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By *he love cats OP   Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It's bloody hard for single women as well, lots of time and investment involved to find a compatible man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting is easy but meeting with spark takes time and effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree it’s not easy but when you find that connection wow

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Interesting to hear, and in a bizarre way, comforting too. Quality over quantity though

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

It’s deff not easy for women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell, now we have to read woe is me from women and couples too?

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I always find it interesting when folks think it’s easy for women and couples.

Easier if meeting just anyone is what you’re after.

Meeting someone compatible is just as hard as you have to search profiles and send messages in the exact same way.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy. "

It's harder for couples purely based on the numbers.

With two singles you only have to be attracted to and interested in each other.

With two couples there are four people who have to be interested in and attracted to each other - way less likely and no self respecting couple will ever 'take one for the team'.

Meeting as a single of either gender is far easier than meeting as a couple, not necessarily for socials but definitely for play.

A

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I always find it interesting when folks think it’s easy for women and couples.

Easier if meeting just anyone is what you’re after.

Meeting someone compatible is just as hard as you have to search profiles and send messages in the exact same way. "

I think it's the narrative that's build up, especially when you see the 'I can't get anyone' posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will say, that my silly comment aside……Mrs Soze and I found it almost impossible to find the right couple to have sex with. We find it a lot more straight forward flying solo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had two time wasters last night.eventually did get a meet with a guy i had met before.but i wasted three hours sitting around being let down twice.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"i had two time wasters last night.eventually did get a meet with a guy i had met before.but i wasted three hours sitting around being let down twice."

And that impression then spoils it for everyone else

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

Good to know, always do take the time to make the connection, effort.

Deffo quality over quantity.

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By *renchy19Man
over a year ago

Heathrow

I have played on here initially as a single guy and then as a couple for a while and found it quite revealing when playing as a couple. I thought it would be quite easy arranging meets but then you had all sorts of issues crop up to make things tricky.

Simple things like finding a time when all 4

Of us were available. Turning up and not all of us being happy to play. Some couples were complete time wasters and others wanted to do things that were not for us. We did meet some amazing couples but it did take some time but was well worth it

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We only meet up with bi couples and it’s extremely rare to find a couple that we both like equally.

We have the same taste in men but different tastes in women which makes it even more harder .As we’ve gotten older we’ve realised it’s more than just about physical attraction once we click with a couple the rest comes naturally.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Did anyone genuinely expect it to be easier here than anywhere else?

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By *he love cats OP   Couple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Bloody hell, now we have to read woe is me from women and couples too? "

Just want to even up the playing field.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this conversation several times with guys stating it's easy for us.

I usually say it's only easier for us because we're willing to meet those from the majority pool, men and they could change that by doing the same.

But when it comes to finding a woman, be that single or within in a couple, we've not yet managed that.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

It's difficult as a couple, but logical when you think about it especially if your a bit fussy.

When with My Girl for us it has to be a four way thing. Although I'm the straight one in the relationship I still have to like and vibe of both of them. It's very important to me that I like and comfortable with the male as well because we will be potentially working together and I also need to be happy that'll he'll be good for My Girl. On top of that vibe with both of them I have to be attracted to the female half. Then my Girl has to be comfortable and fancy both of them. And then of course not doubt it's very much the same the opposite way back.

So it no surprise really. Although the greatest irony the ratio's as they are on scene one of our biggest problems is finding the right single men.

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By *assiieneilxMan
over a year ago

Newcastle under lyme


"Did anyone genuinely expect it to be easier here than anywhere else? "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did anyone genuinely expect it to be easier here than anywhere else?

Yes"

Out of curiosity, what made you think it would be easier?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Did anyone genuinely expect it to be easier here than anywhere else?

Yes"

May I ask why? Not in any argumentative way, I'm just interested

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Like all thread advice I've seen on here over the years... it's as easy or hard as you want to make it, surely?

If you set your expectations and the bar so high it will take effort, but then you'll be satisfied you got the 'wow'... no?

Failing all that, just eat cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least women will likely get a reply in the first instance XD

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Meetings for us T girls can also be difficult. Some guys try for the ladies first, pretend their bi so aim for couples next. When that doesn't work, any hole is a goal so they think we're less picky (probably true in my case) I still have standards though.

