another!

Luke has never been married, and he really wants to get to married? Bless him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest challenge you face is picking all your dirty knickers and putting them in the wash instead of leaving them strewn across the floor for three weeks. Girls are so messy when they know a man won't see the mess they make (I've been in enough girls hotel rooms on holiday when I was younger to know this is true lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ( Lucy) have been married 3 times, all ended in divorce because of one thing or another!

Luke has never been married, and he really wants to get to married? Bless him "

Sod that. I'm on my second marriage and if that ever failed that would be it for me. My parents wouldn't come to a third wedding anyway.

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By *upitersmileCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Marriage changed everything for the worse for me

The day I married my ex I truly believed we'd grow old together and that I loved him. How blissfully ignorant and neive I was!! We'd been living together for two years and baby was 10mths old, but as soon as he put that ring on my finger it all went down hill. The crontroling and jealously quickly set in and within weeks I felt worthless. He took the view that everything I did had to go through him because I was 'his'. I'd kicked him out before our first anniversary (unknowly pregnant), took him back after he got anger management (court ordered) but then we split for good a month after our second anniversary. My parents were still paying for the wedding!!

Marriage is not something I'm against however it's unlikely I'd do it again. I'm not that neive 19yo anymore.

However I would change one single day, it's made me strong and I know exactly who I am and what I want. I don't need a man....I want one (or serveral when time permits lol)

What I have with Michael is more than I ever dreamed of with my ex, why change something that's so close to perfect?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both of us have been married before, dave brought alot of baggage with him from his first one,.caused alot of hurt, but we worked through it and last year we renewed our vows, so ive doubly got him

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By *indylou47Woman
over a year ago

BOLTON

I met my OH when I was 17. We've been married for 30 years we're as happy now as we were when we married. We've been through difficult times together and that just made us stronger

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We met when I was 14 and were best friends, getting together when we were both 16. When my mum moved house when I was 20 he moved in (he used to stay several nights a week and she'd feed him and do his ironing, so she figured he may as well move in and then he could pay rent!) We then bought our own house the following year and got married when we were 25.

Nothing massively changed when we bought a house as opposed to living at my mum's (except we were even skinter). Marriage felt different but didn't really bring many changes other than I now had a husband (I even kept (and still use) my maiden name) However, it *is* different (for us, anyway), but I can't explain it.

Much as he's a pain in the arse a lot of the time and frequently sticks up stupid statuses on this profile he's still mine and I generally wouldn't be without him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All jokes aside about me and numb nuts getting hitched (its totally not serious and just a giggle)

What were the big changes for you couples who have been there done that/still living it?

My grandmother didn't live with her husband before hand so she found it a little bit challenging to adapt at first.

Numb nuts "

They will be once she's finished with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married life is like normal life, but with all the joy sucked from it!

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By *upitersmileCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Married life is like normal life, but with all the joy sucked from it! "

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Married life is like normal life, but with all the joy sucked from it! "
and god the ear ache

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

keep the advises coming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

congratulations cute

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Works great for me.....and has done for a quarter of a century

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"congratulations cute "

i am not married lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"congratulations cute

i am not married lol"

YET

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time i got married i was very young and did what i thought was right due to being pregnant and not wanting to be a single mum etc but after a couple of years of neglect and mental torture i was at breaking point.

Then i was shopping locally and met up with one of my first ever boyfriends after years and he invited me to a family party so i thought bugger it and asked mum to look after my son for a while, Went to his dads party and saw what families were meant to be all about not taking people for granted and treating them like dogs.

We did end up having a kiss and cuddle but no more as he knew i was married but also saw i needed help out of my marriage quickly for my own sanity and for the safety of my son then when my then husband sold all my sons xmas stuff to buy a car the old flame hit the roof took me away to hi flat told ex hubby to f*** off and she was filing for divorce

2 years after that we divorced finally and he proposed to me taking on me and my son as his own.

It was the best thing that ever happened to me and now wouldnt change my life for the entire world i have lovely kids a safe home and a husband who loves me and we also swing together.

What more could a woman want in life ? Go for it Sassy and hope you have as much love and luck as i have had xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First time i got married i was very young and did what i thought was right due to being pregnant and not wanting to be a single mum etc but after a couple of years of neglect and mental torture i was at breaking point.

Then i was shopping locally and met up with one of my first ever boyfriends after years and he invited me to a family party so i thought bugger it and asked mum to look after my son for a while, Went to his dads party and saw what families were meant to be all about not taking people for granted and treating them like dogs.

We did end up having a kiss and cuddle but no more as he knew i was married but also saw i needed help out of my marriage quickly for my own sanity and for the safety of my son then when my then husband sold all my sons xmas stuff to buy a car the old flame hit the roof took me away to hi flat told ex hubby to f*** off and she was filing for divorce

2 years after that we divorced finally and he proposed to me taking on me and my son as his own.

It was the best thing that ever happened to me and now wouldnt change my life for the entire world i have lovely kids a safe home and a husband who loves me and we also swing together.

