FabSwingers.com forum: Is it ok to be reserved about sharing face pics?

By *issyPrincess OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

So I've noticed any chats I have end very fast when no face pics are given immediately, which I do actually understand because that's the go to verification we have naturally developed however I just wanted to say as a man/sissy in the real world with family and friends and a job I like me dressing up as a sissy and enjoying my sexual desires is a private thing for me and sharing my face is a huge deal as that exposes what I enjoy that's frowned upon out there, I know none of us want time wasters but is there a better way we can verify rather than a blanked end to to conversation when no face is provided trust is needed for some of us to share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have an issue with showing mine

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By *issyPrincess OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Well that's fine for you if youee happy to do so, I'm saying there are scenarios where people like myself where it's something I'm not comfortable with Streight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In this day an age if you don’t eventually show a face pic then you are either a munter or you are not who/what you say you are!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I personally would like to see if there's any attraction before having long winded conversations, nothing worse than chatting for a week getting a face pic finally and having to say thanks but no thanks.

If we don't receive one quickly I'm not into chatting. I don't do blind date

Mrs

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

It’s fine for you to be reserved showing them, but it’s equally fine for others to not want to chat for long periods without seeing if there’s a physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have a simple rule if someone message us first then they show facepic first if we message someone forst then we show first ... as we use the site to get meets it makes no sense chattng away only to find out you dont sexually fancy someone so we dont carry on chatting say after a couple messages ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely as part of your 5 truths, someone could easily establish your name, address, employer, bank balance +bank pin ... So in that case a face pic is probably way less crazy

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Everyone has their own way of using the site.

For me, a face pic is not important because it states very clearly on my profile that the ability to hold a conversation is a priority.

Some might mock the fact that people like to take time to build a connection before meeting but then again I've never had a no show or been one and apart from my very first fab experience I've never had any bad meets.

In 5 years here I've never once asked for a facepic. If I'm meeting someone for the first time we will exchange pics at that stage but the decision to meet will already have been made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m don’t mind what people do op. You don’t need a face picture to talk online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion if you don't want to give one then don't but equally if you dont want to chat/meet a faceless profile then don't. I don't mind showing mine on request at all because if someone does recognise me it's not like they should care I'm on here because they are on here too. Think of it as mutualy assured destruction.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Up to u but I wouldn't keep engaging in conversation if I didn't see a face pic pretty soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have an issue showing mine, but I'm beginning to wonder if its putting some off

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I don't have an issue showing mine, but I'm beginning to wonder if its putting some off

U look fine x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

You can be reserved and also respect those who need to see a face early on.

I'm not sure a middle ground can be found OP unless a social can be organised very early on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have an issue showing mine, but I'm beginning to wonder if its putting some off

U look fine x"

ah thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally would like to see a face pic early on, as there has to be an attraction, nothing worse then spending days sending each other messages to then realise you're not attracted to each other. I respect anyone that doesn't want to show their face , and if so I politely end the conversation their

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In this day an age if you don’t eventually show a face pic then you are either a munter or you are not who/what you say you are!"

I wonder which of those i am

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

I just think that it’s about protecting privacy; we don’t share them easily to protect our family and jobs as well as only do if serious about meeting.

But we don’t judge those who do - freedom to act how you wish is most important here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don’t want to show your face then don’t.

There is though, as you have already discovered, a down side to not doing so.

Are you expecting a magic wand to make the world more the way you want it to be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think that it’s about protecting privacy; we don’t share them easily to protect our family and jobs as well as only do if serious about meeting.

But we don’t judge those who do - freedom to act how you wish is most important here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as I send a face pic the chat ends abruptly

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

"If you don’t want to show your face then don’t.

There is though, as you have already discovered, a down side to not doing so.

Are you expecting a magic wand to make the world more the way you want it to be? "

Exactly this....not showing/sending a face pic becomes another type of filter for some people.

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

"Everyone has their own way of using the site.

For me, a face pic is not important because it states very clearly on my profile that the ability to hold a conversation is a priority.

