FabSwingers.com forum: One or two word replies

By *undance_Kid OP Man
over a year ago

London

Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them.

Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up.

Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

Incoming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happens to me aswell, always put it down to the woman being overwhelmed by messages but could be wrong

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

My interpretation has always been that they are not interested, especially when they've messaged me first!

I have a low threshold for monosyllabic responses or non-reciprocal chat.

This particularly applies to profiles that pontificate about chatting first to establish a connection and chemistry, but fall foul of their own caveats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys send a cut and paste as a scattergun first message so sometimes we respond with a short message just to see if they actually have any spontaneous wit.

Sadly….

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

Apologies, couldn't resist.

It really depends on the person.

Some people (M and F) are monosyllabic and don't have much interest in talking. I get these they're the wuu2 brigade.

Some people are more erudite in person and don't like texting.

Sometimes folk are busy want to keep the conversation going and just type small replies. They could be hoping the conversation will change to smth else.

It really really depends, but for me if someone can't or won't invest in exchanging some words with me then I'm gonna move on pretty quickly.

Good Luck OP.

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By *undance_Kid OP Man
over a year ago

London

Yeah but does it mean they may be interested so keep it coming or they’re not interested and just being polite? Or do they want you to be alpha and say something like ‘are you gonna fucking talk to me or what ?’ I have no idea.

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By *undance_Kid OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Apologies, couldn't resist.

It really depends on the person.

Some people (M and F) are monosyllabic and don't have much interest in talking. I get these they're the wuu2 brigade.

Some people are more erudite in person and don't like texting.

Sometimes folk are busy want to keep the conversation going and just type small replies. They could be hoping the conversation will change to smth else.

It really really depends, but for me if someone can't or won't invest in exchanging some words with me then I'm gonna move on pretty quickly.

Good Luck OP. "

Thanks Sprockett

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I've always thought It was because they were involved in 5 other conversations at the same time. I just don't chat any further when it happens to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it happen a few times. I normally reply with something witty, if I do get a reply back from that and it's the same as their first reply, I move on.

to me it just shows their are not interested. I mane be wrong , but that my gut feeling

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Apologies, couldn't resist.

It really depends on the person.

Some people (M and F) are monosyllabic and don't have much interest in talking. I get these they're the wuu2 brigade.

Some people are more erudite in person and don't like texting.

Sometimes folk are busy want to keep the conversation going and just type small replies. They could be hoping the conversation will change to smth else.

It really really depends, but for me if someone can't or won't invest in exchanging some words with me then I'm gonna move on pretty quickly.

Good Luck OP.

Thanks Sprockett"

Pleasure is all mine Hunky

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them.

Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up.

Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated."

Whenever we get a message from anyone, the first thing we do is look at the profile.

We then decide if we firstly want to reply, and to how much effort we actually put into our reply.

Hope that gives you something to think about, but if not ask for further advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give them the benefit of the doubt for a few messages. If it carries on though 3rd or 4th message in, I stop messaging.

I think whatever their reason for not engaging properly, they can't be that interested or they'll make a little more effort in their replies.

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By *undance_Kid OP Man
over a year ago

London

Ok some very good feedback, thanks all !

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"My interpretation has always been that they are not interested, especially when they've messaged me first!

I have a low threshold for monosyllabic responses or non-reciprocal chat.

This particularly applies to profiles that pontificate about chatting first to establish a connection and chemistry, but fall foul of their own caveats."

Couldn't agree more.

Every conversation I have on here is started by others because I don't send messages.

It states very clearly on my profile that it's pointless getting in touch if they aren't prepared to chat.

Regardless, I get some women who like to play fabtag where they send a one or two word message and when I respond accordingly that's the last I heard from them again.

Until they do exactly the same a few months later.

It's a very clear attempt to get me to chase but it's bound to be boring by this stage.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Yeah but does it mean they may be interested so keep it coming or they’re not interested and just being polite? Or do they want you to be alpha and say something like ‘are you gonna fucking talk to me or what ?’ I have no idea."

Unless you're getting so many messages that you've got to prioritise which ones deserve a response, then I would say keep plodding away. There's more chance of it evolving into something than if you just give up on it.

Cal

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Is it because they’re just not interested?"

It's best to assume this and don't worry about it further.

Anything else, you'll tie yourself up in knots and questions about someone who probably won't answer in a way you might need.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them.

Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up.

Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated."

Yep.

Delete.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"I've always thought It was because they were involved in 5 other conversations at the same time. I just don't chat any further when it happens to me."

It's easy to keep 5 decent conversations going...less so with 50 or more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably not interested. If you stop replying and they make no effort to keep the conversation going surely that's obvious?