What more could a woman want in life ? Go for it Sassy and hope you have as much love and luck as i have had xx "

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By *edbagioMan
over a year ago

ripon


"I ( Lucy) have been married 3 times, all ended in divorce because of one thing or another!

Luke has never been married, and he really wants to get to married? Bless him "
3 as in 3 times

3 3 why ?never again for me had a good one whent bad never going there again

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I got married... never ever ever again.. Take one hell of a guy to change my mind...

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I could'nt get used to the change of name,still don't think im old enough to be called Mrs .....

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I could'nt get used to the change of name,still don't think im old enough to be called Mrs .....

"

I hate being called Mrs, the only person that used to call me it was the school

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

"

but surely all the good times must count for something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happily single, happily staying that way been there and done the marriage thing once

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

"
I think that can be said for any loving relationship, married or not. xx

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"Happily single, happily staying that way been there and done the marriage thing once "

+1

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

but surely all the good times must count for something? "

They were good at the time, but the memories are tainted with sadness, knowing that there won't be any more good times with that person.

It's difficult to explain to someone who hasn't been in that situation, just how much it can affect your thoughts, actions and memories.

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

I think that can be said for any loving relationship, married or not. xx"

True.

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

We have been together since school, lived together for a few years before we got married. Had a nice holiday (honeymoon) after the wedding then came home and carried on just as before. We both believed very early on that we were just meant to be together and nothing has changed, sounds a bit cringe worthy but that’s just the way it is 26 years and going strong. xxxx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

but surely all the good times must count for something?

They were good at the time, but the memories are tainted with sadness, knowing that there won't be any more good times with that person.

It's difficult to explain to someone who hasn't been in that situation, just how much it can affect your thoughts, actions and memories."

I think most people have had their heart broken at some time, you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on otherwise it can affect your future happiness

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

but surely all the good times must count for something?

They were good at the time, but the memories are tainted with sadness, knowing that there won't be any more good times with that person.

It's difficult to explain to someone who hasn't been in that situation, just how much it can affect your thoughts, actions and memories.

I think most people have had their heart broken at some time, you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on otherwise it can affect your future happiness"

Very true, and I have/am doing so. Still have down days, but am generally positive.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

but surely all the good times must count for something?

They were good at the time, but the memories are tainted with sadness, knowing that there won't be any more good times with that person.

It's difficult to explain to someone who hasn't been in that situation, just how much it can affect your thoughts, actions and memories.

I think most people have had their heart broken at some time, you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on otherwise it can affect your future happiness

Very true, and I have/am doing so. Still have down days, but am generally positive."
It certainly changes you, but unless you have been through it you cant possibly empathise

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

but surely all the good times must count for something?

They were good at the time, but the memories are tainted with sadness, knowing that there won't be any more good times with that person.

It's difficult to explain to someone who hasn't been in that situation, just how much it can affect your thoughts, actions and memories.

I think most people have had their heart broken at some time, you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on otherwise it can affect your future happiness

Very true, and I have/am doing so. Still have down days, but am generally positive.It certainly changes you, but unless you have been through it you cant possibly empathise "

I agree, ive had more failed relationships than ive had hot dinners

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

but surely all the good times must count for something?

They were good at the time, but the memories are tainted with sadness, knowing that there won't be any more good times with that person.

It's difficult to explain to someone who hasn't been in that situation, just how much it can affect your thoughts, actions and memories.

I think most people have had their heart broken at some time, you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on otherwise it can affect your future happiness

Very true, and I have/am doing so. Still have down days, but am generally positive.

It certainly changes you, but unless you have been through it you cant possibly empathise "

That's so right, but wouldn't wish it on anyone just so they can understand.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

but surely all the good times must count for something?

They were good at the time, but the memories are tainted with sadness, knowing that there won't be any more good times with that person.

It's difficult to explain to someone who hasn't been in that situation, just how much it can affect your thoughts, actions and memories.

I think most people have had their heart broken at some time, you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on otherwise it can affect your future happiness

Very true, and I have/am doing so. Still have down days, but am generally positive.It certainly changes you, but unless you have been through it you cant possibly empathise

I agree, ive had more failed relationships than ive had hot dinners"
Everything is always so good until it goes tits up, i dont think you can prepare yourself for it....im glad i am in a happy place years on now though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ideally i would love to be married but seeing what some of my friends have gone through and reading some of the stories on here i will stay single for a while

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

but surely all the good times must count for something?

They were good at the time, but the memories are tainted with sadness, knowing that there won't be any more good times with that person.

It's difficult to explain to someone who hasn't been in that situation, just how much it can affect your thoughts, actions and memories.

I think most people have had their heart broken at some time, you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on otherwise it can affect your future happiness

Very true, and I have/am doing so. Still have down days, but am generally positive.It certainly changes you, but unless you have been through it you cant possibly empathise

I agree, ive had more failed relationships than ive had hot dinners

Everything is always so good until it goes tits up, i dont think you can prepare yourself for it....im glad i am in a happy place years on now though "

Unless you know it's coming, it's like being hit by a train in slow motion. It hits you hard but it doesn't stop for a long time.

