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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

But on here I am gorgeous and sexy....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cue the men of the midlands frantically checking their message history

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

My cup of tea anywhere...!

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"cue the men of the midlands frantically checking their message history "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive messaged a guy on a dating site who told me i wasnt his type went on to find him on here, he didnt remember me from the dating site so i took great pleasure telling him he wasnt my type

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"ive messaged a guy on a dating site who told me i wasnt his type went on to find him on here, he didnt remember me from the dating site so i took great pleasure telling him he wasnt my type "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive messaged a guy on a dating site who told me i wasnt his type went on to find him on here, he didnt remember me from the dating site so i took great pleasure telling him he wasnt my type "

Sweet revenge :p:p

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I've had that too. Both ways.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

Sad isn't it, they'd shag you but not marry you

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Sad isn't it, they'd shag you but not marry you "

It's even worse than that: they'd shag you but not be seen with you.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I don't really see what is so surprising.

People have a type they would like to date, to have a relationship with... and a type they are happy to fuck.

Don't women do that as well as men.... he's not bf material but I'd shag the life out of him kinda thing?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Or am I missing something... are we all meant to think our meets on here see us as potential dating material?

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Or am I missing something... are we all meant to think our meets on here see us as potential dating material?"

No I never meant it like that..

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Or am I missing something... are we all meant to think our meets on here see us as potential dating material?"

I didn't read it like that. I have been on a dating site and found the same people on here too. it happens. It's just funny (ha ha, rather than peculiar) when they send a message on here offering dinner and drinks and taking it slowly when they have already rejected you on the dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But on here I am gorgeous and sexy.... "

Why just on here ... ?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Or am I missing something... are we all meant to think our meets on here see us as potential dating material?

I didn't read it like that. I have been on a dating site and found the same people on here too. it happens. It's just funny (ha ha, rather than peculiar) when they send a message on here offering dinner and drinks and taking it slowly when they have already rejected you on the dating site."

Nope I still don't see it.... not unless they knock ya' back for casual sex on the dating site and then offered it on here.

If anything it's kind of commendable that they didn't string someone a line on the dating site just to get a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I come on here for no strings, I would go on a dating site for long term and a different sort of relationship so I dont see it as strange at all. After all I may be hungry but I dont expect to get a big mac from Pizza hut.

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Well I know what I meant....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Or am I missing something... are we all meant to think our meets on here see us as potential dating material?

I didn't read it like that. I have been on a dating site and found the same people on here too. it happens. It's just funny (ha ha, rather than peculiar) when they send a message on here offering dinner and drinks and taking it slowly when they have already rejected you on the dating site.

Nope I still don't see it.... not unless they knock ya' back for casual sex on the dating site and then offered it on here.

If anything it's kind of commendable that they didn't string someone a line on the dating site just to get a shag."

Fair enough.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I've met with people here that i'd never consider if I was looking for dates.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I've met with people here that i'd never consider if I was looking for dates. "

Fresh dates are so hard to get hold of these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But on here I am gorgeous and sexy.... "

Yes you are

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants


"But on here I am gorgeous and sexy.... "

On here, off here, everywhere...!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

I'd gladly fuck Katie Price senseless (maybe that wasn't a good choice of word) but wouldn't want to settle down and have kids with her.

It's kinda the same thing, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd gladly fuck Katie Price senseless (maybe that wasn't a good choice of word) but wouldn't want to settle down and have kids with her.

It's kinda the same thing, isn't it?"

Good point. Thinking about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lot of men on dating sites say they want slim women. even the munters.

my hubby seems to think there must be something wrong with men who are on dating sites.

when i showed him a picture of a man that winked at me, he said what is someone as good looking as him doing on there.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've met with people here that i'd never consider if I was looking for dates. "

Likewise!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"lot of men on dating sites say they want slim women. even the munters.

my hubby seems to think there must be something wrong with men who are on dating sites.

when i showed him a picture of a man that winked at me, he said what is someone as good looking as him doing on there."

What a bizarre statement: only ugly people use sites like this?!!

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Well I know what I meant.... "

I know exactly what you mean!!

Maybe we should hang up on them together

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Well I know what I meant....