But when you've gone through the rubbish that we all suffer from the good times make it worth while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's shagging. Bit of a first world problem isn't it? Especially for couples who are...already shagging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did anyone genuinely expect it to be easier here than anywhere else?

Yes

May I ask why? Not in any argumentative way, I'm just interested "

I did, in my now obvious naivety. I have had two previous fwb, and both were from regular dating sites, albeit stating they were looking for nsa sex, rather than a committed relationship/life partner. I wrongly assumed that there would be far more women on a swingers site, who are also looking solely for nsa/fwb type sex. Who knew?.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Did anyone genuinely expect it to be easier here than anywhere else?

Yes

May I ask why? Not in any argumentative way, I'm just interested

I did, in my now obvious naivety. I have had two previous fwb, and both were from regular dating sites, albeit stating they were looking for nsa sex, rather than a committed relationship/life partner. I wrongly assumed that there would be far more women on a swingers site, who are also looking solely for nsa/fwb type sex. Who knew?. "

. Who indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to totally agree there with comments. Definitely has to be a spark. I do nitvoester at all as I completely understand but I keep believing there has to be a spark somewhere and I'm happy to wait for that

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy. "

2 sides of the same coin

Would you prefer lots of offers but struggling to find the perfect one?

Or would you prefer literally no offers. Zero. Not even a hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's shagging. Bit of a first world problem isn't it? Especially for couples who are...already shagging. "

Well no.

Finding someone to have sex with isn't a first world problem, it is an inate human drive present in all cultures and all times. Is it a massive issue? No, is an internet forum on a swingers site an appropriate place to discuss this issue? Can't think of anywhere better. Do you need a hug?

Finding a couple where one of us likes both of them is a tough call, were we both not only like but fancy both of them makes it harder. Worse, her ladyship is a fussy cow plus used to Fab life as a single woman where the choice is endless and getting plenty of attention in her single profile so totally happy to swipe left for the most random reason

Mr

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy. "

The thing that really frustrates us is that the majority of couples don't have any photos at all of the man. That makes it really difficult to find couples we find attractive.

Unless you're talking about a cuck meet where the man doesn't interact, it's important to know if the man is potentially attractive. Most couples make it impossible to work that out from their profile. We don't want to message lots of couples asking for photos on the off-chance he looks like Hannah might like him.

Come on, couples. Give us a fighting chance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait a minute!

We are meant to be meeting people! No one told me this!

Is their a newsletter that tells you this important information?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's shagging. Bit of a first world problem isn't it? Especially for couples who are...already shagging.

Well no.

Finding someone to have sex with isn't a first world problem, it is an inate human drive present in all cultures and all times. Is it a massive issue? No, is an internet forum on a swingers site an appropriate place to discuss this issue? Can't think of anywhere better. Do you need a hug?

Finding a couple where one of us likes both of them is a tough call, were we both not only like but fancy both of them makes it harder. Worse, her ladyship is a fussy cow plus used to Fab life as a single woman where the choice is endless and getting plenty of attention in her single profile so totally happy to swipe left for the most random reason

Mr"

I think the constant woe is me posts from single men are a bit much. Hearing it from couples who DO have someone to meet that "innate human drive" - no, my heart does not bleed sorry!

And for lot of single men on here, it's the drive to get their dick wet, not connect intimately with another human being. Yes of course I understand that it's a source of frustration on a site like this, but honestly so is the complaining. It's relentless.

I've had a hug this morning, thank you.

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By *he love cats OP   Couple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy.

2 sides of the same coin

Would you prefer lots of offers but struggling to find the perfect one?

Or would you prefer literally no offers. Zero. Not even a hello. "

Neither scenario is ideal, but we will always wait for the right one's. I honestly think it gets harder the longer you are on here as in the beginning we were a bit naïve to it all and for us the bar seems to get increasingly higher as our journey progresses.

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By *hakespears SwingersCouple
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy.

It's harder for couples purely based on the numbers.

With two singles you only have to be attracted to and interested in each other.

With two couples there are four people who have to be interested in and attracted to each other - way less likely and no self respecting couple will ever 'take one for the team'.

Meeting as a single of either gender is far easier than meeting as a couple, not necessarily for socials but definitely for play.

A"

Absolutely this! We are very clear that neither of us should ever take one for the team AND we’re both fussy sods. Combine that with other couples who may well have the same approach to the lifestyle and voila….you’ve reduced your chances of lots of meets significantly But if you’re patient the occasional gemstone appears!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's bloody hard for single women as well, lots of time and investment involved to find a compatible man"

I was starting to think it was me !