In 5 years here I've never once asked for a facepic. If I'm meeting someone for the first time we will exchange pics at that stage but the decision to meet will already have been made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't share them straight away either due to privacy, need to develop a conversation first. Also as a woman who's photos have been stolen many times, I have to be cautious of who I'm giving that too. If someone says I'm not for them after sending then it's cool, we can't be everyone's cup of tea.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Because I'm fortunate enough not to be a Quasemodo look alike, some people having said that I bear a striking resemblance to Bryan Ferry, others have said Johnny Cash, even Elvis Presley, depending on the way that I style my hair, my face photos are always readily available to anyone who wants to meet, but I have heard of people using downloaded photos of someone else to simply get a close encounter. There's always downside though, like the bitch who printed off a photo of me doing a stir fry (The naked chef) and sent it in to my company head office, for the attention of the MD, and written on the back was,"This is what he is doing when he is supposed to be working," all because I refused to bale her out financially. So I do get why some people are reluctant to send clear face photos with first messages.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

You’re in control of what you share with other people. If your not happy sharing your face with a complete stranger from the internet then don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be discreet with my job but I know he likes to show face pics x

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Yes to face pics early on. Provided the profile appears genuine we'll send ours first as a gesture of faith too.

The attraction has to be there!

We have the only connection we really need within each other, so that argument about getting to know people we find a little erroneous..

Sorry if it offends but we'll meet with those we feel we'd like to fuck.

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By *amie7474Man
over a year ago

stockport

"You’re in control of what you share with other people. If your not happy sharing your face with a complete stranger from the internet then don’t.

That’s the bottom line really

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I send a face pic with first message. If they find me unattractive, then it's pointless carrying on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't share them, nor do we look for them, and it's never caused us a problem, a quick social meet is far better in our opinion to establish attraction.

You do you, if people don't like it they can look elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends how you go about it.

A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.

Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.

I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely if ever share my mugshot these days because i dont want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends how you go about it.

A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.

Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.

I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x

You ask for a face pic first, and don’t send?

It’s not being evasive imo, I wouldn’t send first if someone requested one

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"It depends how you go about it.

A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.

Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.

I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x

You ask for a face pic first, and don’t send?

It’s not being evasive imo, I wouldn’t send first if someone requested one "

I send, but never request. I hopefully find it's going naturally for them to send one as the conversation flows

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

To add, the banner of "keeping discreet" can be a little tiresome..

We respect privacy and wish ours to be treated in the same fashion.

Had messages like "we'll send you some pictures when we get to know you"

and "here's me, but my man isn't comfortable sending his picture"

We ain't got the time and he won't be meeting us then..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s not much point continuing a conversation without attraction so I’d need to see a face pic early on!

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"There’s not much point continuing a conversation without attraction so I’d need to see a face pic early on! "

Exactly!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"There’s not much point continuing a conversation without attraction so I’d need to see a face pic early on! "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends how you go about it.

A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.

Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.

I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x

You ask for a face pic first, and don’t send?

It’s not being evasive imo, I wouldn’t send first if someone requested one "

Yes, because I get around 100 messages a day off people who are asking me to meet. So I ask what they look like before I make that decision, as most of the time they’re asking before I even know who they are and often they have no photos at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends how you go about it.

A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.

Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.

I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x

You ask for a face pic first, and don’t send?

It’s not being evasive imo, I wouldn’t send first if someone requested one

I’m not saying you’re wrong. I just don’t count it as being evasive.

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

"It depends how you go about it.

A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.

Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.

I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x

If someone asks for a specif pic my normal response is

'don't ask for something yr not prepared to send first yrself'.

Might sound blunt but hate my time wasted.More so when there's been little or hardly any chat to begin with. I often find people ask for pics on the basis if they like they will reply so that's when I use the rule above.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

It comes down to attraction at the end of the day, a fair few people need to feel a physical attraction to someone if they are going play.

Even though I have face pics on my profile, I can have a great conversation with someone till they get a look at me then its "not for me", which is fine.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

maybe goto a tv/cd club event .. just to socialise with some other people .... then yo can arrange a more private meet perhaps later on from the back of that where you feel comfortable dressing up etc

all these clubs are discrete and most tv/cd clubs will have at least 50% of clients in some boat as you with needing discretion .