I know exactly what you mean!!

Maybe we should hang up on them together "

Gang!!!!! Grrr stupid phones!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really see what is so surprising.

People have a type they would like to date, to have a relationship with... and a type they are happy to fuck.

Don't women do that as well as men.... he's not bf material but I'd shag the life out of him kinda thing?"

Yep, he could be a vapid air-headed himbo on here and I'd shag him .... wouldn't want to spend the rest of my days with him though. Pretty boys have their place in my bed, just not in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding somebody to date has to stimulate all senses, whereas on here only one sense is needed lol. However we still have to find out potential shagging partners attractive, do we not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lot of men on dating sites say they want slim women. even the munters.

my hubby seems to think there must be something wrong with men who are on dating sites.

when i showed him a picture of a man that winked at me, he said what is someone as good looking as him doing on there.

my hubbys probably old fashioned, like that. i think he thinks if someones good looking they wouldnt need to be on a dating site as they would have lots of women chasing them all the time, or they would already have someone.

i supose looking on the internet is just easier and more convenient for some people.

What a bizarre statement: only ugly people use sites like this?!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Of the gentleman in my aquaintance i wouldnt want to date one, yet some ive known years, there lovely as friends but not boyfriend material and im sure they dont think im girlfriend material either

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on earth would you want to date?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this comparison of dating sites and here is in the majority a load of old crap.

If we are talking traditional dating methods, there may be some validity but on sites like POF if the majority of the guys were honest, they are on there looking for no more than they are on here - a shag !

The difference is that if they met on POF or the like, they think they've had their cake and might have got a 'nice girl' into the bargain.

If they meet a girl on here they think they've met a girl who puts out easy and in no way would they wish to consider a relationship with her.

It is a matter of context.

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I shall offer you the wise words of Dolly Parton lol

some lyrics from 'Just because I'm a woman'

I can see you're disappointed

By the way you look at me

And I'm sorry that I'm not

The woman you thought I'd be

Yes, I've made my mistakes

But listen and understand

My mistakes are no worse than yours

Just because I'm a woman

Now a man will take a good girl

And he'll ruin her reputation

But when he wants to marry

Well, that's a different situation

He'll just walk off and leave her

To do the best she can

While he looks for an angel

To wear his wedding band

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I'm not suggesting that this is the case in all instances, but certainly a good few !

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

I have been on 'regular' dating sites and I have to say the type of woman I try to make contact with is the same as on here!

Maybe I am too picky but I cant have sex with someone I find unattractive, its as simple as that. Oh by attractive I don't mean just looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But on here I am gorgeous and sexy.... "

I know I'm stating the obvious when I say that nsa and a long term relationship are two very different things, surely most women approach the two in a very different way, don't they?

A guy initially got a hard time in a thread he started a few days ago around who people are willing to approach in 'real life' as opposed to on Fab. It appears that difference is also demonstrated between dating sites and Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But on here I am gorgeous and sexy.... "

Like I said before most guys on here are desperate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But on here I am gorgeous and sexy....

Like I said before most guys on here are desperate!

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no offence im sure your lovely looking not looked at profile..... just saying most men are shameless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All this comparison of dating sites and here is in the majority a load of old crap.

If we are talking traditional dating methods, there may be some validity but on sites like POF if the majority of the guys were honest, they are on there looking for no more than they are on here - a shag !

The difference is that if they met on POF or the like, they think they've had their cake and might have got a 'nice girl' into the bargain.

If they meet a girl on here they think they've met a girl who puts out easy and in no way would they wish to consider a relationship with her.

It is a matter of context.

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I shall offer you the wise words of Dolly Parton lol

some lyrics from 'Just because I'm a woman'

I can see you're disappointed

By the way you look at me

And I'm sorry that I'm not

The woman you thought I'd be

Yes, I've made my mistakes

But listen and understand

My mistakes are no worse than yours

Just because I'm a woman

Now a man will take a good girl

And he'll ruin her reputation

But when he wants to marry

Well, that's a different situation

He'll just walk off and leave her

To do the best she can

While he looks for an angel

To wear his wedding band

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I'm not suggesting that this is the case in all instances, but certainly a good few !"

Dolly also sang this song, naughty minx.