Thanks for making me feel better.

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Not going to contest that couples and single women don't have their own challenges on here, but I'd make the point that they are very different challenges.

Single guys have to contest with almost zero response from most messages. Most won't even be read or will be deleted. Over time, there's no way that this can't impact on self esteem.

Single women and couples will have a lot more messages to read and a lot more attention. The problem being that how do you find the diamond in the rough, and from there find the spark. And of course dealing with the shitty messages I'm sure you get

On the balance of it, and sorry if it sounds arrogant, but I'd rather that my biggest problem on fab was having to go through messages to find the right person and connection as opposed to no one speaking to me and feeling almost constantly rejected

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy. "

Yup, guys (sorry, generalising) think cause we've got quantity of offers it's easy for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not going to contest that couples and single women don't have their own challenges on here, but I'd make the point that they are very different challenges.

Single guys have to contest with almost zero response from most messages. Most won't even be read or will be deleted. Over time, there's no way that this can't impact on self esteem.

Single women and couples will have a lot more messages to read and a lot more attention. The problem being that how do you find the diamond in the rough, and from there find the spark. And of course dealing with the shitty messages I'm sure you get

On the balance of it, and sorry if it sounds arrogant, but I'd rather that my biggest problem on fab was having to go through messages to find the right person and connection as opposed to no one speaking to me and feeling almost constantly rejected"

This is the perspective of a couple/single woman is solely seeking single men.

There's little difference when it comes to couples seeking couples/single ladies from our perspective.

Basically, you're looking at it from just one angle, if you view it differently, rather than who seeks, but who they seek.

It can be just as difficult for many couples or single ladies seeking the same as you see seeking ..... Women.

If we stop seeking men, we'll have difficulty finding meets, you've had many more meets with couples than we have.

If however you start seeking men, you'll be far more successful in meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy. "

100% agree with this!

I do also feel that it can be hard for everyone on here unless your the person who will just screw anything then I can’t see it being that hard!

For me I’m not one to screw around I could meet on the daily and sometimes multiple but for me it’s all about the connection and if we don’t have that then the sex just won’t do it for me!

I like to gain some trust by talking for a little while first rather than just meeting someone I don’t know which isn’t exactly safe anyways but that’s just me and maybe I’m the minority

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Not going to contest that couples and single women don't have their own challenges on here, but I'd make the point that they are very different challenges.

Single guys have to contest with almost zero response from most messages. Most won't even be read or will be deleted. Over time, there's no way that this can't impact on self esteem.

Single women and couples will have a lot more messages to read and a lot more attention. The problem being that how do you find the diamond in the rough, and from there find the spark. And of course dealing with the shitty messages I'm sure you get

On the balance of it, and sorry if it sounds arrogant, but I'd rather that my biggest problem on fab was having to go through messages to find the right person and connection as opposed to no one speaking to me and feeling almost constantly rejected

This is the perspective of a couple/single woman is solely seeking single men.

There's little difference when it comes to couples seeking couples/single ladies from our perspective.

Basically, you're looking at it from just one angle, if you view it differently, rather than who seeks, but who they seek.

It can be just as difficult for many couples or single ladies seeking the same as you see seeking ..... Women.

If we stop seeking men, we'll have difficulty finding meets, you've had many more meets with couples than we have.

If however you start seeking men, you'll be far more successful in meets.

"

Yeah that's a fair point.

So does that mean that you, as a couple, find it tough to get replies from other couples? I just figured that most couples were more open to replying and chatting to other couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not going to contest that couples and single women don't have their own challenges on here, but I'd make the point that they are very different challenges.

Single guys have to contest with almost zero response from most messages. Most won't even be read or will be deleted. Over time, there's no way that this can't impact on self esteem.

Single women and couples will have a lot more messages to read and a lot more attention. The problem being that how do you find the diamond in the rough, and from there find the spark. And of course dealing with the shitty messages I'm sure you get

On the balance of it, and sorry if it sounds arrogant, but I'd rather that my biggest problem on fab was having to go through messages to find the right person and connection as opposed to no one speaking to me and feeling almost constantly rejected

This is the perspective of a couple/single woman is solely seeking single men.

