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By *eachcpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

blackpool/preston/normandy france

How many guys think that "you ok" or "meeting" is going to get them anywhere.

It was a quick rant, sorry. But some people must be totally thick or stupid. Block button is getting lots of work.

All you decent people out there, enjoy your day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry they are not meeting your requirements. Hope you are ok.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Fab for you. I probably get 1 in 200 messages where I think the person nice and is my type. Majority are timewasters and fantasist thinking fuck me now is attractive

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We gets lots of messages which are from lazy people who think hey is gonna get our attention.... not ..

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I put enough in my profile for someone to start a proper conversation with me. Hi how are you gets deleted. I get that men don't get responses even if they craft good messages but how are you is just a waste of everyone's time.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

There's a very simple solution to your problem that seems to annoy you both so much. Block men from men from messaging and actually go look for those who you like and send a first message to them.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

If that's all the effort they can put in to a DM, it does make you wonder if their conversational and social skills are just as poor.

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By *onBurgundy99Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

Hey let them keep doing it, helps the rest of us stand out a little better. Imagine they all became literate and you had 100 messages a day without the usual grunts of hi, wan2 bang 2nite? You'd have a bigger problem then!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If a man approached me in a bar I'd expect him to start the same way eg by saying something like "hi, how are you?" It's his conversations start. You might add something like "I'm Fred" but nobody introduces themselves with a massive monologue in real life.

I don't blame men fir starting with a one line message, they mostly get deleted anyway and it must be really disheartening to type out something interesting and informative only to have it ignored.

In my view it's not the introduction that counts it's what follows and we would have missed out on some really nice meets if we'd a ignored a friendly "hi how are you?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man approached me in a bar I'd expect him to start the same way eg by saying something like "hi, how are you?" It's his conversations start. You might add something like "I'm Fred" but nobody introduces themselves with a massive monologue in real life.

I don't blame men fir starting with a one line message, they mostly get deleted anyway and it must be really disheartening to type out something interesting and informative only to have it ignored.

In my view it's not the introduction that counts it's what follows and we would have missed out on some really nice meets if we'd a ignored a friendly "hi how are you?" "

You know I say few words, I just whacked it out on the table n just said "hi"

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If he's sexy a hi or hello will suffice to start a conversation.

Doesn't matter how sexy he looks I don't meet now.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If a man approached me in a bar I'd expect him to start the same way eg by saying something like "hi, how are you?" It's his conversations start. You might add something like "I'm Fred" but nobody introduces themselves with a massive monologue in real life.

I don't blame men fir starting with a one line message, they mostly get deleted anyway and it must be really disheartening to type out something interesting and informative only to have it ignored.

In my view it's not the introduction that counts it's what follows and we would have missed out on some really nice meets if we'd a ignored a friendly "hi how are you?"

You know I say few words, I just whacked it out on the table n just said "hi" "

It's a novel approach in Starbucks, how's that working for you?

Seriously though do you introduce yourself with a massive cv if you're not at a job interview? I just say something like

"Hi I'm the Queen of The Known Universe, you may call me madam" and let my general awesome aura carry me through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many guys think that "you ok" or "meeting" is going to get them anywhere.

"

Is that their icebreaker or the whole thing.

You know from a guys point of view , and I’m a guy so I’m allowed this.

I must have sent a face pic and a ‘personalised’ message to at least 50 women on here in my time. And take away just 1. And this is serious. Just 1 person I have spoken to is off the forum.

All others are ignored and deleted.

Do you really think we want to waste anymore effort to be ignored.

That’s why hello, kind of work as a way to keep our sanity intact. If you were interested, you’d say hello back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many guys think that "you ok" or "meeting" is going to get them anywhere.

It was a quick rant, sorry. But some people must be totally thick or stupid. Block button is getting lots of work.

All you decent people out there, enjoy your day"

FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man approached me in a bar I'd expect him to start the same way eg by saying something like "hi, how are you?" It's his conversations start. You might add something like "I'm Fred" but nobody introduces themselves with a massive monologue in real life.

I don't blame men fir starting with a one line message, they mostly get deleted anyway and it must be really disheartening to type out something interesting and informative only to have it ignored.

In my view it's not the introduction that counts it's what follows and we would have missed out on some really nice meets if we'd a ignored a friendly "hi how are you?" "

I'm in agreement, put the way you have.

However, this is online and of we were to say, email someone to show interest of something they sell or a job etc etc, we're not likely to begin with "Hi, how are you".

Though my examples may not be great, we do use profiles to advertise ourselves and I often suggest catching the eye is similar to applying for a job.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If a man approached me in a bar I'd expect him to start the same way eg by saying something like "hi, how are you?" It's his conversations start. You might add something like "I'm Fred" but nobody introduces themselves with a massive monologue in real life.

I don't blame men fir starting with a one line message, they mostly get deleted anyway and it must be really disheartening to type out something interesting and informative only to have it ignored.

In my view it's not the introduction that counts it's what follows and we would have missed out on some really nice meets if we'd a ignored a friendly "hi how are you?"

I'm in agreement, put the way you have.

However, this is online and of we were to say, email someone to show interest of something they sell or a job etc etc, we're not likely to begin with "Hi, how are you".

Though my examples may not be great, we do use profiles to advertise ourselves and I often suggest catching the eye is similar to applying for a job.

"

If I was applying for a job I'd attach a CV with a covering letter. In the slightly less formal setting of fab I'd see a guys profile as his CV and his initial message as his covering letter.

Single men have it tough on here. Admittedly some of them don't help themselves though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many guys think that "you ok" or "meeting" is going to get them anywhere.

Is that their icebreaker or the whole thing.

You know from a guys point of view , and I’m a guy so I’m allowed this.