If they wanted to meet you they would make an effort to keep things going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some guys send a cut and paste as a scattergun first message so sometimes we respond with a short message just to see if they actually have any spontaneous wit.

Sadly…."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're not interested. If I do this, it's politeness and hoping he will get the hint. If not, I just end the chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes the guy think she's interested so he keeps replying.

Great for the ego and makes the yellow inbox count go up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do t have time because they’re also speaking to another 120 men along side you op …. Can you imagine the amount of admin you’d need to keep up if you were to reply with a well thought out personified response to each and everyone?

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Sometimes people just don't ask question that warrant more than a small answer.

You ok?

Yes thanks

You ok?

Nah not really that Kathy from work has proper annoyed me and I tried to get randy with the Mr but the kids kept walking in.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them.

Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up.

Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated."

Do you really not know or just adding as a thread discussion for others to finally understand?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them.

Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up.

Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated.

Do you really not know or just adding as a thread discussion for others to finally understand?!

He knows he just wants people to tell him that they're busy and/or juggling lots of other messages.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them.

Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up.

Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated."

Happens to me too, I just give up conversation should be a two way thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I’m not interested, sometimes there isn’t a suitable response I can think of.

Don’t get me started on men sending one word messages though!

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By *undance_Kid OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them.

Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up.

Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated.

Do you really not know or just adding as a thread discussion for others to finally understand?!

I genuinely don’t know.

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By *undance_Kid OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Sometimes people just don't ask question that warrant more than a small answer.

You ok?

Yes thanks

You ok?

Nah not really that Kathy from work has proper annoyed me and I tried to get randy with the Mr but the kids kept walking in.

Haha the thing is is I would like that response as you can expand and gives you something to work with! PS you ok ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them.

Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up.

Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated.

Do you really not know or just adding as a thread discussion for others to finally understand?!

I genuinely don’t know.

I just take it as a hint. A very small short one or two worded hint they ain’t interested in me.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Or do they want you to be alpha and say something like ‘are you gonna fucking talk to me or what ?’."

I find this works for me. Weeds out the fakes and timewasters

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I find a lot just send single word introduction messages like "hello" or "hi". Then as conversation goes it can be just a single sentence in response. Maybe they have so many messages to respond to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the most infuriating thing on here. I take it as they either have no personality or feel they don't need to make the effort. Either or, I lose interest and cut it quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's someone I'm interested in I'll put the effort in to make sure he knows...means one or two word messages won't cut it

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I give them the benefit of the doubt for a few messages. If it carries on though 3rd or 4th message in, I stop messaging.

I think whatever their reason for not engaging properly, they can't be that interested or they'll make a little more effort in their replies.

I'm with you here. I get that sometimes it's a pain to send a message that really says what's in your head - especially if you struggle to articulate sometimes (I'm guilty of that myself), but a conversation- which is fundamentally what we're trying to have in messaging right? - has to go both ways. I lose interest very quickly if I don't get anything back. Seems worse when you ask open questions and you get a closed reply back.

I just take it as an indicator of what the conversation would be in person and move on if it just isn't happening, cos I sure as heck wouldn't be hanging around if that were happening face to face!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I give them the benefit of the doubt for a few messages. If it carries on though 3rd or 4th message in, I stop messaging.

I think whatever their reason for not engaging properly, they can't be that interested or they'll make a little more effort in their replies.

I just take it as an indicator of what the conversation would be in person and move on if it just isn't happening, cos I sure as heck wouldn't be hanging around if that were happening face to face! "

You've hit the nail on the head here. Like you say, it's when they give a closed answer to an open question. That isn't a conversation, so what's the point in carrying on! It's like pulling teeth. And that goes for some men and women alike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete move on block cuppa.

If they can't tap a few keystrokes, I don't wanna know how bad they are in person nor bed.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

If I'm giving one or two word answers then I'm clearly not interested and hoping the guy will get the hint and give up.

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By *hillenCouple
over a year ago

Borehamwood

I think many are fakes and are trying to get information without giving anything themselves.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

I find women give me one or two word answers when I’ve obviously turned them on so much with my initial message that they can’t think straight and have only one thing on their mind which is to lure me into some sordid sexual web of intrigue….some are so turned on they accidentally block & delete and then wonder why I ghosted them…. Probably

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them.

Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up.

Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated."

Ahh yes; the famous “Lol x” reply to your well-crafted, individually tailored message…..

I just move on

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I just delete the messages in this case or let them drop off my message list . waste of time and the person isnt interested in talking to you evidently ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I'm giving one or two word answers then I'm clearly not interested and hoping the guy will get the hint and give up. "

Why talk in the first place if you're not interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just delete the messages in this case or let them drop off my message list . waste of time and the person isnt interested in talking to you evidently ..