There's little difference when it comes to couples seeking couples/single ladies from our perspective.

Basically, you're looking at it from just one angle, if you view it differently, rather than who seeks, but who they seek.

It can be just as difficult for many couples or single ladies seeking the same as you see seeking ..... Women.

If we stop seeking men, we'll have difficulty finding meets, you've had many more meets with couples than we have.

If however you start seeking men, you'll be far more successful in meets.

Yeah that's a fair point.

So does that mean that you, as a couple, find it tough to get replies from other couples? I just figured that most couples were more open to replying and chatting to other couples."

On looking at your profile I can’t see why your so upset about meets etc when you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky but also I don’t care much about having verifications on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not going to contest that couples and single women don't have their own challenges on here, but I'd make the point that they are very different challenges.

Single guys have to contest with almost zero response from most messages. Most won't even be read or will be deleted. Over time, there's no way that this can't impact on self esteem.

Single women and couples will have a lot more messages to read and a lot more attention. The problem being that how do you find the diamond in the rough, and from there find the spark. And of course dealing with the shitty messages I'm sure you get

On the balance of it, and sorry if it sounds arrogant, but I'd rather that my biggest problem on fab was having to go through messages to find the right person and connection as opposed to no one speaking to me and feeling almost constantly rejected

This is the perspective of a couple/single woman is solely seeking single men.

There's little difference when it comes to couples seeking couples/single ladies from our perspective.

Basically, you're looking at it from just one angle, if you view it differently, rather than who seeks, but who they seek.

It can be just as difficult for many couples or single ladies seeking the same as you see seeking ..... Women.

If we stop seeking men, we'll have difficulty finding meets, you've had many more meets with couples than we have.

If however you start seeking men, you'll be far more successful in meets.

Yeah that's a fair point.

So does that mean that you, as a couple, find it tough to get replies from other couples? I just figured that most couples were more open to replying and chatting to other couples."

Two couples, that's four people all having to connect, find one another appealing in whichever way that is.

If we're looking for a man, it's less complicated in that sense, more so in the sheer volume.

We've not yet met a couple, where as You have met several.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have found it so much more easier on here than what I have off here it’s just how it is for me

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By *JandCMCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

We have tried twice in the past to arrange an MMF, twice the M never turned up for the meet.

Very off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy.

100% agree with this!

I do also feel that it can be hard for everyone on here unless your the person who will just screw anything then I can’t see it being that hard!

For me I’m not one to screw around I could meet on the daily and sometimes multiple but for me it’s all about the connection and if we don’t have that then the sex just won’t do it for me!

I like to gain some trust by talking for a little while first rather than just meeting someone I don’t know which isn’t exactly safe anyways but that’s just me and maybe I’m the minority "

I agree with you, If one is willing to have sex with anyone then It would be easier but without the connection the sex would just feel shallow and I believe great sex begins in the brain!

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Not going to contest that couples and single women don't have their own challenges on here, but I'd make the point that they are very different challenges.

Single guys have to contest with almost zero response from most messages. Most won't even be read or will be deleted. Over time, there's no way that this can't impact on self esteem.

Single women and couples will have a lot more messages to read and a lot more attention. The problem being that how do you find the diamond in the rough, and from there find the spark. And of course dealing with the shitty messages I'm sure you get

On the balance of it, and sorry if it sounds arrogant, but I'd rather that my biggest problem on fab was having to go through messages to find the right person and connection as opposed to no one speaking to me and feeling almost constantly rejected

This is the perspective of a couple/single woman is solely seeking single men.

There's little difference when it comes to couples seeking couples/single ladies from our perspective.

Basically, you're looking at it from just one angle, if you view it differently, rather than who seeks, but who they seek.

It can be just as difficult for many couples or single ladies seeking the same as you see seeking ..... Women.

If we stop seeking men, we'll have difficulty finding meets, you've had many more meets with couples than we have.

If however you start seeking men, you'll be far more successful in meets.

Yeah that's a fair point.

So does that mean that you, as a couple, find it tough to get replies from other couples? I just figured that most couples were more open to replying and chatting to other couples.

On looking at your profile I can’t see why your so upset about meets etc when you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky but also I don’t care much about having verifications on here.