You're the one that taught me how to swing.

You were not content with me when I was like I used to be

I was too old fashion too simple and too plain

And so you took this country girl taught me all about the world

Yes you're the one that taught me how to swing

I used to never drink or smoke I'd even blushed your dirty jokes

I never wanted to take part in all those worldly games

But you dressed me up in sexy clothes took me where the swingers go

Yes you're the one that taught me how to swing

But you don't want me swingin' now but you're the one that taught me how

It was you that wanted me to change

I'm only what you've made of me your mistake was changin' me

Yes you're the one that taught me how to swing

You want me like I was before but I'm not like that anymore

This plain old simple country girl won't never be the same

So don't expect me to go back cause it's a bit too late to back

And you're the one that taught me how to swing

But you don't want me swingin' now...

Yes you're the one that taught me how to swing, taught me how to swing.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"All this comparison of dating sites and here is in the majority a load of old crap.

If we are talking traditional dating methods, there may be some validity but on sites like POF if the majority of the guys were honest, they are on there looking for no more than they are on here - a shag !

The difference is that if they met on POF or the like, they think they've had their cake and might have got a 'nice girl' into the bargain.

If they meet a girl on here they think they've met a girl who puts out easy and in no way would they wish to consider a relationship with her.

It is a matter of context.

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I shall offer you the wise words of Dolly Parton lol

some lyrics from 'Just because I'm a woman'

I can see you're disappointed

By the way you look at me

And I'm sorry that I'm not

The woman you thought I'd be

Yes, I've made my mistakes

But listen and understand

My mistakes are no worse than yours

Just because I'm a woman

Now a man will take a good girl

And he'll ruin her reputation

But when he wants to marry

Well, that's a different situation

He'll just walk off and leave her

To do the best she can

While he looks for an angel

To wear his wedding band

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I'm not suggesting that this is the case in all instances, but certainly a good few !"

I'd concur with that. I have had a man I met on here telling me that I'm too good to throw myself away on this site and it shows I must lack respect in myself. When I asked him why he was on here his answer "uncomplicated sex". When I asked why I couldn't have the same motive his reply was that no decent man would want to have a relationship with a woman doing this.

I really should stop speaking to the men I agree to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dolly also sang this song, naughty minx.

You're the one that taught me how to swing.

"

Aww Lainey - I can't find that on youtube

Not heard that one

I was just about to have a camp-o-rama moment in the office

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But on here I am gorgeous and sexy.... "

still not sure where this thread is meant to be going but ....having looked at your profile and fabbed a couple of your pics; i find it hard to see how someone could not like you.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it possibly sounds daft but if i were going on a date id no way ever sleep with a man on a first date incase he wouldnt respect me in the morning..

however i have played with a few guys on the first meet from here if everything is going well and i still think these men showed me respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dolly also sang this song, naughty minx.

You're the one that taught me how to swing.

Aww Lainey - I can't find that on youtube

Not heard that one

I was just about to have a camp-o-rama moment in the office "

Here you go get your swing thang on babes!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=54n1073CXYI

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen

My standards stay the same regardless. I think what _isscheekychops is talking about is what appears to be he double standards

Cheekymonkeynew pointed out that most guys use POF for sex, they have more luck there and I've heard this said a few times by guys on both here and a dating site.

So if they are just using a dating site to get laid, it's their perspective that sucks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dolly also sang this song, naughty minx.

You're the one that taught me how to swing.

Aww Lainey - I can't find that on youtube

Not heard that one

I was just about to have a camp-o-rama moment in the office

Here you go get your swing thang on babes!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=54n1073CXYI"

YAY

thanks for that

was fab

i have been swinging my pants

good job i'm on my own in here today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But on here I am gorgeous and sexy.... "

Cheeky I'd find you gorgeous anywhere, you'd definitely turn my head if you walked by ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I'm wrong but I think the majority of guys on this or other sites are just looking for easy sex, but the ladies are where the difference lies.

On a dating site the majority of ladies are looking for a relationship but on here there more like the guys and its sex there looking for .

This might explain why the guys are more successful at finding sex on here .

