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"Apologies, couldn't resist. It really depends on the person. Some people (M and F) are monosyllabic and don't have much interest in talking. I get these they're the wuu2 brigade. Some people are more erudite in person and don't like texting. Sometimes folk are busy want to keep the conversation going and just type small replies. They could be hoping the conversation will change to smth else. It really really depends, but for me if someone can't or won't invest in exchanging some words with me then I'm gonna move on pretty quickly. Good Luck OP. " Thanks Sprockett | |||
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"Apologies, couldn't resist. It really depends on the person. Some people (M and F) are monosyllabic and don't have much interest in talking. I get these they're the wuu2 brigade. Some people are more erudite in person and don't like texting. Sometimes folk are busy want to keep the conversation going and just type small replies. They could be hoping the conversation will change to smth else. It really really depends, but for me if someone can't or won't invest in exchanging some words with me then I'm gonna move on pretty quickly. Good Luck OP. Thanks Sprockett" Pleasure is all mine Hunky | |||
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"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them. Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up. Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated." Whenever we get a message from anyone, the first thing we do is look at the profile. We then decide if we firstly want to reply, and to how much effort we actually put into our reply. Hope that gives you something to think about, but if not ask for further advice. | |||
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"My interpretation has always been that they are not interested, especially when they've messaged me first! I have a low threshold for monosyllabic responses or non-reciprocal chat. This particularly applies to profiles that pontificate about chatting first to establish a connection and chemistry, but fall foul of their own caveats." Couldn't agree more. Every conversation I have on here is started by others because I don't send messages. It states very clearly on my profile that it's pointless getting in touch if they aren't prepared to chat. Regardless, I get some women who like to play fabtag where they send a one or two word message and when I respond accordingly that's the last I heard from them again. Until they do exactly the same a few months later. It's a very clear attempt to get me to chase but it's bound to be boring by this stage. | |||
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"Yeah but does it mean they may be interested so keep it coming or they’re not interested and just being polite? Or do they want you to be alpha and say something like ‘are you gonna fucking talk to me or what ?’ I have no idea." Unless you're getting so many messages that you've got to prioritise which ones deserve a response, then I would say keep plodding away. There's more chance of it evolving into something than if you just give up on it. Cal | |||
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"Is it because they’re just not interested?" It's best to assume this and don't worry about it further. Anything else, you'll tie yourself up in knots and questions about someone who probably won't answer in a way you might need. | |||
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"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them. Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up. Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated." Yep. Delete. A | |||
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"I've always thought It was because they were involved in 5 other conversations at the same time. I just don't chat any further when it happens to me." It's easy to keep 5 decent conversations going...less so with 50 or more. | |||
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"Some guys send a cut and paste as a scattergun first message so sometimes we respond with a short message just to see if they actually have any spontaneous wit. Sadly…." This | |||
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"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them. Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up. Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated." Do you really not know or just adding as a thread discussion for others to finally understand?! | |||
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"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them. Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up. Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated. Do you really not know or just adding as a thread discussion for others to finally understand?! " He knows he just wants people to tell him that they're busy and/or juggling lots of other messages..... | |||
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"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them. Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up. Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated." Happens to me too, I just give up conversation should be a two way thing | |||
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"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them. Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up. Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated. Do you really not know or just adding as a thread discussion for others to finally understand?! " I genuinely don’t know. | |||
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"Sometimes people just don't ask question that warrant more than a small answer. You ok? Yes thanks Vs You ok? Nah not really that Kathy from work has proper annoyed me and I tried to get randy with the Mr but the kids kept walking in. " Haha the thing is is I would like that response as you can expand and gives you something to work with! PS you ok ? | |||
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"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them. Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up. Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated. Do you really not know or just adding as a thread discussion for others to finally understand?! I genuinely don’t know. " I just take it as a hint. A very small short one or two worded hint they ain’t interested in me. | |||
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"Or do they want you to be alpha and say something like ‘are you gonna fucking talk to me or what ?’." I find this works for me. Weeds out the fakes and timewasters | |||