"

I was speaking generally, though it took me a long time to get anywhere on here, so I don't take it for granted. Which is why I'm happy to show those verifications

And it's pretty rude and insulting to suggest that I will just meet anyone? I'm also picky in that I've only met people I've connected with through socials and been on the same wavelength as.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a woman on here I could arrange a few meets a day. Getting a worthwhile quality meet is a different story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not going to contest that couples and single women don't have their own challenges on here, but I'd make the point that they are very different challenges.

Single guys have to contest with almost zero response from most messages. Most won't even be read or will be deleted. Over time, there's no way that this can't impact on self esteem.

Single women and couples will have a lot more messages to read and a lot more attention. The problem being that how do you find the diamond in the rough, and from there find the spark. And of course dealing with the shitty messages I'm sure you get

On the balance of it, and sorry if it sounds arrogant, but I'd rather that my biggest problem on fab was having to go through messages to find the right person and connection as opposed to no one speaking to me and feeling almost constantly rejected

This is the perspective of a couple/single woman is solely seeking single men.

There's little difference when it comes to couples seeking couples/single ladies from our perspective.

Basically, you're looking at it from just one angle, if you view it differently, rather than who seeks, but who they seek.

It can be just as difficult for many couples or single ladies seeking the same as you see seeking ..... Women.

If we stop seeking men, we'll have difficulty finding meets, you've had many more meets with couples than we have.

If however you start seeking men, you'll be far more successful in meets.

Yeah that's a fair point.

So does that mean that you, as a couple, find it tough to get replies from other couples? I just figured that most couples were more open to replying and chatting to other couples.

On looking at your profile I can’t see why your so upset about meets etc when you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky but also I don’t care much about having verifications on here.

I was speaking generally, though it took me a long time to get anywhere on here, so I don't take it for granted. Which is why I'm happy to show those verifications

And it's pretty rude and insulting to suggest that I will just meet anyone? I'm also picky in that I've only met people I've connected with through socials and been on the same wavelength as."

Excuse me but where did I even suggest that you would be willing to meet anyone?! Please don’t put words into my mouth that I haven’t even said!

Your the one on here constantly complaining about being a single man and having no meets when you’ve got 10 published verifications!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy.

100% agree with this!

I do also feel that it can be hard for everyone on here unless your the person who will just screw anything then I can’t see it being that hard!

For me I’m not one to screw around I could meet on the daily and sometimes multiple but for me it’s all about the connection and if we don’t have that then the sex just won’t do it for me!

I like to gain some trust by talking for a little while first rather than just meeting someone I don’t know which isn’t exactly safe anyways but that’s just me and maybe I’m the minority

I agree with you, If one is willing to have sex with anyone then It would be easier but without the connection the sex would just feel shallow and I believe great sex begins in the brain!

"

There can sometimes be some very entitled people on here who expect us to drop our underwear because they showed an interest

What I don’t get is constantly complaint about getting no meets on here then why don’t they just go out into the real world and see how easy it is then to meet someone

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"Who find it hard to get meets. Finding the right people who you have chemistry with is pretty hard for couple's too. Don't get me wrong we could get meets daily if we were willing to take one for the team as some people call it, but that's not for us it's just got to be right for everyone which is pretty hard for four people to all be 100% happy.

It's harder for couples purely based on the numbers.

With two singles you only have to be attracted to and interested in each other.

With two couples there are four people who have to be interested in and attracted to each other - way less likely and no self respecting couple will ever 'take one for the team'.

Meeting as a single of either gender is far easier than meeting as a couple, not necessarily for socials but definitely for play.

A"

Not to mention 4 diarys to coordinate, plus school events and commitments.

Winston

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

"

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

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By *osey WalesMan
over a year ago

Surrey

Single ladies, couples...

Get yourselves along to socials, go to clubs. Be polite and chatty and you may just get lucky.

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over a year ago

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky."

For all the crying you do on here, your doing better than 99% of men

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky."

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky."

That's not the way I see it, I think it's more how you took it.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky. "

I'm picky and a guy and have more than 10, does this mean people think I'm not picky

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky."

It's your huge cock cammo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

I'm picky and a guy and have more than 10, does this mean people think I'm not picky "

Nah, but then I don't judge people on the amount of veris. Who knows if it was just a social or not. I have lots of cam veris but they are all just from clothed conversations, some people might assume it means cam sex with 20 odd people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

It's your huge cock cammo "

Bloody hell don’t get him started on the size of his cock!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky."