This

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

I actually get this from a lot of guys too. I don’t get many messages because of the way I set up and run my profile and I’ve lost count of the number of times guys initiated conversations and I actively participate in replying only for them to slowly disappear word by word.

And the times that I am slow at replying and continuing conversations is because it’s a lot of effort to keep more than one conversation going at a time and I actually have a life outside of here…shocker I know! How dare I have a life outside of here…

Important thing is not to let it bother you, just move on and if they come back in the future you can decide if you want to pick things up again or not and handle it appropriately then

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Yep, I get this sometimes, and I’m sure it’s a lot of the reasons people have already said, but clearly if the conversation isn’t flowing then it seems a bit pointless pursuing things so I just stop messaging at that point.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I get the part about not being interested so the replies will reflect that.

That excuse doesn't cover those who initiate the conversation in the first place. They were the ones apparently interested enough to send the introductory message in the first place.

If you send an opening message why kill the conversation in the very next message by feigning lack of interest?

Just don't bother in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If conversation is hard work I’d just move on. There’s no point making all the effort if someone won’t give you the same energy in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You ok?"

DM me hun.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Sometimes people just don't ask question that warrant more than a small answer.

You ok?

Yes thanks

You ok?

Nah not really that Kathy from work has proper annoyed me and I tried to get randy with the Mr but the kids kept walking in.

I do agree with that. If a message has enough in it for me to hang a conversation from then happy days. I can talk the hind leg off a donkey and I'm genuinely interested in people and love to chat.

If someone sends a "WUU2" and their profile is "fill in later" there's not much for me to talk about so I tend to go back with "work" or "just pottering about". Not sure they'd be interested that I'm in a webinar about the availability of silver nitrate (not looking good at the moment, by the way), so I keep it brief.

There is some level of interest there or I wouldn't message back at all, but if conversation is stilted and feels like hard work I quickly let it peter out.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"You ok?

DM me hun."

Sending T&Ps

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You ok?

DM me hun."

Done babe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I'm giving one or two word answers then I'm clearly not interested and hoping the guy will get the hint and give up.

Why talk in the first place if you're not interested?"

Politeness. For example a guy has messaged about something in my profile - he sent a perfectly reasonable and polite comment. So I replied. But I'm not interested, just waiting for the opportunity to end the chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often, you men dont give us a lot to go on. Prime example. I often get messages saying things like 'just wanted to say hello/morning etc'

Not exactly anything to work with so I'll say thanks and bye

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By *ob.42Man
over a year ago

Near Yarmouth

I am lucky to get a few words, usually the message is either read and deleted or left unread for days.

I don't think it's due to what I've said as I do try and use conversation starters or open questions rather than short or closed messages.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

If you are now into the conversation and getting one word replies either the person is really busy but still wants to acknowledge you or they are not interested. Ask the question.

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By *rMs.NeekCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

There are couples the same. Trying to actually get any conversation going is impossible. It's very off putting to be honest so I just stop replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say it’s likely because they’re just not interested!

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

"Some guys send a cut and paste as a scattergun first message so sometimes we respond with a short message just to see if they actually have any spontaneous wit.

Sadly…."

Genuine question - how can you tell?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"They're not interested. If I do this, it's politeness and hoping he will get the hint. If not, I just end the chat. "

Same for me.

If i get this from anyone i stop engaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They're not interested. If I do this, it's politeness and hoping he will get the hint. If not, I just end the chat. "

Ditto!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them.

Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up.

Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated."

They’re not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Them the ones who get the curb treatment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's being overwhelmed with messages most the time...how many times a day do you think ladies get the following :

Hi beautiful

Hi you are gorgeous

Hi how are you , up to chatting ?

try 100+

its overwhelming and impossible to respond to everybody .... .

But that being said every lady is different ,I personally look for firstly indication that you've read my profile and for a little wit. I can usually tell straight away if you have read the profile... so some messages I can just delete without even opening entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I'm giving one or two word answers then I'm clearly not interested and hoping the guy will get the hint and give up.

Why talk in the first place if you're not interested?"

Politeness. Particularly if it’s a nicely written message.

The usual “how are you” and “wuu2” is easily deleted without reply but a nice message, I do feel obligated to reply.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

If I send a lady a message like. Good morning… and dont get chapter and verse of what she wants me to do to her while she’s tied up blindfolded and covered in milk chocolate buttons then I block and delete…. She’s obviously a wrong’un!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I send a lady a message like. Good morning… and dont get chapter and verse of what she wants me to do to her while she’s tied up blindfolded and covered in milk chocolate buttons then I block and delete…. She’s obviously a wrong’un!!

Sorry

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It usually means they are not interested if they do that a lot. When it happens to me I just stop chatting.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

Sorry

Who is this???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry

Who is this???

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