I must have sent a face pic and a ‘personalised’ message to at least 50 women on here in my time. And take away just 1. And this is serious. Just 1 person I have spoken to is off the forum.

All others are ignored and deleted.

Do you really think we want to waste anymore effort to be ignored.

That’s why hello, kind of work as a way to keep our sanity intact. If you were interested, you’d say hello back. "

This is why I always reply to a message if I like the profile, even if it's 'hi how are you?'

I've had some great conversations on the back of replying to a message like this. As you say, not everyone wants to type a lengthy message only to have it deleted.

It's the crude ones who get deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ok babe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man approached me in a bar I'd expect him to start the same way eg by saying something like "hi, how are you?" It's his conversations start. You might add something like "I'm Fred" but nobody introduces themselves with a massive monologue in real life.

I don't blame men fir starting with a one line message, they mostly get deleted anyway and it must be really disheartening to type out something interesting and informative only to have it ignored.

In my view it's not the introduction that counts it's what follows and we would have missed out on some really nice meets if we'd a ignored a friendly "hi how are you?"

I'm in agreement, put the way you have.

However, this is online and of we were to say, email someone to show interest of something they sell or a job etc etc, we're not likely to begin with "Hi, how are you".

Though my examples may not be great, we do use profiles to advertise ourselves and I often suggest catching the eye is similar to applying for a job.

If I was applying for a job I'd attach a CV with a covering letter. In the slightly less formal setting of fab I'd see a guys profile as his CV and his initial message as his covering letter.

Single men have it tough on here. Admittedly some of them don't help themselves though. "

That was my point.

In real life we'll get to see their face and mannerisms before we see their cock and list of interests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex site with sex pics.

Sex reviews. Fuck her, she's good at anal!

Meet?

Fuck.

Repeat.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If a man approached me in a bar I'd expect him to start the same way eg by saying something like "hi, how are you?" It's his conversations start. You might add something like "I'm Fred" but nobody introduces themselves with a massive monologue in real life.

I don't blame men fir starting with a one line message, they mostly get deleted anyway and it must be really disheartening to type out something interesting and informative only to have it ignored.

In my view it's not the introduction that counts it's what follows and we would have missed out on some really nice meets if we'd a ignored a friendly "hi how are you?"

I'm in agreement, put the way you have.

However, this is online and of we were to say, email someone to show interest of something they sell or a job etc etc, we're not likely to begin with "Hi, how are you".

Though my examples may not be great, we do use profiles to advertise ourselves and I often suggest catching the eye is similar to applying for a job.

If I was applying for a job I'd attach a CV with a covering letter. In the slightly less formal setting of fab I'd see a guys profile as his CV and his initial message as his covering letter.

Single men have it tough on here. Admittedly some of them don't help themselves though.

That was my point.

In real life we'll get to see their face and mannerisms before we see their cock and list of interests "

Oh sorry you're agreeing with me and I'm still arguing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man approached me in a bar I'd expect him to start the same way eg by saying something like "hi, how are you?" It's his conversations start. You might add something like "I'm Fred" but nobody introduces themselves with a massive monologue in real life.

I don't blame men fir starting with a one line message, they mostly get deleted anyway and it must be really disheartening to type out something interesting and informative only to have it ignored.

In my view it's not the introduction that counts it's what follows and we would have missed out on some really nice meets if we'd a ignored a friendly "hi how are you?"

I'm in agreement, put the way you have.

However, this is online and of we were to say, email someone to show interest of something they sell or a job etc etc, we're not likely to begin with "Hi, how are you".

Though my examples may not be great, we do use profiles to advertise ourselves and I often suggest catching the eye is similar to applying for a job.

If I was applying for a job I'd attach a CV with a covering letter. In the slightly less formal setting of fab I'd see a guys profile as his CV and his initial message as his covering letter.

Single men have it tough on here. Admittedly some of them don't help themselves though.

That was my point.

In real life we'll get to see their face and mannerisms before we see their cock and list of interests

Oh sorry you're agreeing with me and I'm still arguing "

I'm both agreeing and viewing it from another perspective.

I generally do reply to people and see where it leads.

This can seriously backfire though.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"How many guys think that "you ok" or "meeting" is going to get them anywhere.

Is that their icebreaker or the whole thing.

You know from a guys point of view , and I’m a guy so I’m allowed this.

I must have sent a face pic and a ‘personalised’ message to at least 50 women on here in my time. And take away just 1. And this is serious. Just 1 person I have spoken to is off the forum.

All others are ignored and deleted.

Do you really think we want to waste anymore effort to be ignored.

That’s why hello, kind of work as a way to keep our sanity intact. If you were interested, you’d say hello back. "

I do agree with you, it is a thoroughly disheartening to spend time thinking of what to say, revaluating, reworking and finally typing up your introduction to someone, only for it it be ignored/deleted. You definitely feel like you're wasting your time and wonder what you're doing wrong. Moreover, when you see people complaining about the terrible one liners they receive and how little effort some people put in to their messages it's just annoying when your message still falls flat.

But I think we both know "hello, how are you?" has less of a chance of getting a response than a message that has had some obvious time and effort spent on it. I don't often message women on here (or any other platform for that matter) as I know there's little chance of striking up conversation, but the only women to respond to me are the ones who have received a genuine and thought out message (I still don't get to meet them but that's another problem).

You've got to treat each person you're serious about meeting to the same level of enthusiasm and effort, you might let them slip through your fingers by not putting aside some time to send a real message, and even if they don't respond at least you can say you gave it your best shot... your best is all you can ever do.

Admittedly some peoples profiles make this very difficult, usually the ones with next to no information about them.

Ultimately, nothing you say really matters if the other person isn't attracted or interested. If they like what they see they'll probably respond to a simple "hello".

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