No I said that I was picky not you stop trying to read between the non existent lines and making this about you when it wasn’t!

If I wanted to call you picky I wouldn’t ‘beat around the bush’ I’d just say it outright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

That's not the way I see it, I think it's more how you took it."

Thank you I’m glad someone else can see I wasn’t saying him or anyone else was picky I was saying I was picky! I’m allowed to say that about myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

I'm picky and a guy and have more than 10, does this mean people think I'm not picky "

This is getting out of hand and frankly people are missing my point! I said I and I alone was picky! It doesn’t have anything to do on anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky. "

Thank you I’m glad someone could see where I was coming from! I wasn’t calling him picky I was calling myself picky!

Of course if a gorgeous guy wanted to meet I wouldn’t say no but I’m also not about the verifications for myself! Whilst I appreciate a lot of people on here are for verifications

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By *exymilf_69Woman
over a year ago

yorkshire


"It's bloody hard for single women as well, lots of time and investment involved to find a compatible man"

Agree.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

I'm picky and a guy and have more than 10, does this mean people think I'm not picky

Nah, but then I don't judge people on the amount of veris. Who knows if it was just a social or not. I have lots of cam veris but they are all just from clothed conversations, some people might assume it means cam sex with 20 odd people "

Yeah I hid them to make them wonder not all have been for sex but some have been and more than once which leads me to asking "why do some people veri someone more than one time from meets"

I've only ever been verified once by each person or verified once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

For all the crying you do on here, your doing better than 99% of men "

Say it better than I have I think my eyes are constantly rolled into the back of my head!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

It's your huge cock cammo

Bloody hell don’t get him started on the size of his cock!!"

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I never encountered difficulties in meeting compatible and sexy women as a single.

As part of a couple, I find it to be exponentially harder. Mutual chemistry x4 is far more challenging than x2

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

I'm picky and a guy and have more than 10, does this mean people think I'm not picky

This is getting out of hand and frankly people are missing my point! I said I and I alone was picky! It doesn’t have anything to do on anyone else "

I know, I'm just saying I'm picky as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

I'm picky and a guy and have more than 10, does this mean people think I'm not picky

Nah, but then I don't judge people on the amount of veris. Who knows if it was just a social or not. I have lots of cam veris but they are all just from clothed conversations, some people might assume it means cam sex with 20 odd people

Yeah I hid them to make them wonder not all have been for sex but some have been and more than once which leads me to asking "why do some people veri someone more than one time from meets"

I've only ever been verified once by each person or verified once"

Besides your not on every single thread about how hard it is for single men blah blah and whinging about it lol

I’ve not been on these forums long and even I’ve picked up on the whining (not you!)

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

Thank you I’m glad someone could see where I was coming from! I wasn’t calling him picky I was calling myself picky!

Of course if a gorgeous guy wanted to meet I wouldn’t say no but I’m also not about the verifications for myself! Whilst I appreciate a lot of people on here are for verifications "

You got an easy "out" from two other profiles. If you genuinely didn't mean it that way then fair enough, I'm happy to apologise.

You'll be happy to know that my days are probably numbered on here anyway, as it looks like I'm universally despised

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

Thank you I’m glad someone could see where I was coming from! I wasn’t calling him picky I was calling myself picky!

Of course if a gorgeous guy wanted to meet I wouldn’t say no but I’m also not about the verifications for myself! Whilst I appreciate a lot of people on here are for verifications

You got an easy "out" from two other profiles. If you genuinely didn't mean it that way then fair enough, I'm happy to apologise.

You'll be happy to know that my days are probably numbered on here anyway, as it looks like I'm universally despised "

Only because you cry so much then have 10 verifications

Imagine being a guy that actually can’t get meets, then he sees you crying about having 10

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

I'm picky and a guy and have more than 10, does this mean people think I'm not picky

Nah, but then I don't judge people on the amount of veris. Who knows if it was just a social or not. I have lots of cam veris but they are all just from clothed conversations, some people might assume it means cam sex with 20 odd people

Yeah I hid them to make them wonder not all have been for sex but some have been and more than once which leads me to asking "why do some people veri someone more than one time from meets"

I've only ever been verified once by each person or verified once

Besides your not on every single thread about how hard it is for single men blah blah and whinging about it lol

I’ve not been on these forums long and even I’ve picked up on the whining (not you!)"