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Dolly covers everything doesn't she? I'd not heard the Swinging song before, thanks Laine.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Maybe I'm wrong but I think the majority of guys on this or other sites are just looking for easy sex, but the ladies are where the difference lies.

On a dating site the majority of ladies are looking for a relationship but on here there more like the guys and its sex there looking for .

This might explain why the guys are more successful at finding sex on here ."

The men I have spoken to tell me it is easier for them to find sex on a dating site as it's harder work here. It's a numbers game. They may not get sex on the first 'date' but it doesn't seem to take too long. They meet for three or four times and then say it isn't working for them.

I think the sort of site you sign up for should make your intentions clear but there will always be those that blur the lines.

I find it a little more honest on here, which is why I choose to be here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

datings different to fucking

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"But on here I am gorgeous and sexy.... "
anything goes??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The men I have spoken to tell me it is easier for them to find sex on a dating site as it's harder work here. It's a numbers game. They may not get sex on the first 'date' but it doesn't seem to take too long. They meet for three or four times and then say it isn't working for them.

I think the sort of site you sign up for should make your intentions clear but there will always be those that blur the lines.

I find it a little more honest on here, which is why I choose to be here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really see what is so surprising.

People have a type they would like to date, to have a relationship with... and a type they are happy to fuck.

Don't women do that as well as men.... he's not bf material but I'd shag the life out of him kinda thing?"

You speak far too much sense to be a woman.

WHo are you and how did you become a woman?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"But on here I am gorgeous and sexy.... "

I can kind of see what you mean but what I look for in a long term partner is different to a swinging one.

Maybe they are the same....

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"ive messaged a guy on a dating site who told me i wasnt his type went on to find him on here, he didnt remember me from the dating site so i took great pleasure telling him he wasnt my type "

I had that!!! I messaged him on plenty of fish and he was quite rude. Then he messaged me on here with some crude comment about my boobs.. It was fun telling him to piss off!' Lol x

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Right....The situation was that he felt that i was too much woman for him and he liked the slender type of woman....i get and understand that....

However now it seems that i am gorgeous and sexy when it comes to me opening my legs.. as much as i understand this is a sex site i would like to think i have some self respect.....now i meet men off here that i have some attaction to and a bit of a spark....i am not looking for fairy tale ending on here...however i also don't want to be made to feel used.....regardless of the type of sex i still maintain a level of respect for myself.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Right....The situation was that he felt that i was too much woman for him and he liked the slender type of woman....i get and understand that....

However now it seems that i am gorgeous and sexy when it comes to me opening my legs.. as much as i understand this is a sex site i would like to think i have some self respect.....now i meet men off here that i have some attaction to and a bit of a spark....i am not looking for fairy tale ending on here...however i also don't want to be made to feel used.....regardless of the type of sex i still maintain a level of respect for myself. "

And so you should. Whether it's swinging or dating you should always maintain your self-respect.

I've been thinking about the comments on this thread and I find myself agreeing with all sides. What does that mean? The fact is that most of us are happy to meet people here we would not normally mix with if we met them elsewhere. Some of the people we meet could easily cross over and be people from either facet of life. However, if you have someone you have had contact with in both places and they behave differently the issue isn't really about which site they are on but the fact that they aren't worth the time and effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right....The situation was that he felt that i was too much woman for him and he liked the slender type of woman....i get and understand that....

However now it seems that i am gorgeous and sexy when it comes to me opening my legs.. as much as i understand this is a sex site i would like to think i have some self respect.....now i meet men off here that i have some attaction to and a bit of a spark....i am not looking for fairy tale ending on here...however i also don't want to be made to feel used.....regardless of the type of sex i still maintain a level of respect for myself. "

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants


"Right....The situation was that he felt that i was too much woman for him and he liked the slender type of woman....i get and understand that....

However now it seems that i am gorgeous and sexy when it comes to me opening my legs.. as much as i understand this is a sex site i would like to think i have some self respect.....now i meet men off here that i have some attaction to and a bit of a spark....i am not looking for fairy tale ending on here...however i also don't want to be made to feel used.....regardless of the type of sex i still maintain a level of respect for myself. "

I always have thought that if someone wouldn't want to be seen on a date with me, then why would I want to even consider them on here.

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