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

With facial recognition software being rolled-out in the coming years, your face image will essentially be your ID linked to all aspects of your life. Not something you'd want to spread too widely I'd have thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally would like to see if there's any attraction before having long winded conversations, nothing worse than chatting for a week getting a face pic finally and having to say thanks but no thanks.

If we don't receive one quickly I'm not into chatting. I don't do blind date

Mrs "

Exactly this

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With facial recognition software being rolled-out in the coming years, your face image will essentially be your ID linked to all aspects of your life. Not something you'd want to spread too widely I'd have thought."

Facial recognition software has been out since the 90’s. It’s nothing new.

Also a flat image photo is not what’s used for facial recognition in any high security context because it’s too easy to fake.

You need a live image using a 3dimensional camera or depth sensors (like those on the front of an iPhone). Nobody can steal your photo and access “all aspects of your life”

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Facial recognition software has been out since the 90’s. It’s nothing new.

Also a flat image photo is not what’s used for facial recognition in any high security context because it’s too easy to fake.

You need a live image using a 3dimensional camera or depth sensors (like those on the front of an iPhone). Nobody can steal your photo and access “all aspects of your life”"

A passport and driving licence use a 2D image for ID no?

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

Well I don’t share face pics I happily meet people blind for a coffee and my mantra is if they’re will only meet “folk they’re attracted to” for a coffee then they ain’t my kind of people because I’ll meet everyone and anyone because it’s nice to be nice and you just never know

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

If I can't see a face then I can't decide, for certain, whether I would be up for anything sexual with that person

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

"In this day an age if you don’t eventually show a face pic then you are either a munter or you are not who/what you say you are!"

Well whilst I’m no super model I am most defo not a minter in fact I’m quite high on the attractiveness scale apparently and I refuse to share face pics

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By *hismMan
over a year ago

Ballygonowhere

If you don't want to share your face pic,don't share it,it's not compulsory

However many will insist on seeing one before they consider meeting,that's their choice,just as not sending one is yours

There are people that meet without one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are very keen to share face pic after a couple of messages. That's fine, but we are not going to just meet after a couple of messages, I think we make that clear in our profile.

For us the worst offenders are those who ask for a face pic after a couple of messages, without even sending their own.

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

I absolutely will NOT share face photos and if that’s not ok I understand.

But each of my meets has wanted further meets.

If someone is ok to send me one it’s appreciated but I will not ever reciprocate and that is clear on my profile.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

In my experience the people who won’t share face photos and/or chat on the phone at some point in the chat tend to be the people who won’t meet.

Life is just too short for those people.

If I have doubts about a meet then I will ask for face photos/phone chat and that usually stops them in their tracks.

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By *ilf and old fartCouple
over a year ago

Between Ely and Mildenhall

"In this day an age if you don’t eventually show a face pic then you are either a munter or you are not who/what you say you are!"

What a load of bull.

There are many reasons why others will not send face pics. I'm sure that someone in the police would love having their face pics public and that's only one occupation out of many where privacy needs to be respected.

There are a lot of singles and couples on here in our area and in my job (social housing) I have to be discreet.

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Face pics expose us all.

It's not required for verification but for attraction purposes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the amount of fake profiles around(even verified ones) We don’t like to share face pics. At least not at the beginning of the conversation. We much prefer a short video call to establish who we are and with whom we are chatting.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You have to take a leap of faith at some point, if someone was really out to 'get you' I'm sure they would be able to get you to the point of the big reveal, even if that is at a social meet. Use your intuition and only contact those that give you confidence in their credibility. None of this is subversive or illegal so I don't really see the problem.

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Perhaps meeting for a drink? That will separate the wheat from the chaff. A public big bar?

You could have friends or close family (cousins), nearby. Just in case it's a no.

It's ok for someone to say NO! It's free will.

Nothing ventured nothing gained!!!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Unless you have no intention of meeting then showing your face shouldn't be a problem as they would see it in person anyway.