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"I give them the benefit of the doubt for a few messages. If it carries on though 3rd or 4th message in, I stop messaging. I think whatever their reason for not engaging properly, they can't be that interested or they'll make a little more effort in their replies. " I'm with you here. I get that sometimes it's a pain to send a message that really says what's in your head - especially if you struggle to articulate sometimes (I'm guilty of that myself), but a conversation- which is fundamentally what we're trying to have in messaging right? - has to go both ways. I lose interest very quickly if I don't get anything back. Seems worse when you ask open questions and you get a closed reply back. I just take it as an indicator of what the conversation would be in person and move on if it just isn't happening, cos I sure as heck wouldn't be hanging around if that were happening face to face! | |||
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"I give them the benefit of the doubt for a few messages. If it carries on though 3rd or 4th message in, I stop messaging. I think whatever their reason for not engaging properly, they can't be that interested or they'll make a little more effort in their replies. I'm with you here. I get that sometimes it's a pain to send a message that really says what's in your head - especially if you struggle to articulate sometimes (I'm guilty of that myself), but a conversation- which is fundamentally what we're trying to have in messaging right? - has to go both ways. I lose interest very quickly if I don't get anything back. Seems worse when you ask open questions and you get a closed reply back. I just take it as an indicator of what the conversation would be in person and move on if it just isn't happening, cos I sure as heck wouldn't be hanging around if that were happening face to face! " You've hit the nail on the head here. Like you say, it's when they give a closed answer to an open question. That isn't a conversation, so what's the point in carrying on! It's like pulling teeth. And that goes for some men and women alike. | |||
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"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them. Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up. Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated." Ahh yes; the famous “Lol x” reply to your well-crafted, individually tailored message….. I just move on | |||
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"If I'm giving one or two word answers then I'm clearly not interested and hoping the guy will get the hint and give up. " Why talk in the first place if you're not interested? | |||
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"I just delete the messages in this case or let them drop off my message list . waste of time and the person isnt interested in talking to you evidently .. " This | |||
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"Sometimes people just don't ask question that warrant more than a small answer. You ok? Yes thanks Vs You ok? Nah not really that Kathy from work has proper annoyed me and I tried to get randy with the Mr but the kids kept walking in. " I do agree with that. If a message has enough in it for me to hang a conversation from then happy days. I can talk the hind leg off a donkey and I'm genuinely interested in people and love to chat. If someone sends a "WUU2" and their profile is "fill in later" there's not much for me to talk about so I tend to go back with "work" or "just pottering about". Not sure they'd be interested that I'm in a webinar about the availability of silver nitrate (not looking good at the moment, by the way), so I keep it brief. There is some level of interest there or I wouldn't message back at all, but if conversation is stilted and feels like hard work I quickly let it peter out. | |||
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"You ok? DM me hun." Sending T&Ps Gbat | |||
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"If I'm giving one or two word answers then I'm clearly not interested and hoping the guy will get the hint and give up. Why talk in the first place if you're not interested?" Politeness. For example a guy has messaged about something in my profile - he sent a perfectly reasonable and polite comment. So I replied. But I'm not interested, just waiting for the opportunity to end the chat. | |||
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"Some guys send a cut and paste as a scattergun first message so sometimes we respond with a short message just to see if they actually have any spontaneous wit. Sadly…." Genuine question - how can you tell? | |||
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"They're not interested. If I do this, it's politeness and hoping he will get the hint. If not, I just end the chat. " Same for me. If i get this from anyone i stop engaging. | |||
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"They're not interested. If I do this, it's politeness and hoping he will get the hint. If not, I just end the chat. " Ditto! | |||
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"Sometimes I get replies from women that are like only ever one or two words and I find its like getting blood from a stone from them. Is it because they’re just not interested? Are they just getting a kick from it ? Just baffles me really and as the conversation is so one sided I just end up giving up. Had this a few times and never really know how to handle. Guidance much appreciated." They’re not interested. | |||
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"If I'm giving one or two word answers then I'm clearly not interested and hoping the guy will get the hint and give up. Why talk in the first place if you're not interested?" Politeness. Particularly if it’s a nicely written message. The usual “how are you” and “wuu2” is easily deleted without reply but a nice message, I do feel obligated to reply. | |||
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"If I send a lady a message like. Good morning… and dont get chapter and verse of what she wants me to do to her while she’s tied up blindfolded and covered in milk chocolate buttons then I block and delete…. She’s obviously a wrong’un!! " Sorry | |||
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"If I send a lady a message like. Good morning… and dont get chapter and verse of what she wants me to do to her while she’s tied up blindfolded and covered in milk chocolate buttons then I block and delete…. She’s obviously a wrong’un!! Sorry " Who is this??? | |||
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"If I send a lady a message like. Good morning… and dont get chapter and verse of what she wants me to do to her while she’s tied up blindfolded and covered in milk chocolate buttons then I block and delete…. She’s obviously a wrong’un!! Sorry Who is this??? " | |||
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