Yeah I'm not one for winging about life on here or how hard it can be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

Thank you I’m glad someone could see where I was coming from! I wasn’t calling him picky I was calling myself picky!

Of course if a gorgeous guy wanted to meet I wouldn’t say no but I’m also not about the verifications for myself! Whilst I appreciate a lot of people on here are for verifications

You got an easy "out" from two other profiles. If you genuinely didn't mean it that way then fair enough, I'm happy to apologise.

You'll be happy to know that my days are probably numbered on here anyway, as it looks like I'm universally despised "

I got an easy out what does that mean? My 7 year old is sounding more adult than you right now! I know exactly what I was saying as do you but as per usual you wanted to turn it around onto you so you could whinge!

You really do not help yourself on here and I’m saying no more because to be honest if your trying to insult me it won’t work I’ve dealt with much worse people in my life to allow someone who doesn’t know me think they can twist my words so he can cry like a little boy who’s lost his favourite teddy bear! Grow up

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

Thank you I’m glad someone could see where I was coming from! I wasn’t calling him picky I was calling myself picky!

Of course if a gorgeous guy wanted to meet I wouldn’t say no but I’m also not about the verifications for myself! Whilst I appreciate a lot of people on here are for verifications

You got an easy "out" from two other profiles. If you genuinely didn't mean it that way then fair enough, I'm happy to apologise.

You'll be happy to know that my days are probably numbered on here anyway, as it looks like I'm universally despised

I got an easy out what does that mean? My 7 year old is sounding more adult than you right now! I know exactly what I was saying as do you but as per usual you wanted to turn it around onto you so you could whinge!

You really do not help yourself on here and I’m saying no more because to be honest if your trying to insult me it won’t work I’ve dealt with much worse people in my life to allow someone who doesn’t know me think they can twist my words so he can cry like a little boy who’s lost his favourite teddy bear! Grow up "

I'll take your word for it and offer my apologies for genuinely misunderstanding your point

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I dont really look for it as much anymore, but yes, it is interesting to know that women have the same problem too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only difficult to meet if you're barking up the wrong tree. Find the right tree and you'll get meets. Kinda depends on the bark too I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

Thank you I’m glad someone could see where I was coming from! I wasn’t calling him picky I was calling myself picky!

Of course if a gorgeous guy wanted to meet I wouldn’t say no but I’m also not about the verifications for myself! Whilst I appreciate a lot of people on here are for verifications

You got an easy "out" from two other profiles. If you genuinely didn't mean it that way then fair enough, I'm happy to apologise.

You'll be happy to know that my days are probably numbered on here anyway, as it looks like I'm universally despised "

Loads of people don't even know the forums exist. Just stay and meet the non forum people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you’ve got 10 published verifications on there! That’s a lot more than I have but again I can appreciate that’s probably because I’m very picky

This. You've implied that I have 10 verifications only because I'm not picky.

I didn't read it that way, I read it more from the viewpoint that a woman's inbox can be overflowing so she could get 10 veris in a day if SHE wasn't picky.

Thank you I’m glad someone could see where I was coming from! I wasn’t calling him picky I was calling myself picky!

Of course if a gorgeous guy wanted to meet I wouldn’t say no but I’m also not about the verifications for myself! Whilst I appreciate a lot of people on here are for verifications

You got an easy "out" from two other profiles. If you genuinely didn't mean it that way then fair enough, I'm happy to apologise.

You'll be happy to know that my days are probably numbered on here anyway, as it looks like I'm universally despised "

It's not that you're despised, it's that your posting style has been noted by many.

It's very self pitying and we don't understand why.

Reasonable looking guy with a decent amount of verifications, all done within 13 months of one another.

Most would consider that successful, even the top 10% as I believe you've referred to successful guys here.

Yet you act like a wounded puppy.

You're doing fine, put yourself across on the forums as you do in your messages and you'll see a very different response.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"It's only difficult to meet if you're barking up the wrong tree. Find the right tree and you'll get meets. Kinda depends on the bark too I guess"

Stay away from the sticky ones because too busy washing your hands then

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Did anyone genuinely expect it to be easier here than anywhere else?

Yes

May I ask why? Not in any argumentative way, I'm just interested "

I been before in other sites and yes i found Fabs much more easier and also more affordable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I think all the hard work and conversations are worth it to meet the right people

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