Better to show earlier than waste your time talking to then have it suddenly end if they aren't interested after seeing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless you have no intention of meeting then showing your face shouldn't be a problem as they would see it in person anyway.

Better to show earlier than waste your time talking to then have it suddenly end if they aren't interested after seeing it"

As I’m not meeting and only chatting I don’t mind if I see a picture or not. If we was chatting with the intentions of hopefully meeting then of course I’d like to see who I’m meeting as i need to have an attraction

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By *issyPrincess OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

I am actually really pleased with allot of these replies , I was expecting a bit more hate for this thread but it's nice to know others share a similar sentiment, at the end of the day we all have our choices to make and if a face pic is something I'm not ready to share this thread has made me realise it's my choice and maybe I should label my exact thoughts on my profile so anyone I chat to is aware of my situation. I do agree eventually a face will have to be shared with a potential meet to establish a attraction that is very clear from this thread, it's a shame Fab cant Impliment a face photo sharing system where after say 10 messages a verified face photo will be mutually exchanged if both parties agree, if not it could be deferred to 10 messages later and if it's cancelled after 20 then maybe that's your out? But I agree time wasting is a big issue on this site so where as this would help with 1 issue it would introduce a time issue which might be worse?. Maybe there's no way past this other than honesty and hoping the right people understand and are happy to work to my face pic schedule thank you all for your help and messages xx

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

If you're meeting,Then should really show a face pic within a few messages or pop on cam..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't like to share face pics via the site.

We tend to have a phonecall to see we're like minded, then swap face pics via WhatsApp, if we're getting along.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"So I've noticed any chats I have end very fast when no face pics are given immediately, which I do actually understand because that's the go to verification we have naturally developed however I just wanted to say as a man/sissy in the real world with family and friends and a job I like me dressing up as a sissy and enjoying my sexual desires is a private thing for me and sharing my face is a huge deal as that exposes what I enjoy that's frowned upon out there, I know none of us want time wasters but is there a better way we can verify rather than a blanked end to to conversation when no face is provided trust is needed for some of us to share "

You do exactly what you feel comfortable doing.

It has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else.

We wouldn't dream of putting face pics on here and don't send face pics even if meeting.

On individual meets, initially we meet for a drink and chat, if you can't manage that, no problem, meet off.

Like to believe our verifications show us both as a normal, friendly, drama free couple.

It's up to each individual to decide how much or how little you place on a profile.

Swinging is our secret life, don't want our 'normal' life to cross over.

Just do what makes you happy and have a great time, we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to there own as far as face pics go, we never send ours , people insist, we just do not meet up, fairly straight forward.

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Of course it's ok. You have a right to your own privacy, if you don't wanna share that and someone's being pushy they're a waste of time.

This whole platform is based on shared respect, it you can't get that from step 1 you're not gonna have a good experience with them.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Unless you have no intention of meeting then showing your face shouldn't be a problem as they would see it in person anyway.

Better to show earlier than waste your time talking to then have it suddenly end if they aren't interested after seeing it

Exactly, I wouldn't meet anyone without seeing a recent face pic

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

What I would also add is that you're gonna have to show your face at some point if you're gonna meet with this person. (Unless you're going for a ski mask).

If you're more worried about the idea of someone having that information and spreading it maybe some kinda video call is the way to go. Even then they can screenshot.

Best bet is trust them before you send the pic.

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove

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I’ve been on/off here 10 years, met plenty and have never ever shown a face photo

As I don’t show a face pic I have never asked anyone else to show one either

I don’t have verifications as I deleted previous accounts and don’t want any, being unverified is not an issue either

It someone wants to meet you they will, irrespective of whether they see a face photo or not

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

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I’ve been on/off here 10 years, met plenty and have never ever shown a face photo

As I don’t show a face pic I have never asked anyone else to show one either

I don’t have verifications as I deleted previous accounts and don’t want any, being unverified is not an issue either

It someone wants to meet you they will, irrespective of whether they see a face photo or not"

I would never meet without seeing a face pic first ! But each to their own x

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