Am in a generally happier place, but it's still relatively fresh to be honest, and there are very few people now I can truly trust. Those I do trust are the friends I would do anything for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ( Lucy) have been married 3 times, all ended in divorce because of one thing or another!

Luke has never been married, and he really wants to get to married? Bless him 3 as in 3 times

3 3 why ?never again for me had a good one whent bad never going there again "

Yes 3 as in 3 times!

1st time I was very young suppose you could have called it a shot gun wedding! I was pregnant with his child and both families thought it was the best thing all round! Plus he said if we got married on such and such date he would get a big tax rebate! The marriage lasted a year!

2nd time thought I loved the man, and he turned into a nasty controlling wife beater! That lasted for 10 years before I realized I had to get out before he killed me!

3rd time an old flame! He just stopped making any effort once the ring was on my finger, we were more like brother and sister towards the end! The marriage lasted 3 years!

As I said Luke would love to get married, but I am not in any rush and not sure that I want to if I am being honest,

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I don't know if I will ever re-marry, but I know it will take one hell of a person to persuade me. Hurt doesn't quite cover the feeling when you realise it's over...

but surely all the good times must count for something?

They were good at the time, but the memories are tainted with sadness, knowing that there won't be any more good times with that person.

It's difficult to explain to someone who hasn't been in that situation, just how much it can affect your thoughts, actions and memories.

I think most people have had their heart broken at some time, you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on otherwise it can affect your future happiness

Very true, and I have/am doing so. Still have down days, but am generally positive.It certainly changes you, but unless you have been through it you cant possibly empathise

I agree, ive had more failed relationships than ive had hot dinners

Everything is always so good until it goes tits up, i dont think you can prepare yourself for it....im glad i am in a happy place years on now though

Unless you know it's coming, it's like being hit by a train in slow motion. It hits you hard but it doesn't stop for a long time.

Am in a generally happier place, but it's still relatively fresh to be honest, and there are very few people now I can truly trust. Those I do trust are the friends I would do anything for."
I know what you mean...it takes a long time for wounds to heal, but they do...xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marriage is a wonderful institution. But who wants to live in an institution?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No chance to shag anyone else if both parties are the jealous insecure type.

Don't believe in the institution of marriage anymore. If two people truly love each other, they don't need a piece of paper to prove it, IMHO.

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By *ackandkateCouple
over a year ago

Truro

Kate married me just so she'd have a surname that people could spell

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Marriage is a wonderful institution. But who wants to live in an institution?"
So is prison

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By *ackandkateCouple
over a year ago

Truro

A man is not complete until he's married,..... then he's finished

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been married and divorced 3 times. One day I'll learn my lesson!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done it once, never again.

I am still on good terms with my ex-hubby, as he is a gentleman with a big and kind heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw this thread to start with and i thought oh yes easy answer, as I can on what makes a couple stay together say my piece etc etc

This I have given some thought, to try explain why marriage works and I still realise I can't actually describe what M and I have.

I could happily kill him at times Yet the unspoken words, or just a look, just a touch, we are extremely close....this I can't explain.

I have never felt closer to anyone, we bond, we gel..we link...we just are us.

Yeah we have issues, but we can and always do just get back to down to basics, lying in bed, cuddling for hours.....there is no feeling like it.

We work as we know each other very well, everything, and we always bounce back..

Funnily enough we can be cross and yet happy...I think it because I know fine well I am very lucky to have found my soul mate.

I'd never be without him, and together our bond is untenable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bollocks lol wrong word lol

I feel unbreakable oops....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I saw this thread to start with and i thought oh yes easy answer, as I can on what makes a couple stay together say my piece etc etc

This I have given some thought, to try explain why marriage works and I still realise I can't actually describe what M and I have.

I could happily kill him at times Yet the unspoken words, or just a look, just a touch, we are extremely close....this I can't explain.

I have never felt closer to anyone, we bond, we gel..we link...we just are us.

Yeah we have issues, but we can and always do just get back to down to basics, lying in bed, cuddling for hours.....there is no feeling like it.

We work as we know each other very well, everything, and we always bounce back..

Funnily enough we can be cross and yet happy...I think it because I know fine well I am very lucky to have found my soul mate.

I'd never be without him, and together our bond is untenable. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All jokes aside about me and numb nuts getting hitched (its totally not serious and just a giggle)

What were the big changes for you couples who have been there done that/still living it?

My grandmother didn't live with her husband before hand so she found it a little bit challenging to adapt at first."

Someone to share the joys of life. But the biggest change was when he started treating me like part of the furniture. Beginning of the end .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive never liked married life

I'll be honest im far to selfish to share my life with someone, i want to do what i want when i want and you just cant do that when your married, marrage is about give and take and i just dont have that in me

im far better off alone

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